Please tell me if I am being crazy or irrational

[Morgan277]

I just suffered another miscarriage.  I have a baby girl, miscarriage, baby girl, and recent miscarriage.  I went to the dr. on thurs and the baby was measuring 9-2 right where it should've been and the dr. through the transvaginal sono could not see or hear a heartbeat.  He said the baby must have passed within a day or two.  He looked for about 4 min without success but we were able to see the baby in the sack.  Immediately he scheduled me for a D & C as he hoped to find out what caused the mc since the "speciman would be fresh."  I did it the next am.  Now as I am going over it and of course immersing myself on the damn internet, I find myself very sad as could I have been too premature in my decision?  I really trust my dr. but now I am thinking I shouldve gotten a second opinion as this maybe couldve been misdiagnosed?  Am I crazy- might be just a typical thing to think of when grieving.  We saw and heard the heartbeat at 6 weeks at 90 bpm so I would think at 9 weeks it would be that much easier to see and hear it so it probably really was a missed MC (no spotting) but I cant bear the thought that I shouldve gotten a second opinion.  Any thoughts?

[usuk]

So sorry. I guess I had a missed MC at 14 weeks. They never called it that. Baby measured 12. My doc did two scans, one on his machine and one on the machine at the hospital next door to be extra safe. I was so focused on the HB that it took me until days later to realize when he scanned the baby did not wiggle around like it had at 12 weeks. I should have known from that. But we are looking for one thing and not the other. That is just human nature. I hope the specimen tests brings you some answers and some peace.

[Morgan277]

Thanks to the both of you for responding.

Thank you Amanda.  That is exactly what I needed to hear.  I tossed and turned on it all night.  I was trying to remember the moment in the dr. office and clearly saw the baby but did not see or hear the heartbeat.  I was just concerned b/c the baby measured just where she/he shouldve at that point and then reading all those misdiagnosed miscarriage stories.  While the internet is great for support such as this site, all the information out there can certainly make you nuts.
Sorry for your loss as well.  I agree the missed MC is a difficult one- it just comes out from left field.

Thanks again.

[Courtcoop]

I am so sorry sorry to hear about your loss Morgan <>

[adgal]

I am so very sorry for your loss.  I have been through this myself, and I understand your feelings of self doubt.  One of mine was also a missed miscarriage, and I think in some ways those are harder as there are no physical symptoms.  One of the things to remember is that almost every miscarriage starts as a "missed" as often it takes the body some time to realize things have gone wrong.  Try not to second guess yourself. With a sac measuring 9W2D a heartbeat should have been visible immediately.  It is highly unlikely this was misdiagnosed.  It sounds like just one of those very sad things that can happen.  I think what you are doing is very natural.  I remember with my first miscarriage I had had 4 ultrasounds, all with no heartbeat and finally agreed to a D&C around 10 weeks.  Even afterward I still not only wondered, but I can remember well beating myself up about every little thing I did or did not do, convinced somehow I had caused it.  It was a very difficult time.  Try to remember that in addition to the incredible emotional stress this can put you under, there can also be a depression that follows  very similar to post partum depression.  Your hormones are all over the place right now.  You were not premature in your decision.  If he could clearly see the sac and fetus, but no heartbeat you did the right thing.  I wish you well and again, am so very sorry for what you have been through.  Take care, Amanda