nicororo; Please accept this offer of Peace.

[dian07]

I am not quite certain how to do this...I can imagine you felt as if we were attacking you last evening after your post on this site...well, I for one, feel a need to pull the quills from your body.
I think what happened is......This group of women are attached, protective and emotionally connected to eachother. Some of these bonds are not penetrable and are very unforgiving . If   betrayal or attack is perceived I do believe a battlecry is sounded.
When one of us has a problem, or is threatened...by other persons, or disease, or confusion,etc...the wagons are circled and the fight for survival is on....
The wagons were circled last night.
Being alive, and human, guarantees us each a bag filled with troubles....sometimes we need help carrying that bag...That's what we do here. We share everything and that makes us vulnerable; we are women and that makes us protective and passionate.
If you felt excluded and attacked last evening, it was not the intention, and, I do apologize and extend an invitation to you to join this "unorganized band of barbaric and ruthlessly loyal batallion of hormonally challenged women."
Please accept this offer of Peace.
dian

[crazyladi99]

Wow i dont know what to say but thank you.  I have had a real tough go at this mothering thing and i really needed somewhere to vent.   I have found that since i have reached out about my post pardum and psycosis that I have not only been attacked but have been made to feel like a worthless undeserving mother.  Not on here of course but in the city i live in.  I specifically went to many doctors to tell them what is going on but have always been told nothing is wrong with me.  I know because of who I am I would never ever ever kill her.  My fear is the emotional scars that I am giving to her.  i thank you all for your support.  I know that I am a good mother no matter what I have done.  I did indeed pass her over to my mom for 2 days and told her I cant take her back until my hormones become level.  I know I have a problem, and I too am a christian and wonder why this is going on and why this is happening to me. I do however believe that this is going to end after my surgery nieve as it does sound.  I just believe that. I may be off my rocker and please feel free to tell me I am lololol..  

Also to top off all this drama it doesnt help that I quit smoking 6 months ago.  

Before i used to shut myself in my solarium and smoke so i wouldnt hurt her. Now I am going to have to do that again without the cigarettes..

You are all wonderful people and I thank you for your support.  Too bad we were past the limit for the day and i couldnt post that night, might have saved all this. lol..

Darn Computers lol..

I really truly want to say again your support is unbelievable, I have never felt so much from so many people in all my life.  This has been a lonely journey and I am glad i can share my fears before surgery and ask questions about all of this and yes vent about killin my kid lol.  

I pray that God Blesses all of you

[Gatsby]

If you are all up for a cyber party, just let me know!
~Tascha

[Moosiebjm]

Me too Katie.

Very well put Tascha.

Dian, we do not disagree.  And I still do not believe there was an intentional maliciousness involved here.  Just over emoting and poor word choices - for an anonymous forum where body language, facial expressions and tone of voice can not be seen or heard.  One of the outcomes of a resolution will be peace, and hopefully, a learning will take place and this type of incident can be avoided in the future.  We all need this place and others like it.

Anyway. . . how about we get ready for the weekend get together and put this all aside.  Love, hugs and God bless, Barb

[Gatsby]

I'll take one in medium.  You know we are not here to judge or be judged.  Each of us has come here for solice and also a place to vent and find answers.  Who are we to say our way is better?  Who am I to say I am a better parent?  We all do the best we can and the best we know how. As far as I am concerned, you are all my sisters and I care about each of you.  I am here to listen and offer my advice, but I will never judge you.
Love, Tascha

[AnotherKatie]

Oh gosh you guys are so nice to try and resolve this. I appreciate so much what you are saying and that you are brave and kind enough to try, and are taking the time to do it.

OK... How's this for a different spin....Here goes:  I, Katie, a fabulous mother and long time hard working teacher ADMIT IT HERE AND NOW...  I TOO HAVE LOST IT and SPANKED MY KIDS!!!!HARD! MORE THAN ONCE.....and yeah I felt like **** but ... stuff happens.... and ...gosh....the kids turned out OK.  Jeeez Louise.  Craz has enough stuff going on without being attacked for her honesty.... we ALL do.  

I suppose I just made it all worse and now I am in the soup, but come on, Craz is just doing her best and my heart goes out to her.  She is alone.

I love that "unorganized band of barbaric and ruthlessly loyal batallion of hormonally challenged women"....can we get Tshirts done up?

[dian07]

Barb;
I feel exactly as you do; the hair stood up on my neck when I read each of her posts.
I agree, she was insensitive and lacking couth.....still, in full support of Ladi, who I think was very graceful in the face of an attack....this nicororo person is a wounded (and quite angry) woman who could benefit by reading what you, and so many others here,have to say.
Yes, last night was a very "emotionally charged" discussion and subject....I knew this invite might be, also.  Ladi handled herself well..... I would imagine she is now aware that she has friends here who will offer advice, support, and protection. She need not feel alone again....that is the blessing and silver lining of the cloud that passed over last night.
Last night showed how much we pull together when one of us is challenged. Personally, I felt honored to be a member of such an "unorganized band of barbaric and ruthlessly loyal batallion of hormonally challenged women".
If I insulted anyone in that previous sentence, I apologize; and, I disagree on your conclusion, Barb .....I think there might have been some malicious intent in her statements; but, I'll not stoop to her level.
It is my opinion, we need as much Peace in this world as we can get....women should unite across the planet in the attempt to accomplish that honorable goal....we need to change hostility to friendship.
In doing so, we just might all find Peace.
dian