how should i support my girlfriend

[sjhale]

Hi, my girlfriend was diagnosed with endometreosis about two years ago now, she has had an operation where they used key hole surgery to remove the scar tissue. Recently after a consultation with the doctor its has been diagnosed that her right ovary is very inlarged and she s going to need another operation. At the moment i am just trying to be as supportive as i can but it sometimes feels as though everything i say or do is the wrong thing, I can't imagine what she is going through as she is only 24yrs old, she has a son already and he is wonderful and full of life. The problem i am having is that she really doesn't want to talk about it with me, i am not pushing or anything like that, i was just wondering if anyone could give me some advice as to what i can do to prove how much i care and show that i will always be here for her, if anyone has been through this and can let me know what to expect i will be very grateful! thanks

[kitonthemoon]

Your girlfriend is blessed to have a caring guy in her life.

I too suffered from endo my entire adult life......it made me tired easily, and then there's this pain thingy.   Having a surgery at such young age is scary to anyone, speically when you have a young son to care for.

Read on about all you can about endo.....and be patient with her.  Hang in there....
Kit

[fungirl1011]

Hi there, and welcome to the fourm.  You sound like such a loving boyfriend.  I know it is tough when it seems like someone you love is pushing you away, but  keep in mind that most of the time, it is usually hormones talking.  When you have endo, you feel so crappy a lot of the time.  Also it is so hard to talk about this to our boyfriends/husbands because you just CAN'T understand what we are going through (sorry do not mean to sound harsh, but it is true).  You just keep telling her that you are there for her and that you love her.  Sometimes when she seems really crabby, all she may need is a hut.  Offer to rub her aching back, or run her a warm bath.  Those are the kind of things that will let her know that you are there for her.  As hard as it may seem, please do not take it personally.  Hormonal imbalance can be a really hard thing to deal with.  Has she been back to see her doctor lately?  You may want to suggest that.  Good luck, I hope she knows how luck she is to have a guy like you.  PLease know that we are here for you and her anytime.  

Hugs,
Kasie

[silver&gold]

Hi , you sound like a really caring guy , endometriosis can make you feel really awful and grouchy !!  I had it quite badly and it can cause a lot of symptoms especially pain . Sometimes you feel so bad that you just don,t want to talk about it because you feel that people don,t understand how ill you feel . I would say to your girlfriend that if she wants to talk about it , you are there for her and maybe you could run her a warm bath when shes not feeling good and just be a little bit more attentive to her needs . Try not to take things too personally when your girlfriend is feeling bad because its easy to snap at the one you love but you dont mean to.

Take care Best wishes Angie