Cane Anyone??

[tonyad]

    Well, today was the First day I used a cane in public.
Am I shallow for saying that I felt quite embarrased?  Although I NEVER look at nor think anything ill of anyone I see using a cane.....Never give it a second thought!  why do I feel this way?

     It most certainly helped me w/ my balance (as I tend to tip to the right) Now I just look like a drunk swinging my cane around. Lol   It also seemed to help with being able to hit a couple more isles than usual in the store.
Perhaps it is a few different feelings.......let me say right first off, that I am NOT Vain.....But I do need to add that that darn cane will not look "Cute" w/ a new pair of jeans and a REALLY cute top to match..let's not forget those ever so stylish shoes that complete the outfit. (ha,ha)

    OK guys, all kidding aside, Please tell me how you feel or have felt when using a cane. I truly felt so embarrased and like everyone was (ok well not everyone) was looking at me thinking..."Whats her deal". she looks fine....."(That cane does NOT match her outfit")..
    
    I did cry in the car even though I keep trying to make lite of it. I know this post probably reads as though I am being a smart butt or whatever, but I guess me trying to laugh at it instead of cry as I am typing this helps in some weird way. :) Maybe another part of Reality is Hitting me?

Thanks for helping w/ your wonderful answers and advice that you will share with me.
~Tonya

[supermum_ms]

And on that note (Pastor Dan), dh said if its a young-ish women with a cane, almost 1/2 the population will not notice the cane at all because their eyes will have difficulty going lower than a certain point. Took me a while to work out what he meant, some men lol!

Personally, i see the cane as a necessary tool, though there was a moment when i wondered if i'd ever be able to walk in anyway that resembled human, for a time my cane gave me a new independence, for me a trusted friend. It may sound loopy, but i was proud of my self the first time i actually went out on my own, just me and my cane, i had a 1/2 hour to my self, bliss!!

Keep thinking happy thoughts :-)

Cheers......JJ

[PastorDan]

Uf2 is probably right, Tonyad, about why you get looks in public.

[Ufrustrated2]

>>  OK guys, all kidding aside, Please tell me how you feel or have felt when using a cane.


i used to use one all the time years ago. it was a tree-limb custom job type. i really liked it. got many compliments on it. it helped me so i didn't really care what others thought.

there were those that did bring up the "there isn't anything wrong with you" sentiments. were do these creeps come from? though people messing with me isn't something that happens often, so i don't care what they think. especially since i now know without a doubt i have illnesses.

i will say i threw one away a few years ago. got mad at it, thought it was bad luck and threw it away. a false ego thing too.

i regret that now as i need one now mainly for on/off semi-weak balance and left hip/back issues. and standing in line in some instances i have to grab onto something.

>>I truly felt so embarrased and like everyone was (ok well not everyone) was looking at me thinking..."Whats her deal". she looks fine....."(That cane does NOT match her outfit")..

honestly, if people are looking at you there is probably a good reason like, "she is really a nice looking woman"... unless of course you are on a MS-Irritable-episode and you're swinging your cane at inconsiderate folks.

you'll do fine with it and look good with it too.

i'm getting another one made as soon as i wrap up the design i'm wanting.

[tonyad]

  No my Friend, that was only a very sweet dream :)...(sigh)
I long to wear my shoes again and refuse to get rid of them!
Yes, it is true.....I wear the old lady shoes w/ my cute little outfits which turns them in to
Not -so -cute - little outfits....but rather, a dork trying to look "in style" but just don't know how to pull it off.....Lol

I will embrace my "Diva Grace" tomorrow as we make our way to the grocery store. if she behaves (keeping me from falling when balance issues happen) I just may treat her with a NEW handle somehow as the Black handle is not becoming!

~Tonya
  

[supermum_ms]

OMG Tonya i cant believe your still wearing your shoes, i mean real lady shoes that dont look like you've bought them from the over 80's department, i fall off my functional flats, well lets be honest here, i dont need any shoes at all to walk like a drunkard lol i'm so green!!!

Love Love Love the name Diva Grace for your cane, glad to see your smiling again!!!!!

Cheers.......JJ

[tonyad]

   How in the heck could I spell my fav perfume wrong?
So, please allow me to correct that...It is "Dolce and Gabbana"
Actually looking back please excuse ALL my spelling tonight.
Thanks,
~T

Quix:  Sorry that happened to you in public :(
So here is what I think is a good idea for this urinary problem so many have.....
Always carry a bottle of water with you, and then if you either leak or flood hurry to find a chair, set the bottle of water between your legs then spill some of it and say "Awe man,...Dangit....I can't believe I just did that.....Wha-lah problem solved.
Everyone thinks you spilled your water in your lap........

   Or else you could have ran back to the corner, hurry and knitted yourself a sweater or scarf (since you were ina a yarn store) and wrapped it around you...HUH? Now who's thinking?
(I'm just being silly)
take Care,
~Tonya