I need Help

[kathy005]

How do you know if the Dr. even cares about the person they are suppose to be helping? My husband can noy get a straight answer to his question about the length of time he may have. She just evades the question. I don't know how to help him.

[PRINCESS5122]

im a little late here with my sympathy and prayers, but i just read your ast post about losing your husband.im so sorry,and sorry the doctor could not be of more support.i will be happy to post back and fourth with you if you need someone to talk to.take care,a and you are in my prayers.again, sorry for the belates sympathy.hang in there !

[ejoli]

I'm so sorry that you lost your husband. It's too bad that the Dr. couldn't make it any easier for you by giving you an honest answer to your question..   Take care of yourself,       -Libby

[jdwithhcv]

I am so very sorry to read of your loss.  Please know that my thoughts are with you at this difficult time.

Una

[alagirl]

i have no idea, and really its not necessary to go into all the particulars right now, but here's the deal in my opinion.  if a doctor cares, you should be able to tell by his or her attentiveness and care and honesty.  some doctors certainly are more touchy feely than others.  some doctors have uncomfortability surrounding end of life issues, and largely, this may have to do with how much they deal with these issues.

I would insist on a consult with a doctor who will tell you something solid, maybe this doctor has a partner with better bedside manner?  Hospice care can really be quite lovely in some situations, depends on the area probably.

[kathy005]

Thanks for your help.Sorry to say my husband passedaway January5.Wish all of you the best. Prayers to all,best of Luck and GOD be with you.

[PRINCESS5121]

hi..........all i can say is hospice i think is a good idea,as i remember when i lost my uncle due to aids 17 yrs ago.his doctor told him right out once he was diagnosed.he said,so dr.tell me the truth..how much time do i have ? he told him 3 months.we both cried.he was the picture of health! dr suspected it when he had gotten the worse case of shingles 3 times in 1 year...then told him to get tested.he had no idea...............but he was sure enough honest enough to tell him....good luck to you,and God bless..................

[kathy005]

I'm in every Dr. visit now. She has turned him over to Hospise. Did not like intake nurses questions.

[Lady Lauri]

  What is his situation, if you dont mind saying....as in 'how much time he has'?
  Perhaps there isn't a direct answer, as per liver disease, Hep C, damage, etc.
  If you feel there IS a direct answer....point blank demand one!

  (are you in there with hubby when he's asking? My sister often used to 'not tell me everything'.)

                                                                                  LL