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Herpes possibility?
I'm a gay male who in the past month or so has had unprotected oral sex (both giving and receiving) and protected anal sex (me being the top). On Friday, I started to notice a chancre or some kind of sore on the top of my penis, right by the opening/urethra. It hasn't really developed into anything bigger yet, and there is no puss coming from it, also it isn't like a blister either. So not really sure what it is. I'm worried it could be a sign of herpes, and so wondered what people's thoughts were? Could it be herpes or perhaps syphilis?
I am thinking of going tomorrow to get it checked out, but any thoughts beforehand would be greatly received. Thanks.
I am thinking of going tomorrow to get it checked out, but any thoughts beforehand would be greatly received. Thanks.
almost all of my partners have been hsv2 negative and stayed that way. I did pass it on twice over 20 years ago - once before I even knew I had it and once when I was trying to hide that I had it from a partner.
Very good point Grace. I never want to be that person that holds back anything. Honest is key as far as I'm concerned. The biggest question I have is - how many people have been able to have a relationship with a non-h person, and not pass it on...
which is more freaky, a partner being open and honest with you to share that they truly care about you or a partner who is held back because they are trying to hide something?
I haven't discussed it with a potential partner yet. He's young and I'm afraid he'd freak out. I just want to make sure I'm safe with anyone even while I wait until I know for sure.
you don't even know if you have genital herpes yet.
have you and your new partner discussed this? have they been tested to know their status?
have you and your new partner discussed this? have they been tested to know their status?
There is so much information out there that suggests worst case scenarios and then others that say it isn't so bad. I don't know what to believe and also what I can now do sexually with another guy. I guess if I just give him oral and he just only uses his hands on me that will be the safest right? Feeling a little frustrated now ...
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Herpes spreads by oral, vaginal and anal sex.
Herpes sores blister, then burst, scab and heal.
STIs are the most common cause of genital sores.
Millions of people are diagnosed with STDs in the U.S. each year.
STDs can't be transmitted by casual contact, like hugging or touching.
Syphilis is an STD that is transmitted by oral, genital and anal sex.
