Could there be a chance that my baby is still there.

I am wondering if there is any hope for my pregnancy.  I started light bleeding on Thursday.  I am nearly 7 weeks pregnant.  I was given a vaginal ultrasound and they found that the baby had a good heartbeat and the sac was healthy and normal.  They could not see any blood coming from the cervix.  I went home with a picture and was very happy.  The next day I was resting and found that I was bleeding red blood heaver than the day before.  As the day went on the bleeding got heavier.  I have also been having cramps like period pain and pretty painful.  So I went to the hospital and had an examination  and was told that my cervix was closed.  I was told that I could be having a miscarriage but also the baby could be fine because of the scan the day before.  I was told to wait it out and I am having another scan on Thursday.  When I got home the bleeding has got heavier and I have resigned myself to the fact that I am having a miscarriage.  I am still bleeding now and it is soaking the pad.My partner and I are heartbroken and I can't stop crying.  I am so devestated and lay in bed not wanting to get up.  This evening I finally got up and logged on to this site and found women who had heavy bleeding and still went on to keep their baby. Can there be any hope for me?  I think I know the answer.  

[Athena_M]

I think there is hope for you, but I think you should go to the Emergency Room they can do an ultrasound to make sure the baby is still there.  
Let me know how things go.  
Hugs
Athena

[jos45]

Thanks Athena.  I am trying to be positive but my breasts don't feel sore anymore and even my belly looks flatter.  I'm still bleeding and there are some clots in it.  I so want to believe that the baby is still there but deep inside I feel it has gone.  I am nearly 45 so it feels like I don't have much time left to conceive and then if I do again I am so scared that this will happen again.  I am holding on to a very small amount of hope.  I have to wait until Thursday for a scan and it seems like a very long wait.

[hisbabygrl]

Jos I went thru this 3 years ago and like you was very heart broken. They did an ultrasound and said that the baby looked great but I was most likely going to miscarry..Like you I was heartbroken I had sat in the waiting room and bled for over 6 hrs before they even saw me, and all they did was do an ultrasound tell me that the baby was fine but I was going to miscarry( they had no hearts) I got a peice of paper about it and kicked out of the door.. Come to find out that I had miscarried but It was my sons twin. I went on to have a healthy lil boy that is now 3..I hope this gives you some hope.. I'm sorry you are going thru this.. let us know how it turns out. My thoughts and prayers are with you... Hugs

[jos45]

Thanks for that message it does give me hope.  I called the hospital today and spoke to a very nice nurse who said that she didn't think that I am miscarrying because of Thursday's scan and because I am not actually bleeding very heavily and because of the closed cervix.  To me is seems heavy but she said that I would be changing the pad every hour and would have had some big clots which I haven't had.  She has brought my scan forward to Tuesday which is a big relief and I will find out then.
I am very confused and don't want to build up too much hope but on the other hand I want to be positive.  It is very good to hear of your positive outcome though of course sad that you lost your son's twin.

[Athena_M]

Sometimes in pregnancy the breasts are sore and then sometimes the soreness goes away for a while.  
You know what?  My stomach is a little flatter too, now that I am pregnant.  I think it is flatter from eating healthier.  My uterus is tiltled which is normal so I won't show for a longer time than most.  Maybe yours is too.  

Well, that's good news from the nice nurse.  Stay positive, I know it is hard.    

I pray that angels surround you and give you comfort and peace.  

Let me know how it goes tommorow.      

Hugs and Prayers
Athena

[jos45]

Hi,
just a quick update.  Well, I had my scan and I have miscarried.  I am devestated and numb at the same time.  I wasn't surprised but it still came as a blow when I found out for sure,
The next step is getting over the physical pain and then I can try to deal with the emotional side although I know that is going to  be much harder.  My partner is so devestated and I feel so bad when I look at him and I know it is not my fault but I cannot help feeling guilty.  I am 45 at the end of the month and I know that I can try again but it feels like the end of the road for me.  
Now I understand the total heartache that is a miscarriage.  I always sympathised with women in this position but until now I had no idea how devestating it really is.  
Thank you both for your kind words and it is good to have this forum, somehow it helps to give strength because it makes you realise that you are not alone.

[saya14]

i feel sorry for ur loss. dont let ur heart broken. i am a living example for u. bcoz im lost my twin baby boys at 7th month. they r very healthy till last minute they r born. but due to fate i m facing this situation. i had checkup every week and have all scan photos and videos. but atlast before i knew my babies were no more they were grieved.but still i m living i am here only for  my lovable husband else i might have died on the day i heard my babies were dead. life will ups downs we hav to face. lets try till we succeed. think of my loss. u will feel better. dont worry.

[jos45]

Saya, I am so sorry for your loss.  I can't imagine how devistating it must have been for you to lose your twins.  

Yes you are right, we should feel lucky for what we have.  I have a lovely partner and very supportive friends and family and they are all there for me.  In a way I actually feel relieved that I actually know now rather than all the speculating that I was doing before today's scan.  I will move forward from this day and who knows what the future holds for both of us.  I wish you lots of luck and joy for the future.  Here's to us! Thank you for your message.  It does help.

[Athena_M]

I'm so sorry and sad to hear about your loss.  Please stay healthy and keep taking your pre-natal vitamins in case you decide to try again later.    
I have some friends on this site that unfortunately had to join the miscarriage discussions.  There is alot of support for you here.    
My heat goes out to you and your partner.  Hugs to you and I pray for peace and love and happiness to come to you.  Please stay in touch.  
Blessings
Athena

[jos45]

Thank you for your kind words Athena,

I will definately be using this website for support.  I'm glad I found it.  It's good to know you're not the only one going through this.