I know this has nothing to do with.........

Ok I guess I just need to vent and get this all out and I know other place to do it or anyone to talk to.  And I know this has nothing to do with the health of me or my child, but it does have to do with my DD. I knew when I married my DH that he was a different religion than me, but he hardly ever went to church so we agreed that if and when we would go to church that it would be mine. So we go most of the time, but lately I agreed with him that we would sort of meet in the middle. He is catholic and I am baptist and I am not going to say anything about either, but that we did decide to go to a Metodist church just so that we are going to church and can bring our DD up in church. He has started to be very hard on me about the whole subject lately. It is driving me nuts. He wants to go back to his church and then go to mine and I just don't feel that it would be best for DD. I don't want it to have to be that way where it is every other Sunday where we go to mine or his and when she is older she feels she has to decide on who to go with or what religion she is. I just don't want that for her. I want to make her life as easy as possible. I just don't know what to do. I told DH that when we first met that God was important and so was church and worshiping and he was fine with it, but now he is saying stupid things that I just don't feel he should say.
Nobody has to answer any questions, I just needed to vent and get this off my chest so I can stop taking it out on him I guess.

[mgi]

actually with the exception of you or him converting his idea seems best
expose her to both

at some point choosing will be best for her
as a catholic she could choose when she is 12 or 13  or older if she wants

letting her know mom and dad both have faith is important

I think your hubby may want to be a full catholic and practive his faith (so go by himself on opposite weeks)  just to set a good example for her

best of luck

[ImmortalOne]

Sharing children and different religions are very difficult.  My fiancee' is a religion that most don't understand and isn't practiced in a church.  He won't goto a church (well he did once at the beginning stages of our wedding planning).  He'll get married in a church, for me, not his beliefs and I'm free to teach my children whatever I wish about religion.  We also plan to have this baby baptized  in my family's church, I should double check with him that he doesn't mind still.  Nether of us are heavily religious, that is going to church and such.  However my daughters are well informed and were raised Christian.  My daughters have been exposed to different religions all their lives, I feel this was healthy for them and allowed them to follow the path that they felt was most calling.  They have both chosen to be Christian's (but like many they may check other things out in the future).

The point is, that taking your child to different churches will teach her the diversity out there, not that there is different Gods but some people pray to the same God differently.  It will make them more well rounded, give them a better understanding of tolerance, and eventually religion is something our children choose for themselves with our previous guidance to follow them.  

[taysmommy]

just to add, i was brought up with both as well, catholic and babtist, and i am not confused, nor had any problems finding my own church of choice so to speak, i think its great that your bringing your kids up in the church, good for you!

ps. i go to a babtist church now, i didnt want to sound as if i think you should definatly take your dd to both, just wanted to let you know from first hand experience what its like growing up with both, and this also resolves the conflict between you and DH,

[taysmommy]

this sounds just like my mom and my step dad, shes babtist, hes catholic, and my 7 year old sister goes to both churches and is not effected at all, she loves them both, my mom goes with my step dad on sunday mornings (with my sister of course) and then she goes to her babtist church sunday night and wednesday night, my sister participates with both churches, she goes to awanas(?) at the babtist church, and catacism classes at the catholic church, she also attends a christian school so shes getting basically 3 different exposures,

its really hard to determine which is the "right" church because of course you will think yours is and he will think his is,  if you choose to let your dd participate with both she will get a better understanding of which she perfers when she gets older, the only problem i see in this is one of you might feel angry at the choice she makes, all in all i dont think if shes exposed to both she will have any problems what so ever,

so maybe you can try letting her go to both and see how she does, at such a young age they wont realise that the two religions are different,

i have a different problem, i cant get my DH to go to ANY church, i wish he would so bad, i wouldnt care which he choose, but he is set in his ways :(

[bjbbeauchamp]

Thanks to all for the advice and stories!  We talked it over and he is willing to go for Easter to the Methodist church down the street, but after that it will probably be where we go every other Sunday to his and my church, which is perfectly fine with me.  
I guess I just was upset and didn't really give him the chance to speak his mind or opinion.

taysmommy:
Thank you!  Hearing your story made me feel a lot better.  I am not worried about DH or me, just her and how this will effect her overall.  She is only 9 months, so it will be awhile before she will be making any decisions, but I just didn't want to make any wrong decisions as a Mother for her now that would make it difficult later on.  I have decided to go to my church whenever I want, b/c most of the time DH doesn't want to go.  He is older than me and started off Baptist and then explored many other religions before deciding he wanted to be Catholic, so he says that he has heard it all and really would just rather believe and worship God at home and they way that he feels would do him good.  Whatever makes him happy. If I have to go to church alone I am fine with that. But again thank you for your story and advice!

Hope everyone has a wonderful week!