PLEASE HELP THIS SITUATION

[tenseman]

Hi Experts,

I’m very worried bout my HIV status. My previous encounter was with a sex worker from China in a Spa Health Centre. We had sex and after ejaculation, I rested for 30 seconds and I was shocked when I pulled out my penis, the condom wasn’t there (My eraction softens). The sw was shocked too and she went seeking for the condom. Luckily, she got hold to the condom that was just on the surface of her vagina (which proves that my penis was still in the condom while having sex with her.

I was worried bout this encounter and went to a local clinic for a blood test (just after 4 days). The results shown HIV non reactive but to my surprise I’ve got tested positive for HSV2 genital herpes.

Question:

1) Do you think that I should be worried of contracting HIV?
2) As this was the first time I did blood test (I’m 28years old), Do you think i’ve contracted herpes from this encounter or from my previous encounters?
3) I’ve asked my wife to do blood test and the result will be out tomorrow. If she was tested positive for herpes, does that proves that I’ve contracted herpes from the previous encounter and not this one ? and thus it will rule out all possibilities of me contracting HIV?
4) The doctor that I consulted told me that:
   a) Sex workers from high class SPA are usually clean (from HIV) and they
                have blood test almost every month.
   b) Assuming that my penis was exposed to the sw’s vagina, I would still be
                safe from HIV as I was tested negative. His reason was although it was still
                within the ‘window period’, the latest ELISA is a very sensitive product that
                will detect the very minimal of HIV antibody. If it somehow manages to
                detect some antibody, the results will definitely be ‘undefined’. IS THAT      
               TRUE ?

[Vance2335]

I don't understand what your looking for...I think my answer on #1 covered this.

[tenseman]

Hi Vance,

Can u pls answer me as i am inexperience in this. I didnt felt that the condom was off (i would have know if it happens) but the sw told me that she would have known it too if it happens. And it was intag till it end and my eraction softens. What is your comment on this ?

[Vance2335]

1) Probably not because the condom probably came off when you pulled out since you said you went soft.
2) I am going to answer this here but anything further needs to be posted in the herpes community...No. a test 4 days after would never show a new infection for herpes, nor for HIV either.
3) See #2 for the herpes answer
4) After 4 days no. An Elisa test can show a positive in a couple of weeks but not days.