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Could I have gotten herpes
I made a huge mistake about 10 days ago. I went through and met a guy that I didn't know and he preformed oral sex on me and I on him. No kissing or anything like that. I am now freaking out of my mind going did I get herpes. So I am trying to gather a game plan.
I have been googling and looking for answers for a while. But now I am going to ask my own question of Do you think I have it given my situation.
The guy I met claimed to be clean from all diseases and HIV. When we met I didn't see him having any "signs" of bumps or anything like that. But I know that isn't a for sure sign of being free from herpes. As I said this was 10 days ago almost 11. I have been scared that a bump I had around my genitals was herpes. But I think I figured it out as just a ingrown hair. But today I notice that my lips feel a little burning. all around them. Like they are puffing up. It started around 11:00 PM. I shaved today at like 2:45 PM. I doubt its razor burn but I am not sure. I am as you can probbaly tell freaking out.
My first question is can this be a sign of Herpes and/or something else?
If I go to a hospitial (I am located in the US) can they test for Herpes on site and get me the results?
Ugh I messed up so bad and I am honestly scared. Any advice/help much appreciated.
I have been googling and looking for answers for a while. But now I am going to ask my own question of Do you think I have it given my situation.
The guy I met claimed to be clean from all diseases and HIV. When we met I didn't see him having any "signs" of bumps or anything like that. But I know that isn't a for sure sign of being free from herpes. As I said this was 10 days ago almost 11. I have been scared that a bump I had around my genitals was herpes. But I think I figured it out as just a ingrown hair. But today I notice that my lips feel a little burning. all around them. Like they are puffing up. It started around 11:00 PM. I shaved today at like 2:45 PM. I doubt its razor burn but I am not sure. I am as you can probbaly tell freaking out.
My first question is can this be a sign of Herpes and/or something else?
If I go to a hospitial (I am located in the US) can they test for Herpes on site and get me the results?
Ugh I messed up so bad and I am honestly scared. Any advice/help much appreciated.
Some new things just came up today. I don't know if what you said is true... I may have gotten the whole STD book...
Today it has just been feeling like I can't empty my bladder fully plus it also feels like I have 2 cuts on me. I am like 100% more freaking out now. I don't know if the "cut" feeling is the fact I scratched down there. But I couldn't tell by looking in a mirror. I think when I get a chance tomorrow I am going to the free STD clinic offered by the city to be checked. It also feels like I get something coming out of me I can't stop. I think I have felt this before but being with all that is going on I can't tell if its safe to ignore. Also my butt feels like its vibrating sometimes... I am trying so hard to not freak out I really am but I can't help it at this point...
Add that in with the last email from the stranger I met was yesterday and I have gone off to even offer to pay for his test and he won't respond. He says he was clean 3 years ago and not sexually active until he met someone 2 months before me. He said no symtoms but I know it doesn't matter.
Neither of us ejactulated at all but he did have a little pre-cum. Just minor touching and the oral part. Ugh... I don't know what to do! I went (and I know what you will say a waste of money) and got a test done today. I know if it comes back negative not really accurate being it was 2 weeks out. But I know that if it comes back negative still a chance I am not positive.
Today it has just been feeling like I can't empty my bladder fully plus it also feels like I have 2 cuts on me. I am like 100% more freaking out now. I don't know if the "cut" feeling is the fact I scratched down there. But I couldn't tell by looking in a mirror. I think when I get a chance tomorrow I am going to the free STD clinic offered by the city to be checked. It also feels like I get something coming out of me I can't stop. I think I have felt this before but being with all that is going on I can't tell if its safe to ignore. Also my butt feels like its vibrating sometimes... I am trying so hard to not freak out I really am but I can't help it at this point...
Add that in with the last email from the stranger I met was yesterday and I have gone off to even offer to pay for his test and he won't respond. He says he was clean 3 years ago and not sexually active until he met someone 2 months before me. He said no symtoms but I know it doesn't matter.
Neither of us ejactulated at all but he did have a little pre-cum. Just minor touching and the oral part. Ugh... I don't know what to do! I went (and I know what you will say a waste of money) and got a test done today. I know if it comes back negative not really accurate being it was 2 weeks out. But I know that if it comes back negative still a chance I am not positive.
Grace,
I love your attitude about this. You should run for president! I think you would do a great job!
The reason to my anxiety is I have a girlfriend and I was dumb this one time and I really don't want to lose her. I just got super stupid and forgot my priorities. Let me tell you what this has done... It has for sure reminded me how much she means to me and how those little things that I love about her and would miss if she leaves me. Guess the next 9 weeks are going to be long. Thankfully in a few months she is leaving to go out of town for 3 months. This would be so very helpful because then I won't be concerned about sharing or anything.
I love your attitude about this. You should run for president! I think you would do a great job!
The reason to my anxiety is I have a girlfriend and I was dumb this one time and I really don't want to lose her. I just got super stupid and forgot my priorities. Let me tell you what this has done... It has for sure reminded me how much she means to me and how those little things that I love about her and would miss if she leaves me. Guess the next 9 weeks are going to be long. Thankfully in a few months she is leaving to go out of town for 3 months. This would be so very helpful because then I won't be concerned about sharing or anything.
I wouldn't worry much if the other guy tested negative at 10 weeks. Just not worth it.
Just itching and nothing else is usually jock itch and not herpes.
Honestly I think you are worrying far more than it's worth. It's gotten to the point now where you are having full blown anxiety attacks over it. Gotta find a better way to deal with your anxiety over it or it'll be a very long next couple of weeks for you ( and very expensive if you need to go to the ER much more ). So you met a stranger for oral sex. Doesn't mean you brought home every std in the book.
grace
Just itching and nothing else is usually jock itch and not herpes.
Honestly I think you are worrying far more than it's worth. It's gotten to the point now where you are having full blown anxiety attacks over it. Gotta find a better way to deal with your anxiety over it or it'll be a very long next couple of weeks for you ( and very expensive if you need to go to the ER much more ). So you met a stranger for oral sex. Doesn't mean you brought home every std in the book.
grace
Quick question for you...
Is it safe to say that if the guy I was with tests negative at 10 weeks that the result is pretty close to acceptable? The reason I ask is that I was browsing the Expert forums and Dr HH made the comment that the 10 week test was almost as good as the 12 week test. I am sure if he tests clean then well I will as well. I am even willing to pay for his. What are your professional thoughts on this?
Is it safe to say that if the guy I was with tests negative at 10 weeks that the result is pretty close to acceptable? The reason I ask is that I was browsing the Expert forums and Dr HH made the comment that the 10 week test was almost as good as the 12 week test. I am sure if he tests clean then well I will as well. I am even willing to pay for his. What are your professional thoughts on this?
Lol. I am glad you have a great attitude about things. Like I said truely a great ideal to have.
Okay so I won't lie. I freaked out last night completely! I couldn't sleep and was just beyond stressed and started having some pretty bad chest pains I think. So.. Needless to say I went to the ER. They checked me I was fine on the heart and all. I had them look at my itchy feeling down stairs... They looked and couldn't see anything at all. So that was a good sign because I was really worried as I have been itchy all the time down there. Feel bad for the poor Dr (female) that examined me. She said I was fine and that she didn't see anything. So I was able to sleep. But sadly I know all the "symptoms" and EVERY pain I have down there and EVERY discomfort I have sets off a flag. Today even I have I dunno if its a cold sore or something else on my actual lip and I have felt these before its like a pimple on the lip but again concerning because well I don't know if its a outbreak but it is only one so I don't think so.
I am do find comfort in your stating that the overall risk was low. That makes me feel better. I also got in contact with the guy I met with. He was last with someone about 2 months ago he said so he said he will test soon. I told him to wait until at least 3 months and if that test comes back clean we should both count our lucky stars.
Okay so I won't lie. I freaked out last night completely! I couldn't sleep and was just beyond stressed and started having some pretty bad chest pains I think. So.. Needless to say I went to the ER. They checked me I was fine on the heart and all. I had them look at my itchy feeling down stairs... They looked and couldn't see anything at all. So that was a good sign because I was really worried as I have been itchy all the time down there. Feel bad for the poor Dr (female) that examined me. She said I was fine and that she didn't see anything. So I was able to sleep. But sadly I know all the "symptoms" and EVERY pain I have down there and EVERY discomfort I have sets off a flag. Today even I have I dunno if its a cold sore or something else on my actual lip and I have felt these before its like a pimple on the lip but again concerning because well I don't know if its a outbreak but it is only one so I don't think so.
I am do find comfort in your stating that the overall risk was low. That makes me feel better. I also got in contact with the guy I met with. He was last with someone about 2 months ago he said so he said he will test soon. I told him to wait until at least 3 months and if that test comes back clean we should both count our lucky stars.
Oh I regularly recommend folks get counseling too...lol. You aren't at that point by no means.
I can't say I'm exactly innocent myself as far as encounters that seemed like a good idea at the time....lol. We all do it. Just keep reminding yourself that overall risk was low. Try to keep it in perspective or you'll start noticing "symptoms" that usually you wouldn't think twice about and just drive yourself nuts needlessly.
grace
I can't say I'm exactly innocent myself as far as encounters that seemed like a good idea at the time....lol. We all do it. Just keep reminding yourself that overall risk was low. Try to keep it in perspective or you'll start noticing "symptoms" that usually you wouldn't think twice about and just drive yourself nuts needlessly.
grace
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
