No fetal heartbart or fetal pole

[eieehi]

Hi everyone, i just came across this site by chance.  I just can't stop crying because i had an IVF done on the 10th of january 2008,  I went for the first sonogram, and i was told that there is no fetal pole and no fetal heartbeart at 5 weeks and 6 days pregnant.  There is a gestational sac i believe that is what they called it.  I was told it looked empty.  I do not have morning sickness at all, i do feel nausiated and light headed most times.  My BetaHcg is way up there at 16000 plus.  I do not know what to do, i have been told to come back tomorrow for another ultrasound, and they will decide from there.  I am so scared, does anyone know what might be going on?

Please help me, i my world is falling apart.  

[APACHI]

Just by reading what your waiting for, it's just so beautiful for you all, that its just a sac now, but wait another few weeks and walla, it's a baby with a HB. I know panic attacks and even for me, if it's not a baby ok I guess it will be a relief for my to old cold feeted husband. And I can get on with my life, but if it's a reality thats about to say other wise, then the word Daddy will apply to my husband and he'll have to accept it.

Now as vsentz said to me that I just couldnt get pregnant that fast, especially after 2 weeks like that, ok I've never had kids, been pregnant so I dont know. Because back in Dec07 we tried, and 2 days later I had a full period and now here we are Jan 26th, 6 days alter to conceieve and the spotting for 2 days and then nothing.

So I'm not panicking just yet, or have I?

Why is it the women has to go through so much and the men dont? Let's get them!!!

Ok some men are, but could it be they are FIRST time Daddy's?, so I understand how you say; husband is not emotionally supportive at all, well your husband and mine should get together.

It's very scary for not only you, but for him too, so I guess go to the shopping mall and drag him with you and look at the baby clothes and then find a picture frame and when you get an ultrasound pic done and it shows more of the baby, so say you want to know what sex, and when you both do, put that pic in the frame and wrap it up and say, Happy Father's day, even though it isnt yet and give it to him. This will help him perhaps even more.


You're not alone, he's more in that catergory because he's not the one pregnant, you are, but dont share that all by yourself. So when your feeling bloated, gassy, tell him-so he to can share in that moment.  ;) lmao

[AshleysMom]

Just wanted to say good luck and sorry you have to go through all the stress.  I know how you feel with more than 10 mcs under my belt.  

[Hopefulmum]

Hi, I know how you are feeling. I have had 3 miscarriages in a row and when I fell pregnant this time I have been so anxious and had constant  low abdo pains. Totally obsessed with the bathroom and checking. I have been bleeding on and off for about 2 weeks. I went for a transvaginal scan and it was just and empty sac with no heartbeat detected. My dates worked me out at 7 weeks, but they would have seen a HB by then. As it turns out I ovulate late on in my cycle so this can explain why it would make me not as far on. I had to wait another 2 weeks before I went back and felt I would have a total breakdown, I was crying constantly, not sleeping and having panic attacks. I don't know what I would have done without these forums. When I went back for another scan, I expected the worst, but there was a little heartbeat. However because of the bleeding and cramps, they cannot guarantee that everything will be Ok. I have to go back in another week for another scan. It is a very stressful time, which we know won't help, but nothing I do helps me calm down. Until people have been through it or going through it they don't understand- no matter how sympathetic they try to be. They say things like only time will tell and you'll just have to wait and see. The waiting game is the most devastating part, you just want to know one way or another. Try and explain this to your husband, because having your partner a bit more understanding will ease your stress a little. Most men try to make out its not bothering them so much, but often its because they don't want to upset you more, by showing that they are also upset. So they put on this act that they think is helping but can often make situation worse. There is always people to speak to on here and sometimes typing how you are feeling can release some of your emotions. I hope things work out for you. Keep in touch through this site if you need to talk! Take care xxx

[eieehi]

thank you for the reply,  I did the scan on monday, 3 days ago i guess.  The problem is the spotting and occasional feeling of menstral cramps. I am so anxious.  I feel very alone in all of this because my husband is not emotionally supportive at all.  I get to deal with this all by myself and that is painful, very painful  

[tina1111]

Until you are certain, wait. I don't want to give false hope by any means. But, there are many instances where nothing is seen until later on. How long ago was the last scan? I am hoping they see something on this one.

[Violetasmom]

I am sure everything is fine..a gestational sac is exactly what they shoudl see at 5 wks...the baby will be growing rapidly now...next week or even tomorrow they shoudl see more...Hang in there...this is hwy they try not to give u/s before 8-12 wks..there are just to many variables...but as long as your numbers are still increasing your baby is still growing so hang on...its a hck of a ride but so so worth it!! I am sorry you rae going through pain and anxiety...

[cpatow]

Hi there,
I also had no fetal pole or heartbeat at 5w4d and was told it was probably too early. I went back in at 7w and everything was fine...I am now 25w3d along. You HCG # is telling, not so much what it is now but what happens with your next test. Are you having another blood draw for HCG tomorrow or day after?

I was very worried, too, and in fact that is also how I found this website and have been coming back every since. I remember my ultrasound tech saying she HATES doing u/s before 7w because it's just too early way too many of the times. There is too much room for error because of a number of reasons.

[silver82]

Oh sweety it could be 2 early to see a heart they dont really see one while 6 weeks or 7 and those numbers look great. The same thing happened to me this week they so a sack and then an heart beat. Again those numbers look good to me and i dont have morning sickness at all. Please try not 2 worry too much but i know its hard. keep me posted xxxxx