WELCOME TO THE MISCARRIAGE COMMUNITY!

[ArmyPrincess819]

                                                           WELCOME

This is a community full of support and understanding for those who are experiencing past or present miscarriage of for those who have loved ones or friends who may be experiecing one. Miscarriage is a very painful and emotional time. There are so many unanswered questions that we search to try to find the answers. Sometimes all we need to hear is we are not the only ones. Most of us in this community have experienced a miscarriage. That has helped this community to provide understanding and compassion to anyone who comes along. This is a safe forum where opinions may be heard and not judged. We always welcome new posts and new friends. I hope your experience in this community will be a great one. Please feel free to join everyone is welcome!

Sincerely,
Your Community Leader

[MissinMyLilMan]

i am new here and just had a miscarriage at 17 weeks its very hard to just let go and move on

[EricaB28]

I am so sorry for your loss. This community is amazing, full of amazing women who are a wonderful support system. Please feel free to post questions, vent frustrations, cry, grieve, whatever you need to do. Feel free to leave me a note if you need to talk. It's hard to move on, and in a way I don't think we ever fully do.  Again, I am very sorry for your loss. I wish you a quick recovery. Good luck. :)

[EricaB28]

AP-- What a wonderful welcome. :) Good job!

[VaBreeze]

**CONGRATULATIONS** on becoming the Community Leader.  I know you will do an awesome job helping others here and couldn't think of a nicer person to do it, or more deserving.  Welcome to the MedHelp team!!!

Take care.

Breeze

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm so very sorry. It's extremely hard to let go of the pain and not look back. I wish you the best and hope that someday your pain may turn into peace. This is a whonderful forum full of support and strength and friendship that will last a lifetime. Take care and best wishes to you...

Welcome to the miscarriage community!!

[ArmyPrincess819]

Thank you so much. I'm glad you like it! I wanted the Miscarriage forum to heve their ribbon of strength too. Take care and lots of hugs,

AP

[ArmyPrincess819]

Thank you so much for the kind words. I really appreciate it. I really take my role seriously the women on here are the strongest women I have ever talked to. Thanks again your comment really means alot.

Hugs,
AP

[mjml]

Firstly Well Done AP on becoming a leader on here i hope i get to do something like that on here one day too. Thankyou so much for your recent support totally understand why they chose you.

Secondly I am so sorry to all the women here who have had a miscarriage recently I lost my baby (sky) 2 1/2 weeks ago at 12 weeks due to a cyst on my womb that had burst so I totally understand your pain. I could do with hearing from people on here who have been through or are going through the after process.

your all in my thoughts

Love MjMl xx

[ArmyPrincess819]

Thank you. I'm glad I have been able to help you. I appreciate the compliments. I was chosen yes by a few higher ups and a few women on here and I plan on staying CL forever. I'm honored and very lucky and besides being a wife and mother this is my greatest accomplishment! I love this forum and the women on here. I have had 6 m/cs which one included a 19wk pg. I know devastation and that is why I feel I can reach out and help other women in this position. Dec of last yr was when I became cl and that was a very hard month for me. Out of something bad good comes out of it as well. Thanks again.
AP- COMMUNITY LEADER!

[AsheOfHeaven]

My wife and I had a miscarriage after 1 month.  We were so overjoyed at the prospect of another child after battling secondary infertility and then Sept 07, after coming home from 8 hours of working overnight my wife tearfully announced that we had lost our little Hope (the name we picked out).  She has been able to heal and move on. I, however, feel like time has stopped and the world keeps passing me by. I want to move on, but everything seems to trigger the grief and make things feel like it's that day all over again

[mikaleen]

I am so sorry for your loss.  It's a daily battle to begin recovery, and emotional can take way longer than the physical.  I am glad to hear your wife is doing well, but sad to hear you are not.  I hope you keep talking to her, for both of your emotional hope, sometimes it can seem like someone has moved on, but really has just pushed feelings aside.  If time is not helping you heal, you can always find a support group...and talk to other parents who have sufered a loss.  Don't think that you are always going to feel like this...it may seem like forever already but you will begin to feel a little better daily...even though some days will continue to be more difficult...it will never completely go away, but it will become tolerable.  I wish you and your wife lot's of luck and health.    

[ArmyPrincess819]

Ashe- I think it says alot about the love you have for your wife. A miscarriage can affect men as much as women. My dh and I had a very hard time accepting the loss of our last m/c. We have had 6 and it's been diffacult. We have learned as husband and wife to take things day by day. Things in time will make sense and the pain will minamize to a point that you are able to tolerate it more and feel less desperate for answers or some type of closure. I'm glad you chose to come to the miscarriage forum. I find it very therapeutic for me to hear other stories. It helps me to help others and lets me know I'm not alone. I hope your experience in the miscarriage community is a great one. I'm here anytime you need to talk. This a very supportive community so feel free to post a question or feelings anytime. Best wishes to you and your wife!
AP-Communtiy Leader

[AsheOfHeaven]

Today at work I feel like I'm talking from an abyss.  Everyone seems so very far a way, nothing seems real, and I feel empty and hollow.  I feel like I'm just going through the  motions of a prescribed routine. It all feels meaningless (which is bad considering I work in ememrgency services.. ie dispatching the FD and PD.  I want to just walk away and go home, but I know that's not the right thing to do.  I just wish I know how to get  to where my wife is, and just go on with life... but for me time and the universe stopped September 200. :(

[AsheOfHeaven]

that should be September 2007 :(

[ArmyPrincess819]

Ashe- I'm so sorry. You are not alone my husbnd had these same feelings. He fought it but he is now in therapy. He is also on medication, The losses we suffered really brought his depression to the highest. Since he has gotten himself back on track now he is the positve one and i'm the negative mess. I was his rock now he's mine. it's a see saw it goes up and down and a merrigoround it goes round and round. Have you thought about therapy or a support group not only to deal with your grief and pain but your line of work. I wish you the best if you need to talk I'm always here!
AP

[AsheOfHeaven]

Yeah.. I've seen someone about the whole thing.. I feel like a train wreck.  They tell me I have PTSD from some of the incidents as well as severe depression, anxiety and depersonalization. Just last year they took me off my meds and there was actually an improvement.  Supposedly talking abou tthe whole thing and time is supposed to make things better.  I even wrote 2 letters to little Hope.  It just seems to bring the pain back when I do.  I dunno.  I guess I just give it time.

[ArmyPrincess819]

Time unfotunately is what is needed to ease the pain. I strongly feel that you need the support of a individual counselor who will help you find your own personal way of coping with your loss. You have alot on your plate. My dh does to that is why he is back on meds and getting the help he needs. We are also in marital counseling to help deal with all of our pain etc. We have suffered 6 m/cs together and now I have been diagnosed with a high risk pg. So we are being tested really tested but somehow we are surviving and gettihg through this together. I'm always here if you need to talk. If you need to you can send me a message. I hope this makes sense to you at some point. I really hope your pain minimizes.
AP
Ps I'm sure my dh would talk to you if you need to if you have a im let me know I will pass it to him!

[sakers1985]

Hey I am new here and already posted a few questions... I am glad I ran by this site cause now the more I read .. I feel that I am not alone and I am "normal". I have also been dignosed as high risk since I lost my first in 2005 and now this one 1-26-09 at 18 weeks preggo. Many prayers to all of you.

[ArmyPrincess819]

Welcome to the m/c community. I hope your experience here is a great one. Good luck.
AP

[AsheOfHeaven]

Welcome.  I hope you find this place as helpful as I have

[Sazy26]

Hi,

I am not actually new but returning to this site. I found it very hard for a while to even think about the miscarriages or pregnancy. I lost twins late last year, 1 week apart. Recently a few of my friends have fallen pregnant and it brought all the sadness up again.  I can't even bare to see them right now.

Thanks all for listening.

S in Australia

[ArmyPrincess819]

I'm sorry for your losses. This is a community of women who have been or are currently in your shoes. The women on here are nothing but supportive and will always be there for you to lift up your spirits and try to guide you from their own experiences. I'm always here if you need someone to talk to. I hope you find some peace soon. Best wishes to you and take care.
Hugs,
AP

[JFisch]

Hello everyone....after TTC since 2004 with DH, we received a BFP after our 2nd IUI.  I just found out today that I miscarried at 7 weeks.  We are so sad and devastated. This would have been our first baby and were so excited.  I am grateful for a site like this to help provide support.

[EricaB28]

JFisch- I am so sorry for your loss. I'm here if you need to talk. Hugs, Erica.