Herpes or not!!!???

[Memphis555]

So I've been clean my whole life, recently my new girlfriend of four months developed light bleeding, painful urination, shooting pains in pelvic area, swollen vagina and some discharge. She went to her dr who told her "oh this has to be herpes", then did a cultural swab which came back negative. She was still adamant it was herpes and wouldn't even consider anything else, so she gave her a blood test and that came back negative. She still thinks it herpes and won't even talk with her about what other possibilities it could be, saying she should come back in a month to get tested again. Now I'm furious with this dr for not even exploring other possibilities and basically putting her through all this stress and worry filled days when she has no clue what it is, just "I know it's herpes, but I can't prove it" WTF IS THAT!? Shouldn't she not be saying anything and not just posturing this ******** until she has facts, does she know the kinda of pain and stress that puts on someone when you tell them they have herpes but you have no evidence of it! So now for the next month until her next test we both have to walk around stressing about this because of this dr. She could have stated the tests were inconclusive and come back at a later time and leave it at that. What do you guys think, herpes or not.

[gracefromHHP]

sounds like your gf should schedule an appointment with her regular gyn too to go over this better.

[Memphis555]

First off, I meant clean as in no STDS, not how you're thinking. Or so I thought no STDS, now I'm not so sure. She did get seen by her dr within the 48hr period and it was not her regular gyno. Hers was not in and the dr who saw her was just about to go into a procedure before she came in so that makes me think she was also in a hurry to get her out fast. I also know she did not get tested for anything else at all, like I said, not her dr, she was in a big rush and only saw her once. So I'm extremely angry and disappointed in this dr and the way she treated my girlfriend over such a potentially life changing issue.

[gracefromHHP]

At this point you need to be seen and get yourself a type specific herpes igg blood test to see what your own status is.  Odds are you've never been tested for herpes before, even if you routinely get tested for std's.  

It's not unusual for lesion cultures to come  back negative. Also if this is a newly acquired infection for your gf, it can take weeks/months for it to be reflected on a blood test. You getting tested now will help her and her provider decide when to next repeat her testing.

meanwhile, anytime she has any symptoms, she should be seen without 48 hours of their appearance. A visual diagnosis of herpes is often accurate but it certainly needs confirmed.  

did they also test her for yeast and bacterial  infections vaginally as well as other std's?

grace

[stephl81]

Doesnt sound like herpes.  Does she have lesions/blisters/sores anywear near or around her vagina/anus to go along with her symptoms?  Is she bleeding from her vagina similar to a period or is she bleeding. Herpes symptoms dont have bleeding from the vagina. Maybe from the sore, if the sore is irritated.   Also what type of blood test was she given? If you can post her results on here they can be intrepreted by Grace.  She should also get a second opinion, maybe from an STD clinic or Planned Parenthood.  Are they symptoms on going? Herpes symptoms come and go, then dont last for a month.  

PS: Dont imply that people are dirty or arent clean because they are living with a VERY common virus. :) Side note, because Im living with herpes and Im a clean person, per se.