Having mixed emotions

[Bellacabadas]

Hi ladies,
I'm 39 yrs old with my 6th child (and yes all from the same man my husband , been with him almost 23 yrs). lol
I started young had my first at 17 yrs old. So I have a 22, 21, 19, 5, and soon to be 2 yr old, and 23 wkks pregnant. But for some reason I haven't been able to decide if I want to have my tubes tide! I feel that I don't think I want anymore kids but I really don't want to have my tubes tide.
Does anyone out there felt this way???...
Ppl r do nosy they always think it's ok to be rude and say things like "another baby"? And "this is ur last one, Right"? And so I reply no I might have more, just cause I get mad. Ppl look at my age and say things like ur almost 40 u should already have ur tubes tide.
It's like is none of your business what I do right.?
Can someone that's going through something similar give me any kind of advise please?
Thanks God Bless You All!

[Bellacabadas]

Thank You All For Your Words Of Encouragement. Didn't think There was anyone out there that felt the same way or or similar way as me!
God Bless You All!
Still Thinking Hard About What To Do, I Need To PRAY Hard About It! ;)

[Sharlynn93]

I am 38 and pregnant with my 4th...my oldest will turn 21 a few weeks after this one is born. My youngest will be 17. I get rude comments constantly from people,  especially since my 19 yr old is also pregnant and due the same week as I am. I wish people would stop and think before they speak...its quite hurtful. My daughter and I are really enjoying sharing this experience!

[tigereyes19806]

I'm almost 31 and pregnant with our 5th baby. My husband and I always said we wanted to have all our kids early and before I turned 30. We thought our 4th was our last but this one was a surprise. All of my family lives out of state and my husband's family lives close by u We have the most kids out of all his siblings. He has 3 siblings. They always ask us if this is our last one. It really gets on my nerves. I think it's a personal choice how many kids you and your spouse have. Don't let other people decide how many you have. As long as both are happy who cares what anyone says.  My husband and I always knew we wanted a big family. I've thought about getting my tubes tied after this one but I've heard of complications. I'm thinking I might just get an IUD. If I were you I wouldn't get your tubes tied yet. You never know if you will change your mind after this one is born.

[1momma4chicks]

I know exactly how you feel. I think thenewmrs_b's mom hit the nail right on the head. For women who tie who they are with the ability to bear children, having our tubes tied or a hysterectomy is a scary, final thing! I'm dealing with this issue, too. This will be my 4th baby & I turn 37 the day of delivery. Mentally I know it's right for me to be done having kids, but my heart breaks at the permanance of a tubal or partial hysterectomy.
Bellacabadas, I wish you & any other ladies struggling with this good luck with your decisions. I know exactly how you feel!

[Bellacabadas]

Thank You All For Ur Kind Words And Advice!
Its Just Like you say thenewmrs_b that's Exactly how I feel!

[thenewmrs_b]

Its not odd at all to question getting your tubes tied at any age or any circumstance... My mom was in her 50s when she got a hysterectomy and she cried for days before and after about how she couldn't have kids anymore... Even though my dad was snipped in 1986. She said it just seemed so final! I know my husband and I are done after this one but I still can't bring myself to tie my tubes so I'm getting an IUD again and he will get snipped at some point

[jelarin]

If you're not sure, your husband can always get a vasectomy.

[Mommy_life_88]

I'm only gonna be 26 and on child six and I'm getting fixed after this little girl I had my first at 18 and my oldest is only gonna b 8 but husband and I are for sure done. But I don't like people say  those things either they don't pay for my kids or raise them let us choose how many we want  but it's all your choice and congrats on baby #6

[hisangel1973]

I AM 19 weeks pregante and I had my tubes tied. My 5th baby my little girl came am I wanted to be sure I was done. After years went by I thought I had made a bad choice because I am a believer. I wanted to leave my fate in Gods hands and what he wanted for my life. Five years after the baby I started to regret the decision. I felt I did something because of other nay sayers. I was given another chance to make things based on what others thought I made the decision. However, God opened the tubes and I am pregnate with my 6th child. I would recommend that you do what makes you feel secure and at peace within yourself. At the end of each day it is you who have to accept the decision that u have made.

[lgreen6201]

My husband and I are on our third, but we want to adopt for the fourth, so we are done.  However, his mom got pregnant with her tubes tied, so we aren't doing it.  Plus, we might change our minds and want more.  We have talked about the possibility of him getting snipped, because it's easier to reverse.  He's willing, but we still haven't decided yet.  Btw, I get questions all the time about if it was planned or if I'm done.  Why do people think it's any of their business?

[Dragonwings]

I'm 36 and this will be my 2nd child. My oldest is 19 and everyone thought I was crazy for starting over. If you don't want any more kids, why get your tubes tired. See if your husband is up for a Visectory. Why does it always have to be the woman?

[firstdaughter3sons]

Fourth baby first daughter and at 35 with a 17 14 and 10 year old yes I too am done and feel strongly that I don't want anymore children it's tough and I enjoy my sleep and I too want to travel and get up and go without having to find a sitter and then worry about baby while away. But good luck to you it is a tough decision and you never know how you'll feel in the future is why we sometimes opt not to do it

[angelab2012]

Hi I'm 39 almost 7 wks along with baby number six. My fiancé is 43 between us we have 6 kids already number 7 on the way my 6th. I have some health issues and wasnt supposed to have any more babies aftee my third, well suprise someone had other plans for us! :)  I can't go under anastesia to get my tubes done and can't tske anything with hormones so I told rob, he refused after the last noone was touching his manhood, well I said if I had this last baby he'd get done he agreed. Physically this is going to put a toll on me I'll be pretty high risk as last. But the bundle in tge end is all worth it. But to risky for us for any more

[lovemybabies6]

I'm 36 years old with baby number six! Their ages are from 19, 16, 14, 13, and my lil guy will be 2 next month! I'm right over 33 weeks and most def getting my tubes tied! I have no family here where I'm located so never had a baby sitter and for the past 12 years I've been a stay at home mom! I wanna enjoy seeing them grow up, and me and their dad wanna travel when they all leave home! Years from now of course but that's our goals! I'm getting to old to be having more kids, my body is tired! I just want one good night sleep! Never gonna happen! I'm waiting six weeks after my lil guy to be born and getting it done!  Good luck to you!

[NatFox]

People are always going to be rude... I am pregnant with my 4th...no one knows yet, but when I was pregnant with number 3 almost everyone asked: "was it an accident?" It was really annoying me!!! But I am much calmer now and really don't care what everyone say.... I hate nosy two faced people.... maybe that's why I don't have many friends lol :)
It is only up to you and your husband to make this decision. ... not mrs twoface whi lives 6 dors away! Sorry if I am a bit rude but it really annoy me!
Congratulations on you pregnancy and wishing you all the best :) x