I'm Pregnant at 45.. happy excited terrified & scare to death!

[kitty808]

I'm 45 years old and 5 1/2 weeks pregnant (Naturally).  My husband and I have been trying for 2 years a number of IUI's but no success so we just gave up.  I have 2 children from my 1st marrage (age 18 & 14).  I'm scare to death, don't know if I can do this all over again at my age.  My husband is 5 years younger and really wanted a child of our own.  He is so happy but he doesn't understand all the riskes being pregnant at 45.  I know most women my age will have a miscarriage.  And the birth defects rate is so high.  I work 2 jobs to make enough money to send my older son off to college in less than 2 months.  I have high blood pressure and low blood sugar. I'm tired all the time only getting 5 hours of sleep on most nights.  I keep praying and telling myself that if this is what God has in His plan for our family then I should not be afraid.  Are there any women out there who can related??  I need a support group.

[kittkatt5664]

You have not been on this post in a while can you give us an update. I've been thinking about you. How are things going?

[Alexis2358]

I hope everything has gone well for you.   I've faced the same situation twice now in 2012.    There are miracle stories out there though of people that have had everything end well.   My best wishes to you.

[sadiegirl69]

I am so sorry.  I just looked back at this posting and realized it's been over a week since you posted this.  How did everything go?  Thinking about you.

[treats1116]

Monday didn't go well, still a 5 wk sac, no heartbeat, I am heartbroken.  They told me they will watch my HCG till they are neg. I got a call later that day and was told my HCG is still going up so now they want to repeat the sono with my blood work on Fri. They told me not to get my hopes up as my body just doesn't know the baby isn't growing. This is what is the hardest being in limbo, I have no bleeding, no cramping same pregnancy symptoms. So on too Fri to hopefully get more definitive answers. My husband wants to try again because we got pregnant with our first IUI. I'm so scared of this heartache again. Thanks ladies for the support hard to find in our age range. Blessings to you all.

[happyfeet68]

I hope your ultrasound was positive.  I've had 4 mc now and all before 8 weeks.  At 44 I wasn't holding out much hope of conceiving either by ivf or naturally, particularly as this will be our first. My thoughts and prayers are will all women in the same situation.

[sadiegirl69]

Sometimes 6 weeks is too early to see anything.  I hope you hear some better news on Monday.  Please keep us posted.