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Too much porn/masturbation cause ED?
Hi I m a 28 year old and suffer some degree of ED in recent. I start masturbated since I m 19 and usually use porn as a form of visual stimiulation. I have observed that I have lost the ability to maintain erect during intercource or I only get weak erection. My question is: does masturbation in association with porn will "exhaust" my interest towards sex and create a negative impact on my ability to get aroused in real sex? I m worried cause I think I m still young to have physical cause  for ED. Any thought?
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hey guys,

I'm just here to report that I masturbated twice in two days without porn.
It didn't feel intense as I was expecting and I am so happy I didn't feel any downward spiral feeling of guilt, sadness or unworthiness afterwards like I remember going through when I was on porn. The after feeling was calm, I felt like I had just taken a **** or something, it wasn't anything great, I could have continued without it and it didn't make a difference.

I just want to ask if this is a relapse? I didnt PMO which is what I am on the path of recovering from. I used my imagination to bring myself over the edge.  

I must say, while i was doing it, i felt a little thought to go look at something creeping up but i blocked that thought. I guess masturbating without porn is ok, but it is still a bit dangerous because the temptation is there to watch porn.  If I had watched porn I could have been in a binge right now, but instead I went back to doing some work, and then decided to make this post. I must been been feeling stressed and needed a break or something.

Anyway, give me feedback, is this a relapse? Do I have to start over from day 1?
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My energy level is lower than normal, my body feels a bit sluggish.

That's a noticeable change from just mb lastnight.
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Ok JagaJM,

                   When I first discovered that masturbating to porn was the cause of my ED, I tried quitting everything cold turkey, all types of masturbation, masturbation and porn. I lasted maybe 5 days because of the anxiety of not being able to masturbate. I then decided to just masturbate just in bed, in the shower, but nothing online, videos and pictures. I masturbated non-stop, think I masturbated 10 ten times in one day; cause I had so many mental images in my head of porn, swinger websites, and all things sex in my head. I had a lot of porn fuel in my head to masturbate to. This lasted about a week. Cause after a week masturbation was no fun anymore, cause I didn't have anything to fuel it. No porn, no swingers websites, pictures. It was a really ****** up feeling. This is when I realized I had an addiction to porn. That I needed porn to masturbate. And that it was not that I was just a horny guy. I really needed porn to get myself going. Of course I fell off the wagon and was masturbating to porn a couple of days later.

               But eventually this is how I was able to quit. I stopped going online and looking for porn or anything sex related. I masturbated in the shower, in my bed. Yes, my brain wanted to bad to go on my favorite amateur porn sites to look at the new girls in the updates. But I didn't. You know what I discovered JagaJM, and I am not bullshitting you; the easiest thing in the healing process is not to click on and look at porn. Just don't do it. Walk away, do anything. And I guarantee you 5-10 minutes later the temptation will have subsided. Now you may have to do this two or ten times a day, but it is the easiest thing to do. Just walk away. I learned to just walk away. But I know this also. If you do click on porn and start watching it or anything sex related; I guarantee you that you will masturbate to it. Guaranteed. So you have to just walk away from clicking on it.  

        Now far as you falling off the wagon. Masturbating did not get you in this mess, masturbating to online porn did. Yes, the common objective is to quit masturbating, masturbating to porn or any videos and images, so that you will be able to recover full erections within 60-90 days. But cold turkey is difficult. Very difficult. If eliminating porn, or anything video or image related is your objective, you should be commended for it. That is a battle in itself. if you continue to masturbate, so be it, don't give yourself a hard time about it. Your recovery time will be much longer, who knows how much longer. But, you have to quit trying to masturbate all together at some point in order to get your erections of manhood back. And guess what, you will fall off the wagon from that, just like I did. But you start again. But at this point porn is gone and out of your life. And you realize how addicted you were and how much in a fog you were living in compared to men who have a normal sexuality about themselves.

              I quit porn and everything sex related, and just masturbated in bed, the shower. This went on for about 3 weeks, when I decided to stop masturbating all together. I feel off the wagon twice after that. Not to porn, but just to wanting to masturbate. But after the 2nd time, that's when I was able to do my full recovery. I'm not saying it was easy, in some aspects it was, in some it was not. And recovery is a process. It's not like you wake up on day 60 and say "I made it". No, as you recover from being masturbation free, you notice the physical and mental changes. You wake up with erections, if you are lucky enough to have a sex partner ( GF, etc) you notice erections are harder,  longer, as you are coming along after day 40 or 50. It is really no different then a person who might be obese trying to lose 100 pounds. They see the changes as the weeks pass along. Losing a few pounds here and there, and when they start seeing the physical changes, they know it's because of the work they put in. It does not happen from one night to the next. Just like recovering your full erections.
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Great post classy, I agree with you, it's a gradual process, and you will go through times when you lose faith and wonder if the sacrifices you are making (by not watching porn and masturbating) are actually doing any good and improving your situation...

I had sex last night. With a new girl, for the first time. We tried to have sex 4 times. Out of those 4 times, unfortunately not once did I manage to keep my erection. It started great, I had a rock solid erection after she gave me a han-d-jo-b or a bl-o-w-j-o-b. But soon after I entered her, I would lose my erection and have to stop right there.

This morning I was feeling really down, depressed even... but then I thought about a few things... first of all, this girl used to be quite fat and lost a lot of weight (like 40 pounds) recently. So probably she had a fairly large vagina (which is not the most stimulating). Needless to say, I couldn't feel anything as I was f***ing her... plus I had a condom on, which obviously doesn't help...

Second, she was so wet it was insane... she was actually one of those "legendary" "squirters". I didnt't know they actually existed, until last night, when I saw it with my own eyes...

I had a discussion with some friends about this, and they told me that if a woman was too wet, then that could lead to you having less feeling inside her....

So I think maybe if I didn't manage to keep my erection while I was inside her, was because I was wearing a condom, she was too wet, and her pu-ss-y was too large... I hope so anyway, otherwise there really is something wrong with me !

What do you think ?  
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classym4cpl, I accept and agree with your post.

I haven't reset my counter, just to let you know, I been off porn for those days you see below.
I was only asking if masturbating (without porn) just plain stroking myself off. Does that in itself count as a relapse? (it doesn't feel like a relapse to me)  I am not beating up myself or feeling depressed. I just want to be fair on my counter that's all [smile].

The reason I didn't masturbate before is I didn't want to activate those wiring in my brain that will lead to porn, and I didn't know if I would be strong enough to resist the urge. Clearly Masturbating to Porn and Orgasm is the root of the issue and not masturbation by itself. The urge to watch porn when I was masturbating wasn't strong either. So I know I have made quite a good distance in recovery so far. I still have no interest to watch porn. Masturbation based on my two moments, felt like a waste of time, that's all.

My main aim is to be free from the cycle and the habit of PMO, to be healed and recover my natural manhood and live a normal sex life (without porn in it).

SammyWinchester, how are you coming along?
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I haven't had such an experience before so i cant speak on it.

maybe you are not that attracted to her.

I have never heard of the vagina being huge after loosing weight before.

(The word that was censored from my original post was p-i-s-s. haha)
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Well, I will be honest and give you the best advice I can give through my years of research and experience. FIRST, there is no replacement for getting your regular manhood erections back then stopping masturbating all together. It is the quickest way to full recovery. I read during my research that if there is an addiction to masturbation and porn, then continuing to masturbate without porn or anything video, the recovery process of getting your regular manhood erections can take up two two years. That's a long time. That is why in my earlier post I mentioned that eventually you have to stop masturbating.

           Your question of did you relapse? My answer to that is NO. The foundation for your addiction and disorder is porn. You need to eliminate it and get it out of your life. It is as dangerous as drugs and alcohol; as it has the potential to your your life. I lost my wife and a good life because of porn. I won't tell you to stop masturbating because I could not stop masturbating from one day to the next. It took me about a month to stop masturbating after I gave up everything related to porn. But let me tell you as one man to the next JagaJM. I commend you in eliminating porn from your life. That is a struggle in itself.

                If you have gone 101 days without watching porn or anything porn video or image related. I say great job and congratulations. That is awesome. Now, far as getting erections back, like a normal sexually functioning man, time will tell. Have you been with a woman, how did it go. Is it time now to maybe start a masturbation free cycle of 2-3 months. On a side note, I now masturbate freely without any problems to my sex life. I masturbate in the shower, in my bed. I don't go out to do it, sometimes the urge just hits. After I completed the  cycle of 90 days of masturbation free
I really had my erections back. It was maybe a couple of weeks after that I began to masturbate every so often, And it did not affect me sex life what so ever. But of course, I didn't look at porn or anything porn related or will I ever again.
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Don't lose faith, keep going, Recovery dates and cycles are not set in time. Mine took about the 90-100 day mark. Between days 30-80 I would have sex and it was good-average-lame; but never was it a super experience. After about the 100 day mark, I was having sex like a porn star ( hate to use the word porn but have to express how great my erections were). Now, in my research of talking to other addicts, there were some addicted guys who were able to get their erections back in 30 days, and their addictions and erection dysfunctions were just as horrid as mine. But I didn't get discouraged cause I could not recover in 30 days. In fact I saw an episode on Dr.Phil that talked about porn addiction and the medical professionals they had on there said you have to quit masturbating all together ( including porn) for 30 days to get recovered. That must be just a general medical theory, as this whole addiction to masturbation and porn/erection dysfunction is really a new epidemic.

         And yes, it's difficult to talk about women like this, but some vaginas are not able to fully contract around the penis. For reasons that are obvious ( child birth, prior relationships where the male had tremendous girth). It is just nature. I recall during my recovery having sex with a girl 12 years younger then me. I was 32, she was 20. I recall jerking myself to get hard, putting on a condom and staying hard the entire time. This was many 40 days into my recovery. It was obvious this young female was not as sexually experienced as women I had been with before. My penis just contracted around her vagina and kept is hard. I just stayed hard. The next day I was smart enough to realize I was not recovered. I knew that I just happen to be with a young lady who has not had a lot of sex.

               But SammyWinchester, to be honest, I would guess your issue with the lady that night might be a combination of all the things you talked about. Your recovery, her large vagina, and that she was wet.
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Great post man, I appreciate your words of wisdom.

I think I am set on the road to recovery. I am heavily involved with a full time job, night and weekend classes, so my mind is focused on quality things to uplift myself.  I think I masturbated to test myself how I would feel, I didn't have any overwhelming urge to do it, it was a purely mental process. The only thing about masturbating for me is that it leaves me feeling tired the next morning.

I have been with women in the past, when I was in the porn stage but since I started recovery I have not been with one.  I get erections from hugs, hand holding or just standing close to a lady I am attracted to.  The erections don't last long though, the erections last anywhere between  3 - 6 seconds and go back down, and the erections are not rock solid either.

I never mentioned this before, but I was always concerned if enough blood flow is going to the root of my penis, the top part seems to be hard but it does not stand up like when I was younger.  when I am erect it still hangs down,  it is not strong enough to point upwards or straight infront of me (on its own).
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If blood circulation is normal in groin area and lower abdomen, sexual arousal will be normal. Search for groin exercises and pick up those which resonate with you and practice regularly. You will proper erection and regular morning wood. Male deer exercise is one of many popular exercises. Google Male deer exercise, kegel exercise, .
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Thank you, I will look into that.
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HI everyone, im 22, ive been addicted to PMO since the age of 11.
Had my first sexual relation at 17 with a 10/10, unable to *** of feel anything !
I had 23 girls in my life, and i never ***, neither in vaginal or oral sex !
I finally heard of the death grip and the addiction of PMO ! I do PMO with death grip 1,2,3 times a day (and someday more) since the age of 11 !

I have never feel anything in a *****, I in 20 days without PMO, the week 1 i felt very good, very horny, lot if energy,blow hanging **** and balls, good spirit, big erections during the night but since day 10 im in flatine, im depressed, my **** and my balls are shrinked, its horrible !

The question is : Should I have sex with a girl to wake my brain and f*ck dat flatine or just wait ??
How long this flatline is supposed to last ?
And for those how had a DE from death grip, how many days did you need to be able to *** with a woman ?

Thanks for all, and sorry for my english im european
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JAgaJM,
Thanks for the encouraging words. I have recently M but tried no to finish. I didn't realize this is just as bad a finishing. I have cut back but I continue to relapse. I keep going back to porn. I keep telling myself that I, only going to look. But not touch. 70% of the time I end up touching myself. This is so damn hard to quit. Most of my relapse happens first thing in the morning when I reach for my iPad. I need to dicline myself to not turn it on until I'm up and out of bed. It's a struggle, but I'm not giving up. Good luck to everyone out there.
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TO AnonymousSA,

My advice and encouragement to you is to delete your porn stash, get rid of it and masturbate to just your mind alone. When you get used to that try and cut down your masturbation time. Normally I would say just stop and go cold turkey but I think not everyone can be so disciplined. Also I have masturbated a few days ago WITHOUT PORN and I literally have no interest of doing so at the moment, I have no urge or crave to masturbate. I have total control over it. My point is this, after 100 days of going without watching porn and then masturbating without watching porn, I realize my brain and body reacts differently, there was no dopamine rush, there was no sad, guilt or depressing feelings afterwards. I am now in agreement that masturbation by itself may not be bad for the brain, but it will leave you with low energy or feeling tired though.  Also, if you masturbate do not try to edge or delay an ejaculation, thats bad, just finish and get it out the way.

Separate porn from masturbation and you will be feeling better, then try and cut down masturbation frequency and you will feel great. give it time and continue on the road to recovery.


TO bigfrench,
Everyone recovery time is different, flat line can last from weeks to months. It all depends on your brain.  please give yourself time to heal.
find something to do with the time you would normal use. workout, play a musical instrument, start a business, go to school, i'm just giving suggestions. whatever you do, just try and cut off porn and giving yourself time to heal, as you have said, you have experienced good results in just a few days. you are on the right path. keep it up!

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I find that reading as much as I can about the topic of PMO has also helped to encourage me and keep me focused until I got stronger. Please men, read as much as you can. knowledge is power, and knowledge will change you.

all the best. I wish everyone who comes here a good and healthy recovery.
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I had sex with a new girl last Monday, and again I had trouble maintaining an erection :-(  first she gave me a *******, I had no problem having an erection there, and I came quite quickly. Later I tried to do her in the missionary position, and I lost my erection soon after I entered her. Later she came on top of me, and it was better in that position, again I came quite quickly... so I seem to be having a problem with the missionary position these days.

So I'm disappointed once again by my performance... either I can't maintain an erection, or when I can I come too quickly... I have been off PMO for a while now and not getting the amazing results I was hoping for...
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The word that was starred out in my previous post was b-lowjob
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When i was suffering from porn induced erectile dysfunction and while I was recovering; I had to get jerk myself to get hard to have sex. But I could only have sex on my knees (doggy style) and with my feet on the ground. I could never have sex missionary, because I could not stay erect. I needed the thrusting motion to center in my legs, body, and arms, in order to stay somewhat hard ( and that was never for more then 5 or 10 minutes). When it's missionary sex, all of your thrusting comes from your hips and penis area. Well, my penis was not working correctly, so to get the blood pumping into my penis, I needed to use my whole body to help me stay hard. You are not fully recovered, but congratulations on 76 days! It will take time, nothing is set in stone. You will get there. You will. I have never read of somebody not recovering when giving up masturbation to porn. The general theory is 90 days, but it can extend well beyond that point.
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What you are saying about position is interesting... I did notice that I performed better in the cowgirl position than missionary the last couple of times I had sex. I haven't tried doggystyle in a while, maybe I should try it next time. I know that in the past I have struggled in that position, although it has depended highly on the girl and on the moment...

Another problem is that I don't have a regular sex friend. Lately I've been having one night stands only... maybe I need to feel more comfortable with a girl in order to perform better ? I know some guys need to have sex 2 or 3 times with a girl before they get used to her and start performing properly... what do you think ?

Thanks for the kind words classy, but to be honest I have cheated a bit over these 76 days... I haven't masturbated to orgasm once to porn, but I have on occasion watched a bit of porn and touched myself, sometimes even edging... And maybe that's almost as bad as full-on PMO... I dunno...
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This morning I PMOed :-(

After having had sex with a girl who squirted like crazy when she orgasmed, I went and had a look at porn videos of women squirting out of curiosity... it turned me on, I started touching myself and went all the way unfortunately :-(

What I must avoid doing now is going on a binge... I guess I'm not back to square one, but I have definitely taken a step backward... my tracker has got to go back to 0 though :-(

It's so freaking hard to resist the urge to look at porn in the long haul...
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It happens, you know. You will not get any discouraging remarks from me. I'm really big into building equity while abstaining from masturbation to porn. Going 10 days, a month, 90 days, to me is building equity into recovery; and yes you will fall of the wagon. But keep going at it, if you had a regular female partner, things would be differently. You could be at her place, your place, and all of a sudden start having sex for no reason. Then that urge to watch porn, eventually masturbate would be different, or not be there at all. Cause your sexual desires, urges, and wants would be fulfilled. That's what normal guys do. When you are addicted to masturbating to porn, you are not normal by any means. I was not normal, I was far from it.

         Don't go on a binge, but don't kill yourself mentally and emotionally fighting off wanting to masturbate. If you have to masturbate one or ten times, do it. But don't do it to porn. The easiest thing is to watch not porn, it really is. But your brain is correlating masturbation and porn, porn and masturbation. It's ok to masturbate. But do not click on porn. Masturbate to a chick you had sex with and it was amazing, like a one night stand or a really freaky chick you had sex with before. Because that sensation, being with a woman like that, in all actuality is a million times better then masturbating to porn. Your addiction just won't let you realize it.

          I have been masturbating a lot lately, as I'm in between relationships and different girls I see. But never to porn. Just in my head, different women I have been with before. That's all I need.
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Thanks man. I think you're right... I'm pretty sure I wouldn't feel the need to watch porn and masturbate so much if I had a girlfriend or even just a f*** buddy. I'll try not to be too hard on myself but I can't help feeling disappointed and like I've let myself down. Also, I'm even more worried than before, now that I've PMOed, that if I have sex with a girl in the next few days/weeks, I won"t be able to keep it up, specifically because I PMOed today...

I like your idea of equity... before I PMOed today, I went 85 days without doing it, and before that I had roughly a 40 day spell and before that a 35 day spell... so I haven't gone on a binge or anything like that in a long time, and that's got to be a good thing, right ?
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Since February 1 I have fell into a binge cycle 11 days out of the past 16 days had PMO. I was somewhat embarrassed to come back here and mention it, so i hid behind the porn some more. but this morning I am feeling physically sick from the constant masturbating.

I am feeling weak and drained out again, headaches. I really over did it, One night I think I spent 4 hours in front the screen. I dont know, I know I cant give up, but breaking free from the cycle is giving me a warm time. I stopped reading all the motivational materials so...  I am back at starting point again.

I went 100 days and relapsed. I dont even know why I did it,

anyway, hope everyone is keeping up the fight.
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You shouldn't be embarrassed to come back here and mention it. Here is basically the only place you can mention it without worrying about what people are going to think... You went 100 days, that's pretty good, now go ahead and try to beat that record.
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(smile) thanks SammyWinchester.

i'll try and go much further... once i pass 7 days i'll be in good strides.

i am gonna reset my tracker and post daily, to build back my confidence.
i marked off the days on my calender that i PMOed... and the reality is sad... i spent over 30 hours watching porn in those 11 day relapse... thats time i could have used to study, work on some outstanding project, sleep or watch some clean movie. damn.

man, its not just my recovery, but i set myself back in other areas too.

but... thanks for the encouragement.
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I felt better without PMO.

I realize that I slipped back into the habit after I was masturbating without PMO.  Perhaps I am not strong enough to masturbate without the risk of PMO. So for now I will continue on the original plan and stop all activity until normal, natural sex comes into my life.

peace.
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Me too. I have slipped like crazy. I'm starting all over again.
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hI, I HAVNT post here in a while, it is because i have been afflicted by a mysterious neurological condition, that i went to the doctors for and i have been unable to find out. Remember when i told you know how i lost my smell and taste, that was only the begining, it progressed to pins and needles mostly on my side of the face, hands and legs. Furthermore, i have loss all internal stimulation, even from masturbating, i cannot feel any sensations in my abdomen, but still able to feel sensations on the penis head. unable to stay aroused or hard for long because i cant feel any bodily sensations from masturbating. i cannot feel any sensations means(no feeling of full or empty stomach, bladder,bowel movement, even arousal or orgasm(only near the penis). i do have an upcoming pcp appt, and a specialist in 2 months, she tried to point it "im making it up", and genetics. and i think she may have given me a ent instead of a neurology. This all happened suddenly, or started about jan 8, when ifirst noted smell and lost, went to the er next day, and couldnt found anything. Now i have these progressing symptoms. I trace it all back to my parietal lobe of the brain: possible injury, autoimmune, or mass. this happened about an hour after i took 1 25mg of diphenhydramine,dextromorphan,phenyleprine. until i find out whats wrong, there is no recovery going on(though im still able to get hard, i cant feel it, neither i can get fully erect because of the sensational loss.
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Sorry to hear that man, sounds like you're going through some weird sh-it... I hope you find what the cause of it is and that you are able to get rid of it quickly...

I also wanted to say to everyone that the past two nights I have had some very strong erections, and some serious morning wood... I have recently added some things to my diet, which I think may have had an effect : L-Arginine, garlic, Ginkgo Bilabo and royal jelly (the stuff bees make) supplements. One of these or maybe the combination of the four is clearly having an effect. I recommend anyone who hasn't tried hem to give them a go, they're all harmless things to take, so at worst you will just see no effect. They might help you recover more quickly and give you a little boost.
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Hi all,

Feeling a little dejected :-(

I met this really nice girl last Tuesday, we went for a drink and then had dinner and it was really nice... She then suggested we go to the movies last night... so I go to her place, we have a drink, then we go for dinner, then the movies, then we go back to her place for another drink, we watch a TV show (Bates Motel) we kiss, she tells me I can spend the night but she prefers that we go slowly, so no sex... then this morning she tells me she doesn't feel ready yet and that she's actually not that into me, at least not right now :-(

She said maybe if we spend more time together feelings will come, but she doubts it, and I doubt it too... I told her I wasn't prepared to wait for her to make up her mind and she said she understood... she said she wasn't sure if she wasn't ready yet to be with a man, or if it's just that she is not attracted to me..

I feel really surprised and sad because I really like her, and I thought she liked me back too, all her actions suggested she did... anyway, I'm back to square one and need to get back on the dating scene again.. so here we go again *sighs*...

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PMDER1  
That is horrible man, I do hope the cause is found and it can be treated.  That is a pretty serious medical issue, and I am annoyed by that doctor who thinks you are making this up. I realize sometimes things may be outside their scope of knowledge, they start to think that patients are making up the conditions. If they cant diagnose then refer you to someone that can. I pray you will be well man.

I too have an issue that I haven't mentioned on here but it's not as serious as yours PMDER1 and I am getting treated for it.  I did an MRI and found out that I have a pituitary microadenoma (very small non cancerous tumor on my pituitary gland).  The gland is responsible for my prolactin and dopamine level so, I am wondering if it has something to do with my addiction.  The symptoms of this includes poor or no erection as well as loss of morning wood.  So coupled with PMO I had two conditions affecting me that I didn't realize. Now more than ever I need to be off PMO as well as continue with medication and see if after six months when the tumor shrinks, if my penis will function the way it was meant to.

Sometimes I have a twitching/clicking feeling at the back and center of my head. I dont know if it is nerves or muscle tension, the doc didnt even consider it when i told him about it. His focus was more on the gland after the diagnosis.

SammyWinchester,
Hey bro, you sound like a real ladies man.
I am sure you will meet another girl and the connection will be better.
Sometimes you have to meet the ones that are not for you until you meet the one that is.  but i  definitely agree that spending time together will increase the attraction.  and may even improve sex. so when you get in a relationship, it will be a good experience.
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i still can get an erection, but no orgasmic feeling past my penis(you are supposed to feel it in your stomach, or your body. I think my brain is receiving it, but its not processing it. I was hoping for another MRI, to see any possible cause. Because i blabbed out that i got an MRI showing normal Head results back in 2013, when i was with KAISER. It couldve been an injury, i have no recollection of any injury capable of causing this, although the benadryl, with dextro, might have amplified the symptoms. my sense of smell is almost gone now as well,with taste. as smell is important part of a sexual experience. Now i that i think that all my symptoms are related to brain, i thought about a tumor as well. I went to several other forums to find any similar issue, i found some close diagnosis, but ended up in sq one.
@samm you seem to be capable of getting girls, easier than most people here, eventually you will find one that can get you hard, just lay of the beatings to your meat.
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Hi all.I just found this site. I've been reading all of your posts and they have been very inspiring. I'm 28 and have been single for about four years. I've only had one sexual partner before that. I've been watching porn and masturbating at least 2 times a day sometimes 3 for years. Probably more than 10 years. I recently met a woman that I like very much and we tried to have sex. I didn't even feel movement down there. Even when she was giving me a ******* nothing happened. It was very disturbing. We tried again a few nights later and I was able to get semi erect and actually enter her but it didn't last long. So I started thinking I've probably screwed up my brain with porn and masturbation. I quit both cold turkey for a week and was so horny I thought I would die. Morning wood every day. I even masturbated without porn which I haven't done in years. Then I was able to get erect with her but I couldn't ***. We had sex for over an hour twice, she came two or three times and I eventually just sensed she was done and we stopped. The next day I watched porn and masturbated again. We tried to have sex again the night after and I could only get slightly erect. So there has to be a connection with the porn. She has been great with me about it. Very kind and understanding. I always go down on her or finish her off in other ways.

I've stopped completely as of two days ago. Deleted it all from my computer and removed anything I had in the house. So I hope to have a success story here again soon. I just don't want her to think it has something to do with her. I find her attractive and like her quite a bit. So I'm hoping my brain will start resetting itself afte a couple of months. Thanks again for all the information!
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Dude, if you managed to feel super horny, have morning wood and have satisfying sex with your girlfriend after just one week of laying off the porn, then you are one lucky b-astard !

Please let us know how you get on, although it sounds like you will have no problems recovering fully. Just stay away from porn and masturbation (easier said than done but it's essential).
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Hi guys. I very happy to descover this webside, i have been reeding all your comments since about two weeks. I am in this same situation which have been described by all of you. i have been masturbationg since about 11 years, but masturbating with porno since about 6-7 years. Before i taught that my ED is due to the masturbation, without enven thinking that it might be from porn. I remember somme years ago, i traveled and was cut off with internet, so porn for about 1 years and i got back my morning woods, and every thing, until that i came back to this porn, but i never made the link.   1year ago, i was leaving with my girl friend, so i was neither mastubating, nor watching porn, but we were having sex so much about 5 times a day, until we broke up, so may be that frequence of having sex blocked me from recovering. And despite i am ED (i never lass more than 2 minutes) but i can get back erection after orgasm very fast, which alow me to be able to have sex many times in few minutes. But i never have strong erection, despite i never fale to have sexe with girl, my erection are some how strong, when i am with lader, but once i enter her, it state reducing so that i cannot lass long. Now 4 week ago, i watch porn just some minutes before having sex with a girl, it was so bad, my worst in all my life, i did not even lass 1 minute, and my erection was very bad, since then i realise and decide to stop both porn and masturbation. It's not a problem, i can stop them definitely, but 1 month without sex is my big problem. After that happened, i stay 3 weeks with no porn, no masturbation, and i stated gettting back my morning woods, some time i even stay more than 30 minutes when i wake up. I thaught then that i was cure, but when i am watching series a smal sexual image, or even reading some thing sexual give me erection and i start seeing that i was going back to my problem. The forth week, i had sex, the first round was bad, not even 2 minutes, the second was better but stil not good.
So what i remark is that, my ED is not as much as terrible, with  1 month no O, no PMO i can get my erection back, but with small sexual emage on films, reading, or even thinking i can lose all.
I decided now to stop all, i went back to zero by this 1 march, i decided no O, no PMO withing this 2 coming moths. Other thing, i do lot of sport since in was very yong, i am 28 years now.
Thanks, to all of you, and soory for my english, i am a french speaker. Hope we will all get results by this forum. good to know all of you.
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Bienvenue sur le forum Diasba. Moi aussi je suis francophone.

Tiens-nous au courant de comment ça évolue sur les semaines qui viennent. Et surtout, ne cède pas à la tentation !

Perso j'ai beaucoup de mal à résister... je résiste quelques jours, parfois quelques semaines, mais je finis toujours par céder et vouloir me mater une vidéo, souvent sur un thème bien spécifique...

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Merci SammyWinchester, ça fait plaisir. Oui je vous tiendrai au courant et lirais fréquemment vos news et vos conseils. On est tous conscient qu'une fois qu'on abandonnera ces deux choses (PMO)   tout deviendra normal, moi je l'ai déja remarqué. Donc dis toi que tu peux le réussir, dis toi que  ce que tu auras dans le futur sera extraordinaire  que la masturbation et porno ne doivent pas le gâcher. Moi perso ça fait plus d'un moi que je n'ai ni regardé le porno, ni me masturbé, mais certains scènes sexuelles que je vois dans les films ne m'aident pas, et aussi le fait que je passe toute la journée devant mon ordi (dans mon bureau, des fois en se connectant sur facebook et autres on voit des choses qui ne nous aident pas). Mais tu peux le réussir, on peut le réussi, je n'ai meme plus la pensé à la masturbation ni au porno, et j'ai vu d'excellents résultats après 3 semaines d'abstinence, mais sauf que le cerveau etant encore sensible, toute petite chose peut nous reconduire dans la merde. Bas toi, on va tous réussir
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Thanks Sammy. The whole experience has been been pretty strange and unsetteling. I'm going to stay in contact here. I wish you all the best too. I just never even thought that porn could have negative effects on us. Love the name btw. She got me into Supernatural and I think I've watched 9 season in a month!
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I'm on day 4 again now and it isn't easy or fun at all. I guess that's the point though. I'm not going to slip up this time. I don't know if it's all in my head but I feel good and confident. Just uncomfortabvle because I'm so used to that release multiple times a day. I'm not as anxious as I normally am and I actually had like a 5 minute conversation with a pretty cute chick at the grocery store today. Normally I'd just nod or say a one word response, but I actually tried to push it and flirt a little, hold eye contact with her. Not that I would cheat on my girlfriend, I was just curious as to why I didn't seem as nervous as I normally do around attractive women. I feel fairly charged up if that makes any sense.
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Sounds like you are heading in the right direction friend! This seems to be a great place to get together and learn about these issues. Keep us informed on your progress and good luck.
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I had sex, or at least tried to have sex, on Wednesday evening. First I gave her oral, and she loved it, I even think she orgasmed. Then I tried to take from behind and I wasn't hard enough to enter her, so then she had to give me a ******* to make me hard again, which I did, then she came on top, and I lost my erection while I was inside ( I was wearing a condom but still, it's annoying to still be having problems after all this time). Then she told me she was allergic to latex and she was too sore to continue. So she finished me off with a *******.

So right now I'm feeling a bit discouraged... I've been staying away from porn for a while now, and I'm still not seeing results :-(
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The word that's starred out twice is b-lowjob
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Yes, that is a bit discouraging, but that does not change the fact that there is improvement and which is as a result of the abstinence from porn and masturbation. I believe the recovery process is a bit slow with some people and sometimes seems abstinence is not doing the job and does not worth the effort.

But before you get discouraged, look back at the time when you were fully into PMO and now when you're trying to quit. Personally, I have experience a significant improvements both in personal and sexual level.

Small improvement is better than no improvement at all.

Personally, I will advice you get a steady girlfriend/casual sex partner and if not for anything but to monitor your recovery for the next 6-12 months.

I won't even wish it on my enemy to be addict to this s.h.i.t. It's a gradual destroyer. My efforts to quit alone is a progress for me.

Keep the spirit high and continue to push. One day, you will get there.
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Just try to take it one day at a time guys. Things will get better. Just stay away from the porn! It seems it's different for everybody. I'm just about on my 14th day with no porn. I masturbated on day 8. But no pictures or porn. I just closed my eyes and things worked the way they are supposed to.

I went to see the gf yesterday. We can't have sex at her place during the week because of kids, she's loud in the bedroom, lol. But we did make out right before I left and I was almost instantly hard. It took the 5 minute drive home for me to get rid of that erection. So hopefully when I see her Friday things work as well.

I feel super pumped up right now. Full of energy and ready to go. Used to be I couldn't get my **** hard for anything without porn. I could sit there for hours and try and nothing would happen. But now just doing certain thinigs or kissing the lady seems to have things working right. A huge step in the right direction.
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Lucky dude!

Your recovery seems quick and spontaneous.

Keep it up and don't forget to update us with your progress.
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Still can't find a regular partner, so it's hard to tell if I've made any progress. But I know I'm not out of the woods yet. I'm occasionally getting semi-erections during the day when I'm in walking around or on the metro/bus if I'm thinking naughty thoughts. And I'm getting more frequent night and morning erections, sometimes rock hard, sometimes only like 75%...

I've been reading articles on the yourbrainonporn website and other websites like this one, and apparently people like me take a very long time to recover ; that is, people who grew up on porn, and started masturbating to porn before they even had sex with a real woman. I started to masturbate to porn at around age 14, and only lost my virginity at age 28. So for 15 years I masturbated to porn A LOT. I guess it's only normal that my brain needs more than just a few weeks to rewire itself...

At the moment I don't feel any libido; I'm probably experiencing what they call the "flatline". Sometimes the flatline can last a long time, and then one day, out of the blue you have this massive craving for sex and these incredible erections. That's what people have reported anyway.

In my recent attempts to give up porn and masturbation, I have cheated a little bit. I mean even last weekend I looked at a bit of porn, but didn't masturbate to orgasm. Now I've decided that even when I'm extremely bored or just curious about a specific type of sex or a new position, I will not look at it. I thought it was the masturbating to porn that was bad. But it seems, from what I've read, that even just watching porn, without touching yourself is bad for your brain too. And "testing" yourself to see if you've made progress is bad too. You should just have faith that you ARE making progress.

The only fear I have is that porn is not the number one cause of my ED. I mean, there are hundreds of things that can cause ED. So how the hell do you identify the cause ? Imagine if all this time, you thought it was porn, but actually it was something else like nerve damage or high prolactin levels or something else... isn't that scary, to lose all this time ?!

I really hope it's just the porn, and that within a few months I will be 100% healed...

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Good research report!. I normally do not visit other PMO recovery related sites since I came across this thread.

I believe with time you will find a regular partner since you have put your mind to it.

I have not cheated or try to test my progress since I began the new clean count date with you and JagaJM. I'm aiming for 90 days abstinence after which I will try to have real sex and see how it goes.

Of course, PMO is not the only cause of ED. That is why it is advisable to visit an urologist for medical evaluation. From my experience with them, so far, they have not be helpful. Although I was diagnosed of Prostatitis which they did not relate to my ED. My current location does not give me access to good urologist that I'm confident with, but no one should rule out medical solution if they have access to it.

Even with my inconsistent abstinence, I have observe significant improvement as against when I was deeply involved with PMO. I believe PMO is not a decent habit to be addicted to and trying to break away from the habit alone is a success, whether or not it is responsible for the ED.

No time invested in overcoming this shameful and destructive habit is lost.
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I had s-ex with a new girl last night. I started by giving her o-ral s-ex, and judging by her moaning and shaking I'm pretty sure she orgasmed. Then I tried to have s-ex with her in the missionary position. I had no problem getting an erection, but after putting on a condom and entering her, I lost my erection while inside her... so then I took the condom off, started rubbing myself against her back and that gave me an erection again, and I was going to put on a condom when she said "it's OK, I'm on the pill" so I did her d-oggystyle but without protection and I came quite quickly inside her.

Do you think I was wrong not to use protection ? she seemed like a very nice girl who is trustworthy enough...

Then I gave her o-ral again, made her come again... the next morning we tried to have s-ex but I really struggled to get hard... no amount of s-ucking or touching would get me more than semi-hard... then I tried rubbing my d-ick against her c-lit and that worked pretty well, but then I came before I could enter her... she seemed to enjoy it though...

She has been responding to my text messages since our encounter, so I think she had a good time despite my low level of performance...

But it's getting really frustrating... I haven't PMO'ed in a really long time, and I'm not seeing any improvement... still the old ED problem...

If I see her again, I think I will take some Cialis... I have one or two pills left from the four I bought ages ago, and the last one I took was ages ago... I hear it can boost your confidence and help you on your way to recovery when you're trying to quit PMO.  
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i just relapsed after 28 days before that i just relapsed before 23 days
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You did well. 28 days of abstinence is no joke.

From your last relapsed date (23) to your recent relapsed date (28), that is a big improvement if you ask me.

Now, try and beat that new record.
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Although your performance is was not 100%, which really was not expect at the stage of your recovery, but it wasn't that bad.

You should also try and see an urologist as well, so that you can eliminate the fears of a possible medical condition.

Have you tried to go the suggested 90 days without sex, testing or cheating?

I have tried pills. I used Cialis, but it was not effective for me and then I tried Levitra, it works wonder for me. Rock strong, and massive improvement in stamina and the effect can sometimes last for 2 days, but often within a day. Before you take you old Cialis, do not forget to check the expiring date.

Try to use protection, expect you trust the girl enough not to, the nervousness alone is a performance killer.

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I have already seen a urologist, and he didn't find anything wrong. Both he and my doctor basically think it is psychological. Which is why I think it is all those years of porn, coupled with no sex with a human being that have desensitized my brain... At least I hope so, because if it's the case, then it means I should heal within a few months of not watching any porn and not masturbating...

This time I am not going to relapse. I can feel it in me. The other times that I tried to quit, I knew I didn't REALLY want to quit completely, so I would go back to porn once every few weeks... but now I have grown so tired of this ED that my determination to succeed is sky-high.

I had sex with my sex friend last night. We did it twice last night and twice this morning before she left... The first time we did it I was super horny, and came quite quickly after I entered her (missionary). But the three following times I struggled to sustain my erection... even without a condom on...

The good thing is that she has been really supportive in the way that she has made no comments like "maybe it's because you don't find me attractive" or "what is wrong with you ?" In fact she hasn't said anything, which shows she is a really cool person. AND she keeps coming back to me. So I must be doing SOMETHING right ;-)
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Just to be clear, when I wrote "no sex with a human being" I didn't mean I had had sex with animals lol
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Well men, my journey has begun also.  1 week clean and it's not easy at all.  No need to say much more, as much has already been said by you all.  Same story, same issue.  Now, it's time to get down to business, and reclaim my life.  Stay strong and thanks for sharing your stories to help encourage me and others!
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Well men, my journey has begun also.  1 week clean and it's not easy at all.  No need to say much more, as much has already been said by you all.  Same story, same issue.  Now, it's time to get down to business, and reclaim my life.  Stay strong and thanks for sharing your stories to help encourage me and others!
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Good luck Tysofyne.

For the first time in my life, I have met a girl who likes me back and wants to see me again and again. But it's more of a sex friends type of relationship. I don't see myself in a real relationship with her. Still, it's a great feeling and I hope she will help me recover.

So, I have been getting regular sex, without protection (she's on the pill). I'm still struggling a bit to keep my erections (the first time is usually fine, it's more the second or third time we do it that I struggle). So I'm not really seeing any improvement. Maybe I'm still going through that "flatline" period ? This week I had a couple of morning erections, the first time in a long time. I hope this is a sign of better things to come.
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Be encouraged Sammy.  I started out in the worst way.  Porn and masturbating since age 15.  Married at 28.  Was a virgin when I got married so the only experiences I had was with the women on the screen.  Honeymoon was a nightmare and marriage almost ended before it really got started.  Was about 6 months before things were really ticking.  That whole time, I didn't even have a desire for porn.  Unfortunately, after getting things working the way they should, i started to dabble again.  Bad move.  Now, I have my moments where I'm fighting to keep it up with the wife.  Add in a rough patch with the marriage, and sex is not very frequent.  That means I've been spending more time with the girls on screen again.  I'm finally more fed up than ever, and am very determined to kick the addiction once and for all.  The stories from you and the other guys confirm that my problem is definitely porn.  I will use you guy's victories as encouragement to keep myself diligent.  I pray the best for all of us to be free from "The Addiciton".
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Hi all,

There haven't been any posts lately so I thought I'd try to inject a little bit of life into this thread !

I met a girl just over a month ago and we have been having sex regularly. It's a no-strings-attached type of relationship. She is sleeping at my place again tonight. It's the first time in my life (I'm 30) that I have a regular sex partner so I'm really happy about that, and I think she is helping me to recover, because the more I sleep with her, the less I feel like looking at porn. I have been very successful at refraining from porn.

My sexual performances have improved but I still feel like I don't have enough libido. Still, I am getting more and more frequent night and morning erections, but again it's not systematic.

Anyway, all in all things are pretty positive and I hope they will improve to a point where I can get erections from just looking at or kissing a girl, and maintain one even with a condom on... I want to be 13 again ! lol
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hey thanks for posting again to let me know the discussion is still alive. I have been reading here for  afew days and was thinking about posting and telling my story but wasn't sure if it was still going because no one posted in a while.

I am 37 and have been masturbating to porn since I was in my early 20's on a regular basis. multiple times per day. I was introduced to porn at a very young age. around 3 or 4 even from a neighbor boy and it was something that got my attention. I only got to look at it at friends' houses off and on until in my teens when i would get a hold of magazines and a few videos. then when getting internet is when the addiction really got out of hand. I didn't notice anything wrong until pretty recently. I've never had problems with getting and staying hard and never had problems with a girl until the last girl I was with a few months ago. I just couldn't stay hard. when she used her mouth it was ok but when i tried to enter her it went soft. tried this a few times with her and every time was the same story. I started doing searches if too much porn/masturbation can have an effect like that and I found this forum. so thank you guys for sharing your stories. I am convinced that I found the cause of something that made me really scared because i have never had problems with it until now.

I am on my 5th day now of no porn and no masturbation. soon I will be taking a trip overseas to meet a girl that I met online. we have been talking for a while and she seems really nice. I really wanted to do what I can even for the short time before meeting her. I have not had good morning wood since I stopped the porn and masturbation which i read is normal from articles written by doctors. the first few days were pretty difficult to get past. but I am very strong willed so I refused to do anything because the problem I Have read should only be temporary until the brain gets wired back to normal. not sure how long it will take with me. but today when I was talking with the girl who I will soon meet, we did talk about some naughty things a bit and I got pretty excited. it became rock hard for at least a short time until we changed the topic. after we were finished talking I noticed that my balls were sore. wow. I never thought I would say that I was glad to get blue balls... but this was my first case of it in 16 years or so and it convinced me further that I am doing the right thing by stopping this destructive behavior.

hopefully there will be some positive results to report once I come home from my trip. I know it doesn't happen overnight and I'm not expecting it to. but I am really looking forward to get rid of the cause of the problem and be able to function normally again.

thanks again everyone who has posted. and wish everyone have success in their recovery.
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Hi Sammy I am wondering if you have masturbated at all during your recovery process. If you have, how frequent, etc. I masturbated during my recovery, but I had a plan to eventually stop masturbating after about a month and it worked. Eliminating porn and anything sexual online was the key to my recovery. I just masturbated to anything that popped in my head. After about 30 days, there was no fuel for my brain to masturbate to, so it really lost it's luster. Don't get me wrong, it was very hard not to watch porn, but in some aspects it was easy. And I mean easy to walk away. There was about 10 instances in those first 30 days where I had to walk outside or start doing excersise. But once I walked away, I thought to myself, wow, I can't believe it was that easy to walk away.

          I had a lot of great sex before I became addicted to porn. I then became addicted, lost my erections for about 8 years. But when I completed my full recovery ( about 100 days, 30 days of just masturbating to anything in my head, and 70 days of no masturbation) I was able to get my full erections back. It was like being born again. Research say's that if you had regular normal sex before a porn-induced ED, then you should be able to recovery within 60-90 days. And It was spot on.

        I advise other men on other forums of my recovery process of masturbating to no porn for 30 days, then after 30 days, no masturbation at all. See I must of tried to heal myself about 20 times before I was finally able to do my recovery with the 30 days, then 70 day recovery. Thats why I ask if you have masturbated during your recovery. I will try and be on the board at least twice a week from now on to help encourage all our brothers who battle this. Guys, I battled this addiction for almost 10 years! Before I finally beat it. If you have any questions, feel free to address me on the forum or send me a private message. I would even be willing to speak with you on the phone as I have with other members who seek advice.
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You may be interested to see a website in google under the heading -breath to Orgasm- and in particular read anniesprinkle org website.In fact it is for woman. For man there is another version, we have to look for it. main exercise in this web is squeezing muscle around urethra(kegel) and squeezing  perineum. Read the details in the webpage. you will need to make efforts to learn . If you can control you can increase libido. Do Sat kriya, a simple breathing like panting (breathless type) Find details in Google.Google for groin exercises and you will find many which are really useful.
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If you can control you breath, you can increase you libido. Fast breathing bring you near to orgasm and slow breathing allows you to linger on your sexual activity. There is another powerful exercise, male deer exercise.
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I haven't masturbated once to orgasm since the date shown in my ticker. However, there have been a couple of occasions where I was weak (including today :-( ) and looked at a bit of porn and touched myself to it. Still, I have noticed improvements, and I think it has helped that I have had a regular sexual partner.

I think it's really important that you penis gradually stops getting used to your own touch, and starts getting used to the touch of a woman instead, as well as being inside her. And of course it is important to stop the porn-masturbation association, and watch as little porn, ideally none, for as long as possible...
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havnt been here in a while, because of my mysteriously neuropathy that is affecting sensations in my body. Loss of sensation is still here, very little sensation. I believe there was damage to my nerves near my penis area and elsewhere in body, because of loss of sensations have been persisted since i posted on here. I suspect it could be an autoimmune or some kind of vitamin deficiency, did not have test specifically. Since im on "welfare" getting docs appointment has been a big issue, since my pcp doesnt believe have neuropathy, so her own conclusions is pointing it "all in my head". i went to the specialist on thursday for eye(not my doing), hopefully i can see a neurologist to get to the bottom of this.
I am aware that my symptoms are very similar to diabetic neruopathy, but needs blood tests to be sure. so this neuropathy has affected my orgasm, i can still orgasm and stimulus, but do not get an intense feeling when actually oragasm. I sitll mb,and slipped up several times, so this makes things worst.
it took me months just to get a an appt.

sammywinchester, you seem to be doing great with getting girls to even have sex with you. the best part is to abstain from sex for a month or so, to see where your libido or erections go from there. constant sexual activity also cheapens your sexual experience like it is porn. How often do you have sex  a month?
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I would say these days I am having sex around 10 times a month... I don't think having sex cheapens your sexual experience. On the contrary, I believe having sex "trains" your penis back to normal. It needs to forget the touch of your hand and get used to the feeling of being inside a vagina...
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Hey every one, I haven't posted in such a long while.
It is good to see Sammy my bro fighting the good fight and leading the charge.

Nice to see my fellow brothers waking up to the reality and making the steps to enhance their life.

I have been busy with school.  I have been going on fine for a while now. No form of slipping whatsoever. Going cold turkey works best for me. The last time i went 100 days and I started masturbating without porn and eventually slipped back.  I, from my experience, think masturbating overall should be placed on hold. If one thinks masturbation is ok, then that's fine, but try going without it too, and if you cant, maybe that's another addiction to think about.

I have been feeling more energy and I am more focused again.  I feel positive and clean inside. I am looking forward to going the whole year and see what happens at the end of the year.

I have powerful erections when I am talking to a girl I really like. We were having a discussion without using any dirty words, but the conversation was suggestive. I had some good hard on!! I was surprised!! I haven't felt it so strong in years! Anyway,  I am motivated to continue on this path yet again.

No porn watching for me I haven't even peeked on a video.
No masturbation for me, I think that's a gateway activity that will lead me back to porn, based on my experience, so for me that's a no no.
A girl did send me naked pics of herself, I didn't get any reaction from that.  I deleted them now anyway. I get more excited from a nice conversation.

I haven't kissed a girl in awhile.. much less to have sex.

The journey continues bro! keep it clean, lets all just aim for another 30 days without PMO and  post a celebration article for another mile stone (each time we do). [what you think?]
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I too feel a lot more confident, and I have more energy than when I used to watch porn and masturbate regularly.

I had sex with a new girl last week-end. She was a hot blonde with a great body ! she was a complete nymphomaniac though lol she screamed so hard and was so excited that it actually put me off. It put me off because I don't necessarily want my neighbours to know what I am up to, and also I thought she must be faking it, it didn't sound natural....

and I couldn't keep it up once I entered her ! Needless to say she was disappointed afterwards and she thought I wasn't comfortable wit her. I told her I was but that the condoms were killing any kind of feeling in my penis... which is actually true as well. But I don't think she will want to have sex with me again. I am not even sure I want to, because I have this other girl that I am seeing regularly, who is less hot, but we get on really well and the sex is nice... I would feel kind of guilty seeing another girl regularly... we'll see...

I like your suggestion Jaga, I'll try to do it and keep to it.
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Guys, I need your help. I have been unable to have inter course (thrice) now. I did have erections while I was making out with these bful women but when the time came to go the distance, my erection died down.
I am wondering if there is something wrong with me and I should go to a doctor. I do masturbate frequently (3-4 times a week) and I am wondering if that is part of the problem. I do have erections early morning and so on. Any suggestions would be helpful.
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What age are you ? Have you had sex before or were they your first times ? Is this the first time you experience erection problems ? 90% of erection problems are psychological. They are usually caused by stress, performance anxiety, depression...

But there is growing evidence that they can also be caused by viewing too much porn (as it allegedly re-wires the brain) and too much masturbation (training your penis to porn and to react to your hand only, "death-grip", etc...)...

So yeah, I think the fact that masturbating so often might be affecting your libido. Some men watch porn and masturbate all the time, and they have no erection problems. In fact, some men are machines that can have sex 6 or 7 times in an evening, and every time have a rock solid erection and last long. I know that because women that I have slept with have told me that these guys existed. Needless to say I am very, very jealous of them ! no wonder some women prefer dating these guys rather than "normal" people like you and I... anyway, rant over...

Some men DO have erection problems, and in order to regain erections they need to stop viewing porn and masturbating altogether. So give it a go Advait, and tell us how you get on.
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keep the focus keep fighting the urge men.
One more day, one more week.. one more month... soon it will be a year.
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When all this PORN/MB started last year, i was also battling contact dermatitis, that coincidentally appeared at the same time i became aware of my addiction. And having Peripheral neuropathy, that started this januarary hasnt helped my situation. I am capable of getting an erection, and orgasming( the sensation is not very intense, because of the loss of sensations). Ill be seeing neuropthamologist sometime next week, to seek if this is nerve damage due to injury, infection, drugs, or autoimmune disease. My case is truely a neurological now, and it affects my MB/Porn recovery processes.
To let you know what neuropathy is
- i have pins and needles on the left side of my body, and sometimes on the right, but have largely dissapated, but still recur in light amounts. my right side of the body seem to have loss some sensations(feeling your arm and legs move).
-prickling,jabs of pain,tingling, are all part of the neuropathy. On many occasion my penis gets the prickling, stinging, and itchiness, which desensitizes the penis at the same time.

I am aware of diabetes which is the most common cause of neuropathy, also can be the cause of ED, i realize that Diabetes causes ed, by Neuropathy, nerve damage to penis. i will be asking if could be tested for it as well.
-i ALSO am trying to not see my PCP, because she thinks all the problems i am having are in my head(long story how she came to that conclusion.) I will be seeing specialists to see where i can go from here. i wouldve have answers months ago if i had a job and insurance, i am on welfare with california, so appts are slow.
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Hello i have a problem...i have a girlfriend i,m dating with her around 3 months,i didn,t had sex with her yet... but i masturbated 5 times in  last 4 months,but is a problem...we played a lot like a foreplay and saddly i cummed...and she worries if i am the perfect guy for her,she is still a virgin..i am 24
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Hi all,

Just a quick word to let you know that I met a girl just over two weeks ago, and I am absolutely crazy about her. We have started going out and have had sex a few times, in different positions.

I have no problem staying hard (we have been doing it without protection from the get go) the first time we have sex (in an evening), but it gets a little more difficult the second and third time and even the following morning, I guess because we are more tired...

Anyway, I really feel like I am getting better, both physically and psychologically. Having a regular sexual partner really does help, especially when there are feelings involved !

Please wish me luck because I really really want to keep this girl :-D

Take care everyone !
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Ok so I want to try to do a week without any masturbation, but there are a couple problems here.  One I sometimes use masturbation to get to sleep which sometimes helps.  And Two After about 2 or 3 days without doing it which is a long time for me as I usually do it daily everyday between 1-3 times a day My mind starts wondering and thinking about dating and relationships.  I am a mid 20s Loner never dated and have No interest in Ever dating, but when I go days without masturbating like I said my mind wonders and tricks me into thinking I want to date because ive gone days without a release.   After I masturbate and release after 2 or 3 days of Not doing it,  its like wow why was I even thinking about any of that and once again couldnt care less about relationships/dating.  How do I forget about women while doing my week because the longer I go without masturbating the more my mind tricks me and the more I think about relationships, when I Never think about them when doing it daily???
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*Wanders not wonders my bad
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So since June 1, I have been in a constant cycle of PMO. It reached to the point where I spent hours in front the screen, masturbating/stroking/fapping/playing with myself even when I wasn't aroused. I kept pushing my self for days and hours at a time edging. I sunk to a whole new low of the content I was watching... I felt like I gave up on trying to get better and kept giving in to the desires on a whim.

So since yesterday, I started watching the motivational videos I discovered last year and encouraging myself to get through these first few weeks until I break free and quit.

since PMO'ing
I have been going to work late every single day
I literally feel like a zombie, I have no energy when I walking
I have stopped studying and I have an important exam coming up
I feel slouched and weak, I feel crappy at times
I think I make irrational decisions, I spend money on a whim without thinking exactly if it is worth it.
I found that I want to play video games more as well.
I don't feel that passion I was feeling for a woman, I have a numbness
I procrastinate a lot, and feel indifferent towards my friends.
I neglect a lot of my responsibilities and as such limit my own growth potential.

I am making a conscious decision to start a life of no PORN and NO MASTURBATION. I have reached the same conclusion that masturbating adds NOTHING to my life. All it does is waste my precious semen, my life seed, and leaves me with low or no energy. Distracts me from things I should be focusing on. Of course some people my feel that a one wank is healthy. But why do it?? If it ain't with a real partner then it is completely a waste of time. I felt so much better when I was on my streak of a 100 days no PMO. I am sick of this habit that I keep doing, every single time I PMO I feel like I am betraying humanity.

I was feeling really bad to post on the forum because of the joy I felt when i was off this self inflicted abuse. Now, I am ready to be open again, I realize reading about this entire ordeal over and over and being knowledgeable gives me the motivation I need. So, here I am step 1, day 1.
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by the way, my **** smells bad, and my fingers are wrinkly and has small bumps on it because I have sensitive skin. The constant lubrication has irritated it.
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I am really sorry to hear about your illness bro. I am happy though, that you discovered what the ailments are, I hope that something will work out for you to get the treatment that you need.
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ok so the the statement that was censored is... "my d-i-c-k (penis) smells bad'

any one wants to see benefits of not masturbating can check out the link below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IsAQeSDjJjk
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hy u all....i rili love d advice u guys ar sharin...i rili hope ull all help me....m patrick frm nigeria...m 17yrs...i stratd watchin porn frm 12yrs nd statd fapping wit porn at 16.....and in a week i fappd up to ten rimes....untill dis yr wen i realise dat it cuf cos ed nd pme.....so i decided to stp..but i stp masturbation fr 3 weeks afta dat i cud do it for lyk trice a wik..wit porn....each nite i do view porn pics....buh most times i dnt fap wig it even though i have an erection.......am scard nw...i wanna stp madturbation and porn completely....buh am scard tinkin dat am too late

...pls advice me......i have a gf...each time wwe kisf or romance...i rilli get in d mood..i have strng erection...buh am scared of makin luv to her i tink i wont last three mins......buh wen i stp fapin afta thre wik.....before i last 2mins before i ***....buh afta three wik...i fappd nd last 9 mins  i tried again buh i still went back to lastin 3 mins.......pls helpe i wanna stp completely.....
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Hi its been a while. And i havnt found any answers. After the neurologists(it was just a regular one, not a special eye neurologist), She dint seem to think my issues was neurological, because the way i describe the symptoms. Now ive have been taken a step backwards, because all i got was another Specialist with an ENT, which wouldnt help because my issues have been neuropathy based. The loss of sensation made me wonder if it was something happened in my brain, where it processes the sensations. Im getting the run around. I have been to other forums, and it turns out neuropathy is very hard to pinpoint, especially the cause, because if a doctor does not see it, or have results on a tests, it doesnt exist to them, and they start saying its in your head. After the neuro appt, i get the feeling i will not be able to get an MRI,CAT,PET scan or see anothe neurologist again, based on the lack of findings on this one. I tried explaining the inability to feel anything slide down my throat, as asymptom but it dint not faze them at all. They tried to pushed more blood tests, but i dint not bother giving blood, because i do not even have symptoms of those things on the blood test.
and this PN has affected my orgasms, even when i masturbate, no intense feeling, just no sensation when it comes out. looks like its going im going to get a run around, from a socialized health care system. All they are capable is very common illnesses and not something that is hard to diagnose like Peripheral neuropathy. Unless i get a rheumatologist or a mri scan, theres very little to go on at this point.
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Since you are this young and started fapping for only 5 years, which is already a long time. if you are getting an erection with your gf, its likely you dont have ED. You may have very minor ED. You defintely should stop watching porn and masturbating, if your thinking about having sex with your gf. I dont know how young your gf is,but dont think about sex until she is ready. You can masturbate, but not to porn, you can do it to your gf. Some of use have been masturbating 8+ years and already have severe ed issues, and other mental issues.
if she is ready and you can get a strong erection, you can make love. Its usually soft erection that doesnt last long that is the issue.
Once people starts masturbating, theres no way to stop unless you are getting satisfied by a sexual partner.
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nt 5years...i startd last just year.....my gf is 19 nd m 17………buh am scard of makin luv to her...i have this feelins dat i wont last up to 3mins……………u guys should eat lots of garlic....i heard it increases libido............also try gettin erection.....so dat blood willl flow to d penis.....it will help in healing the damaged nerves....but do nt masturbate.......my fellow guys....we cn do dis...we cnt fight it...its our body...we musnt be self sex slaves....masturbation nd porn ruins life....if u say u have been fappin for years  nd u tink u cnt stp.....yes u  can infact u can earase it frm ur body....just belive in urself
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find an ancor...lyk me my late mum is my anchor...because i dnt wana disapiont her...each time i tink abt masturbation....i always remember dat i dnt wana disapiont her  nd dat gives me control of my body....fappin isnt vud at all....we must eradicate it completely...nd i believe we cn do it....wish u all

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Just saying hello. I have been free since my last update. I hardly think about my former habit. Key things I do is find something to do to occupy time and go to sleep when I would normally slip up.

NO PORN
NO MASTURBATION

KEEP YOUR HANDS OFF YOUR WILLY unless you p i s s i n g or taking a bathe.

peace lol
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I believe one thing men who struggle trying to quit masturbation-to-porn fail to realize that the desire to do it, the temptation will always exist. It's no different then those who are alcoholics/drug addicts. I know when I would try to quit I would wake up in the morning feeling horny, wanting porn; and I would tell myself, well there's that feeling, I still want it, so I guess I have to do it. I never realized that the desire to do it would always be there if not take a long time to go away. I figured if I wanted to quit or was going to quit the desire to do it should not be there. For years I didn't understand that. So many times after trying to quit I would be at home and the urge to do it would strike me even though I had sworn masturbation-to-porn off a couple of days earlier. I would honestly think to myself, well, I guess I don't really want to quit this addiction cause my brain and body are asking for it again. It's a really twisted train of thought, but it's something that I really did struggle with.

            Guys the temptation will always exist; there is nothing wrong with that. There are scriptures in the bible that read temptation and sin are part of every man, it's the actions of what you do that define you.
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Yes, it will.
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I have not posted in quite a while and I wanted to let you guys  know where I am in life.

I have NOT relapsed I still avoid porn like it is poison.  Occasionally I accidentally get exposed to some and for a brief moment I feel the chemicals in my mind raging before I remove myself from the exposure.

My Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction is completely gone and I am now able to enjoy the presence of a woman like a man with a non compromised by porn mind. Its like night and day and I am so glad that I found the resources and support online to assist me in my recovery.  

For those of you who are deep in the throws of battle with porn, its truly mind over matter.  I've dated a few women here and there and have not experienced any erection problems what's really funny is a had a woman over my place a few months ago and we were messing around.  We didn't have sex but at one time she ask my why my penis was super hard and took a while to go down.  I was so damn proud of myself to be 48 years old and have a raging erection.

Work and school have kept me busy its important to find something to do with your spare time.  I hope to find a woman one of these days and start an relationship and catch up on some lost shagging time.   8)

As always I am here for advice, a sounding board etc.  Don't hesitate to reach out.
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nice to see you back, its hard when you got porn now readily available, then ever. At first it was computers, now people have it on thier smartphones and touchpads.
I know how people were concerned about Diabetes or neurological induced, but in fact was suffering from porn and Masturbation ed.
For some like me, over this year(7months), i developed peripheral neuropathy, now i suspect autonomic(mild) neuropathy as well, which is known to cause ED combined with my addiction to porn/mb it has made it hard to know if im recovering or not. I must note that stopping frequent mb/porn does help. ED induced by diabetes is caused by Autonomic neuropathy, over the 7 months i realised the diabetes that induced ED has a name. of course neuropathy affects othe rparts of your body as well.
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Hey there!!!!

In our current society and state of technology its even more difficult to avoid porn because it is accessible everywhere!!!  
Even watching television can be a toss random trigger your way.  I've seen women making out on reality shows which in some cases can be like lighting stick of dynamite.  
Kicking porn/mb should help reduce the impact of your medical conditions causing ED.  

Keep up the fight!!!
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with the advent of mobile devices, like smartphones and touchscreens, its extremely accessible.
My neuropathy, combined with my dermatitis issue hit my like a ton of bricks last year and this year. And this actually prevents me from joining the "services", now that i have documented medical issues.
I had been searching for since feb several specialist, in my welfare system, and i am convinced these last 2"neurologists" were not interested in my symptoms, but are trying to point like i have a mental problem instead. They blatantly ignored my fingertips "altered sensations,a nd my loss of smell. I dont think i will be offered anymore tests or doctors, because of my mysterious "neuropathy"

NEUROPATHy still affects my penis, by making it itchy to the point of desensitization.
When i started out last year, of porn/mb my dermatitis wasnt severe enough to affect ED. i do finding porn /mb, when stopping it helps with ed.

I also realized that neuorpathy is extremely hard to diagnose( a possible cause), because it can be caused by various diseases, injuries diabetes, also most of them.
Just giving experience from someone who has Peripheraly neuropathy, and ED, porn/mb.
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Hi guys,

truly glad I found this forum and find out that I'm not alone. I've been dealing with the bad side of this addiction for a while. Like most of you here I used to get proper erections in my  18's, but for the last five years I've been deep in to the web porn, although I had few girls through that period I noticed that I started having difficulties. The most common scenario is I'm all hard during the foreplay, but once I need get down to business It becomes softer and I cannot go on. It happened at least few times and its becoming really frustrating. The worst thing is that I'm afraid that it will happen again. I
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Guys i have a problem...recently i stopped masturbation...last time i masturbated it was 3 of october....but yesterday i tried to have sex with my girlfriend...it was terible...when we played everything was fine...but when i wanted to get inside her...i cummed and that happened 3 times...and we want to try again on thursday
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I have regressed and been on and off the porn/mb loop for weeks.

Currently I feel like I have no energy, I feel like crap, getting sick frequently and taking long to recover. I have lost my focus for work and school, I am actually getting poor grades now, people keep saying I look sad (when I am not actively talking to any one and putting on a conscious smile). I remember when I went 100 days without porn/mb I had so much energy my mind was clear, my thoughts were positive. I felt I was going somewhere in life. Now I feel like I am in a mental cage, with thoughts of giving up, my mind feels clouded, I can hardly concentrate for long periods, I am restless, and I did mention I get sick frequently as if my body is tired and cant fight off common viruses as it used to. make matters worst.. now I find I am searching for smut I wouldn't normally watch, as if what I need to shock me for that boost of dopamine has gotten worst depraved.

It is around last year this time, I discovered the information of porn addiction and ED. I am trying to get back on that winning streak again, so that's my aim now as it relates to this fight. I was feeling really down by myself, I know I should come here for support but I was reluctant. I know I do not want to keep doing this cycle. I need to stop and break free. Why do I keep giving in to the feeling? I have so much access to materials that clearly explain. Am I weak mentally?

Pray for me,
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Jaga, I sent you a private message, please read it. Thanks, Dan.
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message acknowledged Dan. no prob?


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I was reading my old post and realize how much happier I was when I wasn't PMO'ing. I am open to contact for talking via email or instant messaging, send me a private message, for support and encouragement.
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please have been masturbating to porn for about 5 or 4yrs now without knowing d consequences. just saw it as a way to relieve sexual energy. 15th of October 2015 I masturbated to a movie Spartacus after dat day I felt d guilt and decided to stop...  what scares me now is since that day till now have not had morning erections,spontaneous erections, my **** is dead and shrinks .... please help m so scared
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You are going through a flat line period. It will pass, it is important that you do not try to "test" your penis.  I went through it I called the stage Zombie D*!k because that is just what it felt like, completely lifeless.  
You'll be fine & stay strong!!!
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It's been 5 days since I quit porn and masturbation. What motivated me to do this was an erectile dysfunction incident 6 days ago when I was in the act of making love to a beautiful girl. I have never been more embarrassed in my life.
As soon as I got home I went online looking for the reasons behind my problem, maybe some answers. I came upon this page and I have been reading all of the posts on this thread. I want you to know -any of you who have posted here before me- that I deeply appreciate the sharing of your experiences and understanding about this addiction.
Right now I'm experiencing a great deal of anxiety and edginess. My body misses my 16-year-formed habit. I do feel the 'cold, shrunken penis' other people have talked about.
Yesterday was a little bit more bearable than the other days because I experienced some success at work; which must have given me the dopamine 'hit' I used to get from masturbation. Today though, I'm back to feeling anxious and short of breath. I want a better life than this, I won't relapse; I can't.
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Been a while since I posted here. Nice to see some familiar faces (GhostDog)

It's been some years with periods where I didn't think about PMO for months and periods when I relapsed even more times-a-day.

Coming from the latter period now. 5 days in.

No morning erections.
During sex I get a semi-erection with condom.
I can't finish if I am not helping myself sometimes.
I get spontaneous erections from time to time.
If I don't have any manual stimulus I can't stay hard for long.

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Welcome back!!!!
I'm here lurking in the shadows.  Its time for you to get it back in gear and let PMO go.
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I havnt been on here a while as well, as im fighting contact dermatitis(which is chronic and affect my skin, which inlcudes penis, it becomes itchy and causes me to scratch it. i must admit staying away porn was harder than one believes, it makes sense if one is exposed to it for years.

I also believe. now my neuropathy, through my own research, no useless doctor, is caused by spinal issues(disc herniations, scoliosis, disk bulging, stenosis,,,etc) and at 28 right now. as you know neuropathy affects sensations, and that is a big problem if you have porn-ed as well.
i also am amazed that its been 1.5 years(starting on here in june14 since i saw this post to ask for help, and still trying to recover from it. I have several months of no-porn, but with mb, from oct14 to around march. but infrequently slid and watched porn. I now know how aggressive porn-mb addiction, on your mobile device, sadly i was using this around fall last year. Even though its very limited, and slow when comparing to computer search, because of its portability it has become addicting. without a sexual partner, tis hard to overcome an addiction,especially if you have NEUROPATHY.
@over and over, your PORN-md seems to be , mild, use your gf to do some manual stimulation, this sets your brain to not use your hands. from what ive been reading right online premature ejactulation, can be mitigated with some techniques.

@pfaith-how old are you, if your around 16, your recovery will be easier, since you havnt done porn-mb for long. by the way erectile dysfunction, means inability to get erection despite stimulation. ED from porn-mb is highly recoverable, but hard to get out of addiction. ED from diseases like PERIPHERAL AND AUTONOMIC NEUROPATHY, diabetes, or diseases that affect erections is much harder to overcome and requires doctor visit and testing.


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I have the same problem like "over and over", im 18, i masturbated with a technique called edging, when i was about to reach the orgasm i stopped, and now i cant get a full erection or last longer.
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18!!!! Whew I barely remember those days but they were great I'm sure.

The good news is that if you stop edging and stop all contact with porn (visual, mental, audio, reading, fantasy etc.) you will get better.   You are the solution to your problem.  
We are STRONGER than porn.
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I'm 30 days in already. No notable changes. No morning wood. No spontaneous erection. I noticed getting moody and a lacking sleep a lot. I don't feel the urge of watching P or M. I think I'm in the flatline since I started. I have less problems getting an erection when touching, but no major changes.

I O 4 times. 3 times with my girlfriend and 1 time "with" her doing stuff on Skype (long distance *****). No vaginal sex for now, so I can't say if my ED is cured. Erections are stronger than before, but they don't last long. I also don't get hard easily from kissing or cuddling.

Only 30 days in. Let's do another 30.
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One day at at time.  Being moody and lacking sleep is part of the withdrawal process.  Fight the urge to "test" your penis.  Stay away from porn and you will see a big difference.
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Nice to see you here.

2 months have passed since the reset. I am able to have normal sex and I get an erection only from touching or making out, sometimes even by thought.

No morning wood or random erections. I viewed P twice and M like 5 times (including fooling around with my girflriend)

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Yeah so I have this same issue. I'm 17 but the thing is I'm physically active everyday. I'm healthy and in shape, I drink lots of water everyday and I eat really good. I did use to watch porn everyday and I masturbated at least 2 times a day. Its been 2 weeks without watching porn. Just the other day I was gonna have intercorse with this girl and I had the same problem, I couldn't get up . When I finally did get up it was kinda of a weak erection, I was dissapointed because I'm pretty big and I'm capable beating the p up . What should I do ?
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yes it will.  The stimulation you now seek is porn. we dont obviously make love this way. and the women are gorgeous and the men are long, whatever So subcontiously you try to relate to sex in this way. Its all in ur head. Stop with the porn and FEEL with ur Heart. Its a mindset.....
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I went off porn for a couple of weeks but then on and off in the last month.
I get morning erections and I can have an erection easily without watching porn.

I am even hard with my GF when we start fooling around.  But as soon as it starts with actual intercourse I lose the erection!

I am REALLY getting frustrated and I am guessing this is causing more anxiety for the next time as well...

What can it be???
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hi i slipped, again. i dint realize that this site tribe.net had pictures(aka pornographic imagry) and i went to this instead of video site. After scrolling and clicking i jumped into an area of the site where no one should even go(illegal imagry,hint). This made me so disgusted i left, its a wake up call i need stop this porn/masturbation. Its porn addiction that makes you want to escalate that will et you in trouble. AND still have solved my erection problems. this site has been reported by thier were little action against it.
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havnt solved my ed troubles
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I never went into as deep as that illegal images, but theres is alot of insinuations, in the comments and pictures. and i found out that the site does house illegal pictures.
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Wow, I am so glad I found this thread... If only I had found it years ago! Thanks to everyone for sharing your story and experience. I in turn will share mine...

I'm 27 years old. I haven't had a proper girlfriend in about 4 years. The last one, we were at it like rabbits and after dating for a while I was having to fantasize during to make it exciting and keep going/reach climax. I stopped being able to maintain erections and this caused me a lot of embarrassment, frustration and anxiety.

I put it down to being overweight, or depression which started due to some other triggers in my life. I have since overcome the depression and am pretty happy with life, but the problem remains and is one area of life I'm obviously not happy with. I also strongly believed it was psychological and caused by performance anxiety; "I'm worried it will happen or expecting it will happen, so it happens."

In the 4 years since the relationship ended I maintained the frequency of release by pmo, normally once or sometimes twice a day. I would occasionally go a day or two without, but it was something that I just generally did, even if I wasn't in the mood I would stick on some porn and get in the mood. I would infrequently get morning wood, but never got random erections, and would generally only get and stay hard by my own hand, and go soft again as soon as I had ejaculated.

I've had a handful of experiences with girls during this time, and sadly only 1 of them went without any problems. A girl I've got with a few times doesn't seem to mind and is good at helping, but it doesn't stop the frustration and embarrassment. The anxiety and fear of knowing I will fail to perform stops me from even trying with girls anymore.

Last night I found this page, read a bunch of posts, and instantly deleted my list of links to re-watchable videos. (Normally I needed fresh material each time, and was needing more unusual categories, but there were a few I found which I felt I would go back to.)

Just knowing what the problem is is such a relief and so empowering to know I can fix what has been broken for so long. I feel that with knowing this and my determination to get over the problem, I shouldn't have any problem abstaining. (We'll see if I'm still saying that next week!)

I think part of it was also in my head, and feeling the relief and confidence for the future already seems to have had a positive effect as I got a random erection earlier this evening which persisted for a good few minutes without any stimulation!

I'm looking forward to the journey and getting back to normal. Thank you all, and good luck to all in the same position!
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Well abstaining is harder than I thought...I lasted 48 hours.

I was doing ok, managing to change my train of thought whenever I felt myself pulled toward fantasizing or looking up some porn. But then I heard from an old lady friend (actually the mother of someone who was in my year at school, who could resist?!) who I used to have some fun with about 7 years ago. The conversation turned to old times and before I knew it I found myself looking at the pics she sent me in the past and I just couldn't stop myself.

I guess I might have more of a problem with self control than I thought. At least I didn't break a big streak, I can start again, and hopefully be more successful now that I have gotten that out of my system.
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Hey Choking_Chicken,

You might want to try support groups as well. This is a difficult battle to face alone.

There are several groups like Sexaholics Anonymous who have helped men with their addiction.

They would be a great group and resource to get in contact with. There should be one in your local town or city.
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Did stopping P and M cure your ED?

Currently struggling.
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I don't know yet, I've not managed to stop, I keep thinking "once more won't hurt" so I'm still where I was last month! :(
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Hey guys.

Please forgive my poor English and manner of writing.

It's been a while and this thread has been quite. Last post was July 26. I hope guys still come here to view and reset counters.

I have been trying to stop masturbating to porn for some times now, but the longest I have gone was 5 weeks. But, whenever I relapse, I reset my counter and try again. This method have helped me to reduce my exposure and remind me that it is a struggle and I have to keep fighting.

I have had a girlfriend for about a year now. My erection was terrible when we met, but she was understanding. Sometimes, I use performance enhancement drugs (L'arginine and L'citrilline has been helpful too, although I try not be over reliant on them) and always remind her that I will get better even if I don't know when. I have been keeping fit, improved my diet, sleep well.

Recently, I mistaking stumble on a pegym forum when I was doing some research on L'arginine vs L'citrilline, I decide to look deeper into the forum and I discovered some amazing tips (be careful when you look around the forum).
After I did some readings, I decided to experiment with one of the PE exercises (kegeling), although I have read about it some years back, but I was not interested because I thought it is not relevant to my ed problem (my regret), I was dead wrong!.

Just 3 days of doing the kegel excercise, I noticed a significant improvement that I could not have imagined. It does not only improves your erection quality, but it also helped with premature ejaculation.
Due to the benefit of kegel, I decided to try other PE exercises. Although I was a bit skeptical about trying out others because of the caveat that was included, but I eventually included basic stretching and jelqing. I was like, wow! After just one week, It feels like I was on performance drugs.

I can't say that I'm 100% recovered, but the improvement has been massive and unexpected. I have never had this sort of confidence for decades, expect when I'm on one of those drugs. My erection quality has improved. I can stay far more longer and I can feel blood freely flowing to my penis. Let me also add that, you can experience size increase, if you're diligent and dedicated for over a long period.

Finally, sex last night with my girlfriends was awesome. Awesome without using any drug. Is that not an amazing feelings?

Understand that, I don't know if this will work for everyone, but it's not a bad idea to try it out.

I hope this will be helpful and not just long and boring
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