Nuchal fold :(

[ollyxv]

I posted before on my baby's nuchal fold, I just need to talk about it I feel like I'm going crazy.
I got a call after my second ultrasound at 20 weeks. The doctor said my baby had a thickened nuchal fold of 6mm, which shows a risk for down syndrome or possibly something else. He suggested a level two ultrasound, so I went.
The doctor there was so cold and barely said anything besides the fold being bigger (between 6 & 7) & even went as far as bringing up abortion.
I spoke to a nurse afterwards and she even said it doesn't look good.
I can't believe this. I was trying so hard to be positive. I am still trying considering the fold is the only sign they see and I know it is just a measurement and can be wrong. But still... being happy now seems impossible. I was offered the amnio but I really don't want to do it.
I just want to enjoy the rest of this pregnancy. I am so sad. :(

[Jrob0530]

Gamma in no way did I mean to be negative nor suggest any of Gods children should be aborted. I chose to keep mine regardless of the trial and tribulations. I agree if she does not like her Dr. to find another because I didn't listen to my instincts and it cost me half my pregnancy. Perfection in my eyes is what we hold in our arms the day we deliver.
I'm sorry if you took it any other way.

[gamma_micky]

Ollyxv please know my last message was not directed towards you but for neon0530 ... I am here if you need an ear I'm praying for you that all goes well if my ob was so neg I'd would find another doc and seek a specialist ...most importantly stay away from neg people ... Don't let people bring you down  this is a time to be happy ...god don't give us more than we can handle.

[gamma_micky]

And what exactly is perfection I've never known anyone to be perfect ... I do know with downs there are developmental delays ... Sometimes other health issues such as heart or intestines ... Maybe even a lower IQ ... BUT MY GOSH ... What if I told my 21 year old ...you were such a rebelious child ... You cussed me ... You even hit me ..... I should have aborted you because your not perfect .... NEVER .... She has grown into a wonderful, beautiful, loving  person ..who loves her child.... Heck let's just throw em all back and get perfect ones

[Jrob0530]

If you are going to be 35 or above when delivering they should be able to do it through blood work and bypass the amnio. (they did it for me). Plus if you are uncomfortable with the Dr. I would totally get a second opinion.
Just keep in mind time is never on our side I'm surprised they are even offering abortion after 20 weeks I was told that would be my cutoff for a medical abortion. Crossing my fingers for you and hoping the science is wrong and nature will bring you a perfect baby.

[Angjones]

I am 41 and pregnant with my 5th. I chose not to have any testing done. My opinion is, it is what it is. Your not going to love your baby any less.

[kafarrell]

Have you thought of going to get a second opinion, or even seeing a different doc? Especially if this doc seems so cold towards this special situation?

[giraffe1020]

Sounds like you are being positive. You said its just a measurement and don't want to risk an amino. I once heard someone say that people that have a disability are blessed because they have the strength to endure what others cannot. As a mother, I will take anything because I will handle it whatever comes. You can do this, even if they are right. As you said, there can still be error.

[gamma_micky]

I am a 44 yr old mother of 3 girls 22 20 and 18... 1 boy 12 .... A grandma of 2 almost 3 lol... I thought I had food poisoning for 3 days ... Took home preg ... The.first day I missed my period ... Boy was wrong ... I was in shock ...I have been blessed again !!! I love my life ... I found an ob... Before my first appointment I had a bad hemorrhage 911 the whole deal I was petrified thought I lost my little booger... At 8 weeks saw my doctor was still bleeding Alittle but ultrasound looked fine baby looked great ... Placenta had torn away from uterus ... At 10 weeks I had the harmony test ... Doctor said because of my age I was high risk ... For downs ... Trisomy 21 .... The test came back a week later ... She called me in for an early appointment ... I was so excited because the harmony test is ... My blood taken ... And babies DNA extracted from my blood ... I was going to find out the sex .... She explained my results ... DNA showed the xtra chromosome... Trisomy 21 ... She said my baby has downs ... I cried ... Was drepressed ...prayed ... And have done way to much googling.... Knowing in heart I do not believe in termination ....I have come to realise after a lot of praying ... Not only have I been blessed to have a beautiful little girl .... God has blessed me with an even more special gift ... I can not wait to hold her ... To see her... To love her ... I feel so priveledged and so excited that god thinks I am special enough to bless me yet again to love this special little girl downs or not ... I'm 16 weeks now .... I hope I have not offened anyone with my opinions ... 400,000 Americans have downs ... 92 percent of women who find out they are having a downs baby abort ... It's hard to believe ... Or Understand .... But I know we all have a choice .... I'm choosing love my baby No Matter What !!! And there IS a risk of loosing her if I get an amnio or cvs ... I'm chhosing not to get anything invasive ... And keep in mind NO TEST is 100 % ... I'm here if you need a friend and support ;o)

[Jodierenee]

I didn't have my scan suggest down syndrome but my scan and bloods came back with a risk quite high - it turned out to be a lab error thank god.
But I hope you hear good news soon. Im so sorry you are going through this - it is gut renching :(
You are in my thoughts x

[ollyxv]

I'm sure if I ask to have more they'd give me the chance. Thank you so much abbb for the reply, all i can do is hope everything will be okay. ♡

[abbb01]

Are they going to do any more sonos? Im sorry u have had only poor news but I have heard of several women getting this kind of result from testing and baby is born perfectly normal I hope this gives u something to look forward to