no heart already

[gunblade_06]

my wife is 13th week prenant for the1st time. were 14years married then after a check up and ultrasound yesterday, doctor said that our baby has no heartbeat already. what are we going to do now. were very offset about that..doctor said we can wait for my wife to bleed or miscarry. or to admit in a hospital to wait for the baby to come out.
we need help...please.... we don't know what to do...

[sabby1178]

I just miscarried over the weekend. I started bleeding with contraction type cramps. After I spent 2 days at the hospital, they told me to come back the following day for a D&C afer no heartbeat was found. I quite frankly basicly spent 2 days in the waiting room suffering in the waiting room that the thought of going back to the hospital was more than I can deal with at the time. I opted to not go back and miscarried at home the same day of my scheduled D&C. I am happy I did it naturally but I was not prepared to see what I saw as I was told it would pass in a blood clot and unoticable and what I beleive was the gestational sac with the fetus in it passed and was a lot bigger than I expected. I was shocked. I was 10 weeks pregnant so thats I guess why. I would do it naturally over again but be prepared for what I saw.

I think they normally push the medical procedure for those who are hemorraghing and/or the body does not know the baby isn't alive yet. In my case it didn't make sense to the the D&C as I was bleeding for 2 days already with contractions so I knew my body would expel it.

I'm sorry your going through this it's not easy.

[jamnavywife]

I am so sorry. It is a very hard thing to go through and you need to take some time to really think about what you want to do. Dont let the doctors pressure you into anything! If you chose a D&C make sure its your choice, but if you want to do it naturally a lot of doctors will say it wont happen naturally and push you into having a D&C. They dont know anything for sure, and yes there are complications that can occur with both, but in the end you have to make the decision thats best for you .
We found out at 10 weeks that our twins had no heartbeats, and we decided to wait things out. It did take a long time and was very hard emotionally but everything went fine and it was the right choice for us. I have posted my whole story for others to read if you look back a few days, it titled "Missed Miscarriage-My Story for Anyone Looking for Answers or Support".

[xx_Louise_xx]

Im very very sorry this is happening. Any miscarriage is heartbreaking, its completely youre choice to either wait, and miscarry naturally, or have a d & c to remove. You and your wife should discuss which you would prefer. Again, im very sorry youre going through this.

[AnnieBrooke]

I'm very sorry this happened for you.  When it happened to me, I opted to miscarry naturally.  But it took a long time to lose the pregnancy, and now I think I would have had a D&C because it caused some scarring that required a D&C to remove anyway.

[sammyjb]

oh im sorry,its really ur decison what to do xx