If you were me - tubal during c section

[oceanv]

My original Due date was October 19th but due to several factors my OB wants to c-section me on Tuesday, September 29th. She would have done it last week but too early (I probably don't want to know all her reasons since I agree with her and I can only imagine and I'm already nervous) Anyhoo, this was discussed on Wed, I asked her if it was too late to talk about tubal, she said no she would do one if I wanted, it would take an extra five minutes in the c/s.

Here's my history:
Age 39, overweight, and with this pregnancy (my only one) I know have feet, ankles and hands of shrek....swelling is unbelievable.  I have high blood pressure which has mostly been controlled during pregnancy (had it since age 27) its creeping up - dosage was doubled four weeks ago. i have gestational diabetes since 14 weeks controlled by insulin (I was pre-diabetic before getting pregnant). i have swelling in my hands and feet but my weekly nst / urine / blood tests are not indicating pre-e (yet).  

My usound last week showed that the baby is smallish (below 50 percentile) which I don't think is a huge big deal except for the fact that i have gd so that's a little unusual. my insulin needs started to decrease a couple of weeks ago so that may be an indication of early placental breakdown.  I have a 6cm fibroid which should be dealt with in the near future.

I've been off my "real" bp meds and cholesterol meds since September 08 (couple of months before we started trying - this makes me nervous)

I think realistically if I deliver a healthy baby without killing myself or her I have probably defied the odds, my ob agrees since with my health issues I'm a disaster waiting to happen.  She has said before that she has just been happy we had gotten to 33 weeks without anything too major happening.

I have said all along I don't think I'd ever want to be pregnant again, I hate it. I didn't even have any m/s or fatigue until a few weeks ago, just a blighed ovum scare and spotting at 6/7 weeks. I think financially and time wise one child would suit us just fine. Plus if we were to do it again realistically it wouldn't / couldn't be at least for a year or two.

[Courtcoop]

PS...cannot wait to hear about the new addition!  Please keep us posted!!! Wahoo!

[Courtcoop]

To me...it's sounds like you want a tubal and trying to justify your already made decision (this is not in a negative way I am saying this!!xoxoxox) Sounds like you have been through a rough time and too many scary complications..and are blessed to have this one child.  The way I look at it, (me also having gone through major health issues) if it becomes a risk to mommies health for a second try, that could risk mommy being there in a healthy way for baby #1.

It is considered permanent, although reversable if you do change your mind.  Either way, it is YOUR decision and your health. You need to be here for baby Numero Uno and healthy, able to take your meds, etc.

So, if it were me, I would say "The universe blessed me with this one child, and I choose to stay healthy for him/her"

PS...whomever told you V's were associated with cancer needs to read up on it! I personally think that is evern a better idea!  You go through the pain of childbearing for 9 month, he can at least take 5 minutes of snipping in a DR's office! LOL

[Super_sally888]

Hi,

very personal decision and not one someone else can make for you.  But I personally think this is not the time to make this sort of decision - at the end of a pregnancy you have not enjoyed at all.

But again up to you.

[kellym]

I voted no because you say " I don't think I'd ever want to be pregnant again " and I've seen so many change their mind. Hard decision, dd's b-day is the 28th, YAY, congrats and good luck :)

[oceanv]

It does kind of seem that way doesn't it (after reading my posting and realizing I hadn't presented any arguments for non-tubal).  

Ya, I'd like to get on with it, before getting pregnant I had made great strides in the weight loss direction (had lost 40 pounds on sureslim) and was quite pleased. Doesn't do a darn thing for my bp,cholesterol,pre-d - issues but its good to be carrying around less weight. I'd like to get back to that.

It's ironic. I never wanted a child, we decided we did want to have a child, thought it would take forever or not at all because they've been hinting at pcos for me for years, takes all of three months to get pg and now I'm worried that I'll get preg accidentally (which would be disastrous if I was on my normal meds) if I don't do a birth control method. I've tried and they don't work for me - mirena, depo provera, bp pills etc.... we discussed vasectomy and I had that sorted out (with a lot of threats) I thought 'til dh's sister started talking about a link of v's to prostate cancer. good grief. Then I thought Okay, if we were considering a vasectomy then what's the difference between that and a tubal - in my mind they're pretty much permanent.

I may have regret but basically if I can have one healthy child I feel like I would be lucky, if I tried for two I feel like I would be tempting fate to **** on me (I have experienced fate crapping on me all year so far and I've had enough).

[rubyinparadise]

I voted yes because, as stillwaiting said, it sounds like you've already made up your mind, and those are some compelling reasons you've described! Since you are asking "If you were me", I will just say that if I were in your shoes, given the way you feel about being pregnant and your health issues, I would stop here, and focus on my new baby and getting my health improved as much as I possibly could-- getting bp, cholesterol, and weight down through diet & exercise as well as meds for as long as meds are needed. I wish you the very best of luck!! :)

[stillwaiting52]

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[stillwaiting52]

It sounds to me that you have already made up your mine, tubal.

[adgal]

I voted not to have  tubal.  The reason I personally feel that way is that to me it is too permanent.  I have read so many posts where women have regretted their decision and the cost and challenges surrounding a reversal are just to great. However I don't have the health issues you do and I just don't like anything that removes any chance of changing my mind, that's just me.  That being said it's hard to give advice on this as it is such an incredibly personal decision and every one feels differently.  Whatever you decide, you know I wish you the absolute best.  On a side note...how exciting you will meet your little one next week!  I can't wait to read the post and see the pictures!!  Good luck.