I hope someone here can share their personal experience about living with MS and diabetes at the same time. I'm not going to be any help with that one.
I do hear your frustration though. It sounds like you need a MS specialist who can take some time to really explain what is going on and put some options on the table for you to consider. Have you ever had a second opinion about your treatment or overall plan of care?
I'd encourage you to not spend a lot of time dwelling on what might or might not have been had 'things' been different. They are what they are at this point and you can only move forward from where you are now. Don't get me wrong - you have every right to be angry and to express doubts and regrets. In fact, it may be a good idea somewhere along the line to ask your physician about a professional who could help you work through those feelings.
But right now you need to concentrate on getting your MS treatment on an effective track. Most disease modifying medications are still administered by injection. Gilenya and (the very recently approved) Aubagio are the only two options for therapy in pill form at the moment. Others are expected to become available soon. Some promise better results or fewer side effects but for now they aren't even an option.
One option that does come to mind is Tysabri. If your MS has been on an aggressive binge you might want to investigate if using it is an option. It is given intravenously at an infusion center once a month. Several members here use it. It is a safer drug to use than in years past because of recent developments in testing and screening to evaluate each person's risk factor for use. It has a better record at controlling relapse than most disease modifiers so might be worth considering - at least until other oral drugs are available. HOWEVER, it is an immunosuppressant drug and I don't know if that would be problem considering your diabetes diagnosis.
There are a few people here also being treated with a drug called Cellcept. That is an immunosuppressant pill that is usually given to people who have organ transplants (to prevent rejection).
To my knowledge, diabetes doesn't cause MS like lesions to appear on MRI of the brain unless they were to appear as a result of problems with blood flow.
I do question how it is possible you have had five flares in a year that hasn't yet gotten all the way through its tenth month. By definition, a new flare is supposed to be proceeded by 30 days of stability. I suspect you have had fewer than that but that each lasted much longer than it seemed since symptoms will sometimes ebb and flow within a flare before resolving or reaching a final plateau.
Again, I encourage you to find a doctor (or a nurse in your present doctor's office) who can answer some of your questions. We are glad to help wherever we can but you need some facts specific to YOU to find out where you are and make good decisions about what direction to head.
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