divorce while on treatment

[rexx73]

hello ,
it looks like that me and my wife cant no longer stay together.we argue every day,and this is to much for me while iam on treatment.
as maybe many of you know  i struggling with anxiety and have panic attacks.this all seems to much for my wife and we will go each one his own way.
for me its difficult as iam still on treatment and now it seems i lose my wife after then years.
the only positive in my live is the hope of svr.

does anybody here else had similar experiences?had lost his partner during treatment?

i appreciate any comments or opinions

[LadyFoxx]

I agree with Ironpony and everyone for that matter treatment messes with your head and mind my family knew what to expect but if there are problems with your marriage prior to your marriage nothing may help and going through this alone and with your support group and close friends maybe a lot easier.  When I argue with my other half while on treatment its like intensified 50 times.  Maybe seperate for awhile making decisions on these meds is very hard and you guys may both change your minds later but only you know for sure whats going on.  I can't think of anything every day but getting through this but it's normal this isnt easy and unless anyone has been here they have no idea what we feel.
   Orhan said once be kind to yourself take the advice because you can do this and get through it...  

[rivll]

I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is not surprising to me that couples have problems while one is doing treatment. All pain and problems are magnified.
I think that Iron Pony had a good idea about a separation until you have gotten through this. I don't think generally speaking, we are truly the same people we were pretx. If she cannot wait, get a lawyer and cut your losses. Yes you will be alone in your hell, but truly we are anyway. No one can be in our own personal circles of hell. I chased my adult kids off when they over identified with my pain.
Hang in there, you will come through this healthier and happier than ever. Hold on to that certainty and you will manage.

[rog1958]

Rex,  I too have many important decisions to make including relationships. My therapist advised me not to make any decisions while on tx. Focus on tx, build a new support group. Here is perfect place to start. There are some wonderful people here.  If you must separate temporarily then focus on that. Your wife and others have no idea what we go through on this tx.  Our minds are not the same with all the toxins flushing around daily.  

After tx is the time for permanent decisions, not during.
Good luck and God bless, rog

[belle19]

so sorry to hear about your marriage ending.  doesn't your wife realize the stress she'll be putting you thru?  it doesn't seem fair to leave someone when they are not feeling good on treatment.  i'm sorry that you'll be alone.  it's hard not having a support team.  we here at the forum will help you get thru these trying times.  i wish you all the luck in the world.  belle

[Ironpony]

I often feel like during treatment my husbamd and I have become two different people. my head is stuck on tx and nothing else but getting through this. Luckily he is very passive, so he quietly endures this without adding more stress by wanting to fight.
I do think once I make it through this we will find each other again...

I'm so sorry to hear about the fighting and panic attacks.

I'm just curious if a seperation first would be better? Make the big decisions when you are not on tx, as these medications can be enough of an emotional whirl wind alone.

best wishes,
Laura

[Revalation]

What about a legal separation? That may give you some time.
Maybe if you get the separation before she acts you can buy some time
to get past treatment. She might need a little space to think about things.
If that does not work I'd let her go her own way.

I haven't heard from the person I dated prior to my first treatment.
Didn't even get to say Hep C. Don't regret it a day
.
By the time you get thru tx you will know your real friends and supporters
Shallow people won't be able to handle the situation and you don't need any around. Actually, you never need them, but when there is no crisis
you don't see them for who they really are.