Hi Tee,
Welcome to the Pain Management Forum. I am very sorry to hear about your untreated pain.
If you have kidney stones and they are not moving you should not have significant pain.However if you do not have kidney stones that are moving or partially blocking the passage of urine you need to have your pain diagnosed. I have a long history of stones and know how very extreme the pain can be. My heart goes out to you and anyone who passes kidney stones.
I suggest that you consult a Urologist.... and find another PCP. If you are producing stones on a continually basis there needs to be a reason.
You're correct that ER will see you as a drug seeker of you do not have a condition they can "see" ... such as a kidney stone moving. The last CT scan I had revealed five kidney stones. I have no horrid pain unless I am passing one. So again please consult a urologist or someone that can explain what is happening and treat your correctly.
We also have a forum that is focused on urology issues. I encourage you to also post your question there. Here's the link:
http://www.medhelp.org/forums/Urology/show/52
Please let us know how you are doing. I will look forward to your updates.
Take Care,
~Tuck