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Too much porn/masturbation cause ED?
Hi I m a 28 year old and suffer some degree of ED in recent. I start masturbated since I m 19 and usually use porn as a form of visual stimiulation. I have observed that I have lost the ability to maintain erect during intercource or I only get weak erection. My question is: does masturbation in association with porn will "exhaust" my interest towards sex and create a negative impact on my ability to get aroused in real sex? I m worried cause I think I m still young to have physical cause  for ED. Any thought?
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hey thanks for posting again to let me know the discussion is still alive. I have been reading here for  afew days and was thinking about posting and telling my story but wasn't sure if it was still going because no one posted in a while.

I am 37 and have been masturbating to porn since I was in my early 20's on a regular basis. multiple times per day. I was introduced to porn at a very young age. around 3 or 4 even from a neighbor boy and it was something that got my attention. I only got to look at it at friends' houses off and on until in my teens when i would get a hold of magazines and a few videos. then when getting internet is when the addiction really got out of hand. I didn't notice anything wrong until pretty recently. I've never had problems with getting and staying hard and never had problems with a girl until the last girl I was with a few months ago. I just couldn't stay hard. when she used her mouth it was ok but when i tried to enter her it went soft. tried this a few times with her and every time was the same story. I started doing searches if too much porn/masturbation can have an effect like that and I found this forum. so thank you guys for sharing your stories. I am convinced that I found the cause of something that made me really scared because i have never had problems with it until now.

I am on my 5th day now of no porn and no masturbation. soon I will be taking a trip overseas to meet a girl that I met online. we have been talking for a while and she seems really nice. I really wanted to do what I can even for the short time before meeting her. I have not had good morning wood since I stopped the porn and masturbation which i read is normal from articles written by doctors. the first few days were pretty difficult to get past. but I am very strong willed so I refused to do anything because the problem I Have read should only be temporary until the brain gets wired back to normal. not sure how long it will take with me. but today when I was talking with the girl who I will soon meet, we did talk about some naughty things a bit and I got pretty excited. it became rock hard for at least a short time until we changed the topic. after we were finished talking I noticed that my balls were sore. wow. I never thought I would say that I was glad to get blue balls... but this was my first case of it in 16 years or so and it convinced me further that I am doing the right thing by stopping this destructive behavior.

hopefully there will be some positive results to report once I come home from my trip. I know it doesn't happen overnight and I'm not expecting it to. but I am really looking forward to get rid of the cause of the problem and be able to function normally again.

thanks again everyone who has posted. and wish everyone have success in their recovery.
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Hi Sammy I am wondering if you have masturbated at all during your recovery process. If you have, how frequent, etc. I masturbated during my recovery, but I had a plan to eventually stop masturbating after about a month and it worked. Eliminating porn and anything sexual online was the key to my recovery. I just masturbated to anything that popped in my head. After about 30 days, there was no fuel for my brain to masturbate to, so it really lost it's luster. Don't get me wrong, it was very hard not to watch porn, but in some aspects it was easy. And I mean easy to walk away. There was about 10 instances in those first 30 days where I had to walk outside or start doing excersise. But once I walked away, I thought to myself, wow, I can't believe it was that easy to walk away.

          I had a lot of great sex before I became addicted to porn. I then became addicted, lost my erections for about 8 years. But when I completed my full recovery ( about 100 days, 30 days of just masturbating to anything in my head, and 70 days of no masturbation) I was able to get my full erections back. It was like being born again. Research say's that if you had regular normal sex before a porn-induced ED, then you should be able to recovery within 60-90 days. And It was spot on.

        I advise other men on other forums of my recovery process of masturbating to no porn for 30 days, then after 30 days, no masturbation at all. See I must of tried to heal myself about 20 times before I was finally able to do my recovery with the 30 days, then 70 day recovery. Thats why I ask if you have masturbated during your recovery. I will try and be on the board at least twice a week from now on to help encourage all our brothers who battle this. Guys, I battled this addiction for almost 10 years! Before I finally beat it. If you have any questions, feel free to address me on the forum or send me a private message. I would even be willing to speak with you on the phone as I have with other members who seek advice.
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You may be interested to see a website in google under the heading -breath to Orgasm- and in particular read anniesprinkle org website.In fact it is for woman. For man there is another version, we have to look for it. main exercise in this web is squeezing muscle around urethra(kegel) and squeezing  perineum. Read the details in the webpage. you will need to make efforts to learn . If you can control you can increase libido. Do Sat kriya, a simple breathing like panting (breathless type) Find details in Google.Google for groin exercises and you will find many which are really useful.
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If you can control you breath, you can increase you libido. Fast breathing bring you near to orgasm and slow breathing allows you to linger on your sexual activity. There is another powerful exercise, male deer exercise.
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I haven't masturbated once to orgasm since the date shown in my ticker. However, there have been a couple of occasions where I was weak (including today :-( ) and looked at a bit of porn and touched myself to it. Still, I have noticed improvements, and I think it has helped that I have had a regular sexual partner.

I think it's really important that you penis gradually stops getting used to your own touch, and starts getting used to the touch of a woman instead, as well as being inside her. And of course it is important to stop the porn-masturbation association, and watch as little porn, ideally none, for as long as possible...
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havnt been here in a while, because of my mysteriously neuropathy that is affecting sensations in my body. Loss of sensation is still here, very little sensation. I believe there was damage to my nerves near my penis area and elsewhere in body, because of loss of sensations have been persisted since i posted on here. I suspect it could be an autoimmune or some kind of vitamin deficiency, did not have test specifically. Since im on "welfare" getting docs appointment has been a big issue, since my pcp doesnt believe have neuropathy, so her own conclusions is pointing it "all in my head". i went to the specialist on thursday for eye(not my doing), hopefully i can see a neurologist to get to the bottom of this.
I am aware that my symptoms are very similar to diabetic neruopathy, but needs blood tests to be sure. so this neuropathy has affected my orgasm, i can still orgasm and stimulus, but do not get an intense feeling when actually oragasm. I sitll mb,and slipped up several times, so this makes things worst.
it took me months just to get a an appt.

sammywinchester, you seem to be doing great with getting girls to even have sex with you. the best part is to abstain from sex for a month or so, to see where your libido or erections go from there. constant sexual activity also cheapens your sexual experience like it is porn. How often do you have sex  a month?
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I would say these days I am having sex around 10 times a month... I don't think having sex cheapens your sexual experience. On the contrary, I believe having sex "trains" your penis back to normal. It needs to forget the touch of your hand and get used to the feeling of being inside a vagina...
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Hey every one, I haven't posted in such a long while.
It is good to see Sammy my bro fighting the good fight and leading the charge.

Nice to see my fellow brothers waking up to the reality and making the steps to enhance their life.

I have been busy with school.  I have been going on fine for a while now. No form of slipping whatsoever. Going cold turkey works best for me. The last time i went 100 days and I started masturbating without porn and eventually slipped back.  I, from my experience, think masturbating overall should be placed on hold. If one thinks masturbation is ok, then that's fine, but try going without it too, and if you cant, maybe that's another addiction to think about.

I have been feeling more energy and I am more focused again.  I feel positive and clean inside. I am looking forward to going the whole year and see what happens at the end of the year.

I have powerful erections when I am talking to a girl I really like. We were having a discussion without using any dirty words, but the conversation was suggestive. I had some good hard on!! I was surprised!! I haven't felt it so strong in years! Anyway,  I am motivated to continue on this path yet again.

No porn watching for me I haven't even peeked on a video.
No masturbation for me, I think that's a gateway activity that will lead me back to porn, based on my experience, so for me that's a no no.
A girl did send me naked pics of herself, I didn't get any reaction from that.  I deleted them now anyway. I get more excited from a nice conversation.

I haven't kissed a girl in awhile.. much less to have sex.

The journey continues bro! keep it clean, lets all just aim for another 30 days without PMO and  post a celebration article for another mile stone (each time we do). [what you think?]
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I too feel a lot more confident, and I have more energy than when I used to watch porn and masturbate regularly.

I had sex with a new girl last week-end. She was a hot blonde with a great body ! she was a complete nymphomaniac though lol she screamed so hard and was so excited that it actually put me off. It put me off because I don't necessarily want my neighbours to know what I am up to, and also I thought she must be faking it, it didn't sound natural....

and I couldn't keep it up once I entered her ! Needless to say she was disappointed afterwards and she thought I wasn't comfortable wit her. I told her I was but that the condoms were killing any kind of feeling in my penis... which is actually true as well. But I don't think she will want to have sex with me again. I am not even sure I want to, because I have this other girl that I am seeing regularly, who is less hot, but we get on really well and the sex is nice... I would feel kind of guilty seeing another girl regularly... we'll see...

I like your suggestion Jaga, I'll try to do it and keep to it.
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Guys, I need your help. I have been unable to have inter course (thrice) now. I did have erections while I was making out with these bful women but when the time came to go the distance, my erection died down.
I am wondering if there is something wrong with me and I should go to a doctor. I do masturbate frequently (3-4 times a week) and I am wondering if that is part of the problem. I do have erections early morning and so on. Any suggestions would be helpful.
Thanks
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What age are you ? Have you had sex before or were they your first times ? Is this the first time you experience erection problems ? 90% of erection problems are psychological. They are usually caused by stress, performance anxiety, depression...

But there is growing evidence that they can also be caused by viewing too much porn (as it allegedly re-wires the brain) and too much masturbation (training your penis to porn and to react to your hand only, "death-grip", etc...)...

So yeah, I think the fact that masturbating so often might be affecting your libido. Some men watch porn and masturbate all the time, and they have no erection problems. In fact, some men are machines that can have sex 6 or 7 times in an evening, and every time have a rock solid erection and last long. I know that because women that I have slept with have told me that these guys existed. Needless to say I am very, very jealous of them ! no wonder some women prefer dating these guys rather than "normal" people like you and I... anyway, rant over...

Some men DO have erection problems, and in order to regain erections they need to stop viewing porn and masturbating altogether. So give it a go Advait, and tell us how you get on.
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keep the focus keep fighting the urge men.
One more day, one more week.. one more month... soon it will be a year.
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When all this PORN/MB started last year, i was also battling contact dermatitis, that coincidentally appeared at the same time i became aware of my addiction. And having Peripheral neuropathy, that started this januarary hasnt helped my situation. I am capable of getting an erection, and orgasming( the sensation is not very intense, because of the loss of sensations). Ill be seeing neuropthamologist sometime next week, to seek if this is nerve damage due to injury, infection, drugs, or autoimmune disease. My case is truely a neurological now, and it affects my MB/Porn recovery processes.
To let you know what neuropathy is
- i have pins and needles on the left side of my body, and sometimes on the right, but have largely dissapated, but still recur in light amounts. my right side of the body seem to have loss some sensations(feeling your arm and legs move).
-prickling,jabs of pain,tingling, are all part of the neuropathy. On many occasion my penis gets the prickling, stinging, and itchiness, which desensitizes the penis at the same time.

I am aware of diabetes which is the most common cause of neuropathy, also can be the cause of ED, i realize that Diabetes causes ed, by Neuropathy, nerve damage to penis. i will be asking if could be tested for it as well.
-i ALSO am trying to not see my PCP, because she thinks all the problems i am having are in my head(long story how she came to that conclusion.) I will be seeing specialists to see where i can go from here. i wouldve have answers months ago if i had a job and insurance, i am on welfare with california, so appts are slow.
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Hello i have a problem...i have a girlfriend i,m dating with her around 3 months,i didn,t had sex with her yet... but i masturbated 5 times in  last 4 months,but is a problem...we played a lot like a foreplay and saddly i cummed...and she worries if i am the perfect guy for her,she is still a virgin..i am 24
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Hi all,

Just a quick word to let you know that I met a girl just over two weeks ago, and I am absolutely crazy about her. We have started going out and have had sex a few times, in different positions.

I have no problem staying hard (we have been doing it without protection from the get go) the first time we have sex (in an evening), but it gets a little more difficult the second and third time and even the following morning, I guess because we are more tired...

Anyway, I really feel like I am getting better, both physically and psychologically. Having a regular sexual partner really does help, especially when there are feelings involved !

Please wish me luck because I really really want to keep this girl :-D

Take care everyone !
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Ok so I want to try to do a week without any masturbation, but there are a couple problems here.  One I sometimes use masturbation to get to sleep which sometimes helps.  And Two After about 2 or 3 days without doing it which is a long time for me as I usually do it daily everyday between 1-3 times a day My mind starts wondering and thinking about dating and relationships.  I am a mid 20s Loner never dated and have No interest in Ever dating, but when I go days without masturbating like I said my mind wonders and tricks me into thinking I want to date because ive gone days without a release.   After I masturbate and release after 2 or 3 days of Not doing it,  its like wow why was I even thinking about any of that and once again couldnt care less about relationships/dating.  How do I forget about women while doing my week because the longer I go without masturbating the more my mind tricks me and the more I think about relationships, when I Never think about them when doing it daily???
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*Wanders not wonders my bad
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So since June 1, I have been in a constant cycle of PMO. It reached to the point where I spent hours in front the screen, masturbating/stroking/fapping/playing with myself even when I wasn't aroused. I kept pushing my self for days and hours at a time edging. I sunk to a whole new low of the content I was watching... I felt like I gave up on trying to get better and kept giving in to the desires on a whim.

So since yesterday, I started watching the motivational videos I discovered last year and encouraging myself to get through these first few weeks until I break free and quit.

since PMO'ing
I have been going to work late every single day
I literally feel like a zombie, I have no energy when I walking
I have stopped studying and I have an important exam coming up
I feel slouched and weak, I feel crappy at times
I think I make irrational decisions, I spend money on a whim without thinking exactly if it is worth it.
I found that I want to play video games more as well.
I don't feel that passion I was feeling for a woman, I have a numbness
I procrastinate a lot, and feel indifferent towards my friends.
I neglect a lot of my responsibilities and as such limit my own growth potential.

I am making a conscious decision to start a life of no PORN and NO MASTURBATION. I have reached the same conclusion that masturbating adds NOTHING to my life. All it does is waste my precious semen, my life seed, and leaves me with low or no energy. Distracts me from things I should be focusing on. Of course some people my feel that a one wank is healthy. But why do it?? If it ain't with a real partner then it is completely a waste of time. I felt so much better when I was on my streak of a 100 days no PMO. I am sick of this habit that I keep doing, every single time I PMO I feel like I am betraying humanity.

I was feeling really bad to post on the forum because of the joy I felt when i was off this self inflicted abuse. Now, I am ready to be open again, I realize reading about this entire ordeal over and over and being knowledgeable gives me the motivation I need. So, here I am step 1, day 1.
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by the way, my **** smells bad, and my fingers are wrinkly and has small bumps on it because I have sensitive skin. The constant lubrication has irritated it.
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I am really sorry to hear about your illness bro. I am happy though, that you discovered what the ailments are, I hope that something will work out for you to get the treatment that you need.
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ok so the the statement that was censored is... "my d-i-c-k (penis) smells bad'

any one wants to see benefits of not masturbating can check out the link below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IsAQeSDjJjk
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hy u all....i rili love d advice u guys ar sharin...i rili hope ull all help me....m patrick frm nigeria...m 17yrs...i stratd watchin porn frm 12yrs nd statd fapping wit porn at 16.....and in a week i fappd up to ten rimes....untill dis yr wen i realise dat it cuf cos ed nd pme.....so i decided to stp..but i stp masturbation fr 3 weeks afta dat i cud do it for lyk trice a wik..wit porn....each nite i do view porn pics....buh most times i dnt fap wig it even though i have an erection.......am scard nw...i wanna stp madturbation and porn completely....buh am scard tinkin dat am too late

...pls advice me......i have a gf...each time wwe kisf or romance...i rilli get in d mood..i have strng erection...buh am scared of makin luv to her i tink i wont last three mins......buh wen i stp fapin afta thre wik.....before i last 2mins before i ***....buh afta three wik...i fappd nd last 9 mins  i tried again buh i still went back to lastin 3 mins.......pls helpe i wanna stp completely.....
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Hi its been a while. And i havnt found any answers. After the neurologists(it was just a regular one, not a special eye neurologist), She dint seem to think my issues was neurological, because the way i describe the symptoms. Now ive have been taken a step backwards, because all i got was another Specialist with an ENT, which wouldnt help because my issues have been neuropathy based. The loss of sensation made me wonder if it was something happened in my brain, where it processes the sensations. Im getting the run around. I have been to other forums, and it turns out neuropathy is very hard to pinpoint, especially the cause, because if a doctor does not see it, or have results on a tests, it doesnt exist to them, and they start saying its in your head. After the neuro appt, i get the feeling i will not be able to get an MRI,CAT,PET scan or see anothe neurologist again, based on the lack of findings on this one. I tried explaining the inability to feel anything slide down my throat, as asymptom but it dint not faze them at all. They tried to pushed more blood tests, but i dint not bother giving blood, because i do not even have symptoms of those things on the blood test.
and this PN has affected my orgasms, even when i masturbate, no intense feeling, just no sensation when it comes out. looks like its going im going to get a run around, from a socialized health care system. All they are capable is very common illnesses and not something that is hard to diagnose like Peripheral neuropathy. Unless i get a rheumatologist or a mri scan, theres very little to go on at this point.
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Since you are this young and started fapping for only 5 years, which is already a long time. if you are getting an erection with your gf, its likely you dont have ED. You may have very minor ED. You defintely should stop watching porn and masturbating, if your thinking about having sex with your gf. I dont know how young your gf is,but dont think about sex until she is ready. You can masturbate, but not to porn, you can do it to your gf. Some of use have been masturbating 8+ years and already have severe ed issues, and other mental issues.
if she is ready and you can get a strong erection, you can make love. Its usually soft erection that doesnt last long that is the issue.
Once people starts masturbating, theres no way to stop unless you are getting satisfied by a sexual partner.
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nt 5years...i startd last just year.....my gf is 19 nd m 17………buh am scard of makin luv to her...i have this feelins dat i wont last up to 3mins……………u guys should eat lots of garlic....i heard it increases libido............also try gettin erection.....so dat blood willl flow to d penis.....it will help in healing the damaged nerves....but do nt masturbate.......my fellow guys....we cn do dis...we cnt fight it...its our body...we musnt be self sex slaves....masturbation nd porn ruins life....if u say u have been fappin for years  nd u tink u cnt stp.....yes u  can infact u can earase it frm ur body....just belive in urself
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find an ancor...lyk me my late mum is my anchor...because i dnt wana disapiont her...each time i tink abt masturbation....i always remember dat i dnt wana disapiont her  nd dat gives me control of my body....fappin isnt vud at all....we must eradicate it completely...nd i believe we cn do it....wish u all

gudluck
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Just saying hello. I have been free since my last update. I hardly think about my former habit. Key things I do is find something to do to occupy time and go to sleep when I would normally slip up.

NO PORN
NO MASTURBATION

KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR WILLY unless you p i s s i n g or taking a bathe.

peace lol
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I believe one thing men who struggle trying to quit masturbation-to-porn fail to realize that the desire to do it, the temptation will always exist. It's no different then those who are alcoholics/drug addicts. I know when I would try to quit I would wake up in the morning feeling horny, wanting porn; and I would tell myself, well there's that feeling, I still want it, so I guess I have to do it. I never realized that the desire to do it would always be there if not take a long time to go away. I figured if I wanted to quit or was going to quit the desire to do it should not be there. For years I didn't understand that. So many times after trying to quit I would be at home and the urge to do it would strike me even though I had sworn masturbation-to-porn off a couple of days earlier. I would honestly think to myself, well, I guess I don't really want to quit this addiction cause my brain and body are asking for it again. It's a really twisted train of thought, but it's something that I really did struggle with.

            Guys the temptation will always exist; there is nothing wrong with that. There are scriptures in the bible that read temptation and sin are part of every man, it's the actions of what you do that define you.
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Yes, it will.
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I have not posted in quite a while and I wanted to let you guys  know where I am in life.

I have NOT relapsed I still avoid porn like it is poison.  Occasionally I accidentally get exposed to some and for a brief moment I feel the chemicals in my mind raging before I remove myself from the exposure.

My Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction is completely gone and I am now able to enjoy the presence of a woman like a man with a non compromised by porn mind. Its like night and day and I am so glad that I found the resources and support online to assist me in my recovery.  

For those of you who are deep in the throws of battle with porn, its truly mind over matter.  I've dated a few women here and there and have not experienced any erection problems what's really funny is a had a woman over my place a few months ago and we were messing around.  We didn't have sex but at one time she ask my why my penis was super hard and took a while to go down.  I was so damn proud of myself to be 48 years old and have a raging erection.

Work and school have kept me busy its important to find something to do with your spare time.  I hope to find a woman one of these days and start an relationship and catch up on some lost shagging time.   8)

As always I am here for advice, a sounding board etc.  Don't hesitate to reach out.
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nice to see you back, its hard when you got porn now readily available, then ever. At first it was computers, now people have it on thier smartphones and touchpads.
I know how people were concerned about Diabetes or neurological induced, but in fact was suffering from porn and Masturbation ed.
For some like me, over this year(7months), i developed peripheral neuropathy, now i suspect autonomic(mild) neuropathy as well, which is known to cause ED combined with my addiction to porn/mb it has made it hard to know if im recovering or not. I must note that stopping frequent mb/porn does help. ED induced by diabetes is caused by Autonomic neuropathy, over the 7 months i realised the diabetes that induced ED has a name. of course neuropathy affects othe rparts of your body as well.
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Hey there!!!!

In our current society and state of technology its even more difficult to avoid porn because it is accessible everywhere!!!  
Even watching television can be a toss random trigger your way.  I've seen women making out on reality shows which in some cases can be like lighting stick of dynamite.  
Kicking porn/mb should help reduce the impact of your medical conditions causing ED.  

Keep up the fight!!!
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with the advent of mobile devices, like smartphones and touchscreens, its extremely accessible.
My neuropathy, combined with my dermatitis issue hit my like a ton of bricks last year and this year. And this actually prevents me from joining the "services", now that i have documented medical issues.
I had been searching for since feb several specialist, in my welfare system, and i am convinced these last 2"neurologists" were not interested in my symptoms, but are trying to point like i have a mental problem instead. They blatantly ignored my fingertips "altered sensations,a nd my loss of smell. I dont think i will be offered anymore tests or doctors, because of my mysterious "neuropathy"

NEUROPATHy still affects my penis, by making it itchy to the point of desensitization.
When i started out last year, of porn/mb my dermatitis wasnt severe enough to affect ED. i do finding porn /mb, when stopping it helps with ed.

I also realized that neuorpathy is extremely hard to diagnose( a possible cause), because it can be caused by various diseases, injuries diabetes, also most of them.
Just giving experience from someone who has Peripheraly neuropathy, and ED, porn/mb.
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Hi guys,

truly glad I found this forum and find out that I'm not alone. I've been dealing with the bad side of this addiction for a while. Like most of you here I used to get proper erections in my  18's, but for the last five years I've been deep in to the web porn, although I had few girls through that period I noticed that I started having difficulties. The most common scenario is I'm all hard during the foreplay, but once I need get down to business It becomes softer and I cannot go on. It happened at least few times and its becoming really frustrating. The worst thing is that I'm afraid that it will happen again. I
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Guys i have a problem...recently i stopped masturbation...last time i masturbated it was 3 of october....but yesterday i tried to have sex with my girlfriend...it was terible...when we played everything was fine...but when i wanted to get inside her...i cummed and that happened 3 times...and we want to try again on thursday
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I have regressed and been on and off the porn/mb loop for weeks.

Currently I feel like I have no energy, I feel like crap, getting sick frequently and taking long to recover. I have lost my focus for work and school, I am actually getting poor grades now, people keep saying I look sad (when I am not actively talking to any one and putting on a conscious smile). I remember when I went 100 days without porn/mb I had so much energy my mind was clear, my thoughts were positive. I felt I was going somewhere in life. Now I feel like I am in a mental cage, with thoughts of giving up, my mind feels clouded, I can hardly concentrate for long periods, I am restless, and I did mention I get sick frequently as if my body is tired and cant fight off common viruses as it used to. make matters worst.. now I find I am searching for smut I wouldn't normally watch, as if what I need to shock me for that boost of dopamine has gotten worst depraved.

It is around last year this time, I discovered the information of porn addiction and ED. I am trying to get back on that winning streak again, so that's my aim now as it relates to this fight. I was feeling really down by myself, I know I should come here for support but I was reluctant. I know I do not want to keep doing this cycle. I need to stop and break free. Why do I keep giving in to the feeling? I have so much access to materials that clearly explain. Am I weak mentally?

Pray for me,
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Jaga, I sent you a private message, please read it. Thanks, Dan.
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message acknowledged Dan. no prob?


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I was reading my old post and realize how much happier I was when I wasn't PMO'ing. I am open to contact for talking via email or instant messaging, send me a private message, for support and encouragement.
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please have been masturbating to porn for about 5 or 4yrs now without knowing d consequences. just saw it as a way to relieve sexual energy. 15th of October 2015 I masturbated to a movie Spartacus after dat day I felt d guilt and decided to stop...  what scares me now is since that day till now have not had morning erections,spontaneous erections, my **** is dead and shrinks .... please help m so scared
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You are going through a flat line period. It will pass, it is important that you do not try to "test" your penis.  I went through it I called the stage Zombie D*!k because that is just what it felt like, completely lifeless.  
You'll be fine & stay strong!!!
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It's been 5 days since I quit porn and masturbation. What motivated me to do this was an erectile dysfunction incident 6 days ago when I was in the act of making love to a beautiful girl. I have never been more embarrassed in my life.
As soon as I got home I went online looking for the reasons behind my problem, maybe some answers. I came upon this page and I have been reading all of the posts on this thread. I want you to know -any of you who have posted here before me- that I deeply appreciate the sharing of your experiences and understanding about this addiction.
Right now I'm experiencing a great deal of anxiety and edginess. My body misses my 16-year-formed habit. I do feel the 'cold, shrunken penis' other people have talked about.
Yesterday was a little bit more bearable than the other days because I experienced some success at work; which must have given me the dopamine 'hit' I used to get from masturbation. Today though, I'm back to feeling anxious and short of breath. I want a better life than this, I won't relapse; I can't.
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Been a while since I posted here. Nice to see some familiar faces (GhostDog)

It's been some years with periods where I didn't think about PMO for months and periods when I relapsed even more times-a-day.

Coming from the latter period now. 5 days in.

No morning erections.
During sex I get a semi-erection with condom.
I can't finish if I am not helping myself sometimes.
I get spontaneous erections from time to time.
If I don't have any manual stimulus I can't stay hard for long.

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Welcome back!!!!
I'm here lurking in the shadows.  Its time for you to get it back in gear and let PMO go.
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I havnt been on here a while as well, as im fighting contact dermatitis(which is chronic and affect my skin, which inlcudes penis, it becomes itchy and causes me to scratch it. i must admit staying away porn was harder than one believes, it makes sense if one is exposed to it for years.

I also believe. now my neuropathy, through my own research, no useless doctor, is caused by spinal issues(disc herniations, scoliosis, disk bulging, stenosis,,,etc) and at 28 right now. as you know neuropathy affects sensations, and that is a big problem if you have porn-ed as well.
i also am amazed that its been 1.5 years(starting on here in june14 since i saw this post to ask for help, and still trying to recover from it. I have several months of no-porn, but with mb, from oct14 to around march. but infrequently slid and watched porn. I now know how aggressive porn-mb addiction, on your mobile device, sadly i was using this around fall last year. Even though its very limited, and slow when comparing to computer search, because of its portability it has become addicting. without a sexual partner, tis hard to overcome an addiction,especially if you have NEUROPATHY.
@over and over, your PORN-md seems to be , mild, use your gf to do some manual stimulation, this sets your brain to not use your hands. from what ive been reading right online premature ejactulation, can be mitigated with some techniques.

@pfaith-how old are you, if your around 16, your recovery will be easier, since you havnt done porn-mb for long. by the way erectile dysfunction, means inability to get erection despite stimulation. ED from porn-mb is highly recoverable, but hard to get out of addiction. ED from diseases like PERIPHERAL AND AUTONOMIC NEUROPATHY, diabetes, or diseases that affect erections is much harder to overcome and requires doctor visit and testing.


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I have the same problem like "over and over", im 18, i masturbated with a technique called edging, when i was about to reach the orgasm i stopped, and now i cant get a full erection or last longer.
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18!!!! Whew I barely remember those days but they were great I'm sure.

The good news is that if you stop edging and stop all contact with porn (visual, mental, audio, reading, fantasy etc.) you will get better.   You are the solution to your problem.  
We are STRONGER than porn.
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I'm 30 days in already. No notable changes. No morning wood. No spontaneous erection. I noticed getting moody and a lacking sleep a lot. I don't feel the urge of watching P or M. I think I'm in the flatline since I started. I have less problems getting an erection when touching, but no major changes.

I O 4 times. 3 times with my girlfriend and 1 time "with" her doing stuff on Skype (long distance *****). No vaginal sex for now, so I can't say if my ED is cured. Erections are stronger than before, but they don't last long. I also don't get hard easily from kissing or cuddling.

Only 30 days in. Let's do another 30.
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One day at at time.  Being moody and lacking sleep is part of the withdrawal process.  Fight the urge to "test" your penis.  Stay away from porn and you will see a big difference.
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Nice to see you here.

2 months have passed since the reset. I am able to have normal sex and I get an erection only from touching or making out, sometimes even by thought.

No morning wood or random erections. I viewed P twice and M like 5 times (including fooling around with my girflriend)

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Yeah so I have this same issue. I'm 17 but the thing is I'm physically active everyday. I'm healthy and in shape, I drink lots of water everyday and I eat really good. I did use to watch porn everyday and I masturbated at least 2 times a day. Its been 2 weeks without watching porn. Just the other day I was gonna have intercorse with this girl and I had the same problem, I couldn't get up . When I finally did get up it was kinda of a weak erection, I was dissapointed because I'm pretty big and I'm capable beating the p up . What should I do ?
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yes it will.  The stimulation you now seek is porn. we dont obviously make love this way. and the women are gorgeous and the men are long, whatever So subcontiously you try to relate to sex in this way. Its all in ur head. Stop with the porn and FEEL with ur Heart. Its a mindset.....
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I went off porn for a couple of weeks but then on and off in the last month.
I get morning erections and I can have an erection easily without watching porn.

I am even hard with my GF when we start fooling around.  But as soon as it starts with actual intercourse I lose the erection!

I am REALLY getting frustrated and I am guessing this is causing more anxiety for the next time as well...

What can it be???
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hi i slipped, again. i dint realize that this site tribe.net had pictures(aka pornographic imagry) and i went to this instead of video site. After scrolling and clicking i jumped into an area of the site where no one should even go(illegal imagry,hint). This made me so disgusted i left, its a wake up call i need stop this porn/masturbation. Its porn addiction that makes you want to escalate that will et you in trouble. AND still have solved my erection problems. this site has been reported by thier were little action against it.
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havnt solved my ed troubles
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I never went into as deep as that illegal images, but theres is alot of insinuations, in the comments and pictures. and i found out that the site does house illegal pictures.
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Wow, I am so glad I found this thread... If only I had found it years ago! Thanks to everyone for sharing your story and experience. I in turn will share mine...

I'm 27 years old. I haven't had a proper girlfriend in about 4 years. The last one, we were at it like rabbits and after dating for a while I was having to fantasize during to make it exciting and keep going/reach climax. I stopped being able to maintain erections and this caused me a lot of embarrassment, frustration and anxiety.

I put it down to being overweight, or depression which started due to some other triggers in my life. I have since overcome the depression and am pretty happy with life, but the problem remains and is one area of life I'm obviously not happy with. I also strongly believed it was psychological and caused by performance anxiety; "I'm worried it will happen or expecting it will happen, so it happens."

In the 4 years since the relationship ended I maintained the frequency of release by pmo, normally once or sometimes twice a day. I would occasionally go a day or two without, but it was something that I just generally did, even if I wasn't in the mood I would stick on some porn and get in the mood. I would infrequently get morning wood, but never got random erections, and would generally only get and stay hard by my own hand, and go soft again as soon as I had ejaculated.

I've had a handful of experiences with girls during this time, and sadly only 1 of them went without any problems. A girl I've got with a few times doesn't seem to mind and is good at helping, but it doesn't stop the frustration and embarrassment. The anxiety and fear of knowing I will fail to perform stops me from even trying with girls anymore.

Last night I found this page, read a bunch of posts, and instantly deleted my list of links to re-watchable videos. (Normally I needed fresh material each time, and was needing more unusual categories, but there were a few I found which I felt I would go back to.)

Just knowing what the problem is is such a relief and so empowering to know I can fix what has been broken for so long. I feel that with knowing this and my determination to get over the problem, I shouldn't have any problem abstaining. (We'll see if I'm still saying that next week!)

I think part of it was also in my head, and feeling the relief and confidence for the future already seems to have had a positive effect as I got a random erection earlier this evening which persisted for a good few minutes without any stimulation!

I'm looking forward to the journey and getting back to normal. Thank you all, and good luck to all in the same position!
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Well abstaining is harder than I thought...I lasted 48 hours.

I was doing ok, managing to change my train of thought whenever I felt myself pulled toward fantasizing or looking up some porn. But then I heard from an old lady friend (actually the mother of someone who was in my year at school, who could resist?!) who I used to have some fun with about 7 years ago. The conversation turned to old times and before I knew it I found myself looking at the pics she sent me in the past and I just couldn't stop myself.

I guess I might have more of a problem with self control than I thought. At least I didn't break a big streak, I can start again, and hopefully be more successful now that I have gotten that out of my system.
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Hey Choking_Chicken,

You might want to try support groups as well. This is a difficult battle to face alone.

There are several groups like Sexaholics Anonymous who have helped men with their addiction.

They would be a great group and resource to get in contact with. There should be one in your local town or city.
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Did stopping P and M cure your ED?

Currently struggling.
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I don't know yet, I've not managed to stop, I keep thinking "once more won't hurt" so I'm still where I was last month! :(
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Hey guys.

Please forgive my poor English and manner of writing.

It's been a while and this thread has been quite. Last post was July 26. I hope guys still come here to view and reset counters.

I have been trying to stop masturbating to porn for some times now, but the longest I have gone was 5 weeks. But, whenever I relapse, I reset my counter and try again. This method have helped me to reduce my exposure and remind me that it is a struggle and I have to keep fighting.

I have had a girlfriend for about a year now. My erection was terrible when we met, but she was understanding. Sometimes, I use performance enhancement drugs (L'arginine and L'citrilline has been helpful too, although I try not be over reliant on them) and always remind her that I will get better even if I don't know when. I have been keeping fit, improved my diet, sleep well.

Recently, I mistaking stumble on a pegym forum when I was doing some research on L'arginine vs L'citrilline, I decide to look deeper into the forum and I discovered some amazing tips (be careful when you look around the forum).
After I did some readings, I decided to experiment with one of the PE exercises (kegeling), although I have read about it some years back, but I was not interested because I thought it is not relevant to my ed problem (my regret), I was dead wrong!.

Just 3 days of doing the kegel excercise, I noticed a significant improvement that I could not have imagined. It does not only improves your erection quality, but it also helped with premature ejaculation.
Due to the benefit of kegel, I decided to try other PE exercises. Although I was a bit skeptical about trying out others because of the caveat that was included, but I eventually included basic stretching and jelqing. I was like, wow! After just one week, It feels like I was on performance drugs.

I can't say that I'm 100% recovered, but the improvement has been massive and unexpected. I have never had this sort of confidence for decades, expect when I'm on one of those drugs. My erection quality has improved. I can stay far more longer and I can feel blood freely flowing to my penis. Let me also add that, you can experience size increase, if you're diligent and dedicated for over a long period.

Finally, sex last night with my girlfriends was awesome. Awesome without using any drug. Is that not an amazing feelings?

Understand that, I don't know if this will work for everyone, but it's not a bad idea to try it out.

I hope this will be helpful and not just long and boring
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