Am I crazy?

[ms.star]

Everyone here is well aware of the Riba Rage that most of us experience.  My problem is that it seems to be my partner

[honey1616]

I am so glad that you are going to definitely see your dr next week!!  You have had doubts and not feeling great for awhile and yes...you need some answers!  That receptionist!! You should have said...thats right I'm cured and still feeling rotten and that is all the more reason for my dr to see me!!  Uggghhhhh!! Hand me a snowball~~  hahahaha This could be fun!!  Yes..feeling better today and hubby went back to dr AGAIN LOL yesterday but did get something (fingers crossed) that he said started breaking up in his ears and could actually hear me this morning!  LOL He probably enjoyed the last week break of having silence!  Ok Lady...You are DEFINITELY in my prayers and I will be waiting to see what dr says!!  Love you!!

[thanbey]

You are probably not going to have to work too hard. Most kids are very resilient and very forgiving.

A suggestion: talk to her sincerely and tell her you are sorry about being grumpy. Just tell her the truth on a four year old's level.  Keep it simple.

Tell her that sometimes it hurts and when it hurts you are really grumpy. Let her know that she can take action when you are short tempered and be clear what that action is. Decide in advance so there  is no mistaking the action for cheek.

For example you might give her permission to tell you that you are too grumpy when you are. Pick out a book together and sit down with her and read it together when you have been told you are being grumpy. (Robert Munsch has some wonderful ones, "I'll Love you Forever" is a really good one, or" he Paper Bag Princess")

Something like that that gives her a little control over her world and will teach her some good coping strategies.

A few more pennies thrown in.....

thanbey

[cindee]

I know what ya mean about giving someone who hasn't had Hep C, a dose of Our meds. I'd love to do that to the receptionist @ head nurse at my liver doc's office. My doctor is GREAT, but when I called his office and had a question...can you believe the recpt. had the nerve to say..."you shouldn't be feeling so bad, YOU'RE CURED"!!!! I haven't even had a blood test yet since being almost 4 months post tx. (on the 6th of March) Anyway I'm calling this coming Monday ( didn't call the past 2 days cuz' we have 18 inches of snow!) to "try" to get an appt. w/ him. If that know it all recpt. says why do you need to see him? And I'm sure she will.....all heck might break loose!!!!!!! But I WILL get in to see him, if I have to drive that hour and walk right in his office and thru the door, and right back into his office and sit my big butt in HIS chair!!!!! LOL I don't feel good and she just might get the brunt of my anger!!!! I might take a huge snowball with me, and smash it in the recpt. face!!!!!! I'm sure my hubby will get me out of jail....LOL...can't you see it now, go to court...and get charged with assault on a female...with a snowball!!!!! LOL Hope you're feeling good today. Bunches of love to you and your hubby!!!! Cindee

[thanbey]

When my husband was on treatment, we found that it was not a good time for us to be in conflict and anything we had to resolve between us needed to be postponed.

We also found that it was not a good time for him to be in a role of disciplining children. I had to actively advocate for the kid every now and then and remind my husband that his reactions were over the top due to treatment.

Are you crazy? Maybe for a while. But you also deserve to have respect and consideration for what you are going through and not feel ridiculed for being unable to function at 100%. some TLC is in order here.

I cannot tell whether your concerns are realistic or they are borne from an interferon induced reaction.You make it sound like he is being a bit mean. Is he or are you being a bit overly sensitive...or a little of both, maybe?

Talk to your doctor about your anti-depressants if you are taking them and about taking them if you are not and to your husband about putting off his own stuff until you are in a better place to participate on an equal playing field.

Sure, he has to sacrifice and give in more than he would like, but that's what for better or worse means, in my opinion anyway.

I hope it helps,

thanbey

[ms.star]

Thank you so much, that was just what I needed to hear right about now.  yes I do struggle with the guilt a lot.  My family needs me, or at least they used too.  The not being able to be part of and do my share is very hard for me.  I have always been the caretaker my entire life and I like I am really struggling with letting go, maybe even to the point that it is causing more problems.  I will try to let go more.  You are a good person to be there for your partner when you're needed the most.  I feel even worse today after last night.  My husband was wonderful last night, he apologized and was just so understanding about how I was feeling.  I am very lucky that he doesn't run off while I'm busy freaking out on him and sick.  He loves me and will work with me to make things better.  Again, thank you everyone for getting me throough yet another battle.
Starla  

[lollymart]

That was wonderful.  My husband is on tx and this is the most difficult thing we've ever gone through in our twenty years together.  He's on 9/48 and we had a major blow out a week ago.  Over something stupid and I can't even remember what started it.  I was feeling stressed, overworked and unappreciated is the bottom line.

But we both did some crying and came to a wonderful understanding.  This time is about him and getting through this.  Nothing will deter from that goal.  We fight the dragon, not each other.  I have to keep reminding myself of that mission.  

This won't break us, but make us stronger.

Lori