concern about HSV

[dimlightisme]

A year ago I had a medium-high risk incidence, which freaked me out me out. It was a real trauma. I did all the tests and was clean, also 6m post the incidence. I promissed I'd never do it again,but recently I was engaged in 3 stupid activities, although not as risky as the former.
1. 6weeks ago I had exotic dancer completely nude in front of me, and she briefly touched my **** with her hands which I don't know where they were before.
2. 5weeks ago I had erotic massage, and I rubbed my **** against her lower back - didn't touch her below that. I c-m on her back.  Later I lied on the massage table naked and she gave me a short massage with her hands. I don't think she touched my ****.
about 3days after this, when I masturbated I suddenly noticed a wound on my  shaft. I had long nails that could caused that but I didn't recall any injury. It was smaller than the size of the tip of the finger, and looked like the skin was removed. There were no round bumps. It was not painful, just itching a little. I went to a UCLA Dr, who said it didn't look like herpes, but also that sometimes herpes doesn't look like herpes. He gave me all the STD tests including culture, and HSV blood test. All was negative and he said I can relax and no need to test again. Few days after that it healed and disappeared without a scar: The skin was red for few days and returned to normal.
then I made the last stupid thing - and I swear - the last ever -
3. Yesterday I exchanged massage with someone with HSV both vaginal and lips, although she said she didn't have outbreak at that time. I touched her just outside the vagina with my hands for a while, then massage her legs, and then we switched.
I was face down,she didn't give me hand-job, but she did briefly touched my dick.
She said I had 0 chance to get anything from her, but I'm not so sure. I feel terrible, although reading your forum calmed me down a bit. But still - what do you think are my chances to be with STD ? should I be tested again?

[Genesisi]

Congratulations!

That being said, you had no real risk to be perfectly honest, but at least you feel better.

By the way, it is not about god or religion, it is about being aware and educated when it comes to STD's and transmission

Good luck in the future.

A

[dimlightisme]

I made a blood test 6 weeks after 'the incident' and got the results today . Negative!
I'm so happy. God gave me another chance. I'm seeing a psychiatrist, and hoping it would help me. can't do this **** anymore.
Dr said negative is 99% correct.
I won't have any more chances.
thank you all!

[gracefromHHP]

no a pcr of urine isn't what you need done. You don't have active symptoms of herpes at this point so getting one done would be totally wasting your time.

I think the provider you saw wasted your time and added to your anxiety needlessly.

the culture you had of active symptoms that came back negative was not a waste of your time either.

[bobrope45]

Your physician is wrong. Herpes is a STD, it requires skin to skin to be transmitted. And no, you have no evidence that you have herpes.

If you need piece of mind, get another blood test type specific for herpes. Your physician is also wrong to say that swabs from the lesion and blood test are useless. PCR from the urine is mostly useless - he's very outdated in the matter, get yourself another provider.

[dimlightisme]

I checked with a respected physician - all what they say here that herpes doesn't spread without penetration is simply untrue.
The signs I had match Herpes.
I got Herpes.
The Dr also told me that the examination I made were worthless. The only examination for this early time after infection is PCR using the urine.
I'm trying to find out where I can do it in LA. Does anyone know?

[petal130]

As Grace stated, non of this was a risk for herpes. Don't confuse guilt with risk. Call your local suicide hotline immediately at 1-800-SUICIDE if you are having suicidal thoughts.

[dimlightisme]

right...the thing is that I'm married, love my wife, and want to have kids.
yes, I found one sweet girl who accepted me as idiot as I am,  and I blew it. She gave me a chance a year ago, and I did it again. We separated for 2m, and I thought there was no risk, but there was. Very little risk, but still. I can't take the risk that I'd infect her. Especially if we bring kids. I want to kill myself.
I deserve it. why did I do it?

[gracefromHHP]

the provider you saw didn't think this was herpes related anyways. since none of the activities you engaged in were risks for herpes, no reason to think herpes as a cause. should it reoccur, be seen again.

[dimlightisme]

Thanks, I began a psy therapy to find out why I do these things. But will never do it again.When I did it I thought there was no risk without penetration.
But because I had this blister / wound on my shaft, which fits with HSV, I am not sure skin-to skin could not transmit. The tests were ~5d after the 2nd incidence and I'm not sure they were reliable at this time.

[gracefromHHP]

nothing you've posted about was a risk for herpes transmission.  you had no oral to genital contact. you had no genital to genital contact. without either of those, std transmission isn't going to be a risk.

there is no reason for any testing from these  encounters.

if you know that being naked with others is going to cause you stress like this, why do it?

grace

[Genesisi]

Your risk is extremely low, whilst kissing can sometimes pass on infections, she was right - only really during an outbreak and even then the chances are very slim.

I would say your risk was actually low, not medium.  I would define sexual intercourse with a partner who is HSV or HIV+ high risk behaviour.

Regarding your first incodences, you did not put yourself at risk, so the issue with your penis was noy STD related.

If you want to get tested again, then by all means do so for peace of mind.  I dont think you have anything to worry about.

Hope this helps,

Adam