Open Forum Friday

[BostTTC]

WOO HOO!! It's Friday!!!  The weather is beautiful here.  Maybe I can get my butt off the computer today and do some yard work.  Have a great weekend everyone!!!

How is everyone?

Kassimom- Are your meds helping you?  Feeling back to your old self again? (Only with a little peanut pooch??)

Still A Mom- Congrats to you!  

Buckeye-  Keep your chin up, we're all praying for you!

[Missy04]

I am so excited for you.  Congrats to you and your DH.  I agree with Kassimom though you cheated and didn't wait until mother's day.LOL  You jut couldn't resist! Well good for you I wouldn't have been able to resist either. Just think of it as a mother's day gift from Jacob.

[Kassimom]

Thanks for asking about me. Yes the Synthroid has really helped. Especially yesterday I finally got up and got dresses and went out into the sunshine! I was in a great mood for the first time since I can't remember when!

I was mildly concerned about my nausea disapearing but then it came back yesterday (but I was happy to oblige ;) And today it feels like my tummy poock is smaller, but again, I have heard that is common too.... I CAN'T WAIT FOR MY DOPPLER TO GET HERE!!

How are you?

[blondie72]

Ok did anyone watch ER last night???  I have never watched that show before and the one episode I do watch I cried so hard I thought I was going to be sick and woke up with a headache.  For those of you who have not seen it---It was mostly about Noah Wiley's character's wife/gf went in for an u/s at almost 8 mo pg and there was no heartbeat so they had to induce her and she had to have that baby.  The cord was in a knot.  They showed Noah Wiley cutting a lock of hair and at the end they both finally held their baby.  My DH walked in and thought something had happened.  You'd have thought I'd lost my own baby the way I cried.  It really made me think though about the baby I lost and I am fearful again of the baby I am carrying which brings me to my ???? for Christie.  

How common is it for a baby to twist enough to get the cord in a knot.  I am so terrified of something like that happening now.  I know it is just a TV show but that stuff DOES happen.  I am so excited that I am finally feeling movement but now I want him to slow down so he doesn't twist himself up.  Thank you everyone.  I hope I did not bring anyone down this morning but it was just disturbing to me.  Take Care

[Kassimom]

What a depressing show to have on rigth after the Friends Finale! Don't you know, you were supposed to watch Friends, feel all good inside and turn off the television? ;)

I know you are worried but don't. If we all spent all our time worrying, we woudln't enjoy those special moments like when the baby flutters, or when you can feel a hand or foot move all the way across your belly. THAT"S what you want to remember about your pregnancy! :) Feel better! Stop Worrying! And For goodness sake, stop watching ER!! LOL

[Emma1]

I knew something like that was going to happen on ER so I didn't watch it. Glad I didn't......I think that it is very rare that it can happen. It's just one of those fluke things.....I can't tell you not to worry, that would be like the pot calling the kettle black, but try not to stress over it too much. It is VERY RARE!!!!

[BostTTC]

Great that you are feeling better!  I forgot that you were getting your doppler in today... LET US KNOW WHAT YOU HEAR!

I am doing great.  Trying to enjoy every minute of my hubby.  Him and Logan (DS) are going shopping tonight for my mother's day gift.  
Yesterday he came home with a surprise for me.  He bought me a puppy, our first family pet.  He said he thought that watching the puppy grow would make the time go by faster during his deployment.  The puppy was born on our anniversary, so he is 8 weeks old.  He is a little Min Pin (miniature doberman).  He weighs 3.2 pounds.  We named him Sebastian.
Well let us know what you hear on your doppler.  Maybe we can play the guessing game and guess what the peanut is by it's heartbeat!!!

[Older Mom]

Didn't sleep well last night.  Cramping continues.  I wouldn't exactly call it spotting anymore... more like constant bleeding.  No clots or anything like that, but the pain is similar to contractions.  

My DH stayed home with me today... and we are on our way to the doctor in about 10 minutes.  She wants to see me asap.  

I am so devastated!  On Sunday I will/would have been 7 weeks! Even though I only had my preg confirmed 100% on Monday I guess I knew I was from the beginning.  

My eyes are sooo swollen from crying... and just when I think I can't cry anymore, more tears start flowing.

Please continue to pray!  Thanks ladies - you've been so encouraging and such a comfort!  Will keep you posted.

H.

[Still a mom]

I will be praying for you all day!! Let us know as soon as you find anything out. We are all thinking of you!!
Mandi

[nurse12hr]

Older Mom--I am so sorry--just at a loss for words.  I wish there were something I could say or do to make you feel better, but there is not.  We are all sending hugs and prayers your way.


Blondie--About 30% of all deliveries have a cord involved in some way, either being around the neck, in a knot, or around the shoulders.
While that number sounds frighteningly high, it IS very rare for there to be a problem from it.  In fact, with most stillborns I have seen, there is NO reason found at delivery.

Plenty of healthy babies are born with the cord around the neck or in a knot.  

There will always be stories/shows around to make you worry.  Turn them off!

[Learner1]

Claire~ I was wondering when Id hear from ya!  Ive been thinkin about you.. I saw you went to the doc and got the blood test.. Let me know the results plz!  I talked to my fiance and I was going to make the doc appt today but we decided we would wait the weekend out & if AF didnt show Id go next week!!!  I had very light pink spot on my toilet paper yesterday.. Im not sure what that was about!?  Do you have any other symptoms yet?  Keep me posted!
Older Mom~ You are in my thoughts.. I hope everything is ok!  What a terrible thing to go through.. Im glad ur DH stayed home w/you for support.. He must be a great man!  Let us know..

Everyone else have a great weekend TGIF  and Happy Mothers Day to all!!!

[Older Mom]

Home from the doc.  It appears inevitable that I will most likely m/c - if not today then sometime over the weekend.  Apparently at my age the chance for m/c is higher.  

I have no energy left... I feel so drained emotionally.  My husband and I just sat here and cried together, and held each other. He's been a great support and comfort.

I don't know what else to say.... I'm so sorry for being the wet blanket today.  

What I would really like to say is a very Happy Mother's Day to all of you! You have been a tremendous support and encouragement to me.  I wish all of you much rest over the weekend and lots of pampering!

Blessings to you!
H.

[Learner1]

I am sooo sry to hear that.. What a hard time you have to go through.. You and your DH are in my thoughts.. "Time does not heal, but healing takes time."  Please stay around and post.. let us know how you are.. God Bless
Jess

[Christina S.]

Although I understand the board get's full and it is hard to answer alot of question's...I see that there are a few of you who ALWAYS get every question answered...EVEN if they cannot answer it by making a joke...or being just nice and saying...sorry I do not know the answer. I have been posting on here for 8 months....left for awhile and just came back....I get NO responses and NO welcome's....When I ask how everyone is doing and be friendly..I get looked over...I used to be like ....kassimom...you...a few other "popular" names on here with reponses and having fun and now I get NADA.
I see a "clique" of a few people here and it sure can make other's feel unwelcome....something to think about.

[Still a mom]

I am so sorry. I know you were very excited and scared. This really is horrible. I am really sorry that you had a m/c. You and dh will be in my prayers.
Mandi

[JustME9]

Hun, I totally understand! I just quit posting much anymore.  I tried to leave but came back and was excited to see someone had delivered who was very supportive to me months back.  But i DO understand totally what you're saying..i won't say anything else as I don't want to start a big heated conversation =)~ (((hugs))) to you though and know you're not alone! Kellie =)

[Emma1]

Ya know, I may get kicked off this forum after this post, but enough is enough. There have been several on here complaining and griping about not getting this and not getting that. It has been said before.....If someone's post goes unasnwered, maybe that is b/c no one has any experience in it, or maybe can't be answered or helped by anyone. I have never felt like it was personal, b/c I've been there myself. I have just asked general questions and not gotten any responses, but it didn't bother me. I have found all whom I've come into contact with on this board to be very helpful whether they just symapthized with my situation, helped me out or didn't say anything at all. We ALL try to help everyone that we can. I come here every day, throughout the entire day and I have not seen one person out of line, not trying to help, etc.....

If you don't feel like you are getting what you need from this board, there are others. If you are leaving and want to tell people, KINDLY do so. But to pinpoint people, I feel is wrong. There has been too much **** on this board lately and the most important issues at hand can not be handled if threads are taking up space with unnecessary whining and complaining. I apologize if I have offended or hurt anyone's feelings, but let's be honest here. It's time to grow up!!! We ALL are here for anyone and everyone at any time and do the best that we can.

I love each and every one that has helped me and will continue to help me. Sorry ladies........but someone needed to say it!!!

[Christina S.]

Thanks...I still talk to Momttc and dawnna on here off the board for pregnancy question's and support within eachother. But sometimes I come here for support and questions and do not get very far with it like I used to.
I had to go to the army spouse board to ask a friggin pregnancy question because I did not get anything here, BOY did I get alot of wishes and responses and the spouse board is way bigger than this thing.
How are you? You trying to concieve too?

[Learner1]

I feel the same way as you do!  I always tell everyone good day but for some reason the only person who notices I exist is Claire!  I dont get it.. no one ever comments to me but I always comment to everyone!!
So dont feel bad you're not alone
Jess

[Christina S.]

and sweetie...your post did NOTHING for me.
I said SOME people still get responses EVEN when the answer is UNKNOWN....I do NOT expect a response for EVERY question or hello....but if you would so kindly go back and see how many people answered any of my questions...OR my hello's you will see what I mean.
Also...re-read my post and see that I said I know that NOT ALL ?'s will be answered.

[dawnna]

Older Mom,I just wanted to say im so sorry for what you are going through.I know how hard it is to lose a baby.I will keep you and your family in my preyers.Again i am so sorry.


Christina~ Hey Girl, I know what you mean.I have posted before and not got any response at all.I just usually let it go because i cant seem to break away from here.Please dont leave again.I rely enjoy having you here.I will talk to you any time:)

Dawnna

[Christina S.]

Oh...AND I WILL pinpoint people....BECAUSE there are a few people who are the obvious "POPULAR" one's on here and get more support than other's.

(((Learner1 aka jess)))

[Emma1]

If you know and understand all that, then there should be no reason for a negative post.

[Still a mom]

Personally, I usually only answer the questions that are labeled question or that have a forum of there own, just because when I am looking at the open forums I mainly skim, because I am not able to be on all day and what to see what is going on and get off. I know that some do not get answers and I am sorry. I personally have usually gotten answers and have only been on for about 2 months. I did go through something very terrible, losing my son Jacob at 15 weeks, and have really gotten support from this group.
Mandi

[Christina S.]

Hey girl...I am not going anywhere...I just felt like it is obvious who get's more support than other's and there are NAMES.
Also it is not all about question's being answered it is about support...feeling welcome...even ONE response will help..and I thank christie for finally even noticing me...see what it took to get that response though.


ALSO......an eye opener...I am not the only one who feel's this way...and if you notice the ones getting upset by my post are the ones who have no problems...getting a hello.

anywho..how you doing dawnna?

[Learner1]

Just wanted to let you know that I will help answer anything for anyone if I know...and even if I dont know I will still be here to say hello!!  I enjoy reading the board and seeing all the support, but I would like to see everyone get support so I am always here!  Im not starting anything on here.. If I dont get answered its fine, I just enjoy reading and putting my 2 cents in every once awhile!  
Jess

[cheesetoo]

Older mom,  I am thinking of you today and I would also like to say you can't have the title of wet blanket on this forum, that's mine.

Not that my two cents matters, but as I see this forum, some of us have a bond with others because they became pg together, or had a loss at the same time or were cycle buddies. I think that's all.  I am postive that no one here intentionally tries to alienate anyone.  (((((Hugs to all that feel they need it today))))))) I care about you all even when I don't post your name.  I read ever word everyone here writes and it has been so helpful to me.  Thanks to everyone.  

anyone 2ww?  I am.

[Christina S.]

I am sorry for your loss. I know it is hard to even lose a pregnancy because I have lost a couple. I have never lost one though at a late stage in pregnancy. (((hugs))

also....you never told me what day in your cycle you were in when you got the bfp....I think you said 13dpo...but not the day of the cycle.

[Christina S.]

I have been here for nearly 8 months but left for like a month and always head responses...hello's...but now I have been skipped over and it is obvious.

But I am on the 1ww....lol

[dawnna]

I know what you mean girl.I have saw you post lots of times and not get any response.I always try to say hi when i see you post.
I dont usually get very many either.I know sometimes you dont relly feel welcome.I wonder why KCK stoped coming here? I would relly love to know how she is doing.As for me i am fine.I am on CD 8 so not to long until the big O...lol.Its been 5 months sence my m/c and it is only 7 weeks until my baby was due and i am relly hoping to be preggers by then.I am charting my temps this month so i hope that will help.How are you? Having and prego symptoms yet? I relly hope you get a BFP!!!!!
Dawnna

[Christina S.]

I hope you have better luck this month! I am on cd23...I have tender breasts and moodiness but I think it is clomid related. This is my very first month on this **** and I have been acting different! It has been almost 8 months since my d&C and no luck! I really think this doc messed something up when he did it! I normally am preggo by month/cycle 2 and I am going on 7 or 8 now!! wtf! :*(

I was wondering about kck too...I hope she is doing good!!!

KCK WHERE ARE YOUUUUU?!!!!!

[Older Mom]

Ladies, please....
this is a support forum. You've been there for me the last little while and I know you will ALL be there for me in the days ahead.  
I will very publicly say thank you to all of you... everyone... for all your prayers and kind words.  I feel honoured that you have been praying for me and my dh, and our wee one.

My doctor just called - I had more blood drawn today and my hcg level is still up there. I realize at this point there is not much chance of keeping my baby, and I may have already m/c today. Blood flow is pretty heavy now.  DH is getting worried.  I think we may have to end this and head to ER soon if the bleeding doesn't slow down.

I've come to terms with the inevitable.  

Please - don't use this as a forum to complain about each other - the thing that makes this forum special is the support!  and from what I've experienced - it's GENUINE!

Love you all...  will post later on the weekend... need to try and test some more.

[dawnna]

Hey,Thats so sweet of you.I dont think any of us is trying to start anything.We all just wnat to see everyone get the support they need.I will answer all the questions i can and when i cant i will try to just say hi:)
Dawnna

[StephW]

OKAY ENOUGH LADIES.......I'm Shifting the subject elsewhere... ;o)

Thanks Aurelia for giving me all that info. I appreciate it.  And I've never taken clomid before this will be my first round of it.  Today is CD2.  I know I haven't ovulated past 3 cycles cuz I don't get AF and have to take provera last 2 cycles to induce AF. PLUS, I had day21 progestrone test done last cycle and it was at 0.6...no ovulation ;o(

I've also had MANY blood tests done (thyroid, sugar, etc) and hormones chked and they are all normal and fine. I have NO idea what's going on w/ my body, just hope clomid does the trick.  I'll start out w/ 50mg and see if I can up it to 100mg next round if I don't think I ovulated.  Cuz doc isn't monitoring me, no u/s, no day21 tests, nothing. I'll just monitor myself w/ BBT temp and see what happens.  

What days did you take clomid? Doc said 5-9, but I'm hearing taking it earlier increases your chances (1-5, or 3-7...) so I'm thinking about taking it 4-8 to be in the middle. ??? what do you think??

[cheesetoo]

Yea!!!!cycle buddies  Best wishes can't wait to hear your good news next week.

[nurse12hr]

I DID answer your post down below--it was on one of the yesterdays forums,,right after you complained about being the invisible woman.  

There are SO many posts now--so many people--so many open forums that it is hard to sit and read them all every few minutes.

You addressed the following post to ME, and me ALONE:

  "Although I understand the board get's full and it is hard to answer alot of question's...I see that there are a few of you who ALWAYS get every question answered...EVEN if they cannot answer it by making a joke...or being just nice and saying...sorry I do not know the answer. I have been posting on here for 8 months....left for awhile and just came back....I get NO responses and NO welcome's....When I ask how everyone is doing and be friendly..I get looked over...I used to be like ....kassimom...you...a few other "popular" names on here with reponses and having fun and now I get NADA.
I see a "clique" of a few people here and it sure can make other's feel unwelcome....something to think about."

I am sorry I PERSONALLY have made you feel unwelcome and left out.    

Just so you know--I am working the next 4 nights in a row, 12 hour shifts, 7p to 7a--so I will perhaps be unable to see every question immediately.  Maybe I shouldn't sleep....

[cheesetoo]

I am very worried about you taking clomid and not being monitiored.  I took three rounds of clomid, and the third caused a hugh cyst that eventually needed to be removed through surgery. Also I always took it 5-9 and you call the doctor and ask?  Keep us posted.

[Christina S.]

what day in your cycle are you on? Are you irregular too?
I am on clomid...UNMONITORED!!!!! I have had this strange right side pain too! I did not feel like I ovulated this month..I got a positive LH Surge on day 14 and 15...but negative on day 16.....so WHO KNOWS!!
I had to convince my primary doc to run a pregesterone test on me on day 22 (yesterday) and my OB/GYN is the one who prescribed clomid. The army hospital is wack though!
I have never had problems like this before :*(

[Emma1]

Hey Steph, I don't know much about Clomid, but if what cheesetoo said is true, then please be careful. You and I both have been through the cyst thing, and I'm still getting them even though I'm preggo. Just concerned and don't want to see you have to go through that mess again!

[Christina S.]

Please...do yourself a favor and read all the posts regarding this subject BELOW the only one you replied to....
I know what got you to respond...if you will read more you will see what I added...Thanks :)

[nurse12hr]

I responded this morning right after I saw the invisible woman comment, and just now responded (had to sleep in prep. for working tonight) after seeing the post addressed to me.

Please just say frankly what you mean.  If you think I am ignoring you for some reason, I am sorry.  I tend to respond first to something I know something about, or to things like someone being afraid they are losing their baby, or to someone asking about a stillbirth, etc.  

I don't have to respond to anyone's posts.  I'm not paid to do this.  I work 12 hour night shifts. I have MY OWN PROBLMS.  Yesterday your plea was to a couple of specific people about progesterone levels and pregnancy testing.  I answered because I saw you felt left out, from the "invisible woman" comment.

Again, what more can I do but apologize that you feel I personally am making certain people feel left out?  Once again, I am sorry I have hurt you.

[StephW]

Thanks girls.

I was worried too that my doc wasn't going to monitor, he gave me the prescription, and just said "see you in October".  He gave me a 6 month prescription.  I've heard that clomid CAN cause cysts And I've had 2 in the past 6 months, so I'm "prone" to getting them, I think. Well, I think I will call and schedule an u/s for maybe end of next cycle to see if there's anything there.  Thanks for thinking of me though. And wish me all the luck in the WORLD. I need this to stick either this cycle or next...otherwise, I'm out the running for another 12-14 months!!!!! ;o(

Have a good day everyone!

[Kristen26]

Hi! I've been skimming through the forum the last 4 days. I'm so busy with work and home buying stuff! AF is still here, kind of a long heavy cycle. I'm going to try to get in sooner to an OBGYN, right now my appt is June 2nd. I'm ready to be pregnant!! I just have to get in sooner than that. I saw ER last night too, made me cry also. It was sooooo sad! Wish I had more time to keep up with everyone. Have a Happy Mother's Day everyone!! And for those of you, like me, without a baby to hold or in your tummy this Mother's Day, know that I'm thinking of you and remembering your loss. Talk to you later!