nicororo; Please accept this offer of Peace.

[dian07]

I am not quite certain how to do this...I can imagine you felt as if we were attacking you last evening after your post on this site...well, I for one, feel a need to pull the quills from your body.
I think what happened is......This group of women are attached, protective and emotionally connected to eachother. Some of these bonds are not penetrable and are very unforgiving . If   betrayal or attack is perceived I do believe a battlecry is sounded.
When one of us has a problem, or is threatened...by other persons, or disease, or confusion,etc...the wagons are circled and the fight for survival is on....
The wagons were circled last night.
Being alive, and human, guarantees us each a bag filled with troubles....sometimes we need help carrying that bag...That's what we do here. We share everything and that makes us vulnerable; we are women and that makes us protective and passionate.
If you felt excluded and attacked last evening, it was not the intention, and, I do apologize and extend an invitation to you to join this "unorganized band of barbaric and ruthlessly loyal batallion of hormonally challenged women."
Please accept this offer of Peace.
dian

[fabmom4]

I just want to make a statement about what happened.  I read the whole thing, although I did not post any comments.  I will say that my heart goes out to both women.  I have been on both ends, and I know how difficult it is.  There are times when I was so enraged that I probably could have done some severe damage, if not physically, then definitely emotionally.  I have watched my husband blow his top and punch a wall, and I remember thinking, what if that were one of the kids' backsides instead?  My husband and I love our children very much and we are good, Christian people, but we all have limits, and that is what I think Nicororo was trying to express.  We are adults, and we should know when to walk away, but in the heat of anger, we snap.  I would never intentionally hurt my children, but I don't know if I could stop myself in a moment of rage.  You can always walk away.  Trust me.  Even in the smallest of apartments or living spaces, there is a door you can hide behind.  I have locked myself in the bathroom and sat there listening to my kids try to bang the door down, knowing if I opened it, they would be put in an "unsafe" situation.  Our hormones can do crazy things to us, believe me I know.  I have experienced it several times, but anger and rage will not go away when we "feel better".  They usually come from a deeper place, and Crazy, that is what you need to address.  I give you a lot of credit for being brutally honest, and I know where you are coming from when you say you would never hurt your child.  I don't think any mother would ever want to harm there child (I hope).  Please take it from someone who has been there, though, that sometimes you just can fall off the deep end, and you need to find a way to manage that anger, so that your child does not become a victim of that.  Whether it is prayer, meditation, counseling, medication, whatever, find and fight your way through.  We are all worried for you because we are women trying to help other women here.  We owe it to each other to be there for each other, even when it might not be something we want to hear.  Crazy, I am on your side and I can tell you are a stong woman, and I am routing for you.  God Bless you and bring peace to your home and heart :)

[Moosiebjm]

Hi Dian.

Again, you are such a thoughtful person, but in this instance, I don't think a peacemaking is totally what is needed.  Resolution would be better.  Everyone is entitled to their opinion and Nicororo expressed hers, as well as the rest of us.  However, is an anonymous, faceless message forum.  No tone of voice can truly be heard, no facial expressions seen, and we are free to put whatever spin on what someone writes that we want, and that spin can often be based on where our state of mind is.  The choice of words is very important, especially in a very emotionally charged situation, as this is, and when chords are struck so close to home.  I'm sure there was no malicious intent, but the choice of words under the circumstances was certainly incendiary.  Crazyladi came here for support, not to be told she was, or at least to perceive she was being called a potential murderer.  And I hope it isn't just MY hormonally challenged self speaking here. . . This is just how I feel.  Had I been Craz, I'd probably not have handled it as well as she did, especially if you hit me on the wrong day.  Ask my family.  And I can see them!!!

Anyway, I'll finish.  Don't want to dig a hold for myself.  Love, hugs and God bless, Barb