hi im 16 and i use to masturbate a lot to porn and till i saw this forum now i only masturbate to porn once a week will i still get porn ed if masturbate once a week to porn i am worried i don't want to get porn ed.any response would be appreciated thank you

I have my reasons why I think porn is bad for you from a spiritual perspective, but I will share with you what we know from behavior science and psychology.  Any behavior that is repeated on a periodic basis becomes a habit.  After a while, it becomes a learned response.  So, if you practice sex with porn only, even if it is just once a week for 52 weeks, you will eventually establish a habit and will exclusively only respond sexually to porn.  Anyone on this forum will tell you, porn is a poor substitute for real sex.  You're young, don't work at learning a lifetime habit that you will wish you could break later.  Do yourself a favor and avoid masturbating to porn.

I'm on day 76 of my escape from porn.  14 days away from ninety.  Couple days back I woke up with morning wood, I have not had that in YEARS!  Today is a bit challenging because I saw a woman today whose top was struggling to keep her breasts contained!  I didn't go looking for this, she just popped out of her car, literally!  So, I have been fighting to keep my mind in check since that.  Going for a long, long walk now and some meditation on the good book. I'm not going to let this thing beat me, ever again.  I'm too close to freedom to look back now.

Stay pure, brothers.

What is PMO and why is everyone so mad at porn and masturbation?  Personally I love it and have no reason to stop haha.  I guess if you want a relationship and masturbate a lot it Could be a problem, so guess that's why I don't understand why everyone here is so mad at masturbation and porn, because I have no interest in ever having a relationship. Is it really that frustrating for some of you??

I guess I just don't get this crusade going on in here to stop wanking.  Masturbation is normal and the only time its a problem no matter how much you do it, would be while in a relationship and not having sex with a partner.  If you don't have a relationship, really doesn't matter how much you wank.  

correction...

How is your sex life? GREAT
Is it great?---YES
Do you ever go down during sex? NO
Do you always get a hard on with a female when it is time to? YES
Do you always feel great stimulation from the vagina during sex? YES
Do you get great erections just by staring at a woman? YES

If the answers to those questions are the same as above, then this forum does not pertain you.

I don't have a sex life and not interested in one either, but what do those questions have to do with what I asked??  

these are some of the symptoms people on this forum are going thru from masturbating/watching porn too much. It is connected. It may be fine for you now but the habit will eventually catch up. It's like smoking cigarettes, no cancer now but cancer later once it fully hits you.

Since, you have no sexual life right now it is hard for you to relate to what some of us is going thru. How old are you? Try hooking up with a girl and see how well it goes since you admit you masturbate/watch porn all the time and can still have great sex with a female.

I hope the answers love_a_challenge gave you were helpful to you game. He hit the nail on the head. You're right, masturbation is a natural and healthy way to handle your sexual urge.  It's only a problem IF you HAVE to masturbate. It's the same as people that HAVE to overeat, or HAVE to smoke.  The urge has you, you're addicted.  You no longer control it, it OWNS you.  

Why are you not in a relationship? Have you or are you uncomfortable dealing with people you're attracted to?  Read some more older posts.  You might find something in common with others who walked the same road you're on.

I'm mid 20s and no thanks don't care to hook up with anyone.  And nothing wrong with wanking all the time unless you want to get out and meet women, but can't for some reason, than it would be a good idea to just relax and go out and talk to some chicks.  

I'm not in a relationship because I like being alone.  No haven't really been interested in anyone since high school so nothing to do with being uncomfortable although I don't like being around people much cuz people are snakes and cowards.  

you said "And nothing wrong with wanking all the time unless you want to get out and meet women,"


You are right, nothing wrong with wanking.... But what I'm trying to explain to you is that whenever you are ready to start meeting women, dating, etc. when the time comes to have sex you may not be prepared mentally and that is from all the excessive masturbating/watching porn you have been doing over the period of time.

I have no interest in ever dating, wanking works for me cuz I like being alone.    I can see  where it could possibly  be a problem though if you wanted to date.  Because over wanking does sometimes mess up your erections.

Here's a really good blog on rewiring your brain [warning: it is a very christian perspective]

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But can I still masturbate

I would say if you are having trouble getting aroused when with women  see a doctor to get checked for Low Testosterone or maybe you are just nervous and anxious which can cause erection problems when in those nervous situations.

Well they were real suggestions of what it could be so no not a troll.   Sounds like a lot of people here are virgins so the nervous and anxiety suggestion could be true for some of them.  And older men experience drops in testosterone because of age so getting checked for Low testosterone could help.   I also said if you masturbate daily or more then daily it can effect erections, but stopping for a few days  before sex would solve that.    So just because you don't like what I say doesn't mean I'm a troll or aren't real suggestions

If you don't like my suggestions fine don't listen, but don't try to hinder other people's chances at figuring out why

I am 39 years old, have been a chronic MB since the 8th grade. Through high school, college, all of my 20's I MB. I MB to porn I rented, magazines, being turned on by women on TV, stories of friends getting laid. Lost my virginity at 21, had sex with casual GF's, a 1 night stand every once in a while. When I had the money, had escorts. Made it to the brothels in Amsterdam and Mexico. I never had a problem with erections. In fact I am pretty well endowed. I must of had 5 women in my early 20's tell me, wow your big. And when escorts tell you your well endowed, your are well endowed. I NEVER HAD A PROBLEM GETTING ERECTIONS. Then came 2004.

              In 2004 I got my own place after years of roommates. I installed broadband internet. It must of been a week or two after that I started MB to porn I could find online. This was spring 2004 and the porn available online was maybe 15-20% of what's available now. That spring I also joined a swingers site( it's a big thing here in the Dallas area). I emailed a couple with a very good looking wife. We met for drinks, chatted went to a hotel. I got semi hard, and then nothing. I won't go into details about the night, but it didn't go well. I blamed it on nerves, cause the husband told me I was nervous. For the next couple of years, same thing would happen over and over again, semi erections, sometimes ok erections that would not last 5-10 minutes. Again, I blamed nerves. Starting dating a girl in summer 2005, first GF in 2 years. The sex was ok, as I could stay somewhat hard, but I knew it was not the erection of 2-5 years ago. I just figured it was a combination of nerves/anxiety.

           This went on for years. In 2008 started dating another girl, complete good looking sexual freak. We would go to swingers parties/clubs, had some 3somes. My erections were average to non existent. A lot of the times I would jerk myself to get an erection, have sex for 5 minutes, then have to stop. I must have been with 40 great looking women in the years from 2008-2011. I don't remember any of those episodes being great, just ok. cause my lack of erections.

           I don't recall exactly how, but I came across an article that mentioned MB to porn constantly will induce a form of erectile failure. BINGO. I had no idea from the time I started MB to online porn in early 2004 it would and had been the cause of my ED.

           My addiction was horrid. As bad as any member on this forum. From 1 hour a day during workdays to 8 hour binges on the weekends. This went on from 2004 to 2012. When I had the GF in 2008, we would make plans to go to a swingers party on Saturday night, where I knew I would be having sex with a number of very good looking women; But I still would MB to porn at my place until I had to leave to pick up my GF to go to the party. It was addiction. I can only relate it to the sad stories of heroin and other substance abuse addicts who's lives are consumed and destroyed by the drug. I often told myself that if MB to online porn was a drug, I would have been dead a long time ago.  

          Let me tell you a quick story of how MB to online porn is a mental dynamic. In 2011 I was dating a girl, sweet girl. Went to Vegas, etc. Put a lot into the relationship. I strayed from the relationship with another girl. Me and the other girl met at a hotel. She invited her friend for a 3some. We are in the room drinking and I called my GF to tell her see you tomorrow. I put my phone down on the counter next to the the phone of the girl I was cheating with. The phone rang and the girl picked up my phone thinking it was her phone. The other girl coming for the 3some was in the parking lot and was going to call for the room number. So the girl answers my phone by mistake and say's "we are in room 209, come on up we are already drinking". She quickly realized what happened, as did I. I won't go into detail as to what happened the next hour of talking with my GF. It's pointless. But after an hour of sitting in my car and talking with what was my GF, the other girl texted me saying are you going to come back up, we are here drinking. I said F-IT, I'm already here, my gf is likely going to break up with me, let me go up and have some fun. What do I have to lose now.

            So I go up there and within 20 minutes we are all naked going at it.  
One of the girls began to jerk me, go down on me, FULL ERECTION! I have not had a full erection like that in 7 years, it was just amazing. Now keep in mind, my MB to porn habit the previous week was the same as it was the past 7 years. MB to porn every day. I easily penetrated both girls, no problem. They both got on top, no problem( for some reason when I would jerk myself to get hard during sex, if a woman rode me, I would not stay hard). I had sex like a porn star. Went at it for 2 hours. BUT WHY?

          Well, the emotional hardship of cheating on my GF and all the drama that went on for that hour after she found out, created a mental block
that for one reason or another, made my mind forget that I had porn induced ED. STRANGEST FREAKING THING EVER.

         I left the hotel that night thinking, where did those erections come from. That is when I beagn to do research that led me to find out that MB to online porn cause ED.

        In the past year and a half I have tried to quit MB to porn. I failed each time. 8 days was the longest without MB. The longest to MB to porn was 30 days. My addiction was so bad it really left me with 2 options. The first was to get inpatient help. I spoke with a specialist over the phone. They had a facility set up for me to check myself into. They would take care of all my work stuff, as far as calling human resources and making sure my insurance covered it. It was a very big step. I would have to disappear from work, family and friends, for 7-30 days, depending on what the Psychiatrist thought was the best treatment for me. I told them, I'm have a 1 more thing I would like to try to beat it on my own, if it does not work, I will check in to the facility the next day if it does not work.

                On January 1st, 2013, I made a commitment to myself to quit MB to porn, swinger site pictures, etc. But I did not stop MB. I wanted to try just to quit MB to all the porn images. But I knew I would still have the urge to MB. This was just my attempt at beating the addiction.

                The first couple of weeks was ridiculous. MB sometimes 8 times a day. But after 2 weeks something happened. My mind ran out of gas MB to just anything that popped in my head. There was nothing to motivate my mind to MB to, but my body still wanted it. It was pretty strange. After 30 days, I had no sexual desire, but would still MB cause I know I needed the pleasure of MB even though it was not very pleasure able. It's April 6th, 2013. I have not looked at porn this year, images, etc. I don't go looking for it. Like any addict, or like anything else in life nothing is certain. But it's been 90 days of no porn or anything porn related online.

           I began to get morning wood after about 20 days. And get it a few times a week. I have had sex with good results, but I can see my erections improving. And they are 60-70% better then they were during my MB to prn days. I still MB, in the shower, in my bed at night. Like a regular guy.

well you def living an interesting life. lol. I appreciated reading your story and I'm glad you are having better erections from not watching porn (but still masturbating)

No need to get all defensive  and overly sensitive kid, just suggestions settle down.  

Day 125 no Porn / Day 28 no Masturbation / Day 21 no Orgasm

So still in a massive flat line & still have bad ED. Can get hard from gentle stroking or oral but do not get an erection yet when making out with girls or just the anticipation of sex, my goal is to be able to get an erection just from gentle touch, kissing, cuddling etc. Basically be hard before sex and stay hard throughout foreplay/sex

So thats pretty much were i am after 4 months no porn. Kind of discouraging for new people reading it but it is a harsh reality some of us need to face, You may need longer then 90 days if your young + ED.

More positively 4 months ago i could only get an 80% erection when watching porn, now i get 100% hard without porn from stimulation so its getting there.

Likely will need another 4-6 months i think for my sex drive and arousal with women to return.

Reboot & Rewire.

You are making good progress and you are well on the road to a recovery.

If you stop masturbating it will speed your journey.  If you stick to your reboot you will reach the point where you can Get hard before sex, while kissing and messing around.  

Forget about 90 days it takes as long as it takes.  Each mans walk is going to be different so don't get caught up counting days.

Stay Strong

80 days no porn!  Had sex last night with my spouse and wow!  It wasn't perfect, erections still coming and going throughout the act, but I got to 100% and held it for the first 20 minutes (we go a long time, y'all).  We got interrupted at one point and had to take a break for 30 minutes, but  resumed later and I got back hard!  Didn't last as long the second time and it was about 60-80%.  We kept going even after I went semi-flacid doing it while laying on our sides and then it happened, the Big O!  Haven't had one of those during intercourse in months.  And they've been sporadic for a long time.

I've been working on rebuilding intimacy with my spouse, talking truthfully about my addiction, how my days are going, days when I feel the most tempted to go back and why, things I am doing to avoid falling to temptation, etc.  Also, I had the idea that doing something romantic every day with my wife would help with my reboot, as well as, improve intimacy.  So, every night before we go to bed, I put on a slow song and we dance in our bedroom.  Nothing fancy, we just hold each other close and sway to the music.  One song.  When it is done, I kiss her softly and say, "Goodnight my love".  We lay down and go to sleep.  That's it and it is working.  Lately, every time we start dancing, I salute!  She smiles and says, "You're poking me..."

Haven't had morning wood since the last time I posted about it, but I feel the progress.  The temptation to do porn is almost all gone.  Still working on the masturbation side.  I have not gone 8 days yet without relapsing.  Hopefully, that will come, too (Ha, no pun intended).

Stay pure brothers.

Hey bionco,
If you have the self control to only masturbate when you just can't stand it any longer, then yes go ahead.  You should practice the art of self control, so that YOU know that you're in control and not addicted to it.

If you feel a strong temptation to do porn, that is a good time to masturbate, instead.  Use it as you're escape hatch, but try to keep it from becoming a habit.  That way, when the time comes for you to be in a committed relationship and express love through sex, you will be 100% there!

Hello All,

Great forum!  Thank you everyone for sharing!  It really is a big help to know we are not alone.

My story:  I'm 35 years old, physically fit, outgoing and confident.  Since my mid-20's I've always had an active sex life with girlfriends or with casual relationships.  Getting and maintaining an erection was NEVER an issue.  My sex drive and libido were high and healthy.  Erections came easily and often.

My porn viewing and masturbation habits averaged roughly 4-5 times per week for about 10 years.  My porn of choice wasn't extreme hardcore, it was mostly pics and short video clips of Asian and Latina girls in guy-on-girl sex scenarios.  Though, over the last year my usage has increased in terms of frequency, but not in terms of severity of material.  I attribute this increase in porn use to having too much free time.  About a year ago I finished graduate school and I'm still unemployed and looking for a job.  This left me with lots of extra time to masturbate with porn 10+ times per week.

The first time I could not get a full erection for sex was about 15-months ago.  I had split up with my girlfriend a month prior -- we always had frequent and passionate sex without a condom with no ED, ever -- and was about to have sex with very beautiful classmate from graduate school.  We had sex with a condom, but for the first time in my life I did not have a full erection and the sex was lackluster.  We both agreed the diminished erection -- about 70% -- was due to confusion and mild stress from my recent breakup.

A few months later, my ex and I got back together and sex -- always without a condom -- was great again.  We dated on-and-off for another 8-months.  During this time I did have condom sex with 2 other attractive girls with no problem whatsoever.  

We broke up which seems for the final time in November.  Since then I have been masturbating to porn an average of 2-times a day.  I've had several sexual experiences since the breakup with mostly poor results and weak erections.

One night in December at a Christmas party I went home with a girl I met thorough a friend-of-a-friend.  She was attractive but below what I am accustomed to.  She gave me oral and I only got about 60% erect.  Then, when I tried to put a condom on, my penis went completely lifeless.  10% at best.  She felt bad and asked, "Is it me?"  I was a little embarrassed but played it off like I had too much to drink.  I left the next morning and haven't seen her since.

In January I went to visit some friends in South America where I'd lived in 2010.  I bumped into an old girlfriend and we ended up having very good sex with a condom.  I was about 90% hard.  24-hours later we had condom sex again but my erection declined in strength to only 75%.  When I did orgasm, no fluid came out.  We both looked at each other with confusion?  I again played it up as though my weaker erection and weird orgasm with no ejaculate was because I was tired.

5 days later I was in another city where I bumped into a friend who told me she'd always had a big crush on me.  We went out to a club for drinks then back to my hotel.  She gave me oral for 5-mintues -- I got about 85% hard -- then I put a condom on and my erection dropped to about 70%.  We had missionary sex for 5 or 10-minutes then we tried to switch positions.  My erection dropped to 60%.  It was late and we were both drunk, so I got her a taxi and again played it off like I was tired and we'd drank too much.

I'm almost always a positive person who deals fairly well with stress, but given my continued unemployment and what appears to be the final break-up with a girl I care about, my stress has increased.  Add to this the recent pattern of weaker erections and I started to get worried.  This is when I knew there was a problem...

The Recovery

After lots of online research I discovered the theory of porn induced ED.  I have been porn free for 24-days now and don’t miss it at all.  I’ve also cut down on masturbation and orgasms significantly.  From November till March I was averaging 14 orgasms a week with porn and masturbation.  Now, I’ve been porn free for 24-days and have orgasmed an average of 2-times per week.  The longest I’ve gone during this 24-day period without orgasm is 9-days.  Some of these orgasms have been through masturbation without porn and others have taken place with sexual partners.  I know this is going to take time, but I feel I’m on the right track.

On day 5 of no porn, I’d also abstained from orgasm for 5-days.  I went on a date that night and took a Cialis.  At the end of the date we went back to her place.  Having abstained for 5-days in combination with the Cialis led to a near 100% erection!  She didn’t want to have sex, or perform oral, but instead told me to masturbate and ejaculate on her.  My penis was HARD!  95 to 100%, hard.  The Cialis gave me a decent little confidence boost .  Getting an erection was as I had remembered it.  Easy and Hard!

After this, I abstained from porn, masturbation and orgasm for 9-days until I was at a party and a friend-of-a-friend started talking dirty to me.  We went back to my apt and she gave me oral.  I was 90% hard and reached full orgasm.  No Cialis was needed.  This experience went well and my penis functioned as I believe it should have but, I have doubts that sex with a condom would have been as successful.  My penis seems to respond better to oral sex than to traditional sex, especially with a condom.

The next day, I masturbated 2-times from memories of the oral sex the night before.  

Three days later, with my new orgasm-free streak also at 3-days, I got really horny.  My penis was super hard and very responsive.  My erection was at 100%!  The hardest I’d remembered it in 6-months or more!  Horny and erect I looked at some facebook pics of a pretty friend of mine.  I masturbated and reached orgasm twice.  Facebook isn’t porn, but I probably should have powered through it and not looked at pretty facebook pics to aid my masturbation.  Nonetheless, I saw my penis’s natural responsiveness as a good sign.

Two days later, with a new orgasm free streak at 2, I learned that my ex-girlfriend was again seeing her ex-boyfriend she’d dated before me.  It stressed me out and made me want to go get laid.  It just so happens that an old acquaintance was visiting town.  We went to dinner then back to my place.  Wanting to perform well, I took the 2nd of my 3 Cialis pills.  This time though, it didn’t work.  My penis did not respond to the Cialis like it did the first time.  It was like I didn’t take it.  She gave me oral and I got 90% erect.  I put a condom on but my erection weakened to 75%.  With intentions of going for a round 2, I reached orgasm after only 5-minutes.  I did reach orgasm, but it didn’t feel like an orgasm should.  It felt desensitized.  It felt like almost nothing.  

We went to sleep and woke up 5-hours later.  She gave me oral again in the morning and I achieved another 90% erection.  But as soon as I put a condom on it quickly declined to 65%.  It wasn’t hard enough to have sex.  She was disappointed but not upset.  I told her I was stressed about the news of my ex and difficulties of finding a good job.

I think this last experience accurately demonstrates the non-linear reprogramming often spoken about on these Porn Induced ED message boards.  Just 2-days ago I had an unprovoked, spontaneous and full erection while this night with a pretty and willing girl, I couldn’t remain hard even after taking a Cialis.

The fact that Cialis is no longer working has scared me a little.  Though, I also believe this supports the theory that my ED is porn and brain related rather than physical.  From what I understand, ED medications help blood flow to the penis more easily for those whose ED is physical.  If the problem is not physical, and in fact brain or stress related, ED medications like Cialis do not always work.

After this last experience I’ve now gone:
24-days without porn
3-days without masturbation or orgasm

My plan going forward is to:
1.  Remain porn free indefinitely
2.  Go 14 straight days without orgasm, to beat (no pun intended, ha) my previous record of 9-days.  This includes sexual interaction with women.
3.  No Cialis, Viagra or other ED medications
4.  Continue to exercise 4-days a week including daily kegels
5.  Continue to drink lots of water and eat healthy
6.  Continue to take a daily multi-vitamin
7.  Focus on getting a job to reduce financial stress
8.  Frequently check back into this message board to read postings and offer support.

Even though my post is very long, it was therapeutic to write.  I strongly suggest those that haven’t posted yet to do so.  I feel much better now that I’ve documented the experience.  Hopefully, those of you who didn’t get bored (ha!) with my long story will find something useful in it.  Also, if anyone has any feedback for me or would like any feedback, please feel free to share.  Thanks all.

With a little Dedication and Determination, our D!c#s will be Dynamite again !!!

I agree with you that the recovery is not linear. After 3 days of no porn, I was horny, energetic and had 50% morning wood. But on the 4th day onwards, I felt tired and no morning wood whatsoever. Its like stock market, volatility on the short term but definitely make some gains in the long term.

I agree with Ghost Dog. You should stop masturbating and orgasm for the time being. The reason we experience ED is because of dopamine-overload in our brain from excessive PMO, causing lots of dopamine receptors to be "switch off" to protect our brain. That's why our penis can't response to normal stimuli (being with a girl).

Stopping M & O will clear excessive dopamine in our brain, switch on the receptors and we will be able to respond to normal stimuli again. When we can get hard easily, that's a sign of healthy and balanced dopamine level in our brain.

Exactly its kind of like being a boxer and your penis has grown accustomed to being battered and bruised.  A slap will not even register as a hit.

Get out of the ring (stop beating off) and allow yourself to heal. Then you will be able to feel the slap.

You need to step back and let your brain reset, allow your dopamine expectations to drop to a normal level.  The normal sexual activity will get your aroused.  

I went to my Urologist yesterday and explained my situation.  He said my porn habit was not likely the cause of my problems.  In my case, I watched "normal" porn (pics and videos of normal sexual situations) and as a 35 year old male, I am on the high end of average for orgasms per day (2-3).  

The cause was more likely "Psychosexual Dysfunction."  Basically, it's all in my head.  I'm stressed about the ex-girlfriend and my slow moving job search.  He prescribed daily low dose (5mg) Cialis and a testosterone test.  In time with the medication, I'll regain my confidence and reduce my anxiety and stress, thus regaining my normal sexual function without the need for medications.  

I got news for you. ALL urologists will tell you exactly the same. Urologists are trained to only give you reasons to the problem that has been medically proven to be a problem. NO urologists will tell you porn or masturbation is the problem because doctors by law cannot give you hypothetical reasons.

I've seen several urologists in my time and they all told me it is in my head.

Porn-induced is not something a doctor or urologists can resolve for you. You found the answer right here on this forum. It is up to you to take this forum seriously or not.

I am so glad I found this site. I am 40 and porn has been a BIG part of my life since the old school playboy days.  My last girlfriend was (embarrassingly) over 4 years ago. I didn't seem to mind since I had plenty of Internet porn at my disposal.  PMO became a once a day habit and sometimes 3 or 4 on weekends.

I recently had a chance to get with a very beautiful lady and couldn't get aroused no matter what we tried. I am extremely attracted to this girl and hopefully didn't blow my only chance with her. I decided to delete my porn collection and start taking some advice from this site. I know the porn is the cause of my ED: as soon as I clicked into my secret porn folder (so i could start deleting stuff) I immediately got 100% erection.

It has been about 2 weeks, unfortunately I dont remember the exact date but I have been having sex dreams and waking up with erection, which until now I realized I haven't done in a long time.

It's a shame that PMO isn't more widely recognized and I am very grateful to have found this site and I will report back with status after a few more weeks.

I will take the daily dose Cialis and get a testosterone test as my Urologist recommended, but I will decrease my masturbation from 10-15 times / week to 2-4 times / week, and never use porn again.

I use Cialis myself and it does help thru my recovery. I don't disappoint any females. I feel I need to go at least 120 days without porn/masturbation before I leave Cialis alone completely.

I assure you your testosterone levels are fine. Mines been fine for years, yet I still had erection issues.If you are not old, most likely your testosterone levels are not the issue.

Instead of 2 to 4 times week masturbation, why don't you prove to yourself you can go at least 30 days without porn/masturbation at all?

I agree with love_a_challenge.

When I was in denial I went to the doctor and he ran a full series of tests on me and every thing came out fine. No I did not tell him of my masturbation or porn issues.  

If you stop completely or at least cut back on your frequency of masturbation and leave the porn alone you should see a difference.  

I recently made the change to go porn free, and limiting masturbation (which has gone masturbation free recently as well) after meeting THE girl of my dreams. She's everything I could ever want in a girl.

Anyway, I've seen good progress after limiting porn and masturbation, I get erections with the girl I'm with.

My only problem now seems to be delayed and even no existent ejaculation with her.

Our first two times having sex, I got an erection, had sex with her but the entire time we tried, which was a little over an hour until I decided I was tired, I couldnt get close to an orgasm.

She chalked it up to me being nervous, and had no complaints because as she put it "you lasted over an hour!"

I'm attracted to her, but I just don't get that "turned on" feeling where I can just feel like I'm ready to have an orgasm.

Has anyone else encountered this? Did you end up beating it? Any advice as to what I can do to recover from this? Can I ever get that feeling back?

I can't exactly stop dating her while I reboot and fix this. Can I still date her and reboot as long as I don't masturbate and watch porn?

Sounds like you're not fully recovered yet. You're not there mentally yet. And your penis is still lacking some sensitivity.

I say no attempting sex/masturbation/porn for another 2 weeks and then go at it again. Tell her you went to the doc and was told this to do. Make up something or just tell her the truth of what you're going thru.

I would say due to your prior porn and masturbation she is not able to excite you enough for you to reach orgasm.  The is because you mind has been pushed beyond normal limits by porn use.  

If you are serious about it and leave porn completely alone and stop masturbating your mind will adjust back to normal after a while and she will excite you to the point of orgasm like never before.

I myself have been there when I was messed up from PIED.  I'd be with a hot chick and just unable to get excited enough to climax and in some cases maintain even an erection.

At 51, I went to the doctor seeking answers for my ED.  He told me the same thing, "It's all in your head", after asking me a few questions about my sex life (nothing about porn use, though).   Oh, I had blood work done a few months before that and my testosterone and other hormones were all in the normal range.

He gave me a few samples of Viagra to "get my confidence back." But said he did not feel I needed to be on it as a regular medication.  That was six months ago and my finding has been that it isn't just psychological. What I have learned from others on this forum, plus other articles on porn induced ED rings true.  I'm a few days away from the 90 day mark (porn abstinence) and am seeing remarkable progress.  Just slow dancing with my spouse gets me hot and bothered now. And my soldier salutes!

Stay pure my brothers!

This may have been posted here in the past, so sorry if this is a repeat.  Dr. Oz covered ED caused by porn use earlier this year.  Here's a link to the video - http://www.doctoroz.com/videos/can-porn-cause-erectile-dysfunction-pt-1

Hey guys I am just 15 years old and I masturbate once, almost, everyday and I decided to finally stop, but I need to know what could happen to my penis and will it effect my real sex life and relationships with girls.

I need immediate reply!! Thankyou.

I am 19 years old I've been masturbating since i was 13 years of age almost everyday...Ifound that I couldn't get on hard while tryin to have sex....I'm recently got into a relationship and itake pills to have sex....but istopped masterbating (masturbating) and watchin porn...I'm goin on a week now without it...will it still work if I'm having sex with no PMO? because i dont want to keep taking pills just to have sex.

If you can manage to avoid having sex while rebooting you should get result faster.  Stop taking the pills because you will become dependent on them to achieve an erection.  You are pretty young so you may get some decent results fairly soon.  

If you and your woman have sex frequently you may need to have a discussion with her you can cut back on the sex or completely stop while you reboot.

hi.. im 36 years old and i love watching porn everyday sometime 3-6 times a day morning when i woke.. lunch time and before bedtime which sometime at night i can make it up to 3 time after resting in 10 minutes.. this has been a bad hobbit for me since for almost 6years now until one day i started feeling pain on my groin and on my scrotums after i ejaculated 3 days ago..so i controlled the masturbation like once a day but still im having pain until i decided to take some antibiotics thinking of an infection that its a cause of too much masturbation and its causing some irritation on my spermatic duct and it stops the pain when i tried to masturbate again... now what makes me worried is that i did some TSE (testicular self examination) i feel some lumps on the left side and this cause me pain again.. and the pain did not started after masturbation but after when i was feeling  aroused  when i was doing a physical therapy on my patient.. pls pls pls i need help.. i dont want to see a doctor  mostly of our hospital staffs knows me.. i feel ashamed about my case...

Day 145 no Porn / Day 48 no Masturbation / Day 41 no Orgasm

- Still no real libido/sex drive if i could describe it would be 5-10%
- Still no morning wood. Happened twice in the last 145 days.
- Social anxiety has DECREASED dramatically, I would say 80-90% cured
- Can get 100% hard just from gentle stroking after maybe 1 minute or so
- Can get 90% hard from oral, good enough for sex but not great
- Still not getting erections during the day, Maybe 3-5 the whole reboot.

So i guess my problem still is i do not get erections just from kissing, touching, grinding etc i need stimulation to get and maintain an erection. Before reboot i was flaccid during the whole time with a girl so its a good improvement but still does not give me confidence to start hitting on girls and trying to have sex or start a relationship.

My attitude is better, I started learning french and have found myself applying more effort at work. I generally feel good, I dont wallow in self pity anymore and i dont day dream for hours. Maybe 5-10 minutes when waking up from sleeping and it does usually give me an erection 90-100% thinking of a girl i would like to have sex with (not porn fantasy). Not sure if i should cut this down or not.

I also broke my strength plateau in the gym and finally got passed 220lb bench press and am now doing 265lb x 2 reps which i am very happy with, Was stuck there at 220lb for a year.

Still get very tired and lethargic and usually need a 20 minute nap around 4-5pm in the afternoon. Just feel very drained and not much energy. Would love to get my sex drive back and energy for life, My brain and mind knows girls that are sexy and i find attractive but i have no physical response like feelings in the stomach, heart race, erection etc

Anyway that's just a short update, Looks like a long reboot ahead as i started internet porn around 15-16 years old with no sexual experience and am now 23.

Life is better without porn either way.

Young guy, 19 years old going on 20 this year. first started watching internet porn in fifth grade, which i guess would make me around 10 or 11. At the time i didn't realize i was feeding what was going to be a 9 year addiction that would later embarrass me and put me through stress and anxiety concerning the bedroom.
   First sexual encounter was when i was 16, had only a few since then with some rather pretty girls, but unfortunately the only time i was able to maintain what was a not so great erection was when i was liquored up. None of those times did i ever reach orgasm, so to say, I've never had an orgasm from a female with the exception of one time i got oral sex. Needless to say, the stress of believing that i had some sort of ED this young has lead me in to depression, causing me to pass on chances to have sex with attractive women in fear that it wouldn't work anyways.
   A small back story, I enlisted in the air force about a year ago, and while going through basic training (boot camp), I remember having awoke with morning wood for the first time in many years in the 4th or 5th week. Obviously i wasn't looking at any porn, and i didn't masturbate during training either. When i graduated, I remember seeing all the attractive girls walking around and felt myself getting very horny, but resisting physical arousal as i was in uniform dress blues. Needless to say i got back to the hotel room my parents had and immediately watched a porn clip on my phone in the bathroom. At the point i went on to tech school, and watching porn was regular again. I didn't realize what had happened, but it is very obvious now, as i haven't had morning wood since that 4th or 5th week.
   My 9 year addiction has caused me to plummet into depression from lack of performance, feelings of being inferior as a man, and it really has just killed my legitimate sex drive. I can't believe I've been doing this to myself for 9 years. Finding this blog has really motivated me to change my life. It's such a relief to see success stories and an answer to a problem i didn't even recognize i had. I saw this blog 3 days ago, and since then i have trashed a Fleshlight(don't know what possessed me to spend 70$ on that) and resist the urge to watch porn or play with myself. I'm disappointed in myself for letting it go on so long, but I'm ready to change my life for the better. It has certainly helped to get this problem off my chest as i have told no one about it and always came up with excuses when dealing with the women. I'm ecstatic to get 4 or five weeks of progress and have the possibility of waking up with morning wood again, it would just be nice to be surprised by some blood flow downstairs, and not have to induce it with videos.
   Thank you everyone for sharing your stories, they have been very motivating and revealing to me.