bump....someone is bumping the other 2 threads up ???
I was in a bad abusive marriage and working too much. I ended up having life threatening surgery and made it through. I lapsed into depression and went to therapy. The therapist said I could continue to take meds in order to deal with my bad situation or else I could take action and improve my life. That did it for me. I took the steps and got out and got happy.
I thought I might have cancer last Fall. It made me realize how vulnerable we all are and that any given moment, our life could completely change. At times it makes me cut out the BS that I can avoid and at other times it make me live for the moment.
I call it an epiphany,I've had a few over the years,but waking up to what I needed to do to change my life was the most important.
Denise
Whe I became ill with the whatever it is that has plagued me for almost a year and a half...
I look at life completely different now....I live my life to the fullest and I try to not sweat the small stuff anymore.....
My Breast Cancer scare in 2005 caused me to re-examine everything... my lifestyle... my relationships... my priorities... my goals and direction in life... my belief system, especially my belief in God. In an unexpected and peculiar sort of way, that Cancer scare was probably one of the best things that has ever happened to me.
You all make me feel humble so many trials real trials , mine pale into indsignificance ...These are times when life changes arent they , we see the writing on the wall, they say we have more than one defining moment, I had several small ones this week but nothing like you guys describe ...
haha i can spell but my thoughts run ahead of me ...
I look at life in a whole new way after almost dying during surgery 2 years ago. I almost bled out on the table. I no longer freak out a whole lot about all the small stuff and have come to really enjoy life. Ya, I still get stressed with the college life, but I'm enjoying it as much as I can. :)
They say we have defining moments when we see our lives for what they are, and we change our way of thinking, its true no point in sweatin the small stuff is there ...I had a few this week but all in all they were small, sometimes they are the ones that cause a headache...hey it was also a full moon,maybe that made it worse ....Compared to what sweetpea went through the week was a doddle ,,,hope you are okay now ...
Margy,
None of our moments is big or small .. they are equal to all of us as we look at each other .. so please, please don't feel your's is smaller or different than anybody elses's .. I can only speak for myself, but that's how I honetly feel ... what a great thread.
Me, oh .. my moment was my thyroid scare and then 6 mos later a very early melanoma .. those were enough to chang me forever .. and *winks* for the better. Life it toally different than it used to be for me .. I'm enjoyihng the 2nd half of my life much different than the first.
C~
Mine also was the thyroid...I had cancer and though it is to be very treatable I was petrified...this is it...my life is on the down hill slide....then there was the "GET OVER IT" moment....I allowed myself two kleenexes to bawl into and then I had to get moving again...Now if I feel sorry for myself...I allow myself a two kleenex cry and then I get on with my life....no more wallowing. I just hate to wallow..
Yup I know what you mean i get mad with me .. then I get up say hey it could be worse , but sometimes they say we have these life altering decisions to make , several have run by me in my life and I have taken the wrong road ......
why are we all so dumb to need a wake up call to get our priorities right?? when we know that time is limited i fear everything at the moment instead of enjoying it.My life has changed in a big way recently and not for the better my mother was going to have a hip replacement and i was worrying about that.Instead of that she has been diagnosed with cancer and its already in the last stages,she now is living with me and does not know that she wont be here for much longer,so yeah your life can change in the blink of an eye and i have had a few of these and still i didnt wake up till now .I am angry at myself for wasting time that we cant get back,so i am going to sit up and notice this time..........................
Thankyou Margy for posting this i couldnt sleep as my dog had a seizure and woke me and so did you by your thread...........
awwww I am so sorry is your doggy okay now ? your poor Mom but I am sure she is glad to be with you and not stuck in some home with strangers .its hard though I have no doubt , perhaps getting through this it will strengthen you, I have found that I get tougher and better ...
Wrong roads? I have made decisions in which I felt as though I could have made better choices, but sometimes I wonder if we don't all end up exactly where we are supposed to be and sometimes that really bites the big one. But I try to picture my life if I have gone the other way and it just doesn't seem like it would fit....maybe we just take extended detours...I don't think I have ever know an actual person that lived a charmed life...even those that seem to have it better than me, they have also had to go thru rough times. Have you ever known anyone that when things are going really well, you just know...it won't last....something has to happen to bring you off your cloud.
So enjoy it when you're on your cloud, because eventually it's going to break up and drop your arse back to earth.
My dear sweety-pie Margypops.
It sounds like you need a hug.
I am really sorry about your mom.
She is in my prayers.
Hmmmm.
Defining moments.
Walk through a cemetary and look at the gravestones.
The bird of Time has but a little way to fly...
And Lo!
The bird is on the wing.
The moving finger writes,
And having writ moves on,
And all your piety nor wit,
Shall change a single word,
Nor take back a line.
Never wait to tell someone you love them.
To live for today and to love for tomorrow is the wisdom of a fool.
Because tomorrow is promised to no-one.
Was'nt my mom caregiver I think you mean Kitty and I was saying sorry to her,but your words are kind anyway ...
Thanks, I'm doing great now. I'm just making it through college, earning my BS. I think I've really learned to love life and appreciate everything. My friends all refer to me as "miss happy go lucky". haha. Just have to live like you are dying...
Im still waiting for that moment!! I really need it real quick though... Sturggling with this anxiety is making me feel hopeless... :-( ... Life has been a bit harsh towards me the past year and a half.. I want it all to stop.. Heres hoping it will do and soon!!!