I'M PREGNANT ONE MONTH AFTER A MISCARRIAGE

[Jen k.]

I HAD A MISCARRIAGE ON NOVEMBER 16TH.  IT WAS CALLED A CHEMICAL PREGNANCY BECAUSE I WAS ONLY ABOUT 4 1/2 WEEKS. (BASICALLY IT WAS LIKE GETTING MY PERIOD 5 DAYS LATER THAN NORMAL. NO CRAMPING AND NO D&C NECESSARY.) NOW IT IS A MONTH LATER ALL LAST WEEK HAD SLIGHT CRAMPING LIKE I WOULD BE GETTING A/F.  TOOK A TEST AND I'M PREGNANT!  I'M EXCITED, BUT SLIGHTLY NERVOUS THAT I COULD MISCARRY AGAIN. ALWAYS NERVOUS WHEN I GO TO THE BATHROOM THAT I MIGHT SEE BLOOD.  HAS THIS HAPPENED TO ANYONE ELSE?  ANYTHING I CAN DO TO INCREASE CHANCES OF NOT LOSING THIS ONE?

[wolfie081]

Just to let you know that I found out last week at my 13 week scan that there was no heart beat and it looked like it was only 10 weeks old.  Although I never had any morning sickness I still felt pregnant unlike last time when all my symptoms disappeared.  I am now waiting for a d+c tomorrow so feel in limbo. The reason I am posting this blog is that we didn't tell anyone because we wanted to get through the first scan.  Due to my age - 46 we were worried that there would by complications e.g. Downs and didn't want to tell people if we had difficult decisions to make.  We also didn't want to upset our parents incase in didn't work out.  Thought we were safe from m/c at 13 weeks but there you go.  Worst bit however is that if no one knows you haven't got anyone to talk to and people obviously don't know that you've had devasting news so you have to try to carry on as if nothing has happened. Its like the 'elephant in the room' but its your elephant and no one else knows its there.  Its better to share your news and then deal with the the bad if it happens - at least it gives you a chance to talk.  I will be having my normal weekly phone chat with my mum later and she'll ask if anything interesting has happened during the week and what do I have planned for next and I have no idea what I will say.  Is it worth upsetting her for no reason?  Probably not.

[lexismommy07]

I just had an m/c on April 7th and it's now may 5th and I am pregnant again I am worried that I am going to m/c again because I've been having slight cramping and that's how it started out last time!! Do you think if I take prometrium that I would have a better chance at keeping this baby? Last time they said I was only a few weeks amf the levels weren't rising fast enough please help!!!

[Flyte8884]

I had a natural miscarriage 3weeks ago we have been tryin again since the bleeding stopped. I have had spotting for the past 3days could this be my period starting or is it possible I could be pregnant again. We want a baby so bad took us 1yr 5months only to miscarry at 6wks. Could anybody help me at all.

Thanx

[jbee580]

Hi, I had a miscarriage 4 weeks ago today, I was 11 weeks, but it had stopped developing at 6 ...which I can kinda get my head round, although I was totally devestated, and have been through the emotions. I have just brought a house, and am getting married in 2 months (so yes the pregnancy want planned)Im so busy with lots of lovely things going on in my life.....but all I want is to faller preggers again!!!!!

[lcrawford1308]

Im sorry to hear about ur losses. It just seems so unfair. I finally had bloodwork today and sure enough, just my luck, NEGATIVE!! The dr doesnt know why im so late and sick and blah blah blah... So i bawled all day!!! Im so tired of the hurt and disappointment :-(

[stargate123]

Sorry for your losses, my heart goes out to you all. I knew the odds of pregnancies ending in miscarriage when we started TTC but like most people I didn't think it would be me. Reading these stories has really helped. Hearing a doctor say you can get pregnant again no problem just isn't the same as hearing about it actually happeneing.

Here's my story. I have been off the pill since 2009 but not activly trying. Was getting a bit worried cause I thought it would have happened by accident by now. Started actively trying for 6months before I got pregnant. Was happily pregnant for 11 weeks. I had a missed miscarriage on April 07 at 11 weeks, didn't find out untill the ultra sound that there was no heartbeat and the fetus had stopped developing around 6 weeks. I had NO signs of miscarriage. Infact I had been on here reading the MC stories and decided to avoid these sites because it was a bit alarming and caused some un needed stress so I had tried to follow the advise "Enjoy your pregnancy, don't worry about miscarriages cause there's nothing you can do about it" So it was absolutly devastating to hear " I wish I had better news for you" . The doctor asked if I still felt pregnant. I didn't answer but I had the urge to smack her in the face. Of course I did, I had no idea until the moment she said it. I felt cheated. Like my body cheated me out of the pregnancy. I totally understand it's for the best. Nature's way of stopping something that isn't working out and wasn't meant to be but that was the first time I would have been able to hear the heartbeat so going from one extreme to the other all in one day really sucked. I started spotting the day I got back from the US. Why on earth did it take so long and just happened to start the day I found out? One of my first thoughts was, how am I going to tell everyone. I had jumped the gun and told mostly everyone I knew alot earlier than I should have. Silly to worry because everyone was very supportive and let us deal withit in our own way. I say now that I wont make that mistake again next time but I probably will.

So I left the hospital with the options of a D&C, medications or natural MS. I didn't want to commit to anything at that point and had started to spot when I got home that day anyway so I decided to go about it naturally. I bled very lightly for three days with no cramps and thought this should be a sad but easy experience. Wrong. Then on day three of spotting I started to get cramps, progressively worse as the evening went on. Got to the point that nothing was helping the very severe cramping. I was in too much pain to even cry and almost went to the hospital but after reading other womens similar experiences online we decided to wait it out. After afew hours of that I passed something and immediately felt 100X better. Tylenol and heating pad helped. I still feel silly talking about the pain because what could that be compared to the actual delivery of a full term baby. Either way it friggin hurt. I bled heavily for the next week or so with various sized clots but no more cramps then it started to taper off. Over all it was close to two weeks of bleeding. My husband was so supportive of me during this whole thing, I love him so very much.

Just wanted to share that incase someone has a similar circumstance than me and I wont lie that it felt good getting all that out. We didn't make plans on when to start trying again but just continued having unprotected sex. It's only been a weekish since I stopped bleeding and am very anxious to start my period so i can get back on top of things(ovulations days) but yesterday I spotted light pink then nothing today. Very similar to what happened when I got pregnant (implamentation bleeding). I have no extensive hopes of being pregnant right now as my cycle is probably so frigged up it could be anything but after reading some of these stories the thought has crossed my mind. Anyhoo at this point I'm surprised and a little proud at how calm and collected I am. What happens, happens. I'm hopefull and positive I'll get pregnant again and carry full term wheather that's now or sometime in the future.

Wishing all of you the best. Women are strong and I like to think we can handle anything that gets thrown at us.