WHat happens after natural miscarriage

[Tickled Pink]

HI all,

I've been advised that I am going to miscarry.  Gestational sac with no heartbeat measuring 6W5D and I should be 8W2D.  I am willing to wait for a natural m/c , but I"m worried about tissue being left behind.  Do they do an ultrasound after you start to miscarry to make sure everything comes out?  I haven't started to bleed yet and know it could take weeks.

[newlywed05]

My doc had given me the option of letting the baby pass naturally or havind a d&c. This was a Friday and she gave me until Monday to give her an answer. Well, Friday night/Saturday morning, the baby decided he was ready to pass. I was 14w so the baby was large. The pain was horrible. I swear it was labor. Honestly though, I don't think I would have opted for a d&c anyway.

She said if I did choose to try naturally, she would give me two to three weeks to let things progress. I would have an appt every week to see how things were going. She gave me this time frame for fear of infection. If things dont progess naturally, they HAVE to do a d&c. If an infection occurs, it may scar your uterus and prohibit you from having children in the furture.

After the baby had passed, I went back on Monday to the docs to let her know what was going on, and they did an u/s to make sure everything had come out. If not, this too could cause an infection. Fortunately everything was out. I bled for almost 2 full weeks after. It was like a very heavy period with a lot of clotting and very bad cramping.

It is your own personal decision as to what you decide to do. I wish you the best of luck and will be praying for you. A m/c is one of the most difficult things, if not the MOST difficult I have ever had to face. We are all here if you need us.

[low22]

I'm so sorry!  My doctor did not make me get an u/s but I did have to go in the week after it happened to have a blood test.  My hcg levels were under 5 so that's how we knew everything was out of there.

[kris123]

I too measured 6w6d when I started my natural m/c and should have been 9w.  I started to spot on the 13th of June and passed the sac on the 16th with bad cramps.  They were very intense and it took about 3 hours.  The bleeding after that was heavy for 6d.  I then spotted for 6 more days.  The whold process took 15days.  So about two weeks.  I passed very large clots also.  The doctor never asked me to do a us.  I just took a hpt test yesterday to make sure, myself, that it was negtive.  It came out negtive.  I think, and I am not an expert, that if you stop bleeding everything has passed.  Ask for dr though.  It can be dangerous it fetal tissue is left inside you.  I had no problem.  I am so sorry for what you are going through.  They told me blighted ovum.  Good luck.

[luv_babies]

I am sorry for your loss. Usually they will only let you wait it out for about two weeks before they strongly recomend a D&C. One of my friends wanted to wait it out and two weeks later, she ended up having a D&C because her dr was really worried about infection. I hope it all works out for you. Good Luck!

[Tia Lucila]

I am sorry for what you are going through.  I think I probably have one of the worst insurance programs that a person can have.  I can't get an ultrasound until 14 weeks into a pregnancy.  Anyway, with that said I was able to get an ultrasound after my m/c by complaining that my cramps were really bad.  This was true, but if I hadn't fully described how bad the pain was they would have probably just told me to take Advil and get lost.

[newlywed05]

If there is one piece of advice I can give you it is talk about it. Talk to anyone who will listen. You are going to shed some tears, but talking about it helps so much, it truely does. It is still theraputic for me now and its been 5 months. Share your experince with others, I am sure women will be popping out of the woodwork to share theirs with you. I wish you the best.

[cjr0781]

They will check your HCG levels every week to make sure they are dropping correctly. If not then D & C but if yes then natural it is. Ive never had a D/C but m/c naturally twice and would recommend it if you could. Its alot less stressful on the body and prevents scarring. it is also easier to become preggo after natural than d/c.

[bleu2201]

I am currently miscarrying.  I started spotting on Sunday, very light brown, also on Monday.  I left work early on Monday to rest and take it easy since the nurse at my Dr's office told me it could be signs of miscarrige.  On Tuesday morning I started spotting bright red.  I went in for an ultrasound.  My sac was measuring 5w when I should have been 7w.  They told me it was too soon to see if it would abort itself or not.  That evening I started passing clots - not alot, but I was also cramping. I continue to pass clots, but the cramping has gone away.  I go for another blood test tomorrow and another ultrasound next Tuesday.  I still somehow hold out hope - but I know in my heart what has already happened.
In reading all the comments posted - it has really helped me get through this.  So many of the women's posting similar mine and it is good to know that I am not the only one going through this - when something like this happens you feel so alone and empty.  Thanks to all who have posted during this difficult time.

[calieghsmommy]

I had the same thing happen, well we had seen the baby and heartbeat, they wanted me to have a d&c but i opted to pass it by myself, the doctor gave me some medicine, called methergine, it helps your uterus cramp, I started taking it last wednesday and finally passed it this wednesday early morning, I to felt like I was in labor I was up all night hurting and finally it passed. I had to take it in to the doctor, they are doing test on me and the fetus as this was my 4th misscarriage.

[flower2]

So sorry to hear of all the pain and m/c. I m/c 2 weeks ago naturally at 7weeks. I was lucky no pain. But I was upset that the OB wanted to schedule me for a D&C like the next day. For those of us that do not have medical coverage a d/c runs $4-6K. When I suggested to wait and let mother nature take her course ( which luckily 4 me she did the next day) they made me feel all scared and totally got me confused with another mom who was 9 weeks.  Liz

[thandos]

Trust in God,I beleive there is areason we all went through this,we"ll be okay one day,thanx for the advise

[redhott]

i was sopposed to be 12wks pregnant but my levels were reading only 4, to 5 , so i waited two days to go to the doctor and she had told me that i needed a d&e right away ( 11-30-07), because it had never passed and it was about a month gone in me. so i went and did the d&e i had alot of bleeding while my surgery my doctor said, however i did not bleed at all after, in the month of december, so at the beg, of january i spotted brown then the 11 i got a period for about 4 days heavy, then about jan 25 i started spotting brown again it lasted for like two days., so finally feb 24, i had gotten it again., now i don't know what is wrong does this sound normal after a misscarrige with a d&e , im worried that i might not be able to get pregnant again , does anyone have any advice

[hinatim]

Having a miscarriage is the worst experience I have ever had to go through, as I write my baby is still passing out as I have had an early natural miscarriage just a few days ago. And altough it wasnt a long pregnancy but still it is taking time for the left overs to pass out.

D&C scares everyone, and natural method is usually preferred by doctors if they dont fear an infection, but just remember that passing it out naturally requires you to be extremely patient and ready to bear pains and cramps every now and than while passing clots out. And in  my case yes I have had several ultra sounds and tests so dont worry about that, just inform the doctors of every little or big cramp or pain you have. Best of Luck and stay together!

[saza100]

hi i have just misscarried i had spotting 2 weeks ago for a few hrs then agian 2days later had a scan 5.5 weeks but no heartbeat i started bleeding the following wednesday like a period had a scan it was the same but 6.2 weeks and had blood for my hormones taken on friday night i passed a blood clot few hours later i was covered in blood and passed more clots with back and stomach pain 2 hours later i was covered again and i completly blacked out i went to hospital where i was checked and the doctor noticed mre clots and took these out half an hr later i had a scan which confirmed the miscarriage and that the feotus was about to come out the doctor did this and said i had bled an awful lot and had to have an injection to stop the blood and a drip with fluids i dont want to scare people but i was 6 weeks gone and expected some pain and blood not what actually happened which is slightly rare but happens it has traumatised me at how much blood i lost the blacking out and the pains being like labour pains and i want people to prepare them selves incase this does happen everyone seems to sort of prepare they are loosing there baby

[Sunshine18]

Hi, i miscarried on 1 May. I was expected to ovulate at this time so I tested my LH levels which showed positive for 5 days. I was puzzled. I didn't know that i was pregnant. I had my period in the middle on April (2 weeks the miscarriage). The pain was only on the right though but the ultrsound could not find a sac or an ectopic pregnancy.. i had HcG tests and the doctor said that i was between 4 - 6weeks pregnant. HcG was tested for 3 consecutive days and it was halving each day. My doctor did not want to do a D&C - I bled for exactly 2 weeks and a preg. test which showed negative. I feel much better now and I am looking forward to falling pregnant again.
has anyone miscarried but only had period pains on one side?

[daisychick24]

I just had a miscarriage on May 12, and I have to agree that this is one of the hardest things I've had to bear.  Even though I was only 7 wks, my husband and I were so excited for our first little one.  At the end of the day of the 12th, I was having some light brown discharge.   After school (I am a teacher), I went home and had dinner with my husband and was experiencing cramps the whole time.  I kept checking to make sure it was just brown and after dinner, I went to the bathroom to find myself bleeding.  I told my husband we needed to go to the hospital, as instructed by my OBGYN if it turned to red bleeding. I went to get my purse and felt a rush flow through my body.  I yelled for my husband and the pain shot through my arms and to my head.  I felt something rushing through me and had a lot of pain.  Honestly, I have not heard many miscarriage stories and felt completely naive as to what was happening to my body.  Because I have never fainted before, I literally thought I was dying.  Now that I look back, I feel silly, but if you've never had this happen, I guess you don't know what to expect.  I am planning on finishing the rest of the school year tomorrow with my students, and I am a little apprehensive to return to work.  I almost feel like I could use some more time resting and regaining my strength physically and emotionally.  This forum, along with reading e-mails from some of my co-workers, helps remind me of how common miscarriages are and how there is still hope for a healthy child.  I think the hardest thing for me is that I am scared it will happen again. However, I believe that God has a purpose for this experience, even though at the time I don't understand it.  My husband and I have already grown closer to each other and to God through this experience.  God's will is continuing to reveal itself to us.  Thank you for your encouraging words, ladies.  I look forward to joining this community of women who can relate.  

[tabby8135]

I just wanted to share my story. DH and i had been trying for a year or so to get pregnant when i was diagnosed with hypothyroidism. where my thyroid does not produce enough hormone. after i went on meds for this we tried again for about another year, nothing happend. DH is in the military and was then deployed to iraq for 15 months. right before he got home docs checked my thyroid levels and found that they thought i should up the meds just a lil bit as my levels were borderline and they wanted them well in the normal range. well hubby got home march 29 and i had a period on april 8th. although we were "trying" we wernt under a realilistical realization that we would actually be able to "get pregnant" let alone the very first cycle he was back, until i started getting period symtoms tooo early for it to be my period. of course i had fooled myself into thinking i was pregnant before so i decided not to tell him i was having symtoms and to just wait it out until my period. well the date for my period came and i had no period. so the next morning after he went to work i got out a test and it tested POSITIVE! he came home and i finally told him and we were soooooo excited!! we told all the family and everyone was over joyed as this was our first pregnancy and the first grandchild on both sides. well six days later (mothers day) around dinner time i went to use the bathroom and noticed a very light spotting of brown discharge only when i wiped. it was a sunday and i couldnt call the doc office so i decided to wait until morning to call docs. went to doc next morning, they did several blood labs as well as a vag u/s. i was 4 weeks 6 days and they were not able to detect anything. doc said he wasnt sure if this was because it was to early or becuase i was having a miscarriage, and told me there was nothing else they could do. next morning woke up and and discharge slowly thruout the day started to turn pink and then red-er and red-er then smal clots started to come too. i was sooo devestated i went back to the doc and took more labs. the labs from the previous day were also ready. they told me that my hcg levels were dropping and that i was definatly havign a miscarriage. they also told me that my thyroid levels had shot out the other way and that instead of my body not producing enough thyroid hormone(like pre pregnancy)...my body was now producing all the thyroid hormone it needed and that i was over dosing myself on the thyroid meds i was taking. i started crying right then and there, i felt like i had killed my baby if only i had known that my body had done that, that i might have been able to save my baby. this has been one week ago from today and although i miscarried naturally and so far have stopped bleeding and have no need for a d and c. i have started taking less thyroid meds in hope (from the docs) that now that my body is not pregnant anymore that my body will go back to pre pregnant ways and again need the thyroid meds. even though it has been a week i still find it too hard to even talk about without crying, and because of this my doc told me that i should wait at least 6 months. however i dont want to wait six months dh and i both agreed that we want to start again right away.....i hope all works out for the best for us, and for all of you girls outhere who have and who are going thru similar situations. take care and best of luck to allll you girls, ps if anyone for any reason needs to talk about anything feel free to message me thanks! tabby

[snowie3]

I was 9 weeks last week and had the same problem too in terms of having a miscarriage. The MD said to me if I were smaller in terms of being pregnant 5 weeks or less, they might let the baby or nature takes its course (pass naturally.) Since I was 9 weeks lasw week, it's not worth to let it passes out naturally. He told me that it can take up to 1 month from now for the body to get rid of the baby and there are more risks to do it that way in terms of having the infection (dead tissues) and severe hemorrhage that can happen unexpectly. I was like you too at first. I wanted to let the naure takes its place. I saw MD last Friday and told him that I would let him know either way about going ahead of whether doing the D&E this week or not. Honestly, I'm not regret of my decision now since I had this procedure done yesterday and it went well (for the peace of your mind.) In terms of waiting for the nature to take its place, it's like you're taking a risk when it comes to your health or like holding on to the ticking bomb and it can happen anytime. The question is: Would you leave something like foreign/dead tissues in your body for a while (up to a month) if that's the case ? You're the only one that can answer that question. Best of luck to you.

[itsajen812]

Reading all these comments make me think back when I had a m/c.  I was about 9 weeks pregnant.  I had bad cramps and heavy clotted bleeding.  It makes me upset to think about this memory.  Maybe things happen for a reason, idk.  I got pregnant one  month into a relationship and had a miscarriage.  3 months later I got pregnant again and now I have a beautiful 18 month old and I am engaged to get married 9/13

[angelmommy23]

I am going through a miscarriage as well. Monday night (I am writing this on Saturday night), I noticed some blood after intercourse. I paged my doctor who assured me that I was more than likely not having a miscarriage because I was 14 weeks along and we had seen my baby's heartbeat on an ultrasound at 8 weeks and just the week before we heard the heartbeat at an appointment. She said sometimes after intercourse blood vessels can pop or something. The next morning there was still blood-bright red w/out cramping. I went to my doctor who assured me that I was very low risk for a miscarriage and all of my levels measured fine. She sent me to get an ultrasound and my baby had no heartbeat. I was told that I should get a d&c because I was so far along. I asked if they could do it without tearing up my baby because I wanted to say goodbye. They told me that there was no way because they use a vacuum and scraper. So I opted to go through the miscarriage naturally and it ended up being a full blown labor. I started contractions Thursday night and had them for 26 hours before he finally came out last night after another extremely painful contraction. Basically I was pushing out tissue and blood for the 26 hours and then suddenly I had a extremely bad contraction and all within 10 seconds, my water broke, my baby fell out of me as I was running to the bathroom and I gave birth to the placenta in the toilet. (Sorry if TMI). That part happened quickly and was very traumatizing. I am very lucky to have had my husband there. He quickly picked our baby off the floor. The pain was worth it to see my beautiful baby in one piece. He had everything. Eyes, ears, nose, mouth, arms, legs, all of his fingers and toes and little boy parts. He fit in the palm of my hand. I was able to hold his little hand and say goodbye. I am still bleeding a little today but my physical pain is totally gone. Emotionally I am a wreck but that is a different story. While going through this the last few days it really helped me to read what everyone else had to say so I thought I would share my story. God bless everyone during these difficult times.

[1stmiscarriage78]

I recently miscarried on June 30th with my first child. I started brown spotting and called the doctor who told me he was common in early pregnancy, but I knew and felt something was wrong. I started spotting red on Saturday and knew I was losing the baby. I went to the doctor on Monday and they took a blood test that morning, which later revealed I was very pregnant. Monday afternoon I clotted a ton of blood and just wept in the bathroom. My husband ran in and I cried that I just lost our baby. We cried together for a little while and held each other. That evening I had severe cramping and clotting from 8pm - 3am. And it was severe. Each time I went to the bathroom I just wept. We went back to the doctor the following day and confirmed that the baby was gone. It has been so comforting reading all of these stories and words of strength from all of you. My husband and I have only been married for three weeks. We got married June 7th. We found out on our honeymoon that we were pregnant. It's hard looking at the pictures from our honeymoon without feeling sad as I know I am pregnant in those pictures. My faith was shaken, but I have slowly regained it this week and prayed that I will have many healthy, beautiful children someday with my husband. Speaking of him, he has been so amazing throughout this experience and we have grown even closer. We look at each other everyday and know the vows we took three weeks ago are already being put to the test...and we're getting through it so well together. He is my strength, and I continue to pray for more inner strength from God. Thank you again, everyone, for sharing.

[lisalclark]

I am in the process of losing my baby as I write this.  I was 7.5 weeks along, and yesterday morning had a slight pink tinge on the tissue after peeing.  I brushed it off as it was so faint.  2 hours later the same thing.  I started to worry.  I gave it another hour, and this time I had brown blood with very small clots.  I went straight to emergency.  They did blood work which showed I was more like 5.5 weeks to 6.5 weeks.  (This is NOT a very accurate test, as these numbers can vary in the THOUSANDS!)  But, after a internal and external ultrasound, the doctors were unable to find a heartbeat, and baby did not measure to term.  It has been about 28 hours since this began, and hourly the clots get larger and I feel like I'm having a really bad period.  I have an elevated temperature and a bad headache (maybe from all the crying?)  I was already in love with my baby (my third) and am grieving not only the loss of her, but also the future I dreamed of, and seeing her fit in alongside my two young boys, who were thrilled to meet her.  My husband and I are devestated, and nothing could have prepared us for how painful this would really be....

[babylove888]

I've finally stopped bleeding from my 4th miscarriage.  This time around, they were twins.  The first 2 m/c happened naturally and the 3rd m/c I had to have a d & c since I didn't bleed at all for almost 2 months after the ultrasound showed no heartbeat.  All three didn't make it past 6 weeks  I was 14 weeks along on this pregnancy when it showed on the ultrasound that the both babies had no heartbeat and measured 8 weeks.  So again I decided to let nature take it's course and m/c naturally.  My husband and I both have taken all the tests to see what's causing all these m/c and they can't give us any explanation.  So the next time we try, we're going to consult alternative medicine (chinese medicine).  We have no problem getting pregnant (the cycle we try, is usually the month we get pregnant!), our problem is sustaining the pregnancy.  And with each miscarriage, goes a piece of my heart.  My heart goes out to all of you going through this.  I know all too well how difficult this all is not only physically but emotionally.  

[Bobbie1976]

I had felt pregnant for 2 months, but continued to have my pd.  Then finally, I missed and found out I was pregnant after 4 tests and a visit to the doctor. :)  When I thought I was 8w I went in for a transvaginal ultrasound where the doctor said that the baby hadn't developed past 4w and that I would miscarry and he wanted to do a d+c in 2 weeks.  I said no thank you as I believe in doing it naturally as the surgery can cause scarring and other damage.  --  My husband & I were devastated as this was our first and we were so ready.  2 weeks later I still hadn't miscarried, nor did I have any signs of miscarriage...just slight brown discharge one day.  I still felt very pregnant and my symptoms were getting stronger.  So I decided to see a midwife.  She said that I was still pregnant, the baby was fine and that my earlier symptoms were due to a chemical pregnancy and we actually got pregnant a month later.  If I would have listened to that doctor, I would have killed my healthy baby!  Don't do a d+c if you haven't had any major miscarriage symptoms.  Trust your body and your instincts....doctors are just people too making a guess sometimes!

[juliet709]

i am in the process of finishing my first m/c and i am having trouble couping with the pain. it all started on sept.8 after a dr appointment i was 10w2d at that point and started to bleed slightly. on the 9th i went to the ER and they told me that there was nothing that they could do at all and that i was to come back if i started ro cramp badly or bleed more then 1 pad in 1 hr. well the slight bleeding continued for 4 days and then on the 12th it got worse so i waited for my husban to get home from work and just as he got home it happened. i had no idea what to expect and just get to the washroom as normal and that is where it happened. now i am passing some small clots and having period like cramping. the worst part of this for us is that we never got to say good bye to our baby as it slipped into the toilet and we could not reterive it. i have a dr appointment on monday to see if everything is done and f ther is a need for a d&c. we are praying that there i no need for one as we want to try again as soon as we get the ok. if any one has any advice as to how to cope and grow from this experience please let me know. i am truley sorry for anyone that has or is going throught this as i know how hard it is and good luck to all of you in the future.

[dora764]

Hi,
I got the final confirmation today that i have had miscarriage.But i don't know i ad this feeling when i conceived.I was 8 weeks and 6 days pregnant.I started off wth the m/c 2 days back but tday after the scan the nurse told me that  i had m/c and i have some clots left which are to be passed.She gave me the option of surgery and natural m/c.I chose natural one.But it is so painful.I have a feeling of loss,grief and on top of that i have nobody to share my pain with.I am crying either because of grief or because of pain.It is a tough time.I have ana appointment after 4 weeks as i am going on a holiday.It would be tough as we can't cancel the ticket as we have checked-in.But it a tough stage to pass.

[dora764]

Hi Bobbie,
Yours story sounds like a miracle.God bless both of u.

[Amyhelen]

I just came upon this site and I have to say that I am so very sorry for all of your losses.  I too just went through a miscarriage this week.  I was only a couple of weeks but am taking it very hard.  My husband and I were so looking forward to this baby.  I am also having some health issues.  This is my first pregnancy and am not sure what is normal and what's not.  I just feel like my body is alien to me right now.  My whole body hurts.  Anybody have any advice?  My doctor said that my levels are not dropping like he wants.  What does this mean?  When will the hurting stop for losing this baby?  It's all I can think about.  It hurts so bad to have to go to the dr. and see all the pregnant women there.  I had to sit in a room next a woman having an ultrasound and all I could hear was the babies heartbeat.  It was torture for me.  How do I get through this?

[sasha11212]

on wed. 3/11/09 i was 10 weeks pregnant and getting ready for work and felt wet so i went to the bathroom and noticed bright red blood in my underwear i called for my fiance and told him to call the ambulance. when i arrived at the er i was given an sono where they saw a sac with no baby and a closed cervix the dr took out a clot and kept it for testing i was then told that i was having a miscariage and they advices that because i only bleed heavy that one time and have been spotting since that a d & c wasn't needed that i should let it pass naturally which was fine with me. i had no pains @ this time and the dr.'s seemed confused. i went to the ob 2 days later who also seems confused and is now sending me to get another official sono today... although i know i have lost my baby i'm still trying to keep that glimmer of hope alive... im send my regards to all of you who have had to go thru this because it is physically and emotionally draining.

[babba34]

I am 39 years old an was pregant for the first time. I had just found out about 2 weeks ago that I was expecting. I think it is impossible to not get excited and to start thinking about the new phase in your life. I felt the whole experience of being prego very surreal. I had no real symptoms of being pregnate, so at times I actually questioned if I was. Well I definitely was and unfortunately in my 6th week I woke up and first thing in the mornign I went to the bathroom and low and behold I was bleeding. It was actually completely shocking, I honestly had never once thought about having a miscarriage. At the beginning I was just spoting and it was brownish in colour. I immediately went for an ultasound and it was really too early for them to know what was happening. I also had an internal examination from my dr. and she too told me it was too early to tell. I was told I had a 50-50% chance that it would end in a miscarriage. I oddly enough still felt sort of optimistic. Anyways over the next day or 2 things started to get worse and on saturday I had a miscarriage. The whole thing has been so surreal. I was just getting my head around the fact that I was prego, and then I was having to deal with the fact that I wasn't! Luckily I had very little pain and I actually feel very optimistic. I had many good things come out of this experience. As much as I was unbelievably upset that I was not going to be haing a baby when I first thought, I do feel good knowing that all the parts work! I do feel very confident that I will have a heallthy and successful to-term pregnancy and I just know that the next time around I will be that much more ready and will cherish the experience even more. The other thing that came out of it, is that my realtionship with my husband grew even closer. My husband was unbelievably supportive and we have both grown from the experience.
I wish to never go through this again, but as I said I do feel that some good has come from this. Everything happens for a reason and if you had a miscarriage chances are the baby you were carrying would not be healthy. So feel confidence in the fact that your body knew this and was able to do something about it
good luck to you all and can't wait to talk about what it's like in the first months of having a healthy baby!!

[alli7]

I'm so sorry for all of you who experienced this, especially if multiple times.  

I'm 24 (tomorrow) and just experienced a miscarriage on Tuesday at about 9 weeks.  I've been married for almost 3 years and we didn't plan on having children for a few years because we were young.  So we finally started trying to get pregnant in November 08, and when I found out I was pregnant in March, I was overwhelmed with joy.  I've wanted a baby for a while, even before we started trying.  Unfortunetely, this past Sunday around noon, I went to the bathroom and noticed a brown spot.  I freaked out right away because it just doesn't seem like that should happen, even though people keep saying it's normal.  I'm sure it can be, but I just didn't like the look of the spotting I had.  So we were already at a restaurant so I came out of the bathroom crying to my husband, and my sis and bro in law about it.  They were trying to comfort me, but I still had bad thoughts about it.  After we ate, well I took I few bites of food because I was so scared and worried, I went to the bathroom again and noticed brownish-red spotting.  We went home right away and I called a midwife on call.  She told me to get rest, and just lay down for the rest of the day.  On Monday morning, I went to bathroom to get ready for work, trying to be optimistic, but I had let out some deep red tissue.  I just knew then.  I called the midwife and she told me to go into their office first thing.  So another midwife did an exam, and she couldn't tell me anything except that my uterus was a bit open.  She sent me to get an (vag) ultrasound right away and during that time the radiologist took really long, and took like at least 30 pictures.  I was suspicious because I asked her if she would tell me if she sees a heartbeat or not and she told me she doesn't read it, the dr does.  But I went to get an ultrasound a few weeks ago because I had no idea how far along I was since my periods are irregular, and a diff radiologist then showed me my baby's heartbeat and everything.  So she told that he dr will come in and tell me what he reads at first, but then, she came back in to the room and said the dr called my midwife and they want me to go back to midwife.  My husband and I were walking back as I was shaking, and I said, "that can't be good".  As soon as we got back to the midwife, they put us in a room right away and she came in with a really sad face and said, "well, it's not good".  So I started crying like crazy, even my husband cried, it was really emotional.  I've heard of other people having miscarriages, but I never thought how painful it really is.  I chose to let everything pass naturally, and on Tuesday at 3AM, I woke up in a lot of pain, with a ton of dizziness, ringing in my ears, really bad back pain and cramps.  It lasted about 20 minutes.  I felt everything pass but I didn't want to look.  It's Friday now, and I'm still bleeding lightly.  The midwife told me that my body is doing what it's suppose to be doing so I should be fine.  

Even though this was a really tough experience to go through, especially since I was so excited to have my baby since 4 of my friends and my sister are pregnant (which makes it even tougher for me) my husband and I have grown so much closer, and we love eachother even more so.  We always had a really good relationship, but this has really brought us closer to eachother and to God.  I'm just praying that soon after my body heals, I will be able to get pregnant again with a healthy baby from the start.  Just remember to have faith and trust in God, He has a reason for everything, and He knows what's best.  God bless you all and I hope you will all be blessed with beautiful, healthy kids soon.

[Rt01]

Hi,
I'm sorry for those who have experienced loss. I've never written on forums before but it has been so helpful reading these in the last few weeks as I have been going thru my MC. It has been sad to read everyone's stories, but it gives me some relief that i'm not alone in these experiences also. It has given me hope that others have also gone on to have healthy children and I hold onto this dream that I can start my own family soon.

I was 10wks with my first preg when it all started with some slightly pink discharge. the next couple of days I started to get bright red spotting and I arranged for an urgent US. The scan suggested that I was only about 6wks. We saw the gestational sac but we couldn't see much else and my midwife explained that it was prob anembryonic pregnancy (or blighted ovum). It was such a shock as I was experiencing the typical pregnancy symptoms up until that point, but as soon as my husband and I saw the scan we knew in our hearts that the preg wasn't viable. The next few days the bleeding progressed and then I experienced cramping and heavy bleeding and I passed many clots and product over the next few days. I no longer felt pregnant. I didn't need pain relief meds and it was manageable with a hot water bottle. The worst of it lasted prob 3-4days at the most.

It's been just over 2wks now since it started and I am still experiencing light bleeding and occasional red mucus-like product. I had blood tests when I first had MC symptoms which showed my HCG levels to be 7300. a week later they were 70. I am still bleeding and really wishing that things were over. I am worried that I may need medical intervention, but really really hoping that my body will successfully complete this process. I'm going to get my bloods done again next week and I am hoping that the bleeding will stop competely before then. I am also hoping that my HCG levels are back to normal. (my fingers are crossed- I don't want more bad news right now). I guess the good news is that i am hopeful to become pregnant in the near future. Provided that things are completed without any further complications, my doctor has said that there is no need to wait before TTC again. I will prob wait until I have completed one cycle for my own piece of mind. I have to say that i am very sick of waiting and worrying. It will be nice when my body has finished what it's doing.

[Rt01]

to update, my bleeding stopped about a week ago. Towards the end I got more bleeding and passed some product which was a little different to other stuff I had previously. I do wonder if it was the gestational sac. since then I haven't had any bleeding. It was a total of 3weeks exactly from the very beginning of symptoms until that day. I got my bloods tested immediately after that when bleeding stoped and they were down to 3! I am so relieved.

[wasmum2b]

After a year of trying, my husband and I were overjoyed to discover that we were finally pregnant in April 09. I felt wonderful and was looking forward to being a mum so much. At 9 weeks I bagan light brown spotting, and went to the doctor to get it checked out. They sent me for some blood tests and an ultrasound.
The ultrasound technician did an internal exam, and said that we measured about 6 weeks, not 9. She advised it was inconclusive, and could not tell us what was going on. I got in to see my doctor the next day, who said he was sorry to hear about our loss - a blighted ovum. I was managing to hold it all together until he patted my knee and told my husband what a strong woman he was married to...
My doctor said if I did not miscarry in the next 2 weeks, we would go for a D&C.
That was over a week ago, and I have been experiencing mild cramping on and off during that time, my pregnancy symptoms of sore breasts and constant tiredness dissapeared, and my light brown spotting progressed to intermitant light brown/red bleeding in small amounts with occaisional small clots like chopped liver. I stayed at work to help keep my mind busy over this time. It ***** when you know your heart is being ripped out through your uterus, but staying busy is what helps me get through it. My husband is loving and supportive, and I'm incredibly lucky to be cherished and adored.
Anyway, yesterday afternoon the quality of my cramps changed. They became more intense and I knew my m/c was progressing. I left work, and came home to 8.5 hours of a long painful cramp every 3-6 minutes. Tip for new players - realax into the pain, it will hurt more if you allow your stomach / pelvic muscles to tense up.
My bleeding became more heavy over this period, but not enough to soak a heavy flow pad - so far I've been lucky I think. I took a strong painkiller, and it took the edge off the cramps. At 9:30pm last night, I felt a particularly large clot, which on investigation turned out to be a perfectly formed solid embryonic sac the size of a small hen's egg. I held what could have been on a soft tissue in my hand for a while, before I let it go. My baby was real for a week or so in the beginning, and my body and soul loved it for as long as we could.
The cramps stopped after I passed my bub that was. I have been bleeding lightly today, and resting as much as possible. I have had some light cramping, and anticipate that this will continue for a week or so while my body gets rid of the uterine lining in preparation for a new cycle.
I hope I don't develop really heavy bleeding or get sick from this point, but I have not walked this path before, and don't know what's around the corner for me. It seems that everyone's story is a little differnent, and I seem to be realtively lucky so far in that I have not ended up in hospital, and will hopefully be able to avoid a D&C.
We will try again in a month or two, and hope that the next one sticks.
It has been helpful for me to read other people's stories, and know that we are not feeling this alone. I hurt for my loss, and the loss of every other woman out there who loved and wanted her little cluster of cells that was life for a time. Good luck to you - don't give up. If you have the love to give, even if that's all you've got, it will happen for you - even if you need to walk down a child adoption or fostering path. There is a child out there, born or not, that needs the love you've got to give. I wish you all the best, and hope the description of what I have experienced so far helps someone get through it with a little less fear. You body know's what it's about. Be still, relax, and let it try to do it's thing. If it goes wrong, get to the hospital, they will take care of you as best they can.

[Rt01]

I'm so sorry for your loss. For the both of us our first pregnancy has been difficult. It is has been a really aweful experience, but I know my husband and I are getting there. Exactly 29days from when my M/C I think I had my period. Blood was fresh and heavy and for 3days, so I am assuming it is. It has been relief to start feeling normal again. My body is getting back to shape, I have been exercising again and feeling ready in myself to TTC. Good luck! I do hope you are feeling ok and take care.

[elvgrl]

Reading all these is so sad but very good for someone going through it

[1983Jessica]

I am so sorry for all of you who are going through, or have gone through a M/C.  I am currently going through one myself.  I found out I was pregnant last Tuesday (Oct 20).  The HPT was very light but it was definitely positive. Just to make sure, I took 3 more after that, and they all showed lightly positive.  My first reaction was excitement but I didn't know why it was so light...so right away, I was concerned.  I called my OB, and she said some women's hormone levels just run low and predicted that I was about 4 weeks along.  My excitement only lasted for one day.  Wednesday afternoon I started having brown spotting.  It wasn't a lot but enough that I had to wear a pantyliner.  I called my OB again and she said that it is normal to spot brown, and as long as it wasn't red, then there was nothing to be concerned about.  But, I just had that feeling that it wasn't right.  Saturday morning I noticed the brown had a little pink, and as the day went along, a little darker red. Saturday evening I started getting really bad cramping, then I knew I was having a M/C.  I went to the bathroom and there was a lot of blood and some tissue at the bottom of the toilet, also some really dark red stringy clots. The cramps lasted until Sunday afternoon and subsided. Today is Monday and I have not had any cramping.  However I am still bleeding (like a normal period), and passing a lot of small clots. I have an appointment next Monday to see my OBGYN.  I read all of your stories and have really found it helpful for me to get past this. I have also realized how lucky I am to have had such a smooth MC so far.  I just hope everything comes out naturally and my husband and I can try again soon.  Good luck to all you ladies out there in my same situation.  

[MoniCare]

It's not an easy thing to go through a Miscarriage, to go through (Grief). Going through a miscarriage is like going through a grief process. I lost one of my twins 6 years ago, and I lost my mum to a brain tumour 2 years ago and now  I just lost my baby at 7 weeks pregnacy, last week. Today I met with a lady that lost her baby as well at 11 weeks prego, so apparently it happens to 1 in 4 pregancies. I don't mean to scare everyone but it's quite common and I believe that if the baby is not in a good state to grow and to be born healthy, the body itself expells it. It's like nature's trying to say something to us. I am 42 years of age and I guess it may be a little late to try for another one now, but only God knows what will happen next. I leave it in God's capable hands. I started bleeding brown spots at first, then bright red blood, then i bled for 8 days with alot of cramping and black clots and during this time, my prego symptoms went away instantly.  I told the midwife at the hospital that I felt like I was no longer pregnant. She said, "you are having a miscarriage and there is nothing anybody can do to stop this". I had my heart set on this baby and even though I already have 3 beautiful kids of my own, I was really looking forward to having this one. I say to all the beautiful ladies reading these testimonies - Don't give up on your dreams, if u really want it, go for it! Try again, and again until it sticks and stays there and grows into a gorgeous little bundle of joy. See a Professional for further advise on the matter if you have too.  The bible says "Be fruitful and multiple" so don't give up on your dreams.....Life is like a flower, and we need to enjoy and smell the aroma whilst we are on this planet. God Bless You All and Keep Believing !!!

[Shoopy32]

I, too miscarried.  It was our first child and we had been trying for over a year, doing IVF as I have trouble concieving.  We had already spent over 20 grand on trying to get pregnant and these were our last eggs.  We got pregnant and we were soooo over the moon.  We saw the heartbeat at 6 weeks.  Then when I hit the 8 week mark, I started to spot some brown and later that evening on a Sunday I passed a very small amount of blood and tissue (bright red).  Han an u/s on Monday and the babies heart was still beating but very, very slowly.  Went back on Thursday and the babies heartbeat had stopped completely.  Friday I wound up in the ER with so much bleeding and pain (never experienced pain like that before!).  I wanted to do it naturally and all weekend continued to pass blood, tissue, large pieces that looked like liver.  On the following Wednesday since the bleeding and cramping had stopped I went back for another u/s to make sure everything was out.  Discovered the baby had passed but the sac was still very much attached and my cervix had closed.  Had to have a d&c to remove the sac as at this point my OB was concerned for infection.  So just a warning, even though the pain and bleeding can stop, you should always have a follow up u/s to make sure everything is out so that you keep yourself safe.  You would not be able to concieve again with a sac still attached.

We are devasted.  I am still spotting slightly this week...my OB said my period probably won't come for 2 to 6 weeks now but that we can try again with another cycle.  We have to of course, now raise the money to pay for IVF again.  Sigh.

Hugs and I'm sorry for everyone's pain.