I've been on yahoo... and there was a woman who posted something about her grandchildren. Ages nine, eight, and three. She made her children go to bed at 7:30 school day or not. Now that she's watching her grandchildren while the parents go out for a night on the town... she's wanting to make them ALL go to bed no later than 8:00. It's a friday. But, what I'm having a hard time understanding is why would you make a nine year old go to bed the same time as a three year old? Or even the eight year old. What's wrong with them staying up to ATLEAST 10:00? Yeah, they need sleep just as much as everyone else..but, there's no school the next day. I can understand waking up early on a Sunday because there's church and other things to do then...She told her daughter "my house my rules" and that's fine. But, shouldn't the daughter get some say so since they are HER children? Idk.
Does anyone feel a 9 year old should be forced to go to bed that early? If its not a school night?
She also claimed that the 9 year old is more favoured at home because he doesn't have to go to bed at the same times as they younger ones on weekends. But, he's older? It makes sense to me.
This is just what I seen on yahoo, so feel free to comment. I have yet to figure out this woman! :0)
Ok..I do think they should have consistent schedules. So if they were at my house and Mom said bedtime is 9:30...it would be here too. (if it was midnight...not at my house LOL...would need to be w/in reason) I think since there is a 6 year age difference between the two NO it isn't favoring anyone. That's life...I was the youngest...I went to bed earlier, I didn't get to ride up front unless nobody else was with us, I didn't get to go to the movies w/o parents etc.
My guess on the people I have known that make their kids go to bed that early is they just want them to get out of their hair. UNLESS they get up at like 4:30am or something. I think I read somewhere that kids around the age of 9 need 9-10 hrs of sleep per night. (don't quote me on that one lol) I'd think the 3 year old needs that much also.
Oh yeah....last thought...during the summer (if they don't have to get up earlier and go to daycare or babysitter) loosen up a bit and let them stay up say 1-2 hours later than the school year as long as they sleep in the next day. Then about 3 weeks before school starts gradually adjust them back to their bedtime.
well the woman insists of treating them like their HER children like the mother has no say so. But, if she wanted to give lip about them and their bed time, then why did she agree to babysit I wonder. During the week, yes they should be in bed at the same time everynight, but 7:30 is still a little early I think... weekends you have only TWO days you can stay up a little later. So I wouldn't see why it would hurt anyone. They should follow her rules, but she should also stick with the mothers rule about the sleeping arrangements.
And a few people on yahoo agreed with you about getting them out of her hair. That's what it's sort of pointing to. Sheesh.. Idk! hehehehe.
If you want to soar with eagles you can't stay up with the owls LOL :)
I just think people get too hung up on other people issues. I'm a strong believer in taking care of your own buisness.
God entrusted my children to me and I will raise them in the way God sets the rules not me...but like I said that's just one persons opionion carry on :)
I never understood families who make their kids to go bed at such an early time. Actually, yes I do. They want to be rid of their kids.
My best friend grew up having to go to bed at dark, summer or winter. Which, in Indiana, means 5 p.m. in January. Her mother was extremely depressed all her childhood and just wanted for God's sake to put the kids somewhere.
7:30 at night for school children is just a lazy, lazy parent.
RockRose...I agree with you. I don't know how they get homework done have dinner and spend any time with their parents. Again...younger kiddos...like infants & toddlers.. that's different.
Have a good night! :)
Okay, my 3 year old and my toddler go to bed at 7:30 together. But if my child was 8 or 9 they'd get to stay up later! Some nights I let my 3 year old stay up later than her baby sister so we can cuddle and talk (usually on the nights Daddy is late at work).
Plus, the grandmother needs to abide by the MOTHER'S wishes. How unfair for those kids! I bet they hate going to their grandma's house and just lay there wishing they were at home. I know *I* would if I was those kids! Does she want the children to despise her?
Sounds to me like she just doesn't want to take care of them.
It seems to me a grandmother would want to spoil them a bit and let them stay up past bedtime. Isn't it a gradmas job to spoil them and send them home?? lol I would. But seriously, if my daughter had a child I would do whatever my daughter asked me to do to keep the child on a schedule. Now I know my next door neighbor has an 8 year old and she has to go to bed at 8pm during the week. I thought that was way too early until I got to know them better and realized that she can't function the next day at school without 9-10 hours of sleep and they get up at 5:30 each morning. They definitly aren't trying to "get rid of her at night" because she and her mom (my friend) spend time together before school doing yoga and exercising together before school and have breakfast together. I think some children just need more sleep than others. I never had to deal with this problem with my daughter as she would come to me and say, "Mommy I'm tired, I want to go to bed". And it may have been 8:00 or 9:00 but she always got sleepy and didn't fight it and she always woke up and got ready on time the next morning. As far as a different bedtime on the weekends, I think it depends on the child and whether or not they can do that and get back on track after the weekend.
see most of you get my point! It just makes me wonder! lol
If I were a grandmother, I would spoil the c r a p outta them! Although, I would go with what the mother says about the bed time. Their mother knows best. So, grandmother should just go with it...Let's see.. some kids don't get home until, 3:30-4:00 from school.. that leaves homework, maybe even little chores, dinner, bath time, getting ready for bed, There's no time for playing when their that young. Just as I see it..
And, no it's not being hung up on someones issues. The woman asked for help with her daughter giving lip about the children. That basically brings you into her life.
I see no bonding time with the way the grandmother has it. :( My grandmother used to let me stay up until 11:00. Ahhh, the good days when I thought I was being bad! haha.
I do see the going to bed earlier on school nights although all my kids are still young I do have my 7 year old go to bed by oh 8:30-9 on a school night...but she stayed up last night until 9:30 (although I sure could have handled going to bed earlier lol).
I understand you completely peek. That's why I posted this because I dont know who wouldn't want to spend time with their kids/grandkids. It's just like... okay you have children... You realize you might become a grandparent one day... so when it comes they seem to be pushed away. Just my thought on that.. So...idk.
But I know how it felt. I won't get into any details because some may be too graphic and/or hard to get out. So we'll just wait on that. But, things get better :)
All 3 of My children require the same amount of sleep. I have a 22month old, a 8 year old and an almost 10 year old. I put them to bed at the same time MOST nights. Bedtime is 8:30pm. If I don't, I pay for it...especially from the oldest. He gets SUPER grumpy without 10+ hours of sleep a night. My middle child is the one who needs the least sleep.
Some kids just need the sleep, and YES some parents/grandparents just need the "QUIET TIME"! There are days when "I" need the "QUIET" time, but not always! And usually if my kids go to grandparents house...(MY PARENTS)... go to bed at 8pm...so they stay up a little longer with the grandkids over, but usually they have had an action packed day, and my kids are EXHAUSTED ! Believe me, even if they go to bed at 7:30pm, they still want to go back to their grandparents house...they have FUN there, and they love them!
I live for nap times and early to bed.... LOL she is just 21 months so I can get away with it. When she is older of course bed time will be later. But right now bed time is 7:30 and that is when Mommy breaks out the rum and coke. Oh Capt Morgan I love you....
I hear you...but I prefer my JACK...he's the man!!! I L O V E NAPTIME!!!! I wish someone would put me to bed early and handle all the rest of the dreaded housework. (making lunches, finishing the dishes, laundry etc....it never ends around here!!!) (well, maybe, it's because I never start!! LOL )
Not all grandmas want to spoil their grand-kids. Some of them want to use that Grandma time to "fix" everything they "think" the parents are doing wrong to "save" them from a horrible future due to disorganized parenting ;-). My mother lives out of state and based on the things I hear over the phone from her about the local grandkids and witness when she brings my nephews to visit us, she will NEVER have my kids alone. She undermines and criticises the parents to the grandkids. She obsesses on teaching them to be neat to the point that my kids do not like to be around her. She can't just be fun.
I went to visit her with my 3 kids and I had to be very strong and keep telling her to cut it out and have fun.
If the Grandma is a perfectionist, she may be using the bedtime to teach the kids routine, not just wanting to get rid of them. (I am not supporting her, just giving a different motivation)
My mother can't/won't change and knows that is why she only sees the kids with me or DH around. She also has been told and believes me, that if she ever undermines us again to them she will never see them or hear from them until they are out of our house. (She pulled that stunt once!)
It can be convenient to have the grandparents watch the kids, but for some the cost is too great!
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