Too much porn/masturbation cause ED?

[maxcheang]

Hi I m a 28 year old and suffer some degree of ED in recent. I start masturbated since I m 19 and usually use porn as a form of visual stimiulation. I have observed that I have lost the ability to maintain erect during intercource or I only get weak erection. My question is: does masturbation in association with porn will "exhaust" my interest towards sex and create a negative impact on my ability to get aroused in real sex? I m worried cause I think I m still young to have physical cause  for ED. Any thought?

[classym4cpl]

Well, I will be honest and give you the best advice I can give through my years of research and experience. FIRST, there is no replacement for getting your regular manhood erections back then stopping masturbating all together. It is the quickest way to full recovery. I read during my research that if there is an addiction to masturbation and porn, then continuing to masturbate without porn or anything video, the recovery process of getting your regular manhood erections can take up two two years. That's a long time. That is why in my earlier post I mentioned that eventually you have to stop masturbating.

           Your question of did you relapse? My answer to that is NO. The foundation for your addiction and disorder is porn. You need to eliminate it and get it out of your life. It is as dangerous as drugs and alcohol; as it has the potential to your your life. I lost my wife and a good life because of porn. I won't tell you to stop masturbating because I could not stop masturbating from one day to the next. It took me about a month to stop masturbating after I gave up everything related to porn. But let me tell you as one man to the next JagaJM. I commend you in eliminating porn from your life. That is a struggle in itself.

                If you have gone 101 days without watching porn or anything porn video or image related. I say great job and congratulations. That is awesome. Now, far as getting erections back, like a normal sexually functioning man, time will tell. Have you been with a woman, how did it go. Is it time now to maybe start a masturbation free cycle of 2-3 months. On a side note, I now masturbate freely without any problems to my sex life. I masturbate in the shower, in my bed. I don't go out to do it, sometimes the urge just hits. After I completed the  cycle of 90 days of masturbation free
I really had my erections back. It was maybe a couple of weeks after that I began to masturbate every so often, And it did not affect me sex life what so ever. But of course, I didn't look at porn or anything porn related or will I ever again.

[JagaJM]

I haven't had such an experience before so i cant speak on it.

maybe you are not that attracted to her.

I have never heard of the vagina being huge after loosing weight before.

(The word that was censored from my original post was p-i-s-s. haha)

[JagaJM]

classym4cpl, I accept and agree with your post.

I haven't reset my counter, just to let you know, I been off porn for those days you see below.
I was only asking if masturbating (without porn) just plain stroking myself off. Does that in itself count as a relapse? (it doesn't feel like a relapse to me)  I am not beating up myself or feeling depressed. I just want to be fair on my counter that's all [smile].

The reason I didn't masturbate before is I didn't want to activate those wiring in my brain that will lead to porn, and I didn't know if I would be strong enough to resist the urge. Clearly Masturbating to Porn and Orgasm is the root of the issue and not masturbation by itself. The urge to watch porn when I was masturbating wasn't strong either. So I know I have made quite a good distance in recovery so far. I still have no interest to watch porn. Masturbation based on my two moments, felt like a waste of time, that's all.

My main aim is to be free from the cycle and the habit of PMO, to be healed and recover my natural manhood and live a normal sex life (without porn in it).

SammyWinchester, how are you coming along?

[SammyWinchester]

Great post classy, I agree with you, it's a gradual process, and you will go through times when you lose faith and wonder if the sacrifices you are making (by not watching porn and masturbating) are actually doing any good and improving your situation...

I had sex last night. With a new girl, for the first time. We tried to have sex 4 times. Out of those 4 times, unfortunately not once did I manage to keep my erection. It started great, I had a rock solid erection after she gave me a han-d-jo-b or a bl-o-w-j-o-b. But soon after I entered her, I would lose my erection and have to stop right there.

This morning I was feeling really down, depressed even... but then I thought about a few things... first of all, this girl used to be quite fat and lost a lot of weight (like 40 pounds) recently. So probably she had a fairly large vagina (which is not the most stimulating). Needless to say, I couldn't feel anything as I was f***ing her... plus I had a condom on, which obviously doesn't help...

Second, she was so wet it was insane... she was actually one of those "legendary" "squirters". I didnt't know they actually existed, until last night, when I saw it with my own eyes...

I had a discussion with some friends about this, and they told me that if a woman was too wet, then that could lead to you having less feeling inside her....

So I think maybe if I didn't manage to keep my erection while I was inside her, was because I was wearing a condom, she was too wet, and her pu-ss-y was too large... I hope so anyway, otherwise there really is something wrong with me !

What do you think ?  

[classym4cpl]

Ok JagaJM,

                   When I first discovered that masturbating to porn was the cause of my ED, I tried quitting everything cold turkey, all types of masturbation, masturbation and porn. I lasted maybe 5 days because of the anxiety of not being able to masturbate. I then decided to just masturbate just in bed, in the shower, but nothing online, videos and pictures. I masturbated non-stop, think I masturbated 10 ten times in one day; cause I had so many mental images in my head of porn, swinger websites, and all things sex in my head. I had a lot of porn fuel in my head to masturbate to. This lasted about a week. Cause after a week masturbation was no fun anymore, cause I didn't have anything to fuel it. No porn, no swingers websites, pictures. It was a really ****** up feeling. This is when I realized I had an addiction to porn. That I needed porn to masturbate. And that it was not that I was just a horny guy. I really needed porn to get myself going. Of course I fell off the wagon and was masturbating to porn a couple of days later.

               But eventually this is how I was able to quit. I stopped going online and looking for porn or anything sex related. I masturbated in the shower, in my bed. Yes, my brain wanted to bad to go on my favorite amateur porn sites to look at the new girls in the updates. But I didn't. You know what I discovered JagaJM, and I am not bullshitting you; the easiest thing in the healing process is not to click on and look at porn. Just don't do it. Walk away, do anything. And I guarantee you 5-10 minutes later the temptation will have subsided. Now you may have to do this two or ten times a day, but it is the easiest thing to do. Just walk away. I learned to just walk away. But I know this also. If you do click on porn and start watching it or anything sex related; I guarantee you that you will masturbate to it. Guaranteed. So you have to just walk away from clicking on it.  

        Now far as you falling off the wagon. Masturbating did not get you in this mess, masturbating to online porn did. Yes, the common objective is to quit masturbating, masturbating to porn or any videos and images, so that you will be able to recover full erections within 60-90 days. But cold turkey is difficult. Very difficult. If eliminating porn, or anything video or image related is your objective, you should be commended for it. That is a battle in itself. if you continue to masturbate, so be it, don't give yourself a hard time about it. Your recovery time will be much longer, who knows how much longer. But, you have to quit trying to masturbate all together at some point in order to get your erections of manhood back. And guess what, you will fall off the wagon from that, just like I did. But you start again. But at this point porn is gone and out of your life. And you realize how addicted you were and how much in a fog you were living in compared to men who have a normal sexuality about themselves.

              I quit porn and everything sex related, and just masturbated in bed, the shower. This went on for about 3 weeks, when I decided to stop masturbating all together. I feel off the wagon twice after that. Not to porn, but just to wanting to masturbate. But after the 2nd time, that's when I was able to do my full recovery. I'm not saying it was easy, in some aspects it was, in some it was not. And recovery is a process. It's not like you wake up on day 60 and say "I made it". No, as you recover from being masturbation free, you notice the physical and mental changes. You wake up with erections, if you are lucky enough to have a sex partner ( GF, etc) you notice erections are harder,  longer, as you are coming along after day 40 or 50. It is really no different then a person who might be obese trying to lose 100 pounds. They see the changes as the weeks pass along. Losing a few pounds here and there, and when they start seeing the physical changes, they know it's because of the work they put in. It does not happen from one night to the next. Just like recovering your full erections.

[JagaJM]

My energy level is lower than normal, my body feels a bit sluggish.

That's a noticeable change from just mb lastnight.