Teresa/Donna/Me Update

[Jan214]

Teresa spent all day yesterday in the ER with a fever.  They said it was her kidneys. I didn't get much out of her last night because she was very tired and went to bed.  I don't know why they didn't keep her with a fever and kidney issues, especially since she just got out of the hospital a week ago.  I also don't know why they had her sitting around an emergency room all day with her situation.  She just got over 3 staph infections, a month in the hospital and she should not be subjected to the awful gunk in an ER.

Donna got home last night and the home health people came right away to get her settled in.  She did not think she was going to have hospice help, but her husband said they have both.  I am very grateful for that.  I think he needs it as much as she does. You know how guys are, they feel so much and say so little.  I hope it will help him to have Cory there as Johnny doesn't know anyone else who is going through this so he feels lost and alone.  He says that she appears to be going downhill quickly.  She is sleeping a lot.  They still have her on fluids, she is able to suck on ice chips occasionally and she is not in any pain.  We will be going down Thursday or Friday once she gets settled in. He doesn't think she has more than a few weeks.

We are going to Cory's mom's today and will probably come back sometime Wednesday night or Thursday morning.  I have got to get away from all of this horridness.  At least down there I can forget about all of this for a few hours at a time.  Yes, I know how selfish that sounds and I am sorry, but I feel like I am going to explode.  Everytime I think I have a handle on my stress some little thing happens and it is boiling over the top again, so I guess I don't.  I think maybe I will start taking those xanaxes more often.  I will stay in touch with Donna and Teresa and will call or text someone that can update this post.  I have a CA125 scheduled for next Monday and a CT and chest Xray on Tuesday.  A prayer or two for all of us would be greatly appreciated.  Thank you.
Love,
Jan

[silver&gold]

Teresa , thinking of both you and hubby and hoping that you both are feeling better soon.
Sending positive thoughts and prayers your way .

Love Angie

[vegas2cr]

Teresa you and hubby are in my thoughts and prayers...Sending your warmth and love from here... Ronni

[slee56]

Miracles do happen but they happen in his time and place.  I am going to do a journal entry that will explain this. Prayers bring comfort and peace that I can feel in my life they do bring healing too.There are people who are ON THE OTHER SIDE (angels) who are there for us we know some perssonally (dads,moms, sisters, sons, daughters, father in laws, grandparents, friends (online ones too) the list goes on). They lead us to find the answers we look for I BELIVE my father in law who died in nov 1991 led us to be in the place we are at now. Because of that I was able to get the medical intervention (that saved my life) via 3 surgical procedure done on the same day that put me on the road to being healtly. I can do many things now that I could not do for a long time.. Will be 50% done with chemo on the 1st of oct...
You all are angels to me on this form as we need a connection with others then ourselves and it hard to tell family certian things.. They will think we are nuts if we told them all the thoughts.. and our plans for both life and the process of death too.. We all will face that at some piont and with Gods grace I was told I can make it to the 10 year gate of survival  if not i will SEE YOU  ON THE OTHERSIDE...

[SimplyStar]

Teresa  just want you to know that I am thinking about you, I do so hope that all this turns out for the better real soon,  When God said He will not give us more than we can hamdle, sometimes I wonder if He know just how small our hands are.  Keep the faith hun, and both of you get better real soon,  Marty

[crecco]

Teresa and her husband have been through far more than any couple should ever have to go through. Yet it seems they both remain strong.
I am glad that they are in the same hospital and how nice it would be if they could both be in the same room. I am sure that will not happen but it would be nice for them.
Teresa and her husband as well as the rest of the family are in my prayers.
    Love Chris

[gma718]

I am so upset about Teresa and her husband..how much more are they going to take????  I am praying for all of them and sending them prayers...I cant take all this bad news anymore!!! Please send Teresa and her husband my love and well wishes...Love, Gia

[Brownie3321]

Prayers to you Teresa. Much love, Deandra

[TrudieC]

Thanks Jan.  Ah Teresa, please, nothing more.  Tears and prayers...

[Sandymac]

Thanks for the updaste .. though I wish it was filled with good news.. I'll look for the post for Donna....Get some rest.. do you watch "Old Adventures of New Christine" (or vice versa).. love that show
Sent you a pm
Love,
Sandy

[Jan214]

Teresa is back at the emergency room.  She is going to be admitted tonight but it will take a couple of hours.  Her husband Tom has been transferred to Vanderbilt which is where Teresa is.  Both of their oncologists are there so at least they are now at the same hospital with their own Drs.  I hope they can at least put them on the same floor so their kids can visit more easily.  I will go up tomorrow to see how she is.  Her son has been very good about keeping me informed  about stuff.  He is such a nice man and so incredibly intelligent.  Lily, Teresa's daughter is a very nice woman but she has a lot of stress on her right now with both her parents being sick, her fiance and a young son to take care of, work, a home, etc and I maybe the stress is getting to her.  You know how emotional us women can be.  So, that whole family could use prayers.   All I know right now is that she still has a fever and kidney issues. Her son said he would call me later with an update.



I did not get to go to my MIL's because I was to nauseous to get in the car and by time I felt better, we had found out Cory had to take his oldest daughter for an MRI today on her ankle that she twisted.  All looks well, but she is into sports and wanted to be sure. I did get to feeling better and Cory and I did a little "fun" shopping (as opposed to "have to" shopping) went out to eat and came home and watched some season premieres of our favorite shows.  We had a nice relaxing night.  I feel destressed just doing that.  We will probably go this weekend instead.  I am starting a new post for Donna.
Love,
Jan

[fungirl1011]

Dear Jan, Thank you so very much for keeping us updated.  You are NOT selfish.  It does everyone good to get away from their problems once in a while.  You are such a sweet woman and I think it is awesome that you are putting yourself aside to go and help a friend out.  Please, please let Donna know that I am thinking of her and praying for her.  Also, please let Teresa know that she is on my mind and in my prayers also.  She sure has a lot on her plate too.  I hope you enjoyed your time at Corey's mom's house.  Love ya, Kasie

PS, did  you get the PM that I sent to you the other day?

[kmccarthy]

Jan, I just read your post and I am so sorry Teresa, Donna and you are going through such hard times right now. I am praying for you. Keep reminding yourself that you can trust God, even when everything seems so chaotic with our earthly eyes. Please know how important it is for you to take care of yourself first. If taking care of yourself is selfish, then so be it. Your physical, emotional and mental health is too important to put aside.

Kelly

[justscore]

When I opened this thread to read it, I was hoping for some good news, a miracle or 2.........  I am still praying for miracles for everyone battling.  I pray for healing, strength and peace.  Everyone needs a "break" from this tradgic disease.  Please know that all of us are thinking of you ladies. I appreciate all you have brought to this forum and you are amazing and I have such admiration for all of you.  I just can't find the right words to say.........this SUX!  

Heidi

[gma718]

Like everyone said "selfish" is not one of your qualities...I am so SORRY for all of this..it seems lately that things are so difficult for all of you suffering with this #$%*! disease!!!!! I wish I could do anything...I feel so helpless. I am so sorry about Donna..I pray that her family and her friends find comfort knowing she is not in pain and I pray that it stays that way.  I am praying for Teresa..she has had some few months..OMG!!! I also pray for you and Cory Jan...You deserve to "destress" yourself...take care of you...sinceyou always put everyone before you...We all appreciate you!!!! Love, Gia :)

[Brownie3321]

Jan you could never be selfish. You need to take care of YOU. Remember, we don't do well with stress so please, take care of yourself.
Thank you for the update and know I will be praying for all of you. With love, D

[JC145]

Jan,I am so very happy you are taking a little get-away.  You know I've been worried about your stress .. stress is so very bad, expecially with the cancer.  I am so very sad to hear Donna is not responding.  And Teresa .. why can't they get a handle on her and get things right!  All I can do is continue to pray ... Judy

[turtle221]

Thank you Jan for keeping everyone informed.  As always, I just wanted to offer my prayers and support for you and your family, Theresa and her husband and family, Donna and her family and everyone else who need it!

May God bless you all and grant you strength and peace.

[crecco]

   It just does not seem fair that such wonderful people have to go through so much. The cancer in itself is enough but then you have all of this other **** piling on top of it.

  Teresa, I know how much you want to be there for your husband but you have got to get well first. I hope that your family is helping both of you. Please do not push yourself and make sure that you get plenty of rest.

  Donna please know that I think about you daily. I am glad that you have both the home health and hospice and that you are in no pain, make sure they keep you that way.

  You are both in my thoughts and prayers.

Jan thanks for keeping us updated and enjoy your time at Cory's moms.
    Love Chris

[junamgen]

Thank you for the updates. I will pray for you all from CA.  Please take time off as much as you want.

Peace and Love

jun

[kimmywah]

My continuing prayers and love to you Jan and Teresa and Donna.  Please take care of you too.

Peace...Kim

[jlock]

You are such a wonderful lady and no one would ever think of you as selfish....a break is needed and deserved.  I'll be saying prayers for you all..I hope all your upcoming tests will be normal and take some of the edge off you as well.((((hugz)))~~~Joanne

[cirella]

Dear Jan, To see the reality of Donna's situation in print makes me just numb.  I can hardly think of anything to write.  Please tell her how much she is loved.

To care for yourself is no way selfish.  You must do it, Jan.  I'm glad you're going there first and then to Donna's.  I hope Cory is able to talk with Johnny and comfort him.

I am so sorry that Teresa is now dealing with this added stuff.  I hope she can get the proper care she needs.

Prayers and love to you, Donna and Teresa!

[bohan54]

Don't let it go til you burst.  I know how that feels and it ain't good.  You are a wonderful, giving person but you must preserve your strength and sanity.  I don't pray but will certainly send you my affection and care.
Sharon B

[Sandymac]

Let me just add my "echo" to all posted above. Jan, you must take care of yourself.. I'm glad you are getting away even for a day or so.. And all of you are constantly in my thoughts and prayers. Please be safe and well.. my best also to Teresa and Donna. We'll talk when you can..

Much love to you all,
Sandy