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My supportive hubby
Ive been reading the posts, and now truly realize how great my hubby is. He is so supportive of my spine problems. Ive been married 30 years and he is my best friend. We act goofy and silly all the time, we were married on groundhogs day, just to keep it crazy. Im so sorry, some of you dont have supportive spouses to hang in there with you during these trying times.
Im not writing to make others feel bad, but thought the supportive spouses should get a thumbs up. all spouses arent indifferent.
Im not writing to make others feel bad, but thought the supportive spouses should get a thumbs up. all spouses arent indifferent.
I AM NOT MARRIED LEGALLY BUT IN MY HEART I AM. WITH MY HONEY 10 YRS.
HE IS THE BEST THING IN MY LIFE. ESPECIALLY AFTER MY COPAXONE SIDE EFFECT THE OTHER NITE. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH.
THUMBS UP TO ALL GREAT SPOUSES.
HE IS THE BEST THING IN MY LIFE. ESPECIALLY AFTER MY COPAXONE SIDE EFFECT THE OTHER NITE. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH.
THUMBS UP TO ALL GREAT SPOUSES.
Kudos to your hubby!!! My hubby and I were always good friends and have dealt also with this with as much humor as we can. But he is an ole time country boy who was taught not to show or talk about his emotions. He is working on that now poor thing.hehe I think it is hard for a lot of men to know there is nothing they can do to "fix" this. The feeling of helplessness on their part has to be hard on their ego. Some get angry, some withdraw and some are great. Kudos to all of the spouses who can show support and to family members who step up to the plate to help out.
Moki
Moki
T,
Your ex sounds like a very caring and hard working person, it is so good that even though you aren't together that you can depend on him. Some people no matter how good they are, like you said, just can't handle seeing someone they love ill.
I can identify with the fire, our home burned 1/30/07. Lost everything except for kitchen, den stuff, and office. We had built a one bedroom apt on our home for my mom in 2003, the fire didn't get this far so that is where we are still living while rebuilding our home. We have a small kitchen and den combo and a bath, no bedroom cause that's where all our office stuff is.
It wasn't too bad until May when the boys came home from college!! It was me, my hubby, one 20 year old, one 19 year old, Sadie my bloodhound and Bradley my son's dog!!!!! Talkin bout a close knit family! heh heh heh
Boys are back in school now and Bradley left last week to live with his dad. I sure miss them, but it is nice to be just us again.
Rutey,
We have employees, but we used to make all the decisions together and now my mind doesn't work good enough to trust what I think anymore. We really made a good team when we were designing homes, we always made ours have something special that other builders didn't have. Now I just can't get my mind around coming up with ideas.
We have a pool too, but it's been so hot here this summer I can't stand being outside. It's finally cooling off a little now so thanks for the idea!!!!!
Dad,
Thanks for posting, and welcome to our little piece of heaven. You will love the people on this board, they are wonderful and very supporting. It is tough, but I know all of us will make it thru and learn to live with the life we are given.
Love you all
doni
Your ex sounds like a very caring and hard working person, it is so good that even though you aren't together that you can depend on him. Some people no matter how good they are, like you said, just can't handle seeing someone they love ill.
I can identify with the fire, our home burned 1/30/07. Lost everything except for kitchen, den stuff, and office. We had built a one bedroom apt on our home for my mom in 2003, the fire didn't get this far so that is where we are still living while rebuilding our home. We have a small kitchen and den combo and a bath, no bedroom cause that's where all our office stuff is.
It wasn't too bad until May when the boys came home from college!! It was me, my hubby, one 20 year old, one 19 year old, Sadie my bloodhound and Bradley my son's dog!!!!! Talkin bout a close knit family! heh heh heh
Boys are back in school now and Bradley left last week to live with his dad. I sure miss them, but it is nice to be just us again.
Rutey,
We have employees, but we used to make all the decisions together and now my mind doesn't work good enough to trust what I think anymore. We really made a good team when we were designing homes, we always made ours have something special that other builders didn't have. Now I just can't get my mind around coming up with ideas.
We have a pool too, but it's been so hot here this summer I can't stand being outside. It's finally cooling off a little now so thanks for the idea!!!!!
Dad,
Thanks for posting, and welcome to our little piece of heaven. You will love the people on this board, they are wonderful and very supporting. It is tough, but I know all of us will make it thru and learn to live with the life we are given.
Love you all
doni
Thanks for the post. I know its hard not to be beside your hubby and helping him in your business like you used to. Maybe he can hire someone part time, or maybe another employee help him a bit. Then you could have more time together and both of you wouldnt be as tired or stressed. My hubby hired a lady to come in once a week and clean so I could use that time for our time. I cant stand a messy house, so stay busy cleaning. I have to keep sitting down every few minutes because my legs feel weak. I only want her doing the hard stuff like mopping, and vacuuming, and changing the sheets. I want to continue doing what I can for exercise. I read alot in here about spouses not understanding the lack of sex drive. I am not always in the mood either, so I do other things to make hubby feel Im still attracted to him. We sit on the couch together and watch movies, and cuddle. I go sit out by the pool while hes mowing the yard, that way I can splash water on myself if it gets too hot. HAHAHA, sometimes, it leads to skinnydipping and other things!
My soon to be X is a very caring man,he just couldn't handle any more stress.Its better for one of us than the two of to be broken.When ya love someone enough its best to let them go.The door is always open.
Even though we are not together he provides for our 2 children still at home,helps with the morgage and pays my truck payment.our last 6 years have not been good to begin with.Starting with a night time house fire that left us with nothing,thank the lord no lives were lost,we moved to Ohio,my family is all here and he couldn't find desent work in his profession,he currently works a full time job and 2 part time jobs.he doesn't do well under pressure,he's a very kind man that needs to resolve his own issues as us together is not a good combination.
If i'm sick,the kids call and he's right here.
Whats gonna be will be,I trust the Lord to guide us.
A HUGFEST sounds great
T
Even though we are not together he provides for our 2 children still at home,helps with the morgage and pays my truck payment.our last 6 years have not been good to begin with.Starting with a night time house fire that left us with nothing,thank the lord no lives were lost,we moved to Ohio,my family is all here and he couldn't find desent work in his profession,he currently works a full time job and 2 part time jobs.he doesn't do well under pressure,he's a very kind man that needs to resolve his own issues as us together is not a good combination.
If i'm sick,the kids call and he's right here.
Whats gonna be will be,I trust the Lord to guide us.
A HUGFEST sounds great
T
Hey Doni,
I read your post about you and your hubby. I just wanted to share that Ihave the same guilt feelings about not being the partner for wife that she signed on for. I have spent many hours thinking this over and do not have a good answer. I love my wife dearly, but wish I could do something to "fix" the problem. There is no answer. I just tell my wife that I love her very much and that I will support her in any decsion she makes - no matter what it is. This is really tough stuff here. Good luck!
StayAtHomeDad
I read your post about you and your hubby. I just wanted to share that Ihave the same guilt feelings about not being the partner for wife that she signed on for. I have spent many hours thinking this over and do not have a good answer. I love my wife dearly, but wish I could do something to "fix" the problem. There is no answer. I just tell my wife that I love her very much and that I will support her in any decsion she makes - no matter what it is. This is really tough stuff here. Good luck!
StayAtHomeDad
I guess I am in between Rutey and Carol with the things going on with my hubby. At times he seems to get aggravated with me if I'm having a brain fog day and can't talk to him, but other times he seems to be very understanding.
I don't talk very much to my family about how I am feeling cause I just don't want them to worry. Well, after reading all the posts about relationships I decided it was time to have a serious discussion with my hubby. I sat him down last Sat and we had a long talk about what ever this is that is happening to me. We are best friends and have been since we were 14 (38 yrs). He was my first love when we were 16, but we both ended up marrying other people. We found each other again in April 1996 and have been together ever since.
This is really hard for him, but he has done some research of his own on MS. He is of the same opinion as me about my symtoms pointing toward a MS dx. I feel so guilty that I can't be the partner he signed on for, but he told me Sat to quit feeling quilty about anything. He said that we would deal with all this together and that when I had days I couldn't do anything, for me to just accept this and quit with the feeling guilty cause there was no reason for it.
I felt much better after our talk, but I guess he is right, I make myself miserable cause I feel guilty that I can't do the things I used to do. I hate that he has to shoulder all the responsibilities with our business and he stays so tired and stressed all the time. I like to think that when I was working side by side with him, that I took alot of the problems and work away from him.
I had pushed thru all these symtoms until this summer, and now I just don't have the energy to do it any more. I hope that my husband and I can keep the communication open cause we haven't been dealing with this problem as long as all of you. He does get frustrated with me sometime, but I am going to try to deal with it and just keep talking to him so that maybe this health problem won't ruin our relationship.
As always I am praying for you Carol and Sam, you both are so special. I pray for you to find resolution to your pain and depression and to have an abundance of love and hope and understanding.
Rutey, you are a blessed person and I am so glad you have someone who is strong and supportive. Good luck with your tests.
T- you are also a very special person and deserved better. Some people just aren't made with the giving and supportive gene. I am sorry that your husband was too weak to stand with you. All of us here love you and support you!!!!! I wish sometime that all of us here could meet somewhere and have the opportunity to put faces with names and just have an all out hugfest!!!!!
Q-You are such a support to all of us here, I am glad that you have your sister to love and support you on a daily basis. I hope you are feeling well today.
Love & ((((hugs)))) to you all, you are all in my prayers!
doni
I don't talk very much to my family about how I am feeling cause I just don't want them to worry. Well, after reading all the posts about relationships I decided it was time to have a serious discussion with my hubby. I sat him down last Sat and we had a long talk about what ever this is that is happening to me. We are best friends and have been since we were 14 (38 yrs). He was my first love when we were 16, but we both ended up marrying other people. We found each other again in April 1996 and have been together ever since.
This is really hard for him, but he has done some research of his own on MS. He is of the same opinion as me about my symtoms pointing toward a MS dx. I feel so guilty that I can't be the partner he signed on for, but he told me Sat to quit feeling quilty about anything. He said that we would deal with all this together and that when I had days I couldn't do anything, for me to just accept this and quit with the feeling guilty cause there was no reason for it.
I felt much better after our talk, but I guess he is right, I make myself miserable cause I feel guilty that I can't do the things I used to do. I hate that he has to shoulder all the responsibilities with our business and he stays so tired and stressed all the time. I like to think that when I was working side by side with him, that I took alot of the problems and work away from him.
I had pushed thru all these symtoms until this summer, and now I just don't have the energy to do it any more. I hope that my husband and I can keep the communication open cause we haven't been dealing with this problem as long as all of you. He does get frustrated with me sometime, but I am going to try to deal with it and just keep talking to him so that maybe this health problem won't ruin our relationship.
As always I am praying for you Carol and Sam, you both are so special. I pray for you to find resolution to your pain and depression and to have an abundance of love and hope and understanding.
Rutey, you are a blessed person and I am so glad you have someone who is strong and supportive. Good luck with your tests.
T- you are also a very special person and deserved better. Some people just aren't made with the giving and supportive gene. I am sorry that your husband was too weak to stand with you. All of us here love you and support you!!!!! I wish sometime that all of us here could meet somewhere and have the opportunity to put faces with names and just have an all out hugfest!!!!!
Q-You are such a support to all of us here, I am glad that you have your sister to love and support you on a daily basis. I hope you are feeling well today.
Love & ((((hugs)))) to you all, you are all in my prayers!
doni
Hi carol
Iv posted about the problems with me and my husband there were alot of issues in our marriage sexual as well that changed for me when i became a christian and he excepted that except a certain issue plus all our other problems with my illness, i have been praying and praying crying out to the lord to save our marriage but i would not submit to him on this, i felt the lord tell me to submit to him and let God take care of the rest as the lord will not lead you into harm or sin, so i did and oh my god the lord has been faithfull he is kind and caring again we have talked about the certain issue and agreed to park it for now, sorry iv gone on alot i just wanted you to know that the lord hears and he will restore your marriage to what it was before and be encouraged that it can happen, i pray that this stays in our marriage now i know we have along way to go but we are talking we are loving and that picks me up alittle through this last flare that still goes on, i have been house bound since last sat and very down still.
Im praying too
Carol.
Iv posted about the problems with me and my husband there were alot of issues in our marriage sexual as well that changed for me when i became a christian and he excepted that except a certain issue plus all our other problems with my illness, i have been praying and praying crying out to the lord to save our marriage but i would not submit to him on this, i felt the lord tell me to submit to him and let God take care of the rest as the lord will not lead you into harm or sin, so i did and oh my god the lord has been faithfull he is kind and caring again we have talked about the certain issue and agreed to park it for now, sorry iv gone on alot i just wanted you to know that the lord hears and he will restore your marriage to what it was before and be encouraged that it can happen, i pray that this stays in our marriage now i know we have along way to go but we are talking we are loving and that picks me up alittle through this last flare that still goes on, i have been house bound since last sat and very down still.
Im praying too
Carol.
I think that is wonderful. Up until a few months ago I thought my husband was one to brag about. It seemed he was supportive in everything. I guess it all caught up with him and also this past summer has been a very trying time for both of us. I guess he isn't strong enough to hurdle the really bad times.
I'm praying that things will get better and that he will eventually see what this is doing to our marriage. If he doesn't realize this pretty soon it scares me to think what might happen. I'm about to the point where I can't take another fight. I'm afraid that I'm gonna break and tell him to leave. It's that bad.
How I pray for the days when it was good. When we could look at each other and instantly know what the other one thought. Also, when we looked at each other and saw nothing but true love. I pray to get those days back.
Your marriage sounds wonderful and what a gem of a man you have. Hold on tight cause people like me are looking for men like him.lol heeheehaha. I had to say that. God be with you both and love him extra tonight.
I'll be praying,
Carol
I'm praying that things will get better and that he will eventually see what this is doing to our marriage. If he doesn't realize this pretty soon it scares me to think what might happen. I'm about to the point where I can't take another fight. I'm afraid that I'm gonna break and tell him to leave. It's that bad.
How I pray for the days when it was good. When we could look at each other and instantly know what the other one thought. Also, when we looked at each other and saw nothing but true love. I pray to get those days back.
Your marriage sounds wonderful and what a gem of a man you have. Hold on tight cause people like me are looking for men like him.lol heeheehaha. I had to say that. God be with you both and love him extra tonight.
I'll be praying,
Carol
Kudo's to all the wonderful spouses and family members who assist there loved ones.
My hubby left because of my disease,he's in denial,but thats okay cause I have great support with my kids and family.
He really added to my stress level and couldn't handle my sense of humor over the disease.
My hubby left because of my disease,he's in denial,but thats okay cause I have great support with my kids and family.
He really added to my stress level and couldn't handle my sense of humor over the disease.
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