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Desperately need help/advice
I apologize in advance for the novel.
I recently left my husband of 15 years. He had been emotionally abusive throughout our entire relationship. However we have 3 children. I should've waited but in Nov had unprotected sex with a friend. We live 3 hours apart and have had unprotected sexual encounters 2-3 times a month since then. Our sex has been pretty rough and at times I probably wasn't as lubricated as it should be. Last month I was on Bactrim for a uti and ended up getting what I thought was the worst yeast infection I've ever had. It didn't respond to Monistat and the dr gave me a script for Diflucan. Took that and within a few days it was gone. Back on Mar 2nd, we had unprotected sex and oral sex. This was the first time I let him as I've always been uncomfortable about it. I returned home and the next day my youngest was sick and it turned into the week from hell with sick kids and strep throat. I started with a fever, cough & congestion about a week later, also got a cold sore at the corner of my lips which I haven't had since I was a little kid. Anyway, I slept in spandex pants with no undies. When I woke up I had terrible burning down there and thought immediately it was a yeast infection. I began treating with yogurt and gyne-lotrimin a few days later. However it didn't seem to be getting better actually worse. Our dr's office is 45min away and it takes days to get in. Finally got an appt but after waiting an hour I had to leave so I didn't miss my son's NHS award ceremony. The NP without examining me gave me Diflucan. I took that on 3/15 in the evening. tmi, I'm sorry. I had the terrible burning but my cottage cheese discharge changed to watery white then yellow. Started having horrible burning whenever I urinated. And finally I looked down there to see if I could figure out what was going on and on the inside I saw cuts and what look to be sores? They are all different shapes and aren't in any sort of pattern or round? I called my friend and asked him if he thought maybe one of his ex's might have given him something. He was very offended and the conversation left me feeling like I had done something wrong. Now not only do I feel horrible physically but I feel so alone. From everything I can tell it seems like HSV? Please help.
I recently left my husband of 15 years. He had been emotionally abusive throughout our entire relationship. However we have 3 children. I should've waited but in Nov had unprotected sex with a friend. We live 3 hours apart and have had unprotected sexual encounters 2-3 times a month since then. Our sex has been pretty rough and at times I probably wasn't as lubricated as it should be. Last month I was on Bactrim for a uti and ended up getting what I thought was the worst yeast infection I've ever had. It didn't respond to Monistat and the dr gave me a script for Diflucan. Took that and within a few days it was gone. Back on Mar 2nd, we had unprotected sex and oral sex. This was the first time I let him as I've always been uncomfortable about it. I returned home and the next day my youngest was sick and it turned into the week from hell with sick kids and strep throat. I started with a fever, cough & congestion about a week later, also got a cold sore at the corner of my lips which I haven't had since I was a little kid. Anyway, I slept in spandex pants with no undies. When I woke up I had terrible burning down there and thought immediately it was a yeast infection. I began treating with yogurt and gyne-lotrimin a few days later. However it didn't seem to be getting better actually worse. Our dr's office is 45min away and it takes days to get in. Finally got an appt but after waiting an hour I had to leave so I didn't miss my son's NHS award ceremony. The NP without examining me gave me Diflucan. I took that on 3/15 in the evening. tmi, I'm sorry. I had the terrible burning but my cottage cheese discharge changed to watery white then yellow. Started having horrible burning whenever I urinated. And finally I looked down there to see if I could figure out what was going on and on the inside I saw cuts and what look to be sores? They are all different shapes and aren't in any sort of pattern or round? I called my friend and asked him if he thought maybe one of his ex's might have given him something. He was very offended and the conversation left me feeling like I had done something wrong. Now not only do I feel horrible physically but I feel so alone. From everything I can tell it seems like HSV? Please help.
you have a history of cold sores which are oral herpes. Even though you haven't had a cold sore in awhile, it's not unusual at all to still get them. http://www.ashastd.org/std-sti-works/Herpes/oral-herpes.html has terrific info on oral herpes for more reading.
what testing did they do for genital herpes on you? If you haven't already, be sure to read the free herpes handbook we link to in our read before posting post on the forum so that you are informed about genital herpes and testing and know what questions to ask when following up with your medical providers. If this is genital herpes, odds are it's hsv2 since you already have hsv1 orally.
did they also test you for other std's too like yeast and bacterial infections vaginally? if not, you definitely need to follow up on that. Your partner might've been offended that you asked him about std's but honestly odds are that he's not getting properly tested and not getting tested for all std's. He'll need to follow up himself with full std testing and make sure it includes type specific herpes igg blood testing too. Don't allow him to make you feel bad about this - takes two to tango as they say and you both made the decision to have unprotected sex without exchanging std results so you aren't any more responsible for any of this than he is!!
Are you able to get any professional counseling to help you work through all of this? Do you have good support from friends and family?
grace
what testing did they do for genital herpes on you? If you haven't already, be sure to read the free herpes handbook we link to in our read before posting post on the forum so that you are informed about genital herpes and testing and know what questions to ask when following up with your medical providers. If this is genital herpes, odds are it's hsv2 since you already have hsv1 orally.
did they also test you for other std's too like yeast and bacterial infections vaginally? if not, you definitely need to follow up on that. Your partner might've been offended that you asked him about std's but honestly odds are that he's not getting properly tested and not getting tested for all std's. He'll need to follow up himself with full std testing and make sure it includes type specific herpes igg blood testing too. Don't allow him to make you feel bad about this - takes two to tango as they say and you both made the decision to have unprotected sex without exchanging std results so you aren't any more responsible for any of this than he is!!
Are you able to get any professional counseling to help you work through all of this? Do you have good support from friends and family?
grace
Keep your head up! You're not dying and herpes isn't the worst diagnosis in the world. I'm going through the same thing. Time is a healer. Hugs and strength to you :)
At the ER and after physical exam they are fairly sure it is herpes. I'm so distraught. I really just want to die. I was already struggling with being a single mom of 3 and working full time and now to have this. I just don't have any more strength.
I'm sorry your friend isn't acting like one. I hope he's been looking at it as sex between friend and hasn't just been taking advantage of your situation and all the emotions that come with it. It would be nice if he could provide some support as you deal with whatever this is.
The lip sore sounds like HSV; if you see your doctor before it goes away, it can be swabbed to check for sure. Otherwise, you may be able to have a blood test for it, at some point.
The yellow discharge is concerning; that can be caused by non-std infections or certain stds; I think it can be caused by HSV, and it can look like the vaginal sores you have. Again, your doctor can swab them to test and/or do blood tests, at some point. Hopefully it's just one problem, but I'm sure your doctor will also test you for infections like Bacterial Vaginosis and Chlamydia, and check your urine to see what's causing the burning.
When you call for an appointment, be sure to mention that you have the sores Currently and would like to have them swabbed for tests before they heal. I hope you can get an appointment soon. I bet you're under enough stress from daily life without all this awful stuff added to the mix.
The lip sore sounds like HSV; if you see your doctor before it goes away, it can be swabbed to check for sure. Otherwise, you may be able to have a blood test for it, at some point.
The yellow discharge is concerning; that can be caused by non-std infections or certain stds; I think it can be caused by HSV, and it can look like the vaginal sores you have. Again, your doctor can swab them to test and/or do blood tests, at some point. Hopefully it's just one problem, but I'm sure your doctor will also test you for infections like Bacterial Vaginosis and Chlamydia, and check your urine to see what's causing the burning.
When you call for an appointment, be sure to mention that you have the sores Currently and would like to have them swabbed for tests before they heal. I hope you can get an appointment soon. I bet you're under enough stress from daily life without all this awful stuff added to the mix.
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