divorce while on treatment

[rexx73]

hello ,
it looks like that me and my wife cant no longer stay together.we argue every day,and this is to much for me while iam on treatment.
as maybe many of you know  i struggling with anxiety and have panic attacks.this all seems to much for my wife and we will go each one his own way.
for me its difficult as iam still on treatment and now it seems i lose my wife after then years.
the only positive in my live is the hope of svr.

does anybody here else had similar experiences?had lost his partner during treatment?

i appreciate any comments or opinions

[Dayatime]

It is lonely on you own doing treatment. I got three kids under 8 and even they are struggling with my off days I have a mother who knowes and for this I'm great full but if I'm I'll and she's free the kids go up and I'm on my own. The motivation can hit a zero but at the same time that I feel my mother getting tired of asking how I feeling when by god I'm doing my best for the kids to be here most of the time but don't want them to see me when physically drained and struggling to keep a smile , but I think I would love to have someone to share my day with the ups and the downs someone to trust! And then as I here my girl friends ***** about there men and think how trivial but important in there no worry life's for now I wonder could I actually cope with meaningless fights and another's baggage , it works both ways. It sad to here that when you've put so many years in that tx should bring it to an end . I strongly believe that love conquers all and if it's love you'll see it threw. We are all only human and we have a deeper understanding due to some of life's strange ways that's been thrown our ways we can't fault someone for not coping there in educated and I don't know where I was going with  !? lost what I was saying brain fog, got to smile , any way save you strength and don't get mad or should I say hate for it uses to much of you energy save it for the fight as we need every bit of good and positive thinking we can find, I for one won't share I have and that I'm doing treatment with no one due to my kids I just couldn't face people treating them different ie adults of friends at schoolmate s or any one I have the doctors which I see weekly or fortnight for bloods and a bbv nurses but I live in the hope that I'm going to have a good out come from this tx and if not I can look at my kids and know I done my best for they are my life and I got to be strong to carry there s threw , we allowed to cry to feel to get mad to loose faith as long as we keep going and dont let anyone or anything get you down for to long.

[desrt]

You and she might both consider getting counseling - separately or together. If she is willing to stick around till your tratment is finished, you probably have time to do this.

[Mark4415]

I have been separated for 2 months, could not take the arguing, meds rough enough.

[rexx73]

thanks alot for the tipps,
well she has s gone home in april this year for a month to give us a break,but it seems that this did not change anything.

maybe she should go for a longer time or till i finished the treatment.
sometimes i have hope that we can find together again because i still love her,but to be honest i think there is no way we can stay together.

[libzo2]

My sweetheart back in 2007 got a kiyak and said Goodby.  He wanted someone that could keep up with him.  We had a two year relationship that I thouroughly enjoyed and even took for granted.  I remember thinking how lucky I was to have him by my side to help me.  i didn't see it coming and maybe that's what threw me for a loop.  Sorry Rexx.  

He came back into my life accidentally and he is pleasant but in the back of my mind I know him better than I did before.  I don't think I can trust him again though he borrows my car.  I must be a door mat.  Don't be like me.  Then I read of an amazing relationship on this site of Eureka and her deceased husband that restored my faith in love.  I suppose anything is possible but as you said the most important thing right now is to SVR cause then like 'Savoy Brown' might say - "you'll have the blues, not me".  

[Idyllic]

I am with the others. I would encourage your wife to go home for a while or perhaps consider a (temporary) separation. You do not want to be dividing assets and determining alimony and/or other settlements in this frame of mind - especially if your emotion/mental health is compromised in any manner. I am sorry this is happening.  I think all of us in one way or another know what a strain treatment can be on any kind of a relationship.
Hang in there ♫