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I think the tracker just boosted my motivation. So far I have not noticed any physical changes but I feel a whole lot happier and I feel more confident about facing problems and people that I usually find excuses and back away from.
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recovery methods are different for everyone. if you have gf/bf, certainly use them as part of the recovery process. for singles i guess you can still mb, but with out porn. I think the first thing is stop associating porn with masturbating, if you can seperate these you can recover
Go through withdraws can make you feel like crap, because thats what it does. as we said before porn, overstimulates you, to desensitivity
Odey12 : it seems to be on the rise, especially with inventions of smart devices. theres a couple of wives that come on this site complaining about thier husbands or bfs erections. Most likely he will still continute to watch and jerk off to porn, what he needs to do abstain for porn for a week or more, and have sex with you, so that the recovery process can be natural orgasms, by a female. its going to be difficult since porn is only 1 click away. you should also try to find out why he is becoming depedant on porn.
jajaJM, the recovery actually depends on how much you masturbate, and watch porn.

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I decide to stop not only PMO but fapping overall. I am going completely off the activity. For me, fapping will only tempt me to start watching again, I dont want to run that risk. Plus, I feel a less tired now, and I feel good just being free from it all.

I got exposed to porn from I was a child and basically grew up hiding and watching, I have been watching porn and masturbating from I was around 12 til I am 31, that's 19 years of my life programming my brain to one habit, the longest. I rarely made it over a month without doing any of that activity.

After watching the videos on 'Your Brain on Porn', listening to Gabe Deem and others from Youtube has greatly motivated me to just be free from fapping overall. Reboot Nation is a good motivator too. With all the knowledge I have gained over the past two weeks, I am committed to over coming this habit. Yes, I know the potential of relapse is there, but, I am conscious of the fact that it's been 19 years so it might not be a one shot thing. But hey, I am not going to give up. I feel I have a purpose to stop, recover and share my story as well. So, I am not just doing this for me, I am doing this for everyone else who is battling, and also to educate those who dont know.

Wish me luck... or pray for me :)
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I went to see a doctor who is also a sexologist and a hypnotist. He told me I seemed to have no physical problems, and thinks that my problem is psychological.

He said he believes all I need to do is stop watching porn and masturbating, and just to chill out, cos he said I was too stressed out, too tense. He recommended physiotherapy, sophrology and yoga.
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Yea, I agree with the doc to just chill, and go with your plan to cut off the porn and masturbation. If you're into the other therapies he suggests, well I guess it wont hurt.

I put three youtube links below, I hope it isn't rejected by the system.

This dude is talking about no fap and the tremendous effects he is having at day 34, 63 and 90.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAPFKqeCd4w
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Zzk4l4j4qo
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d5Nbs8sd6Rs

Stay motivated! peace!
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Hi JagaJM and thanks for your encouragement !

I had a quick look at those youtube videos, and the guy was talking about how not fapping has given him more concentration power, more confidence etc... maybe there is  a bit where he talks about stronger erections but I couldn't be bothered to watch the entire videos lol

I am not really interested in all the benefits not fapping can bring to you. All I want is my rock-hard erections that I used to have when I was a teen to come back. So I'm not interested in listening to all those guys on Youtube talk about personal development, self-confidence, having more energy and motivation and ****. :)
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ok cool, fair enough SammyWinchester.

I will summarize it for you.
No fapping + no porn for several months will eventually reboot your brain and give you back that solidness that you want. That's it. But you can't watch porn again.

I dont think there is a quick fix. You just have to stop fap and porn and just live life without those two activities and later down you will see great results.

I have kicked the habit and decided to just do other things, going back to school now, sleep, watch cleaner movies lol. listen music whatever. As long as it does not involve fapping or porn, or anything addictive. I am good.

I hear and read from everyone who was addicted to PMO and stopped, once they cut off the habit completely, no more testing out how far along you are, no more porn, no more taking a one stroke off, after couple of weeks. Those are the guys I read about that have the best results the fastest (or those who are in a relationship, with an understanding partner. It helps to rewire the brain faster when doing normal sex without porn).

I am here to share my progress also, in case you want to hear how I am coming along. Physically I am starting to notice a little stronger erections. I can only assume in another 3 - 5 months it will become a lot more solid. So I am motivated. I think I will get it back as it once was when I was a teen too.

I installed this App on my phone called days, similar to the ticker below that shows how many days along we are without slipping. I use that too to help build up my consistency.

If anything else, you can hit me up.

Stay strong man, the best is yet to come. peace.
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Cool man, thanks for all the advice. I think a lot of us who are (or were) addicted to porn find it hard to believe that porn alone is causing us to have less libido and weaker erections...

I mean, when I was younger, I used to watch porn and fap all the time, and my erections were always hard... but I guess with age and experience you have to be a bit more careful, and you need more stimulation to be sexually excited... I am 29 years old btw.

Where are you from Jaga ?
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I am 31 from Jamaica.
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i DID not need to look at any youtube vidoes, or go to some forum, and listen to how people drone on and on about how they stopped masturbation/watched porn. i think its better to stop watching porn first, because you will need to train your brain to stop associated porn with mb. i still do fap, every 4-5 days, and the orgasms are very good, but not the ed issue, i still do get random morning wood, and sometimes in the daytime as well. i do get an urge to watch porn, but i never do anymore. i think the best thing would be keeping you busy, not with sex though. even if you have a gf or someone, you can fall back to old habits because your thinking about sex. The best way to stop is to stop associating porn with fapping, and seperate these too, because its mainly the porn that is triggered.

personally i think all the sites, and youtube video, is about gaining attention to themselves, to validate their own struggles.
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i can assure you your erections will get stronger, i still masturbate, but i completely eliminated porn for more than a month already. i still have ed, but it wasnt as severe as several months ago when i also "floppy" penis when taking a **** and when having an erection. the recovery does depend on how long you did it. i already notice some changes, still have ED though. still cant get hard by the though visual stimulation(only if includes tight clothing, or prolonged visual stimulation"
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This is my first day on the road to recovery.
Thanking you all in advance.
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This is my first day on the road to recovery.
Thanking you all in advance.
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All the best.

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I have been noticing that I am getting stronger erections while having a conversation with a sexy female.  I can see the effects of PMO are slowly wearing off.  I am giving it time.  I have set a 90 and a 180 day time span to see any significant changes.  I am noticing some positive effects already and I am at day 30.  

I really have made up my mind to fight any type of urge or interest to watch or look at anything that may cause me to slip.  So far I have changed my web setting to safe mode and not getting distracted by any of my former triggers, be it pictures on Facebook or any erotic literature. I am really on a path to just reboot my brain/ and mind.  Total mental cleansing.  I think it will speed up the process.

Peace.
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Thank you man
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Cool man, make sure you come back here and give us updates on the progress you're making !
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i dont know about sexy stories, but that requires you to use your brain more, in porn, there is actually decrease blood flow to the brain, means you dont use your brain as much, imagination is good for the brain, may not be in this case though.
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i dont think doing anything to your internet will work, since you have control over it you will always be able to unlock it.
Also setting a date like 90-days, 200 days, is setting up for failure, as it convinces yourself in your mind that you can only achieve that far. its better to think you can surpass, by not trying to fap/porn everyday. the only way i see you can solve the internet issue is to cancel your ISP subscribtion to the internet company if you want extreme measures.
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Ok, thank you for that advice.  I understand and see your point about setting the days.  But my objective is just one of seeing how long it too for certain changes to happen. So i can take note of it.  when those days have come, I will continue still.  Its not a goal to get there and that's it, but its a lifestyle change, those are just mile stones along the way. That's how I view it.

Also I changed on the internet is to prevent unnecessary things popping up in my searches on Google several days back. Yet, the progress I have made so far, whether safe search is on or off doesn't matter to me. (I agree it wouldn't work if I was struggling at that level).  Whenever I am doing anything and I see images that would normally cause me to start wandering off towards porn, I just close it and dismiss it before the feelings get strong enough to overwhelm me.  Every once in a while I may take a peak at a sexy pic (not x-rated) but not long enough to cause me to want to see porn.  Disconnecting ISP is a little extreme for me, that would mean I should not use internet anywhere, but I have lost the interest to view porn and I have no thoughts to masturbate.

Point to note, I have been a little friendly with a girl that's close to me, and I have been getting stronger erections than before when she is standing beside me or hugging me. The erections come faster, and they are lasting a little longer before going back down. This is actually good.  That's more progress. I wasn't even thinking about sex.  My body is just reacting naturally.  Even with all that sexual tension building up, I have no desire to fap.  I really feel confident about the progress so far.  I'd rather have sex than fap.  Still not having  any strong morning wood though.

I do realize I am not all that shy anymore speaking to females I meet on the road for the first time, conversations are flowing without me feeling anxious or fearful of saying something wrong lol.  I dont have that lingering guilty feeling anymore. Overall I just feel... happier.

Peace.
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Is my post clear and understandable?

I notice I have been writing longer responses in text messages now? trying to compose well thought out ideas as i communicate.

hmmm...
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i wrote a large response but there was an error and it dint post, ill just rephrase.
you seem to be recovering, you should have sex with the girl if she is that kind of girl.

My progress: i have been getting stronger erections, more easily erect, get wood when lying on my side only, in bed. its still unlike those when i was in my teens and early adulthood.
Still the ED issues to overcome, cant get erect when i want. i am still a virgin, thats why its going to take longer than people who have partners, or have sex regularly.
i stop mb every 2 days and every 4 days, i am first time in a week.
Now that i think about it, i mightve had ed longer because i wasnt aware of it.
Do you sleep on your back or side?
on my side i can feel the blood pressure and flow rushing to the lower half of body where i am lying on, combined with the clothes it causes a autoerection long lasting. happens when i go to sleep and wake up sometimes.
Have you tried sleeping on your sides, erections depend on your blood pressure in that area.
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I gave in on Saturday :-(

Was watching videos of strangers having cyber sex on Chatroulette and Omegle... it was something I'd never really seen before... I got really excited and went too far, unfortunately :(
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Well, she kinda wants me to do it, but I have other things I am concerned about because we work together.  I know if it happens, it wont be a frequent thing, and i may want more and end up slipping back. I would rather to have my own girlfriend where I wont be severely limited.  Felt the urge tonight to watch porn, my mind ran on one of the stars i usually gazed on, but I am ignoring it, I think its because of my frequent arousal from my friend and I want to release.  Not falling for it though.  

As it relates to sleeping, I tend to fall asleep on my belly faster. But i often wake up on my side.  I have a slight erection in the morning, when I wake up on my side.  Its not like teen or early adult either as you mentioned.  I will start paying closer attention to my state when I wake, whether side or back or back.
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Hey, I hope you are not being too hard on yourself.  You are still making good progress.  You went 30+ days without it.  that's great!! from everyday or every other day to 30 days, that's a good stretch of time in between.  Brush off your battle wounds soldier you still have more grounds to cover.  Do not give up,  even if your feelings cause you to binge, just continue.  The road to full recovery is a long one.  

So now you now Chatroulette and Omegle are sites that can trigger you.  So you can add that to your list of things that you throw behind you.  Key thing to do is just to move on.  Dont be overwhelmed by the feelings, that's dopamine trying to get you hooked again.

looking forward to seeing you continue on the progress your making.

Peace.
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Thanks Jaga, I've read all your posts and you seem like a really cool, intelligent guy.

I'm trying to focus on the positive. I mean, I masturbated to orgasm only twice in like three months, surely that's not so bad !

No chance of me going on a binge. I am disciplined enough not to do that. It would help if I had a girlfriend or at least a regular sex friend though... then I would be satisfied sexually, I wouldn't feel so horny and wouldn't feel the need to look at porn...

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you should reread some of my previous post, about separating porn/ from mb sessions. when you get the urge, just masturbate, but not watch porn, this will help train ur brain to not be stimulate dor desired for porn. this is how i am doing it right now, I often think about a porn as afterthought, but never get around watching it, not even sexy pics i dont mb on these anymore.  what i am doing is increasing the amount of days between mb sessions only, ive completely eliminated pure porno. if a real girl turns you on and you have desire to watch porn, mb instead. Ive been snooping online, even non-porn addicts will mb when they met a hot girl in public,they mb while showering or in secret. i know some people like doing cold turkey, but it seems to fail alot. recovering from porn is easy, but from ED it will take some time.
@jager i find that incrementally increasing the day between mb session helps. its best to find a gf or "one night stand" to assist you, since you are capable of getting a stronger erection now
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the addiction is the same as drug addiction,  you have less receptor in your brain from the porn, thus need more or intense porn in order to satisfy it. watching porn causes a very negative feedback on your brain. Its difficult because its a real biochemical addiction in yuor brain, similar to what crack,heroine or other drug addicts go through, but not as extreme. you see that people who take drugs need higher and higher doses, or more frequent sessions in order to get high. This is the brain/body building tolerance to the drugs. Just like with porn, you watch it a few years straight, your mind is already desentized.
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Thank you.  You seem like a pretty cool dude yourself, hope you get a girl soon that will move in that positive direction with you.

"twice in like three months", wow. That is definitely not bad at all.

I can say you are recovering from porn already.  The masturbation is a next level step, if you have that much control over it, you will be ok.  They key thing as PMDER1 pointed out was to separate porn from masturbation. Once that is done. Just stay in control... and when your girl comes along.. rock her world! (hahaha)

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Yea, I am thinking about "testing" my tool with this girl.  She is really enticing me and actually says she would do it.  So its up to me to make the move now.  I actually told her about the addiction and recovery and she understands fully. I think that may have made her sympathize with me and wanted to help me even more.  I just realize she has been doing things to turn me on more frequently from I told her about it.  Now she at the point where she wants to feel it for herself... guess I'm lucky.  I hope I don't get in trouble though. I shall get me some condoms and a safe place, just in case.

As it relates to my mind... I know I have a long way to go to be fully cleared.  I have been watching porn from a child, and got worst when I had high speed internet about 12 years ago.  So I know my sensitivity may be far off.  But, the improvements that I am seeing already has motivated me to continue, I just have to be patient.

Thank you PMDER1 and SammyWinchester and everyone on the forum. Each testimonial motivated me to overcome this.    
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Good conversation guys. I want to make it mandatory to visit this forum at least once a week, no matter my schedule, because the posts are definitely helpful in the recovery process and reminds you of the problem.

I'm in my second week now, I don't feel anything down there, no morning wood, no random erection, nothing and I feel the size is getting smaller.

Also, I believe I'm suffering from prostatitis and I have not been able to go for proper treatment due to financial and location reasons. This has hampered my recovery due to the stress I sometimes feel in my private area after long abstinence from ejaculating.

I actually don't know how to manage my recovery in relation to the prostatitis.

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@arumkin, you need to get your prostate checked by a physician, in the US its called a pcp, in the uk is called a gp. How old are you? you should be able to get medicaid if under 65, over 65 you can get medicare, you have to apply process takes months. Please get your medical issues fixed first, before trying to recover from a "psychologically induced issue".

to jager and SAMMY, Eventually you want to stop masturbating, too frequently without porn too. because you will get used to it. If there is a girl or a girl you saw that gave you a hard on. All you have to do is reduce the frequency of mb or porn/mb to at least once a week first. or some people stop completely. your penis/brain is so used to porn and you constantly beating off, and tired from all those orgasm/ejaculations it will not get stimulated unless the arousal is highly intense, such as from pornos.
You will have to eventually stop mbing without porn.

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I'm actually trying, and succeeding to some degree, to quit porn and masturbation altogether (so I'm trying to stop masturbating without porn as well as with porn).

Sometimes when I'm bored I will make myself hard, to kind of test myself I guess, but I try to never masturbate to orgasm... As I said in an earlier post, I only did that twice in like 3 months.

It's so hard to completely give up porn though...
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@PMDER1 thank you for the kind advice. I will surely visit the urologist before the end of the month.

@SammyWinchester, I believe by thinking of how watching porn may affect your  sexual health  and the pride of hitting a high number of clean days in this forum will help you overcome the urge to watch it. So far it is working for me. Whenever I login  and see  how long I have been clean from this habit I feel good about myself. We just have to keep fighting. It's an addiction, the urge is always strong.

Peace!
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If I had the actual proof that my erection problems came from watching too much porn, then I would stop instantly... but I guess the urge is too strong, and I'm just not convinced enough... I feel like there is something else that is causing it... maybe stress, maybe some sort of disease... I dunno...
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All the stories in this topic so far is similar, with similar experience and result.

I read your previous post and I understand you have been able to go through all 16 pages of the topic reading all stories. This is a forum where people share there experience and result. So far, people previously suffering from the problem have report significant improvement from abstinence.

I know that they are other causes of ED, but I believe PMO is one of them. I became so insensitive to real woman because of my long exposure to this addiction and I sometimes don't get an erection even when watching porn and touching myself expect I'm watching a new fantasy. Obviously, too much of anything is bad and the sad thing about addiction is that you never get enough, you keep going and do it excessively.

I must confuse, the urge is so strong, but that is why we have to keep fighting. For me, If I can use this medium to get rid of my addiction, that will be great news for me.

Addiction is like a spirit, it's controlling. I will advice,  even if you relapse several times, but have the mind to keep going until the spirit become tired of you.

Please let's keep this topic alive
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Just lettting everyone know I been consistent with no PMO.  I almost watched something one night when I clicked on a link but I closed the tab and went to sleep.  Apart from seeing images here and there (not intentionally) I can safely say I have managed to avoid porn.

Not much improvement on the physical side.
Emotional and social there has been a confidence surge.
I haven't had sex, but really thinking to continue finding other meaningful things to do with my time and stay busy and sleep.

have a good one y'all.
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Good to know you're still on track. I slipped 2 days back. I was going through a lot of emotions and my health too. I feel like sperm was building up and I was feeling occasional pains around my abdomen and testes, I slipped and have been terrible since then. I hope to get on track soon.

Please keep us posted with your progress, it's helpful.

Thank you and I wish you well.
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I'm trying to get on this wagon, it's really tough.
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Yes, it quite tough. That is why it is called an addiction, but we must continue to fight.

Don't give up!
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One of the reasons why I am so focused is because I want to come back here and motivate others, with my progress.  Another reason is, I want to give my body the chance to recover and see what it has to offer.  I was under the former addiction for close to two decades, come on, that's too long of a time to dedicate to a bad habit.  

Apart from seeing bikini clad women on the internet, or sometimes occasional sightings of nudity I have not went off the edge by getting caught up to the point that will eventually lead to me to masturbate. I do not watch porn anymore.

In terms of progress... I must admit that I am having slight testicular discomfort every now and again (from unreleased semen I guess), but it's bearable.  I find myself getting slightly aroused by kissing scenes in movies (something I was dormant to).  Early morning erections are not rock solid but I am having semi-hard when I wake up some mornings.
Standing close to a female I am attracted to will cause me to start getting hard (not rock solid). I think if I was to actually have sex it would be much harder.  I do not masturbate as I feel that will ignite the old desire for porn so I avoid that activity and just let the feelings pass when they come on me.

I have found myself taking more interest in my image, changing my dressing style and actually thinking about being in a committed relationship rather than one night stands.  My confidence level has grown.  I have always been ambitious but with my renewed focus I am making steps to elevate my quality of life.  I find that I am dealing with issues that I used to shy away from, and I am expressing myself in a more mature and respectable way now.

That's a summary of everything that has been happening so far.  I think I am going to start dating soon, I want to develop my feelings and grow emotionally. Hope I find that special girl.

All the best.
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Great to hear from all of you. Here's a quick update on my side of things :

The last time I had sex was 7 weeks ago. I have not once masturbated to orgasm in that period, although I have watched a little porn and touched myself (to "test" the quality of my erections I guess).

So it's hard to tell if I've made any progress. I find it difficult to get an erection with no visual stimulation and by just touching/rubbing my penis though. Maybe I am going through that "flatline" period that people who recover from PMO talk about...

I am going back home next Sunday, and there is this woman I will probably hook up with and have sex with early next week (unless she flakes on me, we all know how women can suddenly change their minds haha ;-) )

So if I do have sex with this woman, I will let you guys know how it went.

Have a good time over New Year everyone !
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I'm 35 and have ED issues, I broke up my two last relationships because of ED, I tried viagra and my erections were rock solid, but I didn't realize that my porn addiction and fap habits were causing me these ED problems, I'm happy now because I now there is an exit for these addiction and for my ED problems, my last GF is a woman I love so much, yesterday I started to quit porn and fapping, how? I was motivated by all your comments and deleted 12TB of HD porn videos, yes, 12 Terabytes!!, I have now my first 24 hours without watching porn or fapping, I love my ex so I will fight with myself demons to recover her, when I be on 90 120 or 180 day watermark without porn or fapping I will let you know my progress, God bless you all.
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Welcome Vladimir,

It's going to be hard to quit. I have struggled a lot to stay away from porn. Try to go without porn and without fapping for as long as you can, and tell yourself that if you give in once, it's not the end of the world. No-one is saying you should never watch porn or masturbate ever again. Trying to reduce your consumption to a minimum is already a good achievement. So don't put too much pressure on yourself and don't feel too guilty if you have one or two moments of weakness.

For example, I have watched porn a few times in the past 3-4 months, and I have masturbated to orgasm twice. I have gone several weeks in between and after those two instances without PMO. For the past 42 days I have not once masturbated to orgasm, although I have occasionally watched porn.

I look forward to following your progress, so make sure you come back here and tell us how you are doing, whether you have successfully reached these landmarks or not.

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Happy New Year Everyone!

I support what Sammy said.  Understand it is a process, a journey, its not an overnight success.  Brace yourself for emotional highs and lows, I had a bit of a bad attitude towards people around me when I started, but I explained to a few of them my mission and they supported me when I explained how I was affected.  It will take time for your brain to heal and your body to go back to the natural state.

12 TB sounds like years of gathering though, I respect that you came to the point to make that bold step.  Keep making more steps eventually you will begin to wonder why you were living like that.  I am almost at that point mentally.

I find that it helps to have something else to focus on, in my free time with nothing to occupy my time, I tend to look at scantily clad women, and stop when I feel the urge coming on, I think that's playing with fire and something I need to work on in the month.

So far I have not PMO.  There are moments I want to give in, but I talk myself out of it. Let's keep up the fight for better quality life.

Peace
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Its about time i post here again, i waited to see more being posted, because i end up being repetitive. So far its been 2+month since i watched porn, but i have not stopped masturbating, i have increased the length of time to 4 or more days. I still have the ed issues, and is flatlined like people suggested.
I also mentioned i was itchy in my groin area(i thought it was due to fapping and irritating that area to much), its partially responsible, but now my itchness and hives have spread, and starting to suspect something else is going on, i could not find the trigger to what is causing my itchy rashy episodes, im getting them on the rest of my body now. I think this could be related in some way, because the constant itching and scratching in groin area, may have desensitized the area, in addition to the porn/md issue. i have no idea if there is a more serious underlying condition. i have gone to a health center(medical welfare), however they did not help because they did not see the extent of rash/itch episodes.
at the time i wasnt on porn in those month is because, i had schooling which distracted me for the most part, but i only find out i am struggling in school right now, because i changed majors.
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since i tried asking already on dermatology forum of this site, does anyone have any clues if certain allergies or diseases can causes rashes to appear but doesnt go away for months? i know this is a sexual health, but i think my skin issues are related with my ed issue as well, as porn and mb.
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Hi,

I am not doctor, but I would tend to say that if you are convinced that your rash is linked to your ED issues, then your issues are probably due to stress. Are you a nervous/stressed person ? I had a colleague who had a sudden rash, and had no idea where it came from. She went to see a doctor, and the doctor told her it was due to too much stress in her life.

I think my problems might be exactly that too. I have done almost all tests possible and imaginable, and nothing was ever found. I saw a general practitioner who is an expert in sexual problems, and he told me he is almost 100% that my ED issues come from too frequent PMO and also from other psychological problems such as stress. He sad taking up yoga, meditation or getting physiotherapy/sophrology sessions could help greatly. I haven't done any of that yet, but if I feel like I am making no progress, I will eventually try.  

Even if you don't feel stress, maybe there is an underlying/unconscious problem with you, so try to take steps to calm your nerves, soothe your mind and body... maybe that's the answer ?
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Ok so I am soon to be 41 years old, and since last 2 years I notice that my issue is escalating out of control with PMO.

I have PMO for the last 15 years, when because of stress and work related issues I became distant from my wife, who still with me today, but if I don't do something about this soon I am 100% sure I will loose her.

I have always enjoy a very high appetite for orgasm through intercourse but in the last 10 years I can achieve Os during intercourse and have be masturbating too complete the acts with my wife.  her sexual appetite has never been very high and I dont even remeber the last time she started things up sexually between us,  I just know that we had no sex for the last 2 weeks due to the busy holiday season and now I realize that I have no control over wanting to PMO basically every 6 hours.

My current situation is:

I PMO daily for the last 5 years only with some days off here and there.
I noticed some ED in the last 16 months.
I just feel like doing PMO as I wake up daily
Even after having sex with my partner I keep on wanting to PMO the same day (my wife is not ugly not over wight she just has a low labido)
I work from home and work with software so is tough to stay away from sites that would trigger my urges.
I still have wood now and then when I wake but noticed that is pretty hard to keep an erection during the act. At the most 5 mins, when I used too keep one up for 20 mins a couple years back.
I  began doing live webcams site a couple years ago and I used to used it 2, 3 times a month but in the last 12 months got that increased to once every week and in the last 60 days I began craving it 3 to 4 times a week and that is why a month ago I had to stop it but now to compensate PMO with other sites is just getting out of hand having this intense cravings twice daily at least.
I probably have other symptoms that I am not even aware but I think it would be good to use this forum to share this nasty habit that is now yielding me to have ED and not really got intimacy with my wife, who knows about it but doesn't know how bad it's got in the last 6 months.
Is probably not making her feel good that she has to jack me off for me to finish and this is having a told in our intimacy.
It's getting to the point that every time I am confronted with a tough situation or face some hard choice to make I rather put that off for later and instead I just want to PMO instead.

I just need to stop and I hope that today is day one of many to come specially after finding this forum.


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yes that can be it, thats probably partially responsible, because i may have allergies as well. looking at the internet for diagnosis of anything, other than from a medical doctor, always makes you think have the most serious diseases that causes the symptoms.
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I've been watching porn, and masturbating for up to 5 hours a day, non stop every day!  I SUFFER from ED!  It's all from the porn and masturbation!  I've read all of your comments, and I'm ready to start the road to recovery, and get my erections back!  I'm glad I found this!  Thanks!
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I must admit that my focus and my belief in the Holy Bible and it's teachings has helped me to overcome a lot. i would go deeper in that but maybe another time. But here is a good link to check out for motivation as well.
see 7 negative effects of porn below.

http://www.godoverporn.org/blog/7-negative-effects-of-porn



PMDER1:  I honestly want to encourage you to give the fapping a break and look into SammyWinchester advice.
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i forget to mention that i dont fap as excessive as other people. i only fapped once every 2 days with porn, now i fap without porn, 4-5 days, i did not fap today. once i started fapping infrequently, penis is not shrinking" as it should be. now its partially filled with blood without an erection. orgasms are more intense. but still no easy erection like i was when i was a teen. 8+ years, although i must give credit i can get an erection while lying on my side or sitting in a position where there i pressure in the area, got a slight erection, but not super hard or rock hard. I notice i only get those when i am hyperstimulated,,eg such as from porn. before i admitted to having ed issue, and it was a problem. i realized years ago that my erection sucked if i did it so often, so decreased frequency of erections. If mbed in a shower, the orgasms and intensities of sensations are increased because of the water. after completely stopping porn, penis does not get erection just by site or at random. Although i am getting aroused sometimes, and sometimes erection, though not as hard. i am suprised i am getting it sometimes. Most of the time i dont think about masturbation, due to recent issues, with school and other life issues.

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for my skin issues, the itchyness did begin around my groin area, but it has now progessed farther than that now. its a shame i do not have kaiser anymore, because i turned 26 a year ago, and i would immediately email a dermatologist, and i would get some sort of answers. not that i have welfare(medi-CAL), the doctors seems to be too busy or not caring enough about your issues, and then go diagnosed an incorrect condition(with sebboric dermatitis), which cant be right because i have rashes elsewhere besides my face and scalps. and its notoriously difficult to get hold of welfare doctors. or they get dismissive of your issues.
i would say there is improvement in my erections, but not so much.
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6 days without PMO - Report

6 days without Mb.
6 days without Porn.
Having real sex once a week. (That was yesterday)

Had sex 1 time 1 day ago but I was so rushed and aroused by my partner that I only lasted like 5 minutes, then she wanted to do it again withing the hour and no matter what she try on my I just couldn't get an erection, and guys she tried, I felt aweful, but she gave me emotional support that help me get through the realization that my ED is linked to PMO in my case, I want make sure I tell you that I didn't take viagra or anything for this one act so asking to have 2 erections in one hour is currently a think of the past and I have to learn to accept that.

As far as no PMO or fapping, wow I have not gone more than 4 days in years, and right now I feel awful, distructed, wanting to look for you know what on the web, and really having a hard time trying to stay away from that and that is why I came to this forum today.

How many of you in this forum are in recovery while still having sex about once a week without fapping or PMO?
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I've mb since I was 12. I'm 39 now. I've really never had a problem with ED until recently. I've now been married for 10 yrs now and the action in the bedroom is in the dumps. When I first met my wife, we used to have sex like crazy. But after a couple of years married and a failed attempt at conceiving, we don't have sex. In the last three years, we've had sex maybe five times. And during those times I could not finish. I had to fake it. She has let herself go. And even though I love her, I don't find her attractive. In the last three years, I've dove deep into porn. I wake up and mb, if I have a chance I'll mb after breakfast before I go to work, and if I can get chance to get some alone time, before we go to sleep.  On weekends, if my wife is away, I'll have a mb fest. Any spare time I have I'm looking at porn. Almost to the point where I watch for at least a quick scene every hr or so. I've even mb in the same bed while my wife is asleep. Recently I had a fling with a coworker and I felt like I couldn't get a full erection. Maybe 70%. We had sex for maybe five min before I came. It was a one time thing. I blamed the 70% on nervousness. Two weeks later (still looking at porn and mb) my wife and I attempted to have sex and I only got hard for maybe two minutes before I went limp. We tried the next day and I was able to get maybe 60% hard, just enough to get her off and I had to fake an orgasm because I knew I couldn't and I felt I was starting to go limp.
After looking on the web, I found this forum and I know now that my ED is from mb. I mean, I used to mb at LEAST three times a day every day for the last three years or so. Some days I've mb six times and once I counted ten times. I've tried in the past to quit, but only lasted two days. Im on my fifth day today. I've occasionally looked at porn and rubbed it a little but not finished. I've "tested" to see where I'm at and I ca get hard, but it doesn't last unless I keep jerking off. I want to get back to a normal sex life. I would really like to have sex again with that coworker all night long, but I'm afraid I' can't because of all the mb I've been doing.
I thought about going to the dr and getting drugs, but I don't want to rely on any pills to be able to have great sex. So I started working out, dieting, and have not mb to finish for the last five days. I really haven't felt a difference yet. I'm going to give it another week to see if I could hold out, even though it's f*****g hard (no pun intended). This morning I was going to get up and do some yoga before I went to work, so I pulled out the iPad to search for a yoga class on YouTube and ended up watching porn to the point that I was late to work. I was hard the whole time and jerked it here and there, but never finished. This is the hardest thing I've ever done. I love sex and I need to be able to get back into the grove without porn.  Porn has really ruined me and I need to quit. Good luck to everyone else trying to quit. The stories here have really motivated me.
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First week without PMO is now behind me, it was hard.
Current report:
No PMO or fapping in the last 8 days
Sex only one time and it was very short, I only lasted 5 mins, or it felt very short, I did ejaculate.
Almost masturbated yesterday after taking a shower, but I stopped myself from doing it, it was by far the hardest thing so far, I was about to, but I told myself that it would just slow down my reboot.
Not watching Porn is making me realize how much time I was wasting I front of my pc just looking for my next fixed, so because I stopped I had lots of extra time and felt very productive this week and checked all to do items by the time by today and that is helping me feel better and distracting me from wanting to PMO.   I will report in 2 days guys, have a great weekend and prompt recovery!
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Made it six days and relapsed last night. Back to the drawing board. This is one hard habit to break. It's all I can think about.  It's not so bad during the week because I stay busy with work and gym. But when I'm home on the weekends, temptation is everywhere and I have too much down time.
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So an ex send me some enticing pics last night.  I couldn't hold myself from looking at them and the next thing I know I am waking up in the middle of the night and I could not fall sleep, I try to divert my attention to other topics in my mind but i could not shake of the intense urge to want to PMO, I mean, it took everything I got on my as far as self control to not MB, I felt like I was not in control of my thoughts.

In the middle of this 3 hour frenzy of just trying to stop me from relapsing I somehow began rationizing that instead of looking at porn I can just look up exclusive escort adds, I could not stop myself, it was like if I was someone else I got on my tablet and began searching for local adds, I did that for what I thought it was 5 mins but in reality it was 30 mins, when I realized what I was doing and I felt so bad.  My wife is on a business trip and she is not home and I besically was somehow plotting to cheat on her because I was just trying to get my fix, I began to cry (something I don't do very often, and forget about even wanting to cheat on my wife) but that is what this horrible dependency on Porn is doing to my brain and my life.

I was just close to PMO I could almost see the images in my head even after I turned off my device very short from doing it, so I jumped into the shower to try to curve the urge I felt like I had a fever, I felt I was burning up I even got my thermometer to check my temp but I was only at 98 so my real temp was normal I turn the water all the way to cold and that really helped. I got back to my bed and I was finally able to fall sleep I was just so tired that all I remember was hitting my pillow and I felt sleep.

I walked up 4 hours later kind of happy at first that I didn't relapsed but then I realized how hard will it be to kick this PMO out of my system completely. I really wanted to have something in writingto remind me in the future  about everything that happened last night so that it hopefully help me to rialized in the future how bad it was to fight the bigest urge I felt so far.

I called my wife I had her read what I just shared with you, she was mad at first but then realized that I will need all the help in the world to kick this out we talked for about 1 hour and toward the end of the conversation we agreed that I would call her the next time this happens, and that if in fact this happens again that I would seek professional help.  

I hope my story helps anyone else out there.
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The object is really two fold and don't lose sight of it. The first is to stop masturbating to porn ( the use of the word fap or fapping is stupid). It's counter productive to those who are trying to deal with this, please stop using while on this forum. The second is to stop masturbating to porn or anything long enough to reintroduce your brain to regular stimulation of touch, smell, and sight. One thing you guys need to understand is when you make a decision to quit, and go days, a week, month, etc into your "rebooting phase"; you are building equity into getting back your regular man erections.

       So, don't feel bad that you relapsed. But, you can not relapse to porn or anything porn related. If there is going to be a relapse, it has to be a natural in your bed or shower relapse. Porn is what kills, destroys, and beats. You need 60-90 days, and after that there will be progress if not a full reintroduction to your manhood. For those that started watching porn at a young age, before you started having sex, your reboot or ability to get full erections will take up to 3-5 months. For those guys who had regular normal sex, then became addicted to porn, then your recover will be in the 2-3 month area.
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I just relapsed again. Went only one day. I meant to get up this morning and do yoga but as soon as I turned the iPad on, I went straight to porn. I wasted 40 min and ended up finishing. This habit has totally consumed me,  but I am determined to break it. It's been two weeks and I have cut back from master bating to about 80% less, so even though I've relapsed, I am making progress. One day at a time.
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Another day went by another small victory toward this horrible habit.

Thanks to Classym4cpl for your post, I am finding my way through this process, getting to know what works and what doesn't is by far the thoughest part of it all.  
I am getting to realize things are not as easy but that the longer you go through the reboot process the better I feel about it.  What I began doing 2 days ago is to start working out before or after work and that is really helping me redirect most of my urges.  I am finding more time for my loved ones and getting to realized that I am such much better person without porn.  I have been lucky so far in life and I can't keep on taking it for granted.

I finally got to sleep through the night without feeling any urges to PMO, which feels great, but I am also getting to the conclusion from reading the posts in this forum that relapsing by itself is not as bad or as important as the actions you take after.

Writing about is for sure helping me, and I am very thankful for all of those in this forum that are serious about fighting this desease, thanks for sharing your experience, thanks for sharing your comments, thanks for sharing your journey through this process, you are all an inspiruation in my life, and knowing that I am not alone in this world to fight against PMO has made a gigantic difference.
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Classym4cpl, why is yours the only post that I have the option to report as spam or abusive ??

What you said about the time it takes to recover is interesting, and I hope and WANT it to be true... I started masturbating to porn when I was like 12, and I had sex for the first time when I was 28 ! so I guess I am going to need at least 5 or 6 months to recover, according to what you stated... but where did you get this info ? or how did you come up with it ? what are your sources ?

Also, why don't you want people to refer to masturbating as fapping ? who cares what you call it, since at the end of the day it refers to the same thing ?
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Greetings everyone, I know I dont post a lot, so I am just going to pour out everything I wanted to say in this one post until I come on again.

there is a website called YOUR BRAIN ON PORN
here is the link to the main site http://yourbrainonporn.com/
these two links below will help to give more information on how to handle the process.
http://yourbrainonporn.com/node/79
http://yourbrainonporn.com/tools-for-change

With that said I want to give a quick shout out to Sammy, nice to see you staying the course bro and staying above the influence again for another long stretch.  

AnonymousSA  , Goldenboss - i am happy you have found the this forum and made the decision to start the process in regaining your full health and recovery from this personal addiction and self abuse.
Did you all know masturbation was called self abuse? think about that, that was the original meaning before they changed it to whatever it is in the dictionary today.

One of the reason that got me serious and gave me the initial motivation I needed was KNOWLEDGE.  I went on the site I posted above Your Brain on Porn and I read almost everything about what was happening to my brain and my body.  That knowledge changed my perspective completely.  I knew I had to make up my mind to recover or keep damaging myself. Knowledge is power!  when you are armed with the knowledge on how to over come this habit, the struggles and the hardship becomes a battle you know you must win.  Others have passed through the same time and feelings we went through and are still going on. Heck, there was a time I didnt know I could ever make it this far, but I did it. One day at a time.  

The posts on here really helps to motivate, so I come back and read up every once in a while to keep the fire going.  

I lost count of how many days I have gone, I will see it on the sticker when I post this comment.

My recovery so far has been good, school and work is more manageable and easier to deal with, I am less irritated, not as tired as I was months ago, I am developing a better focus.  My HARD morning erections are still not back as yet but I am giving myself a few more months, because I started looking at porn from a child so I understand my recovery may take longer. Some mornings I get a slight erection but it doesnt last long.  My erections overall dont last very long.  I got an erection just from thinking about laying beside a girl fully clothed recently, thats a big plus for me. I think my brain is changing now. Conversations with females are easier for me, I am more confident in my speech. I used to be shy around pretty ladies, now I like to look into their eyes speak to them and make them smile because I am not feeling sad inside or fooling myself with self pleasure.  hmmm... what else...  I woke up one night, half asleep, out of a dream and was trying to force myself to ejaculate by rubbing up on the the bed. I fell back into sleep before it happened, but when I fully woke up in the morning, I was wondering what the hell I was dreaming about, and why my brain tried to get my body to do that while I was half asleep.  I am still having problem eliminating nude/bikini images completely, tend to give in to those and view  for a short while but close them down before I even get an erection. i know this hampers my recovery and I must not fool myself into thinking that because its not PMO it wont affect me. Every piece of nudity on a screen does! If it aint real, I should avoid it, thats one of my motivation.
Another thing, I am noticing things around me I never used to pay attention to before. For example, the movement of the breeze over a grassy field, the look of the skin on a girl's neck, her hair texture, you know... simple things I never thought of as important.

I just want to give a WARNING! do not masturbate and delay ejaculation. that is very bad for your recovery.  you are sending a whole lot of dopamine into your brain and making the levels even higher by extending the "pleasure zone" as i liked to call it.

Well just making a post, I will check in again when and see what's happening on the forum.  Hey everyone, stay strong, stay focus! Remember you have control over your body. Know what you want to achieve and view everything that is preventing you or trying to hold you back as the enemy you need to overcome... and sometimes we can be our biggest enemies.

Peace and love. JagaJM
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i dont know why he dislike the word fapping, since it beats typing masturbating eveyrtime, i dont think he know what it means. fapping is the sound you make when you beating it. sadly im still a virgin, but i doubt i will get the erections like that when i was a teen.
Recently i have suffered some medical setbacks, unrelated to porn, but can make ED harder to recover. i have contact dermatitis thats been going on since i came on this forum, and i also developed loss of smell and taste, thats slowly coming back, still trying to find out the trigger. furthermore i took some OTC for the allergies, which did little, and i notice that some of the side effects can cause ED.
I just want to point out that illnesses can lead to ed, as well as medication using to treat all sorts of issues. In this case Diphenhydramine, also known as benadryl wreaks havoc on your body, if you dont build a tolerance, affects erection, by screwing up your brain.
same goes for anxiety and depression. Even though i stopped watching porn, i have a strong urge to think about, and watch, sometimes its fanatasizing, but i never go to the sites.
I have a question for everyone, when you stopped mbing, and failed later, did your erections or orgasm become stronger?  Exercising promotes blood flow especially to the groin area, it can help with recovery, but may also cause erections, in which case it does almost all the time. my penis used to be floppy and weak, with erections, now that is gone, and my erections are stronger. I also know my urge to thinking about sex is also stronger(since i dont fap that often anymore). I think your in recovery if you feel your penis is in weak, while being erect, stronger orgasms, stronger response to stimulation.
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Hey, I think the erections will be stronger and orgasm more intense, based on what I remember when I was at that stage.  That's because recovery was happening.  When you start wanking/fapping/mb-ing again... your brain will get a high, as well as it may cause an increase blood flow to the penis.  "Your Brain on Porn" will explain more about that if you read through some of the articles.

PMDER1, I think a good long rest will do you more good (rest without testing how much you recovery).  I hope the medication clears up the skin condition, and then you continue to recover from ED.

Just want to let everyone know that I got a slight erection just by holding hands with a girl today.  Over a 100 days ago, this would not have happened. Now I am getting reactions to simple touches. I think I am coming along fine, it's a long road, but these little things encourage me to continue.  I don't think about or fantasize about porn, the only way I end up seeing those pics, is if i go on a site that has some side links that usually tempt me to take a peek. But apart from that, I have no urge for porn or to mb. I cant believe I really went 90 days without an orgasm.  I think I can go another 90 days. (unless I get a girl friend and something happens hahaha)
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you dont necessarily need to have sex to recover, remember that recovery can be do **, hj, or other. that is not your hand or porn. Yes, hopefully, i completely stopped the DPH, because it had way too many side effects, since its anti-cholingernic, it screws up with your brain(literally), it affects blood pressure, if you have a condition. just a warning any kind of medication that affects bp, or heart rate, should be considered.
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Guys, this whole losing your erections and ability and to have a normal sexuality because of masturbating to porn is a new epidemic. Every day more and more men are starting to realize that masturbating to porn is causing Erectile dysfunction, ruining lives, relationships, etc. Online porn really has only come into the forefront the past 10 years. The advent of Porntubes the last five years has taken online porn to a new frontier. Every type of porn you want is a click away. Going from one type to next, seeking that higher porn high.

          The reason I discourage the word "fapping" is cause most people do not know what it is. When men of all ages (15-60) come on here seeking advice and help as to why they are no longer able to get or maintain erections because an addiction to masturbation while watching porn, they should be able to receive a clear picture of what is happening to them. Continual masturbation to porn is ruining one of, if not the greatest gift a man has, enjoying sexuality. The word "fapping" is counter productive, not clinical and just childish. We are here to help each other out. I suffered from the worst case of masturbation to porn addiction anybody will ever have. The worst.

        It took losing my wife, yes I lost my wife because of my masturbating to porn addiction, before I was to beat this horrid addiction. I should have received professional help, but I didn't. Thought I could beat it on my own. Before my addiction to online porn, I masturbated a lot, before I was married and after. I would rent movies at a video store, masturbate to them, and still have great sex with girlfriends and eventually my wife.I never had a problem getting and maintaining super hard erections and staying hard for extended sex sessions in all my years of masturbating to anything and videos I would rent.  But in 2004 I installed broadband internet in my home. Two months later I was no longer able to get or maintain an erection. It took two months for masturbating to porn online to take away my erections.  

          Yes, you have to stop masturbating to porn and anything else to recover your erections within 60-90 days; but a lot of people fall off the wagon, and that's ok. BUT, do not fall off the wagon masturbating to porn. If you masturbate, do it naturally, in bed, in the shower. Do not get discouraged cause you fell off the wagon. YOU are building equity into your recovery, sure, it might take longer past the 60-90 window, but what you are putting in as far as not masturbating to porn counts! Now, if you do fall off the wagon masturbating to porn more then twice, I will honestly say please seek professional help. There are 1-800 numbers online you can call and speak to somebody. You can also consult with a local therapist.
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The reason why i use fapping, so i dont need to use effor to say "masturbation", you do realizing, that there are other slangs, like jerking off, beating off, slapping the dragon, those are well known terms of masturbation.
iT IS AN epidemic, as people on this site, in the sexual health section, have alot of peopl with ED due to PORN, and yahooanswer seems to have a growing number of questions about ED. The word fap, has been around for many years, its not a new word. Some people relapse, is becauses its basically an addiction, like a drug, you will get strong urges, and there is probably psychological addiction, actual chemical changes, such as fall in dopamine levels when you are :in withdrawal" Its easier to stop mbing, and stop watching porn. As you know, even one thought or one click is enough to go for a 30-1hr porn/mb session. it wouldve been ok if people did it once a week or once a month, but not multiple times a day, 7days a week.
Furthermore, porn addiction, is actual biochemical addiction, in your brain. Excluding if you have no medical conditions, or not taking meds that affect ED, it should be a faster recovery, than people with ED issues due to meds and conditions. You know you have ED and porn addiction, when you watch for an hour or more, and fapping it multiple times a day. I dont think a psycologist, therapist, psychotherapist is neccesary, unless you suffering from chronic or major depression, anxiety, or  Other mental issues, that might need treatment. Since you indicated in your post that you loss your wife, which would make you go into a "depression" episode.

Best thing to do is avoid porn altoghether, and avoid as much as possible, if you have the urge to mb, just do it, no porn should be used though. As i have said, depending on how severe your addiction is, feeling in your genital area, and sensitivity should return, so does the intensity of the orgasms. The only difficult thing to overcome is having a random erection throughout the day
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So hello guys, I am really proud to say that I havent M or watched P for the last 30 days - the benefits are obvious - a harder and more frequent morning wood (happy). You know - I had no idea what was going on when I wasnt hard at all several times with my GF - she was definitely frustrated, and so was I. when I got home my first job (of course) was searching the net for people who had similar situations and I bumped on this forum - I read as much comments as I could, though this is the first time I am posting something.. I wanted to say thanks for your comments - they really helped me out !

I had some trouble with my gf for the last weeks, so we didnt try having sex, but I think tonight is the night, I am positive that I will be as hard as a rock, and she will be as pleased as me :))

so thanks again, and stay strong (hard) !
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Hi and welcome to the discussion. I hope you'll let us know how it went. But don't get too downhearted if it's not great - it sometimes takes several months of total abstinence from porn before full recovery.

I too have been noticing more frequent morning wood and stronger erections. But I haven't had sex on a regular enough basis to be able to have a clear picture. Last time I had sex was over two weeks ago, we had sex twice in the evening and then once in the morning. I came pretty fast the first time, and the second and third times I lasted longer but I needed a ******* to get me hard...
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hey guys,

I'm just here to report that I masturbated twice in two days without porn.
It didn't feel intense as I was expecting and I am so happy I didn't feel any downward spiral feeling of guilt, sadness or unworthiness afterwards like I remember going through when I was on porn. The after feeling was calm, I felt like I had just taken a **** or something, it wasn't anything great, I could have continued without it and it didn't make a difference.

I just want to ask if this is a relapse? I didnt PMO which is what I am on the path of recovering from. I used my imagination to bring myself over the edge.  

I must say, while i was doing it, i felt a little thought to go look at something creeping up but i blocked that thought. I guess masturbating without porn is ok, but it is still a bit dangerous because the temptation is there to watch porn.  If I had watched porn I could have been in a binge right now, but instead I went back to doing some work, and then decided to make this post. I must been been feeling stressed and needed a break or something.

Anyway, give me feedback, is this a relapse? Do I have to start over from day 1?
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My energy level is lower than normal, my body feels a bit sluggish.

That's a noticeable change from just mb lastnight.
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Ok JagaJM,

                   When I first discovered that masturbating to porn was the cause of my ED, I tried quitting everything cold turkey, all types of masturbation, masturbation and porn. I lasted maybe 5 days because of the anxiety of not being able to masturbate. I then decided to just masturbate just in bed, in the shower, but nothing online, videos and pictures. I masturbated non-stop, think I masturbated 10 ten times in one day; cause I had so many mental images in my head of porn, swinger websites, and all things sex in my head. I had a lot of porn fuel in my head to masturbate to. This lasted about a week. Cause after a week masturbation was no fun anymore, cause I didn't have anything to fuel it. No porn, no swingers websites, pictures. It was a really ****** up feeling. This is when I realized I had an addiction to porn. That I needed porn to masturbate. And that it was not that I was just a horny guy. I really needed porn to get myself going. Of course I fell off the wagon and was masturbating to porn a couple of days later.

               But eventually this is how I was able to quit. I stopped going online and looking for porn or anything sex related. I masturbated in the shower, in my bed. Yes, my brain wanted to bad to go on my favorite amateur porn sites to look at the new girls in the updates. But I didn't. You know what I discovered JagaJM, and I am not bullshitting you; the easiest thing in the healing process is not to click on and look at porn. Just don't do it. Walk away, do anything. And I guarantee you 5-10 minutes later the temptation will have subsided. Now you may have to do this two or ten times a day, but it is the easiest thing to do. Just walk away. I learned to just walk away. But I know this also. If you do click on porn and start watching it or anything sex related; I guarantee you that you will masturbate to it. Guaranteed. So you have to just walk away from clicking on it.  

        Now far as you falling off the wagon. Masturbating did not get you in this mess, masturbating to online porn did. Yes, the common objective is to quit masturbating, masturbating to porn or any videos and images, so that you will be able to recover full erections within 60-90 days. But cold turkey is difficult. Very difficult. If eliminating porn, or anything video or image related is your objective, you should be commended for it. That is a battle in itself. if you continue to masturbate, so be it, don't give yourself a hard time about it. Your recovery time will be much longer, who knows how much longer. But, you have to quit trying to masturbate all together at some point in order to get your erections of manhood back. And guess what, you will fall off the wagon from that, just like I did. But you start again. But at this point porn is gone and out of your life. And you realize how addicted you were and how much in a fog you were living in compared to men who have a normal sexuality about themselves.

              I quit porn and everything sex related, and just masturbated in bed, the shower. This went on for about 3 weeks, when I decided to stop masturbating all together. I feel off the wagon twice after that. Not to porn, but just to wanting to masturbate. But after the 2nd time, that's when I was able to do my full recovery. I'm not saying it was easy, in some aspects it was, in some it was not. And recovery is a process. It's not like you wake up on day 60 and say "I made it". No, as you recover from being masturbation free, you notice the physical and mental changes. You wake up with erections, if you are lucky enough to have a sex partner ( GF, etc) you notice erections are harder,  longer, as you are coming along after day 40 or 50. It is really no different then a person who might be obese trying to lose 100 pounds. They see the changes as the weeks pass along. Losing a few pounds here and there, and when they start seeing the physical changes, they know it's because of the work they put in. It does not happen from one night to the next. Just like recovering your full erections.
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Great post classy, I agree with you, it's a gradual process, and you will go through times when you lose faith and wonder if the sacrifices you are making (by not watching porn and masturbating) are actually doing any good and improving your situation...

I had sex last night. With a new girl, for the first time. We tried to have sex 4 times. Out of those 4 times, unfortunately not once did I manage to keep my erection. It started great, I had a rock solid erection after she gave me a han-d-jo-b or a bl-o-w-j-o-b. But soon after I entered her, I would lose my erection and have to stop right there.

This morning I was feeling really down, depressed even... but then I thought about a few things... first of all, this girl used to be quite fat and lost a lot of weight (like 40 pounds) recently. So probably she had a fairly large vagina (which is not the most stimulating). Needless to say, I couldn't feel anything as I was f***ing her... plus I had a condom on, which obviously doesn't help...

Second, she was so wet it was insane... she was actually one of those "legendary" "squirters". I didnt't know they actually existed, until last night, when I saw it with my own eyes...

I had a discussion with some friends about this, and they told me that if a woman was too wet, then that could lead to you having less feeling inside her....

So I think maybe if I didn't manage to keep my erection while I was inside her, was because I was wearing a condom, she was too wet, and her pu-ss-y was too large... I hope so anyway, otherwise there really is something wrong with me !

What do you think ?  
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classym4cpl, I accept and agree with your post.

I haven't reset my counter, just to let you know, I been off porn for those days you see below.
I was only asking if masturbating (without porn) just plain stroking myself off. Does that in itself count as a relapse? (it doesn't feel like a relapse to me)  I am not beating up myself or feeling depressed. I just want to be fair on my counter that's all [smile].

The reason I didn't masturbate before is I didn't want to activate those wiring in my brain that will lead to porn, and I didn't know if I would be strong enough to resist the urge. Clearly Masturbating to Porn and Orgasm is the root of the issue and not masturbation by itself. The urge to watch porn when I was masturbating wasn't strong either. So I know I have made quite a good distance in recovery so far. I still have no interest to watch porn. Masturbation based on my two moments, felt like a waste of time, that's all.

My main aim is to be free from the cycle and the habit of PMO, to be healed and recover my natural manhood and live a normal sex life (without porn in it).

SammyWinchester, how are you coming along?
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I haven't had such an experience before so i cant speak on it.

maybe you are not that attracted to her.

I have never heard of the vagina being huge after loosing weight before.

(The word that was censored from my original post was p-i-s-s. haha)
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Well, I will be honest and give you the best advice I can give through my years of research and experience. FIRST, there is no replacement for getting your regular manhood erections back then stopping masturbating all together. It is the quickest way to full recovery. I read during my research that if there is an addiction to masturbation and porn, then continuing to masturbate without porn or anything video, the recovery process of getting your regular manhood erections can take up two two years. That's a long time. That is why in my earlier post I mentioned that eventually you have to stop masturbating.

           Your question of did you relapse? My answer to that is NO. The foundation for your addiction and disorder is porn. You need to eliminate it and get it out of your life. It is as dangerous as drugs and alcohol; as it has the potential to your your life. I lost my wife and a good life because of porn. I won't tell you to stop masturbating because I could not stop masturbating from one day to the next. It took me about a month to stop masturbating after I gave up everything related to porn. But let me tell you as one man to the next JagaJM. I commend you in eliminating porn from your life. That is a struggle in itself.

                If you have gone 101 days without watching porn or anything porn video or image related. I say great job and congratulations. That is awesome. Now, far as getting erections back, like a normal sexually functioning man, time will tell. Have you been with a woman, how did it go. Is it time now to maybe start a masturbation free cycle of 2-3 months. On a side note, I now masturbate freely without any problems to my sex life. I masturbate in the shower, in my bed. I don't go out to do it, sometimes the urge just hits. After I completed the  cycle of 90 days of masturbation free
I really had my erections back. It was maybe a couple of weeks after that I began to masturbate every so often, And it did not affect me sex life what so ever. But of course, I didn't look at porn or anything porn related or will I ever again.
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Don't lose faith, keep going, Recovery dates and cycles are not set in time. Mine took about the 90-100 day mark. Between days 30-80 I would have sex and it was good-average-lame; but never was it a super experience. After about the 100 day mark, I was having sex like a porn star ( hate to use the word porn but have to express how great my erections were). Now, in my research of talking to other addicts, there were some addicted guys who were able to get their erections back in 30 days, and their addictions and erection dysfunctions were just as horrid as mine. But I didn't get discouraged cause I could not recover in 30 days. In fact I saw an episode on Dr.Phil that talked about porn addiction and the medical professionals they had on there said you have to quit masturbating all together ( including porn) for 30 days to get recovered. That must be just a general medical theory, as this whole addiction to masturbation and porn/erection dysfunction is really a new epidemic.

         And yes, it's difficult to talk about women like this, but some vaginas are not able to fully contract around the penis. For reasons that are obvious ( child birth, prior relationships where the male had tremendous girth). It is just nature. I recall during my recovery having sex with a girl 12 years younger then me. I was 32, she was 20. I recall jerking myself to get hard, putting on a condom and staying hard the entire time. This was many 40 days into my recovery. It was obvious this young female was not as sexually experienced as women I had been with before. My penis just contracted around her vagina and kept is hard. I just stayed hard. The next day I was smart enough to realize I was not recovered. I knew that I just happen to be with a young lady who has not had a lot of sex.

               But SammyWinchester, to be honest, I would guess your issue with the lady that night might be a combination of all the things you talked about. Your recovery, her large vagina, and that she was wet.
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Great post man, I appreciate your words of wisdom.

I think I am set on the road to recovery. I am heavily involved with a full time job, night and weekend classes, so my mind is focused on quality things to uplift myself.  I think I masturbated to test myself how I would feel, I didn't have any overwhelming urge to do it, it was a purely mental process. The only thing about masturbating for me is that it leaves me feeling tired the next morning.

I have been with women in the past, when I was in the porn stage but since I started recovery I have not been with one.  I get erections from hugs, hand holding or just standing close to a lady I am attracted to.  The erections don't last long though, the erections last anywhere between  3 - 6 seconds and go back down, and the erections are not rock solid either.

I never mentioned this before, but I was always concerned if enough blood flow is going to the root of my penis, the top part seems to be hard but it does not stand up like when I was younger.  when I am erect it still hangs down,  it is not strong enough to point upwards or straight infront of me (on its own).
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If blood circulation is normal in groin area and lower abdomen, sexual arousal will be normal. Search for groin exercises and pick up those which resonate with you and practice regularly. You will proper erection and regular morning wood. Male deer exercise is one of many popular exercises. Google Male deer exercise, kegel exercise, .
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Thank you, I will look into that.
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HI everyone, im 22, ive been addicted to PMO since the age of 11.
Had my first sexual relation at 17 with a 10/10, unable to *** of feel anything !
I had 23 girls in my life, and i never ***, neither in vaginal or oral sex !
I finally heard of the death grip and the addiction of PMO ! I do PMO with death grip 1,2,3 times a day (and someday more) since the age of 11 !

I have never feel anything in a *****, I in 20 days without PMO, the week 1 i felt very good, very horny, lot if energy,blow hanging **** and balls, good spirit, big erections during the night but since day 10 im in flatine, im depressed, my **** and my balls are shrinked, its horrible !

The question is : Should I have sex with a girl to wake my brain and f*ck dat flatine or just wait ??
How long this flatline is supposed to last ?
And for those how had a DE from death grip, how many days did you need to be able to *** with a woman ?

Thanks for all, and sorry for my english im european
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JAgaJM,
Thanks for the encouraging words. I have recently M but tried no to finish. I didn't realize this is just as bad a finishing. I have cut back but I continue to relapse. I keep going back to porn. I keep telling myself that I, only going to look. But not touch. 70% of the time I end up touching myself. This is so damn hard to quit. Most of my relapse happens first thing in the morning when I reach for my iPad. I need to dicline myself to not turn it on until I'm up and out of bed. It's a struggle, but I'm not giving up. Good luck to everyone out there.
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TO AnonymousSA,

My advice and encouragement to you is to delete your porn stash, get rid of it and masturbate to just your mind alone. When you get used to that try and cut down your masturbation time. Normally I would say just stop and go cold turkey but I think not everyone can be so disciplined. Also I have masturbated a few days ago WITHOUT PORN and I literally have no interest of doing so at the moment, I have no urge or crave to masturbate. I have total control over it. My point is this, after 100 days of going without watching porn and then masturbating without watching porn, I realize my brain and body reacts differently, there was no dopamine rush, there was no sad, guilt or depressing feelings afterwards. I am now in agreement that masturbation by itself may not be bad for the brain, but it will leave you with low energy or feeling tired though.  Also, if you masturbate do not try to edge or delay an ejaculation, thats bad, just finish and get it out the way.

Separate porn from masturbation and you will be feeling better, then try and cut down masturbation frequency and you will feel great. give it time and continue on the road to recovery.


TO bigfrench,
Everyone recovery time is different, flat line can last from weeks to months. It all depends on your brain.  please give yourself time to heal.
find something to do with the time you would normal use. workout, play a musical instrument, start a business, go to school, i'm just giving suggestions. whatever you do, just try and cut off porn and giving yourself time to heal, as you have said, you have experienced good results in just a few days. you are on the right path. keep it up!

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I find that reading as much as I can about the topic of PMO has also helped to encourage me and keep me focused until I got stronger. Please men, read as much as you can. knowledge is power, and knowledge will change you.

all the best. I wish everyone who comes here a good and healthy recovery.
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I had sex with a new girl last Monday, and again I had trouble maintaining an erection :-(  first she gave me a *******, I had no problem having an erection there, and I came quite quickly. Later I tried to do her in the missionary position, and I lost my erection soon after I entered her. Later she came on top of me, and it was better in that position, again I came quite quickly... so I seem to be having a problem with the missionary position these days.

So I'm disappointed once again by my performance... either I can't maintain an erection, or when I can I come too quickly... I have been off PMO for a while now and not getting the amazing results I was hoping for...
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When i was suffering from porn induced erectile dysfunction and while I was recovering; I had to get jerk myself to get hard to have sex. But I could only have sex on my knees (doggy style) and with my feet on the ground. I could never have sex missionary, because I could not stay erect. I needed the thrusting motion to center in my legs, body, and arms, in order to stay somewhat hard ( and that was never for more then 5 or 10 minutes). When it's missionary sex, all of your thrusting comes from your hips and penis area. Well, my penis was not working correctly, so to get the blood pumping into my penis, I needed to use my whole body to help me stay hard. You are not fully recovered, but congratulations on 76 days! It will take time, nothing is set in stone. You will get there. You will. I have never read of somebody not recovering when giving up masturbation to porn. The general theory is 90 days, but it can extend well beyond that point.
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What you are saying about position is interesting... I did notice that I performed better in the cowgirl position than missionary the last couple of times I had sex. I haven't tried doggystyle in a while, maybe I should try it next time. I know that in the past I have struggled in that position, although it has depended highly on the girl and on the moment...

Another problem is that I don't have a regular sex friend. Lately I've been having one night stands only... maybe I need to feel more comfortable with a girl in order to perform better ? I know some guys need to have sex 2 or 3 times with a girl before they get used to her and start performing properly... what do you think ?

Thanks for the kind words classy, but to be honest I have cheated a bit over these 76 days... I haven't masturbated to orgasm once to porn, but I have on occasion watched a bit of porn and touched myself, sometimes even edging... And maybe that's almost as bad as full-on PMO... I dunno...
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This morning I PMOed :-(

After having had sex with a girl who squirted like crazy when she orgasmed, I went and had a look at porn videos of women squirting out of curiosity... it turned me on, I started touching myself and went all the way unfortunately :-(

What I must avoid doing now is going on a binge... I guess I'm not back to square one, but I have definitely taken a step backward... my tracker has got to go back to 0 though :-(

It's so freaking hard to resist the urge to look at porn in the long haul...
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It happens, you know. You will not get any discouraging remarks from me. I'm really big into building equity while abstaining from masturbation to porn. Going 10 days, a month, 90 days, to me is building equity into recovery; and yes you will fall of the wagon. But keep going at it, if you had a regular female partner, things would be differently. You could be at her place, your place, and all of a sudden start having sex for no reason. Then that urge to watch porn, eventually masturbate would be different, or not be there at all. Cause your sexual desires, urges, and wants would be fulfilled. That's what normal guys do. When you are addicted to masturbating to porn, you are not normal by any means. I was not normal, I was far from it.

         Don't go on a binge, but don't kill yourself mentally and emotionally fighting off wanting to masturbate. If you have to masturbate one or ten times, do it. But don't do it to porn. The easiest thing is to watch not porn, it really is. But your brain is correlating masturbation and porn, porn and masturbation. It's ok to masturbate. But do not click on porn. Masturbate to a chick you had sex with and it was amazing, like a one night stand or a really freaky chick you had sex with before. Because that sensation, being with a woman like that, in all actuality is a million times better then masturbating to porn. Your addiction just won't let you realize it.

          I have been masturbating a lot lately, as I'm in between relationships and different girls I see. But never to porn. Just in my head, different women I have been with before. That's all I need.
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Thanks man. I think you're right... I'm pretty sure I wouldn't feel the need to watch porn and masturbate so much if I had a girlfriend or even just a f*** buddy. I'll try not to be too hard on myself but I can't help feeling disappointed and like I've let myself down. Also, I'm even more worried than before, now that I've PMOed, that if I have sex with a girl in the next few days/weeks, I won"t be able to keep it up, specifically because I PMOed today...

I like your idea of equity... before I PMOed today, I went 85 days without doing it, and before that I had roughly a 40 day spell and before that a 35 day spell... so I haven't gone on a binge or anything like that in a long time, and that's got to be a good thing, right ?
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Since February 1 I have fell into a binge cycle 11 days out of the past 16 days had PMO. I was somewhat embarrassed to come back here and mention it, so i hid behind the porn some more. but this morning I am feeling physically sick from the constant masturbating.

I am feeling weak and drained out again, headaches. I really over did it, One night I think I spent 4 hours in front the screen. I dont know, I know I cant give up, but breaking free from the cycle is giving me a warm time. I stopped reading all the motivational materials so...  I am back at starting point again.

I went 100 days and relapsed. I dont even know why I did it,

anyway, hope everyone is keeping up the fight.
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You shouldn't be embarrassed to come back here and mention it. Here is basically the only place you can mention it without worrying about what people are going to think... You went 100 days, that's pretty good, now go ahead and try to beat that record.
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(smile) thanks SammyWinchester.

i'll try and go much further... once i pass 7 days i'll be in good strides.

i am gonna reset my tracker and post daily, to build back my confidence.
i marked off the days on my calender that i PMOed... and the reality is sad... i spent over 30 hours watching porn in those 11 day relapse... thats time i could have used to study, work on some outstanding project, sleep or watch some clean movie. damn.

man, its not just my recovery, but i set myself back in other areas too.

but... thanks for the encouragement.
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I felt better without PMO.

I realize that I slipped back into the habit after I was masturbating without PMO.  Perhaps I am not strong enough to masturbate without the risk of PMO. So for now I will continue on the original plan and stop all activity until normal, natural sex comes into my life.

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Me too. I have slipped like crazy. I'm starting all over again.
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hI, I HAVNT post here in a while, it is because i have been afflicted by a mysterious neurological condition, that i went to the doctors for and i have been unable to find out. Remember when i told you know how i lost my smell and taste, that was only the begining, it progressed to pins and needles mostly on my side of the face, hands and legs. Furthermore, i have loss all internal stimulation, even from masturbating, i cannot feel any sensations in my abdomen, but still able to feel sensations on the penis head. unable to stay aroused or hard for long because i cant feel any bodily sensations from masturbating. i cannot feel any sensations means(no feeling of full or empty stomach, bladder,bowel movement, even arousal or orgasm(only near the penis). i do have an upcoming pcp appt, and a specialist in 2 months, she tried to point it "im making it up", and genetics. and i think she may have given me a ent instead of a neurology. This all happened suddenly, or started about jan 8, when ifirst noted smell and lost, went to the er next day, and couldnt found anything. Now i have these progressing symptoms. I trace it all back to my parietal lobe of the brain: possible injury, autoimmune, or mass. this happened about an hour after i took 1 25mg of diphenhydramine,dextromorphan,phenyleprine. until i find out whats wrong, there is no recovery going on(though im still able to get hard, i cant feel it, neither i can get fully erect because of the sensational loss.
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Sorry to hear that man, sounds like you're going through some weird sh-it... I hope you find what the cause of it is and that you are able to get rid of it quickly...

I also wanted to say to everyone that the past two nights I have had some very strong erections, and some serious morning wood... I have recently added some things to my diet, which I think may have had an effect : L-Arginine, garlic, Ginkgo Bilabo and royal jelly (the stuff bees make) supplements. One of these or maybe the combination of the four is clearly having an effect. I recommend anyone who hasn't tried hem to give them a go, they're all harmless things to take, so at worst you will just see no effect. They might help you recover more quickly and give you a little boost.
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Hi all,

Feeling a little dejected :-(

I met this really nice girl last Tuesday, we went for a drink and then had dinner and it was really nice... She then suggested we go to the movies last night... so I go to her place, we have a drink, then we go for dinner, then the movies, then we go back to her place for another drink, we watch a TV show (Bates Motel) we kiss, she tells me I can spend the night but she prefers that we go slowly, so no sex... then this morning she tells me she doesn't feel ready yet and that she's actually not that into me, at least not right now :-(

She said maybe if we spend more time together feelings will come, but she doubts it, and I doubt it too... I told her I wasn't prepared to wait for her to make up her mind and she said she understood... she said she wasn't sure if she wasn't ready yet to be with a man, or if it's just that she is not attracted to me..

I feel really surprised and sad because I really like her, and I thought she liked me back too, all her actions suggested she did... anyway, I'm back to square one and need to get back on the dating scene again.. so here we go again *sighs*...

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PMDER1  
That is horrible man, I do hope the cause is found and it can be treated.  That is a pretty serious medical issue, and I am annoyed by that doctor who thinks you are making this up. I realize sometimes things may be outside their scope of knowledge, they start to think that patients are making up the conditions. If they cant diagnose then refer you to someone that can. I pray you will be well man.

I too have an issue that I haven't mentioned on here but it's not as serious as yours PMDER1 and I am getting treated for it.  I did an MRI and found out that I have a pituitary microadenoma (very small non cancerous tumor on my pituitary gland).  The gland is responsible for my prolactin and dopamine level so, I am wondering if it has something to do with my addiction.  The symptoms of this includes poor or no erection as well as loss of morning wood.  So coupled with PMO I had two conditions affecting me that I didn't realize. Now more than ever I need to be off PMO as well as continue with medication and see if after six months when the tumor shrinks, if my penis will function the way it was meant to.

Sometimes I have a twitching/clicking feeling at the back and center of my head. I dont know if it is nerves or muscle tension, the doc didnt even consider it when i told him about it. His focus was more on the gland after the diagnosis.

SammyWinchester,
Hey bro, you sound like a real ladies man.
I am sure you will meet another girl and the connection will be better.
Sometimes you have to meet the ones that are not for you until you meet the one that is.  but i  definitely agree that spending time together will increase the attraction.  and may even improve sex. so when you get in a relationship, it will be a good experience.
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i still can get an erection, but no orgasmic feeling past my penis(you are supposed to feel it in your stomach, or your body. I think my brain is receiving it, but its not processing it. I was hoping for another MRI, to see any possible cause. Because i blabbed out that i got an MRI showing normal Head results back in 2013, when i was with KAISER. It couldve been an injury, i have no recollection of any injury capable of causing this, although the benadryl, with dextro, might have amplified the symptoms. my sense of smell is almost gone now as well,with taste. as smell is important part of a sexual experience. Now i that i think that all my symptoms are related to brain, i thought about a tumor as well. I went to several other forums to find any similar issue, i found some close diagnosis, but ended up in sq one.
@samm you seem to be capable of getting girls, easier than most people here, eventually you will find one that can get you hard, just lay of the beatings to your meat.
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Hi all.I just found this site. I've been reading all of your posts and they have been very inspiring. I'm 28 and have been single for about four years. I've only had one sexual partner before that. I've been watching porn and masturbating at least 2 times a day sometimes 3 for years. Probably more than 10 years. I recently met a woman that I like very much and we tried to have sex. I didn't even feel movement down there. Even when she was giving me a ******* nothing happened. It was very disturbing. We tried again a few nights later and I was able to get semi erect and actually enter her but it didn't last long. So I started thinking I've probably screwed up my brain with porn and masturbation. I quit both cold turkey for a week and was so horny I thought I would die. Morning wood every day. I even masturbated without porn which I haven't done in years. Then I was able to get erect with her but I couldn't ***. We had sex for over an hour twice, she came two or three times and I eventually just sensed she was done and we stopped. The next day I watched porn and masturbated again. We tried to have sex again the night after and I could only get slightly erect. So there has to be a connection with the porn. She has been great with me about it. Very kind and understanding. I always go down on her or finish her off in other ways.

I've stopped completely as of two days ago. Deleted it all from my computer and removed anything I had in the house. So I hope to have a success story here again soon. I just don't want her to think it has something to do with her. I find her attractive and like her quite a bit. So I'm hoping my brain will start resetting itself afte a couple of months. Thanks again for all the information!
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Dude, if you managed to feel super horny, have morning wood and have satisfying sex with your girlfriend after just one week of laying off the porn, then you are one lucky b-astard !

Please let us know how you get on, although it sounds like you will have no problems recovering fully. Just stay away from porn and masturbation (easier said than done but it's essential).
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Hi guys. I very happy to descover this webside, i have been reeding all your comments since about two weeks. I am in this same situation which have been described by all of you. i have been masturbationg since about 11 years, but masturbating with porno since about 6-7 years. Before i taught that my ED is due to the masturbation, without enven thinking that it might be from porn. I remember somme years ago, i traveled and was cut off with internet, so porn for about 1 years and i got back my morning woods, and every thing, until that i came back to this porn, but i never made the link.   1year ago, i was leaving with my girl friend, so i was neither mastubating, nor watching porn, but we were having sex so much about 5 times a day, until we broke up, so may be that frequence of having sex blocked me from recovering. And despite i am ED (i never lass more than 2 minutes) but i can get back erection after orgasm very fast, which alow me to be able to have sex many times in few minutes. But i never have strong erection, despite i never fale to have sexe with girl, my erection are some how strong, when i am with lader, but once i enter her, it state reducing so that i cannot lass long. Now 4 week ago, i watch porn just some minutes before having sex with a girl, it was so bad, my worst in all my life, i did not even lass 1 minute, and my erection was very bad, since then i realise and decide to stop both porn and masturbation. It's not a problem, i can stop them definitely, but 1 month without sex is my big problem. After that happened, i stay 3 weeks with no porn, no masturbation, and i stated gettting back my morning woods, some time i even stay more than 30 minutes when i wake up. I thaught then that i was cure, but when i am watching series a smal sexual image, or even reading some thing sexual give me erection and i start seeing that i was going back to my problem. The forth week, i had sex, the first round was bad, not even 2 minutes, the second was better but stil not good.
So what i remark is that, my ED is not as much as terrible, with  1 month no O, no PMO i can get my erection back, but with small sexual emage on films, reading, or even thinking i can lose all.
I decided now to stop all, i went back to zero by this 1 march, i decided no O, no PMO withing this 2 coming moths. Other thing, i do lot of sport since in was very yong, i am 28 years now.
Thanks, to all of you, and soory for my english, i am a french speaker. Hope we will all get results by this forum. good to know all of you.
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Bienvenue sur le forum Diasba. Moi aussi je suis francophone.

Tiens-nous au courant de comment ça évolue sur les semaines qui viennent. Et surtout, ne cède pas à la tentation !

Perso j'ai beaucoup de mal à résister... je résiste quelques jours, parfois quelques semaines, mais je finis toujours par céder et vouloir me mater une vidéo, souvent sur un thème bien spécifique...

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Merci SammyWinchester, ça fait plaisir. Oui je vous tiendrai au courant et lirais fréquemment vos news et vos conseils. On est tous conscient qu'une fois qu'on abandonnera ces deux choses (PMO)   tout deviendra normal, moi je l'ai déja remarqué. Donc dis toi que tu peux le réussir, dis toi que  ce que tu auras dans le futur sera extraordinaire  que la masturbation et porno ne doivent pas le gâcher. Moi perso ça fait plus d'un moi que je n'ai ni regardé le porno, ni me masturbé, mais certains scènes sexuelles que je vois dans les films ne m'aident pas, et aussi le fait que je passe toute la journée devant mon ordi (dans mon bureau, des fois en se connectant sur facebook et autres on voit des choses qui ne nous aident pas). Mais tu peux le réussir, on peut le réussi, je n'ai meme plus la pensé à la masturbation ni au porno, et j'ai vu d'excellents résultats après 3 semaines d'abstinence, mais sauf que le cerveau etant encore sensible, toute petite chose peut nous reconduire dans la merde. Bas toi, on va tous réussir
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Thanks Sammy. The whole experience has been been pretty strange and unsetteling. I'm going to stay in contact here. I wish you all the best too. I just never even thought that porn could have negative effects on us. Love the name btw. She got me into Supernatural and I think I've watched 9 season in a month!
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I'm on day 4 again now and it isn't easy or fun at all. I guess that's the point though. I'm not going to slip up this time. I don't know if it's all in my head but I feel good and confident. Just uncomfortabvle because I'm so used to that release multiple times a day. I'm not as anxious as I normally am and I actually had like a 5 minute conversation with a pretty cute chick at the grocery store today. Normally I'd just nod or say a one word response, but I actually tried to push it and flirt a little, hold eye contact with her. Not that I would cheat on my girlfriend, I was just curious as to why I didn't seem as nervous as I normally do around attractive women. I feel fairly charged up if that makes any sense.
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Sounds like you are heading in the right direction friend! This seems to be a great place to get together and learn about these issues. Keep us informed on your progress and good luck.
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I had sex, or at least tried to have sex, on Wednesday evening. First I gave her oral, and she loved it, I even think she orgasmed. Then I tried to take from behind and I wasn't hard enough to enter her, so then she had to give me a ******* to make me hard again, which I did, then she came on top, and I lost my erection while I was inside ( I was wearing a condom but still, it's annoying to still be having problems after all this time). Then she told me she was allergic to latex and she was too sore to continue. So she finished me off with a *******.

So right now I'm feeling a bit discouraged... I've been staying away from porn for a while now, and I'm still not seeing results :-(
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Yes, that is a bit discouraging, but that does not change the fact that there is improvement and which is as a result of the abstinence from porn and masturbation. I believe the recovery process is a bit slow with some people and sometimes seems abstinence is not doing the job and does not worth the effort.

But before you get discouraged, look back at the time when you were fully into PMO and now when you're trying to quit. Personally, I have experience a significant improvements both in personal and sexual level.

Small improvement is better than no improvement at all.

Personally, I will advice you get a steady girlfriend/casual sex partner and if not for anything but to monitor your recovery for the next 6-12 months.

I won't even wish it on my enemy to be addict to this s.h.i.t. It's a gradual destroyer. My efforts to quit alone is a progress for me.

Keep the spirit high and continue to push. One day, you will get there.
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Just try to take it one day at a time guys. Things will get better. Just stay away from the porn! It seems it's different for everybody. I'm just about on my 14th day with no porn. I masturbated on day 8. But no pictures or porn. I just closed my eyes and things worked the way they are supposed to.

I went to see the gf yesterday. We can't have sex at her place during the week because of kids, she's loud in the bedroom, lol. But we did make out right before I left and I was almost instantly hard. It took the 5 minute drive home for me to get rid of that erection. So hopefully when I see her Friday things work as well.

I feel super pumped up right now. Full of energy and ready to go. Used to be I couldn't get my **** hard for anything without porn. I could sit there for hours and try and nothing would happen. But now just doing certain thinigs or kissing the lady seems to have things working right. A huge step in the right direction.
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Lucky dude!

Your recovery seems quick and spontaneous.

Keep it up and don't forget to update us with your progress.
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Still can't find a regular partner, so it's hard to tell if I've made any progress. But I know I'm not out of the woods yet. I'm occasionally getting semi-erections during the day when I'm in walking around or on the metro/bus if I'm thinking naughty thoughts. And I'm getting more frequent night and morning erections, sometimes rock hard, sometimes only like 75%...

I've been reading articles on the yourbrainonporn website and other websites like this one, and apparently people like me take a very long time to recover ; that is, people who grew up on porn, and started masturbating to porn before they even had sex with a real woman. I started to masturbate to porn at around age 14, and only lost my virginity at age 28. So for 15 years I masturbated to porn A LOT. I guess it's only normal that my brain needs more than just a few weeks to rewire itself...

At the moment I don't feel any libido; I'm probably experiencing what they call the "flatline". Sometimes the flatline can last a long time, and then one day, out of the blue you have this massive craving for sex and these incredible erections. That's what people have reported anyway.

In my recent attempts to give up porn and masturbation, I have cheated a little bit. I mean even last weekend I looked at a bit of porn, but didn't masturbate to orgasm. Now I've decided that even when I'm extremely bored or just curious about a specific type of sex or a new position, I will not look at it. I thought it was the masturbating to porn that was bad. But it seems, from what I've read, that even just watching porn, without touching yourself is bad for your brain too. And "testing" yourself to see if you've made progress is bad too. You should just have faith that you ARE making progress.

The only fear I have is that porn is not the number one cause of my ED. I mean, there are hundreds of things that can cause ED. So how the hell do you identify the cause ? Imagine if all this time, you thought it was porn, but actually it was something else like nerve damage or high prolactin levels or something else... isn't that scary, to lose all this time ?!

I really hope it's just the porn, and that within a few months I will be 100% healed...

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Good research report!. I normally do not visit other PMO recovery related sites since I came across this thread.

I believe with time you will find a regular partner since you have put your mind to it.

I have not cheated or try to test my progress since I began the new clean count date with you and JagaJM. I'm aiming for 90 days abstinence after which I will try to have real sex and see how it goes.

Of course, PMO is not the only cause of ED. That is why it is advisable to visit an urologist for medical evaluation. From my experience with them, so far, they have not be helpful. Although I was diagnosed of Prostatitis which they did not relate to my ED. My current location does not give me access to good urologist that I'm confident with, but no one should rule out medical solution if they have access to it.

Even with my inconsistent abstinence, I have observe significant improvement as against when I was deeply involved with PMO. I believe PMO is not a decent habit to be addicted to and trying to break away from the habit alone is a success, whether or not it is responsible for the ED.

No time invested in overcoming this shameful and destructive habit is lost.
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I had s-ex with a new girl last night. I started by giving her o-ral s-ex, and judging by her moaning and shaking I'm pretty sure she orgasmed. Then I tried to have s-ex with her in the missionary position. I had no problem getting an erection, but after putting on a condom and entering her, I lost my erection while inside her... so then I took the condom off, started rubbing myself against her back and that gave me an erection again, and I was going to put on a condom when she said "it's OK, I'm on the pill" so I did her d-oggystyle but without protection and I came quite quickly inside her.

Do you think I was wrong not to use protection ? she seemed like a very nice girl who is trustworthy enough...

Then I gave her o-ral again, made her come again... the next morning we tried to have s-ex but I really struggled to get hard... no amount of s-ucking or touching would get me more than semi-hard... then I tried rubbing my d-ick against her c-lit and that worked pretty well, but then I came before I could enter her... she seemed to enjoy it though...

She has been responding to my text messages since our encounter, so I think she had a good time despite my low level of performance...

But it's getting really frustrating... I haven't PMO'ed in a really long time, and I'm not seeing any improvement... still the old ED problem...

If I see her again, I think I will take some Cialis... I have one or two pills left from the four I bought ages ago, and the last one I took was ages ago... I hear it can boost your confidence and help you on your way to recovery when you're trying to quit PMO.  
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i just relapsed after 28 days before that i just relapsed before 23 days
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You did well. 28 days of abstinence is no joke.

From your last relapsed date (23) to your recent relapsed date (28), that is a big improvement if you ask me.

Now, try and beat that new record.
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Although your performance is was not 100%, which really was not expect at the stage of your recovery, but it wasn't that bad.

You should also try and see an urologist as well, so that you can eliminate the fears of a possible medical condition.

Have you tried to go the suggested 90 days without sex, testing or cheating?

I have tried pills. I used Cialis, but it was not effective for me and then I tried Levitra, it works wonder for me. Rock strong, and massive improvement in stamina and the effect can sometimes last for 2 days, but often within a day. Before you take you old Cialis, do not forget to check the expiring date.

Try to use protection, expect you trust the girl enough not to, the nervousness alone is a performance killer.

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I have already seen a urologist, and he didn't find anything wrong. Both he and my doctor basically think it is psychological. Which is why I think it is all those years of porn, coupled with no sex with a human being that have desensitized my brain... At least I hope so, because if it's the case, then it means I should heal within a few months of not watching any porn and not masturbating...

This time I am not going to relapse. I can feel it in me. The other times that I tried to quit, I knew I didn't REALLY want to quit completely, so I would go back to porn once every few weeks... but now I have grown so tired of this ED that my determination to succeed is sky-high.

I had sex with my sex friend last night. We did it twice last night and twice this morning before she left... The first time we did it I was super horny, and came quite quickly after I entered her (missionary). But the three following times I struggled to sustain my erection... even without a condom on...

The good thing is that she has been really supportive in the way that she has made no comments like "maybe it's because you don't find me attractive" or "what is wrong with you ?" In fact she hasn't said anything, which shows she is a really cool person. AND she keeps coming back to me. So I must be doing SOMETHING right ;-)
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Well men, my journey has begun also.  1 week clean and it's not easy at all.  No need to say much more, as much has already been said by you all.  Same story, same issue.  Now, it's time to get down to business, and reclaim my life.  Stay strong and thanks for sharing your stories to help encourage me and others!
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Well men, my journey has begun also.  1 week clean and it's not easy at all.  No need to say much more, as much has already been said by you all.  Same story, same issue.  Now, it's time to get down to business, and reclaim my life.  Stay strong and thanks for sharing your stories to help encourage me and others!
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Good luck Tysofyne.

For the first time in my life, I have met a girl who likes me back and wants to see me again and again. But it's more of a sex friends type of relationship. I don't see myself in a real relationship with her. Still, it's a great feeling and I hope she will help me recover.

So, I have been getting regular sex, without protection (she's on the pill). I'm still struggling a bit to keep my erections (the first time is usually fine, it's more the second or third time we do it that I struggle). So I'm not really seeing any improvement. Maybe I'm still going through that "flatline" period ? This week I had a couple of morning erections, the first time in a long time. I hope this is a sign of better things to come.
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Be encouraged Sammy.  I started out in the worst way.  Porn and masturbating since age 15.  Married at 28.  Was a virgin when I got married so the only experiences I had was with the women on the screen.  Honeymoon was a nightmare and marriage almost ended before it really got started.  Was about 6 months before things were really ticking.  That whole time, I didn't even have a desire for porn.  Unfortunately, after getting things working the way they should, i started to dabble again.  Bad move.  Now, I have my moments where I'm fighting to keep it up with the wife.  Add in a rough patch with the marriage, and sex is not very frequent.  That means I've been spending more time with the girls on screen again.  I'm finally more fed up than ever, and am very determined to kick the addiction once and for all.  The stories from you and the other guys confirm that my problem is definitely porn.  I will use you guy's victories as encouragement to keep myself diligent.  I pray the best for all of us to be free from "The Addiciton".
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Hi all,

There haven't been any posts lately so I thought I'd try to inject a little bit of life into this thread !

I met a girl just over a month ago and we have been having sex regularly. It's a no-strings-attached type of relationship. She is sleeping at my place again tonight. It's the first time in my life (I'm 30) that I have a regular sex partner so I'm really happy about that, and I think she is helping me to recover, because the more I sleep with her, the less I feel like looking at porn. I have been very successful at refraining from porn.

My sexual performances have improved but I still feel like I don't have enough libido. Still, I am getting more and more frequent night and morning erections, but again it's not systematic.

Anyway, all in all things are pretty positive and I hope they will improve to a point where I can get erections from just looking at or kissing a girl, and maintain one even with a condom on... I want to be 13 again ! lol
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hey thanks for posting again to let me know the discussion is still alive. I have been reading here for  afew days and was thinking about posting and telling my story but wasn't sure if it was still going because no one posted in a while.

I am 37 and have been masturbating to porn since I was in my early 20's on a regular basis. multiple times per day. I was introduced to porn at a very young age. around 3 or 4 even from a neighbor boy and it was something that got my attention. I only got to look at it at friends' houses off and on until in my teens when i would get a hold of magazines and a few videos. then when getting internet is when the addiction really got out of hand. I didn't notice anything wrong until pretty recently. I've never had problems with getting and staying hard and never had problems with a girl until the last girl I was with a few months ago. I just couldn't stay hard. when she used her mouth it was ok but when i tried to enter her it went soft. tried this a few times with her and every time was the same story. I started doing searches if too much porn/masturbation can have an effect like that and I found this forum. so thank you guys for sharing your stories. I am convinced that I found the cause of something that made me really scared because i have never had problems with it until now.

I am on my 5th day now of no porn and no masturbation. soon I will be taking a trip overseas to meet a girl that I met online. we have been talking for a while and she seems really nice. I really wanted to do what I can even for the short time before meeting her. I have not had good morning wood since I stopped the porn and masturbation which i read is normal from articles written by doctors. the first few days were pretty difficult to get past. but I am very strong willed so I refused to do anything because the problem I Have read should only be temporary until the brain gets wired back to normal. not sure how long it will take with me. but today when I was talking with the girl who I will soon meet, we did talk about some naughty things a bit and I got pretty excited. it became rock hard for at least a short time until we changed the topic. after we were finished talking I noticed that my balls were sore. wow. I never thought I would say that I was glad to get blue balls... but this was my first case of it in 16 years or so and it convinced me further that I am doing the right thing by stopping this destructive behavior.

hopefully there will be some positive results to report once I come home from my trip. I know it doesn't happen overnight and I'm not expecting it to. but I am really looking forward to get rid of the cause of the problem and be able to function normally again.

thanks again everyone who has posted. and wish everyone have success in their recovery.
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Hi Sammy I am wondering if you have masturbated at all during your recovery process. If you have, how frequent, etc. I masturbated during my recovery, but I had a plan to eventually stop masturbating after about a month and it worked. Eliminating porn and anything sexual online was the key to my recovery. I just masturbated to anything that popped in my head. After about 30 days, there was no fuel for my brain to masturbate to, so it really lost it's luster. Don't get me wrong, it was very hard not to watch porn, but in some aspects it was easy. And I mean easy to walk away. There was about 10 instances in those first 30 days where I had to walk outside or start doing excersise. But once I walked away, I thought to myself, wow, I can't believe it was that easy to walk away.

          I had a lot of great sex before I became addicted to porn. I then became addicted, lost my erections for about 8 years. But when I completed my full recovery ( about 100 days, 30 days of just masturbating to anything in my head, and 70 days of no masturbation) I was able to get my full erections back. It was like being born again. Research say's that if you had regular normal sex before a porn-induced ED, then you should be able to recovery within 60-90 days. And It was spot on.

        I advise other men on other forums of my recovery process of masturbating to no porn for 30 days, then after 30 days, no masturbation at all. See I must of tried to heal myself about 20 times before I was finally able to do my recovery with the 30 days, then 70 day recovery. Thats why I ask if you have masturbated during your recovery. I will try and be on the board at least twice a week from now on to help encourage all our brothers who battle this. Guys, I battled this addiction for almost 10 years! Before I finally beat it. If you have any questions, feel free to address me on the forum or send me a private message. I would even be willing to speak with you on the phone as I have with other members who seek advice.
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You may be interested to see a website in google under the heading -breath to Orgasm- and in particular read anniesprinkle org website.In fact it is for woman. For man there is another version, we have to look for it. main exercise in this web is squeezing muscle around urethra(kegel) and squeezing  perineum. Read the details in the webpage. you will need to make efforts to learn . If you can control you can increase libido. Do Sat kriya, a simple breathing like panting (breathless type) Find details in Google.Google for groin exercises and you will find many which are really useful.
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If you can control you breath, you can increase you libido. Fast breathing bring you near to orgasm and slow breathing allows you to linger on your sexual activity. There is another powerful exercise, male deer exercise.
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I haven't masturbated once to orgasm since the date shown in my ticker. However, there have been a couple of occasions where I was weak (including today :-( ) and looked at a bit of porn and touched myself to it. Still, I have noticed improvements, and I think it has helped that I have had a regular sexual partner.

I think it's really important that you penis gradually stops getting used to your own touch, and starts getting used to the touch of a woman instead, as well as being inside her. And of course it is important to stop the porn-masturbation association, and watch as little porn, ideally none, for as long as possible...
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havnt been here in a while, because of my mysteriously neuropathy that is affecting sensations in my body. Loss of sensation is still here, very little sensation. I believe there was damage to my nerves near my penis area and elsewhere in body, because of loss of sensations have been persisted since i posted on here. I suspect it could be an autoimmune or some kind of vitamin deficiency, did not have test specifically. Since im on "welfare" getting docs appointment has been a big issue, since my pcp doesnt believe have neuropathy, so her own conclusions is pointing it "all in my head". i went to the specialist on thursday for eye(not my doing), hopefully i can see a neurologist to get to the bottom of this.
I am aware that my symptoms are very similar to diabetic neruopathy, but needs blood tests to be sure. so this neuropathy has affected my orgasm, i can still orgasm and stimulus, but do not get an intense feeling when actually oragasm. I sitll mb,and slipped up several times, so this makes things worst.
it took me months just to get a an appt.

sammywinchester, you seem to be doing great with getting girls to even have sex with you. the best part is to abstain from sex for a month or so, to see where your libido or erections go from there. constant sexual activity also cheapens your sexual experience like it is porn. How often do you have sex  a month?
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Hey every one, I haven't posted in such a long while.
It is good to see Sammy my bro fighting the good fight and leading the charge.

Nice to see my fellow brothers waking up to the reality and making the steps to enhance their life.

I have been busy with school.  I have been going on fine for a while now. No form of slipping whatsoever. Going cold turkey works best for me. The last time i went 100 days and I started masturbating without porn and eventually slipped back.  I, from my experience, think masturbating overall should be placed on hold. If one thinks masturbation is ok, then that's fine, but try going without it too, and if you cant, maybe that's another addiction to think about.

I have been feeling more energy and I am more focused again.  I feel positive and clean inside. I am looking forward to going the whole year and see what happens at the end of the year.

I have powerful erections when I am talking to a girl I really like. We were having a discussion without using any dirty words, but the conversation was suggestive. I had some good hard on!! I was surprised!! I haven't felt it so strong in years! Anyway,  I am motivated to continue on this path yet again.

No porn watching for me I haven't even peeked on a video.
No masturbation for me, I think that's a gateway activity that will lead me back to porn, based on my experience, so for me that's a no no.
A girl did send me naked pics of herself, I didn't get any reaction from that.  I deleted them now anyway. I get more excited from a nice conversation.

I haven't kissed a girl in awhile.. much less to have sex.

The journey continues bro! keep it clean, lets all just aim for another 30 days without PMO and  post a celebration article for another mile stone (each time we do). [what you think?]
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I too feel a lot more confident, and I have more energy than when I used to watch porn and masturbate regularly.

I had sex with a new girl last week-end. She was a hot blonde with a great body ! she was a complete nymphomaniac though lol she screamed so hard and was so excited that it actually put me off. It put me off because I don't necessarily want my neighbours to know what I am up to, and also I thought she must be faking it, it didn't sound natural....

and I couldn't keep it up once I entered her ! Needless to say she was disappointed afterwards and she thought I wasn't comfortable wit her. I told her I was but that the condoms were killing any kind of feeling in my penis... which is actually true as well. But I don't think she will want to have sex with me again. I am not even sure I want to, because I have this other girl that I am seeing regularly, who is less hot, but we get on really well and the sex is nice... I would feel kind of guilty seeing another girl regularly... we'll see...

I like your suggestion Jaga, I'll try to do it and keep to it.
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Guys, I need your help. I have been unable to have inter course (thrice) now. I did have erections while I was making out with these bful women but when the time came to go the distance, my erection died down.
I am wondering if there is something wrong with me and I should go to a doctor. I do masturbate frequently (3-4 times a week) and I am wondering if that is part of the problem. I do have erections early morning and so on. Any suggestions would be helpful.
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What age are you ? Have you had sex before or were they your first times ? Is this the first time you experience erection problems ? 90% of erection problems are psychological. They are usually caused by stress, performance anxiety, depression...

But there is growing evidence that they can also be caused by viewing too much porn (as it allegedly re-wires the brain) and too much masturbation (training your penis to porn and to react to your hand only, "death-grip", etc...)...

So yeah, I think the fact that masturbating so often might be affecting your libido. Some men watch porn and masturbate all the time, and they have no erection problems. In fact, some men are machines that can have sex 6 or 7 times in an evening, and every time have a rock solid erection and last long. I know that because women that I have slept with have told me that these guys existed. Needless to say I am very, very jealous of them ! no wonder some women prefer dating these guys rather than "normal" people like you and I... anyway, rant over...

Some men DO have erection problems, and in order to regain erections they need to stop viewing porn and masturbating altogether. So give it a go Advait, and tell us how you get on.
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keep the focus keep fighting the urge men.
One more day, one more week.. one more month... soon it will be a year.
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When all this PORN/MB started last year, i was also battling contact dermatitis, that coincidentally appeared at the same time i became aware of my addiction. And having Peripheral neuropathy, that started this januarary hasnt helped my situation. I am capable of getting an erection, and orgasming( the sensation is not very intense, because of the loss of sensations). Ill be seeing neuropthamologist sometime next week, to seek if this is nerve damage due to injury, infection, drugs, or autoimmune disease. My case is truely a neurological now, and it affects my MB/Porn recovery processes.
To let you know what neuropathy is
- i have pins and needles on the left side of my body, and sometimes on the right, but have largely dissapated, but still recur in light amounts. my right side of the body seem to have loss some sensations(feeling your arm and legs move).
-prickling,jabs of pain,tingling, are all part of the neuropathy. On many occasion my penis gets the prickling, stinging, and itchiness, which desensitizes the penis at the same time.

I am aware of diabetes which is the most common cause of neuropathy, also can be the cause of ED, i realize that Diabetes causes ed, by Neuropathy, nerve damage to penis. i will be asking if could be tested for it as well.
-i ALSO am trying to not see my PCP, because she thinks all the problems i am having are in my head(long story how she came to that conclusion.) I will be seeing specialists to see where i can go from here. i wouldve have answers months ago if i had a job and insurance, i am on welfare with california, so appts are slow.
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Hello i have a problem...i have a girlfriend i,m dating with her around 3 months,i didn,t had sex with her yet... but i masturbated 5 times in  last 4 months,but is a problem...we played a lot like a foreplay and saddly i cummed...and she worries if i am the perfect guy for her,she is still a virgin..i am 24
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Hi all,

Just a quick word to let you know that I met a girl just over two weeks ago, and I am absolutely crazy about her. We have started going out and have had sex a few times, in different positions.

I have no problem staying hard (we have been doing it without protection from the get go) the first time we have sex (in an evening), but it gets a little more difficult the second and third time and even the following morning, I guess because we are more tired...

Anyway, I really feel like I am getting better, both physically and psychologically. Having a regular sexual partner really does help, especially when there are feelings involved !

Please wish me luck because I really really want to keep this girl :-D

Take care everyone !
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Ok so I want to try to do a week without any masturbation, but there are a couple problems here.  One I sometimes use masturbation to get to sleep which sometimes helps.  And Two After about 2 or 3 days without doing it which is a long time for me as I usually do it daily everyday between 1-3 times a day My mind starts wondering and thinking about dating and relationships.  I am a mid 20s Loner never dated and have No interest in Ever dating, but when I go days without masturbating like I said my mind wonders and tricks me into thinking I want to date because ive gone days without a release.   After I masturbate and release after 2 or 3 days of Not doing it,  its like wow why was I even thinking about any of that and once again couldnt care less about relationships/dating.  How do I forget about women while doing my week because the longer I go without masturbating the more my mind tricks me and the more I think about relationships, when I Never think about them when doing it daily???
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*Wanders not wonders my bad
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So since June 1, I have been in a constant cycle of PMO. It reached to the point where I spent hours in front the screen, masturbating/stroking/fapping/playing with myself even when I wasn't aroused. I kept pushing my self for days and hours at a time edging. I sunk to a whole new low of the content I was watching... I felt like I gave up on trying to get better and kept giving in to the desires on a whim.

So since yesterday, I started watching the motivational videos I discovered last year and encouraging myself to get through these first few weeks until I break free and quit.

since PMO'ing
I have been going to work late every single day
I literally feel like a zombie, I have no energy when I walking
I have stopped studying and I have an important exam coming up
I feel slouched and weak, I feel crappy at times
I think I make irrational decisions, I spend money on a whim without thinking exactly if it is worth it.
I found that I want to play video games more as well.
I don't feel that passion I was feeling for a woman, I have a numbness
I procrastinate a lot, and feel indifferent towards my friends.
I neglect a lot of my responsibilities and as such limit my own growth potential.

I am making a conscious decision to start a life of no PORN and NO MASTURBATION. I have reached the same conclusion that masturbating adds NOTHING to my life. All it does is waste my precious semen, my life seed, and leaves me with low or no energy. Distracts me from things I should be focusing on. Of course some people my feel that a one wank is healthy. But why do it?? If it ain't with a real partner then it is completely a waste of time. I felt so much better when I was on my streak of a 100 days no PMO. I am sick of this habit that I keep doing, every single time I PMO I feel like I am betraying humanity.

I was feeling really bad to post on the forum because of the joy I felt when i was off this self inflicted abuse. Now, I am ready to be open again, I realize reading about this entire ordeal over and over and being knowledgeable gives me the motivation I need. So, here I am step 1, day 1.
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by the way, my **** smells bad, and my fingers are wrinkly and has small bumps on it because I have sensitive skin. The constant lubrication has irritated it.
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I am really sorry to hear about your illness bro. I am happy though, that you discovered what the ailments are, I hope that something will work out for you to get the treatment that you need.
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ok so the the statement that was censored is... "my d-i-c-k (penis) smells bad'

any one wants to see benefits of not masturbating can check out the link below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IsAQeSDjJjk
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hy u all....i rili love d advice u guys ar sharin...i rili hope ull all help me....m patrick frm nigeria...m 17yrs...i stratd watchin porn frm 12yrs nd statd fapping wit porn at 16.....and in a week i fappd up to ten rimes....untill dis yr wen i realise dat it cuf cos ed nd pme.....so i decided to stp..but i stp masturbation fr 3 weeks afta dat i cud do it for lyk trice a wik..wit porn....each nite i do view porn pics....buh most times i dnt fap wig it even though i have an erection.......am scard nw...i wanna stp madturbation and porn completely....buh am scard tinkin dat am too late

...pls advice me......i have a gf...each time wwe kisf or romance...i rilli get in d mood..i have strng erection...buh am scared of makin luv to her i tink i wont last three mins......buh wen i stp fapin afta thre wik.....before i last 2mins before i ***....buh afta three wik...i fappd nd last 9 mins  i tried again buh i still went back to lastin 3 mins.......pls helpe i wanna stp completely.....
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Hi its been a while. And i havnt found any answers. After the neurologists(it was just a regular one, not a special eye neurologist), She dint seem to think my issues was neurological, because the way i describe the symptoms. Now ive have been taken a step backwards, because all i got was another Specialist with an ENT, which wouldnt help because my issues have been neuropathy based. The loss of sensation made me wonder if it was something happened in my brain, where it processes the sensations. Im getting the run around. I have been to other forums, and it turns out neuropathy is very hard to pinpoint, especially the cause, because if a doctor does not see it, or have results on a tests, it doesnt exist to them, and they start saying its in your head. After the neuro appt, i get the feeling i will not be able to get an MRI,CAT,PET scan or see anothe neurologist again, based on the lack of findings on this one. I tried explaining the inability to feel anything slide down my throat, as asymptom but it dint not faze them at all. They tried to pushed more blood tests, but i dint not bother giving blood, because i do not even have symptoms of those things on the blood test.
and this PN has affected my orgasms, even when i masturbate, no intense feeling, just no sensation when it comes out. looks like its going im going to get a run around, from a socialized health care system. All they are capable is very common illnesses and not something that is hard to diagnose like Peripheral neuropathy. Unless i get a rheumatologist or a mri scan, theres very little to go on at this point.
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Since you are this young and started fapping for only 5 years, which is already a long time. if you are getting an erection with your gf, its likely you dont have ED. You may have very minor ED. You defintely should stop watching porn and masturbating, if your thinking about having sex with your gf. I dont know how young your gf is,but dont think about sex until she is ready. You can masturbate, but not to porn, you can do it to your gf. Some of use have been masturbating 8+ years and already have severe ed issues, and other mental issues.
if she is ready and you can get a strong erection, you can make love. Its usually soft erection that doesnt last long that is the issue.
Once people starts masturbating, theres no way to stop unless you are getting satisfied by a sexual partner.
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nt 5years...i startd last just year.....my gf is 19 nd m 17………buh am scard of makin luv to her...i have this feelins dat i wont last up to 3mins……………u guys should eat lots of garlic....i heard it increases libido............also try gettin erection.....so dat blood willl flow to d penis.....it will help in healing the damaged nerves....but do nt masturbate.......my fellow guys....we cn do dis...we cnt fight it...its our body...we musnt be self sex slaves....masturbation nd porn ruins life....if u say u have been fappin for years  nd u tink u cnt stp.....yes u  can infact u can earase it frm ur body....just belive in urself
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find an ancor...lyk me my late mum is my anchor...because i dnt wana disapiont her...each time i tink abt masturbation....i always remember dat i dnt wana disapiont her  nd dat gives me control of my body....fappin isnt vud at all....we must eradicate it completely...nd i believe we cn do it....wish u all

gudluck
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Just saying hello. I have been free since my last update. I hardly think about my former habit. Key things I do is find something to do to occupy time and go to sleep when I would normally slip up.

NO PORN
NO MASTURBATION

KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR WILLY unless you p i s s i n g or taking a bathe.

peace lol
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I believe one thing men who struggle trying to quit masturbation-to-porn fail to realize that the desire to do it, the temptation will always exist. It's no different then those who are alcoholics/drug addicts. I know when I would try to quit I would wake up in the morning feeling horny, wanting porn; and I would tell myself, well there's that feeling, I still want it, so I guess I have to do it. I never realized that the desire to do it would always be there if not take a long time to go away. I figured if I wanted to quit or was going to quit the desire to do it should not be there. For years I didn't understand that. So many times after trying to quit I would be at home and the urge to do it would strike me even though I had sworn masturbation-to-porn off a couple of days earlier. I would honestly think to myself, well, I guess I don't really want to quit this addiction cause my brain and body are asking for it again. It's a really twisted train of thought, but it's something that I really did struggle with.

            Guys the temptation will always exist; there is nothing wrong with that. There are scriptures in the bible that read temptation and sin are part of every man, it's the actions of what you do that define you.
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Yes, it will.
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