four months ago, i had protected intercourse with a lady, afterwards she was very careful and took the condom off from my penis with the help of paper towels, also asked me to clean my groin with alcohal, which i refused, there might be some vaginal secretions on my groin. but her atititude afterwards made me very suspicious, that she has some std. 3 days later i had severe itching on my face, had sore throat after about 20 days, and diarhea after a month, also started having neck pains. after 2 months i had oral herpes breakout and a swollen neck, blood test showed everything ok except that i had high epstien barr virus igg levels. oral herpes is gone now, but my neck is still swollen, also feel pain in my armpits and elbows sometime. this was my first encounter outside a monogamous relationship after 10 years. should i get tested for other stds? do these symptoms point to a particular std? can oral herpes cause swollen neck?very scared, even though i used the condom properly but am regretting that i should have cleaned my groin area with soap.