I am trying to get pregnant at 42 and I have questions

[Bren02]

Hi there... this is the start of my baby making process.  I had surgery to open my tubes and stared on Clomid and my doctor says all systems are go!  Do I stop drinking coffee and wine right away? how many attempts does it take?? What should I be doing and not doing??????????  any help will be appreciated.  And some happy new from others would be more than welcome.

[Selenea]

Hi!

also wanted to mention that women in their 40s can take two years plus to get pregnant so never, ever let discouragement keep you from trying!

[Selenea]

Hello ladies!

you bet u keep trying!  Your cycle coming means you are a healthy menstruating fertile woman!

A little coffee and a little wine does not hurt, I agree...lots of water, Pre seed, prenatals, herbs, etc.!

Enjoy the baby making!

[Bren02]

Thanks for the comments.  I have been off the pill for 4 years and we have not used any protection.  I used an Ovluation kit and got the happy face and it all seemed so right!  All systems were go!  I'll just keep trying.  I know that it will happen for us.

[adgal]

Wow, another great thread I missed while away.  Bren, I'm sorry it's BFN this month, but that just doesn't mean a thing!!  It took me about 3 months ttc the first time to get pregnant..I was 38.  I was worrying a bit about the age thing now that I am 40 and ttc, but this forum is filled with story after story of healthy babies being born to women over 35 and well into their 40's.  My OB had her first child at 41.  She also tells me to be optimistic as their is absolutely every reason to believe I can have a healthy pregnancy and baby.  So SSBD to you and every one else ttc right now.  We can do this ladies!!!!!!

Just a quick comment on the coffee and wine.  Using it now won't do anything to harm a fetus should you fall pregnant, and chances are it won't hinder your chances of getting pregnant.  The reason some OB's recommend against it while ttc is that it dehydrates you, and can decrease the amount of fertile mucus your body produces.  I am wondering if you have tried preseed?  I love the stuff, and it is the only lubricant you can use while ttc (or at least the only only I know of).  Also, personally I swear by ovulation predictor tests.  They have worked really well for me!  Good luck to you!!

[Bren02]

Well... I got my answer first thing this morning before I even had a  chance to do a HPT.  It was a big fat no!  I gave myself 10 min's to be upset and now I'm okay.  I'll try again next month.
It's nice to have the support of people who understand what it means each month when your period shows up.   My husband is very supportive and my dog just seems to know when mama needs an extra cuddle.

Cheers!

[natalie910]

Jen- Oh you have no idea, I am afraid but I want this so badly. Thanks for the SSBD, I really hope it works and stays put for 9 months. I am so glad you had your little boy, he is adorable, all your children are! Thanks for the support.
Natalie