I am going into the hospital on Sunday for a laparoscopy to drain what they believe is a tubo-ovarian abscess. They may also possibly remove things - ovary, tube, uterus or even portion of the bowel - if they find they're involved,making this even more invasive. I am currently ill from this abscess and running a fever, so maybe not totally coherent, forgive me. I'm not bedridden but trying to move as little as possible, just lying still and quite uncomfortable, hoping I feel a little better soon,
My husband is a dear person whose heart is in the right place. But ... maybe I'm using this moment to be a drama queen, but he just doesn't seem to get it. His ex wife suffered from some sort of gyn problem and apparently had procedures regularly that had her off her feet for a day or two. Hubby nearly fell off the stool when told this wasn't outpatient surgery and that even in a best case scenario I will be in the hospital for three days. He immediately set out not-really-hearing that. I am usually healthy as a horse, so this is the first time in our five year marriage I really CAN'T put his needs ahead of my own. Not that I always do, but I usually have the option ;-) The point is that we often have these little power struggles about who will be the center of attention. He usually wins, but it never occurred to me that he might be incapable of losing, no matter how obviously I need to be paying attention to myself and how much I need HIS help.
I know he's scared and doing a denial thing. It's one of his defenses. His inlaws are coming for an (unrelated) visit 11 days after I go in. Which means they will arrive at the house somewhere between 2 and 7 after I do. And he wants to "wait and see how you feel" before making any decisions about calling this off.
What I don't know is, in this situation where I don't have the luxury of indulging his denial ... well, does anyone have good suggestions for me? I can get myself marginally prepared but I'm starting to feel overwhelmed. Cook and freeze meals, go out and buy bran muffins ... um going to the loo or making coffee seems like an accomplishment this week. Is there an ultimately simple prep list that I could share with Hubby?