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Rejection
I have posted here before under Sher712... just couldn't remember my password the other day and couldn't retreive it from anywhere. Anyway... It has been 2 months since I told my now EX boyfriend. He didn't take the news very well and I was rejected. He still calls but he has moved on and dating. I thought that little by little over time I would start to get over this but on the contrary... I am getting worse each day. I just find myself crying off and on all day. I am usually the type of person that can say... hey, he doesn't want me, his loss but not this time. I guess I have it in my head someone that he will realize he has made a mistake. He was tested..negative. We had a 4 year relationship over 13 years ago...living together for about 2 of that. We had been together for 7 months this last time being intimate a lot. No question... just needed to vent. Thanks. It has been a blessing being able to come here off and on everyday to see what ppl like me have to say about their experiences with treatment, relationships or just whatever.
You're lucky you found out what a creep he is now - and not after you got married and had kids and a house and all of that stuff.
I know it's hard (my boyfriend and I broke up when I was diagnosed but it had nothing to do with the disease) and it was like a double whammy, it hurt and bad.
Fortunately, my doctor put me on Paxill to do treatment and it helped with both things.
I'm sorry it's horrible but you will make it. Do treatment, get rid of the disease, work on getting yourself together in all aspects - and then let him see what he missed out on.
THAT is the best revenge that you can have!
Good luck!
I know it's hard (my boyfriend and I broke up when I was diagnosed but it had nothing to do with the disease) and it was like a double whammy, it hurt and bad.
Fortunately, my doctor put me on Paxill to do treatment and it helped with both things.
I'm sorry it's horrible but you will make it. Do treatment, get rid of the disease, work on getting yourself together in all aspects - and then let him see what he missed out on.
THAT is the best revenge that you can have!
Good luck!
as well, the one thing that was very "lucky" in my one, big, sh**y relationship, is that he dumped me....I was so obsessed that I couldn't bring my to do it...
What was "unlucky" was that unlike the other guys I had broken with (I've had a few relationships in my life, but I'm not Liz Taylor, lol) he didn't have much integrity and he was totally self-obsessed and selfish....so he didn't give me the *dignity* of just letting me go to lick my wounds and get on with my life...
If he was any kind of a good human being, he would of done that....instead, he kept on contacting me, and contacting me, and contacting me...cause he needed to still have a familiar face, and to be around someone who adored him and listen to his problems, etc etc...
And of course, like most little girls, I was raised to be polite and nurturing, and so I kept up talking to him long after we broke up, much to MY OWN detriment...it's almost like being addicted to a substance, you need to have that substance out of your life to be able to go through with withdrawls, and done with it...
We're probably not telling you anything you don't know already, but let these posts here be gentle reminders...please take the initiative and break off any communication with this guy, it doesn't sound to me like he's the type of guy "you want" back in your life anyway....youre only making things far more difficult for yourself if you still communicate with him...and your grieving process will be that much longer...you know in your heart that it's probably not going to go anywhere, so tell him you need him to stop contacting you, or you just won't answer the phone, etc...
Make it easier for yourself...Once you get on with your life, and after treatment, and a long time into the future once youre over him, then maybe you can resume contact, though, chances are, you won't even want to, since you both will have moved on and you'll be on the market for a much more caring, unselfish, man who values you and you value him...God knows you already know what you "don't" want in a man, he's probably given you a primer on that...just wait, it'll be much better with this person out of your life...you'll see, give yourself a chance and be well...
What was "unlucky" was that unlike the other guys I had broken with (I've had a few relationships in my life, but I'm not Liz Taylor, lol) he didn't have much integrity and he was totally self-obsessed and selfish....so he didn't give me the *dignity* of just letting me go to lick my wounds and get on with my life...
If he was any kind of a good human being, he would of done that....instead, he kept on contacting me, and contacting me, and contacting me...cause he needed to still have a familiar face, and to be around someone who adored him and listen to his problems, etc etc...
And of course, like most little girls, I was raised to be polite and nurturing, and so I kept up talking to him long after we broke up, much to MY OWN detriment...it's almost like being addicted to a substance, you need to have that substance out of your life to be able to go through with withdrawls, and done with it...
We're probably not telling you anything you don't know already, but let these posts here be gentle reminders...please take the initiative and break off any communication with this guy, it doesn't sound to me like he's the type of guy "you want" back in your life anyway....youre only making things far more difficult for yourself if you still communicate with him...and your grieving process will be that much longer...you know in your heart that it's probably not going to go anywhere, so tell him you need him to stop contacting you, or you just won't answer the phone, etc...
Make it easier for yourself...Once you get on with your life, and after treatment, and a long time into the future once youre over him, then maybe you can resume contact, though, chances are, you won't even want to, since you both will have moved on and you'll be on the market for a much more caring, unselfish, man who values you and you value him...God knows you already know what you "don't" want in a man, he's probably given you a primer on that...just wait, it'll be much better with this person out of your life...you'll see, give yourself a chance and be well...
to say, to make things easier on yourself, maybe join a support group? there are support groups for people who are were cut off from bad relationships, or a hep c support group? or talk therapy? or all? ha ha...just be good to yourself and try to get on with your life taking care of YOURSELF....there are also many, many books to help you with this issue as well, I found some of those helpful...good luck
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