Do I have a chance?

[scooby02]

Hi everyone, my name is Moji and I am 40 years old (in the fertility world I am a grandmother with a walking stick).  I have a 15 year old son and since he was 4 years old we had been trying for a baby.  A couple of days ago I had fibroid removed because it caused a lot of blood loss and also didn't help my fertility.  I was on Zoladex prior to the operation (Zoldaex shrinks the fibroids so it is easy to remove and it also prevents periods so it puts you into early menopause).  Now that the fibroids have been removed, my yearn for a baby has been returning.  Do I have a chance of falling pregnant?  Are there any tips to getting pregnant naturally?  Coping with a baby at 40+ is doable, isn't?  Your comments will help.  Basically I am scared and confused but I want to do it (i think)

[40smama]

You're so welcome!!  I'm glad to be of help - believe me.  I hope the ladies at the fertility forum have been helpful - they're the greatest!  They got me through my tortuous tww...anyway, sorry to go on like this - I wish you so much SSBD - jenniferf

[DaniWants1More]

After ttc for 3 years I decided to change drs, my new dr did sonos and found a fibroid.... he said it was keeping my eggs from implanting.  He told me the best thing to do would be to shave it and i got PG a year later.  I lost lil BB at 23 weeks but got PG 2 1/2 months later.  I chose to listen to dr about shaving it, but know atleast 5 ladies that had them removed and were successful way faster then I was.  I am not quite  40 yet just a couple years shy.  But I do wish you all the best.  tc

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[adgal]

Well, I will tell you.  I am going to be 40 in January and trying for first child.  I have been trying for a year or so, and have been pregnant naturally 4 times in the last 9 months.  So yes, lots of us in this age range get pregnant easily.  For me getting past first trimester is another story, but we don't know that has anything to do with age.  It may have been that way if I had been trying in my 20's.    The thing is, at our age, you don't want to mess around.  I use an ovulation kit to predict most fertile times, I use a product called preseed to help out, and see my OB regularly.  I don't consider myself old, and am staying positive about this.  You can too. Age is only a number, and you are only as old as you feel.  So, if you feel you can handle it, you can.  If you think you can't, you can't.    As Pamela said....Go For It!!!  All the best of luck to you!!

[scooby02]

Thanks a lot, I really appreciate your comments.  I will definitely check the ovulation guide and hopefully I will be able to give you fantastic news pretty soon.  

[PamelaBee]

Grandmother with a walking stick?!  Gee, I must be in a nursing home then  : 0   You'll find this forum is very upbeat with positive exchanges.  Most of us here are in our late 30's, early, mid and a few late 40's!  Come on girl, don't you know 40's are the new 30's??  Anyway...I feel your concern, and I too had fibroids during my pregnancy, but they never posed a threat, and as far as I know they have either shrunk in size, or they are still there.  If everything checks out with your Dr and you get the green light to conceive, I say GO FOR IT!!  I was 43 when I had my first, and am trying for #2 at soon to be 45!  BTW, you asked if COPING with a baby at 40 was doable?  Maybe you need to do some serious thinking about having another baby at this time in your life, because in my opinion, COPING wouldn't even be a word to explain how greatful and thankful I am to have my little gift from God everyday!!  Best wishes!!

[Tennesseegirl]

I had a surprised preganacy at the age 44. when I found out I was pregnant my OB told me I had 2 fibriods which he just kept a close eye on.
I am now 45 with a three month old and a 17 year old. She is a wonderful Joy in my life and I would reccondmend it to all wemon 40 plus. She has made my life at this stage a wonderful plus and gives me even more to look foward to as the years pass.
believe it or not but so far she has giving me more energy and now I have so much time to spend with her then I did my first. I say go for it!
I hope it happens quicker for you now that you have the fibriods removed. I just wanted you to know it can happen naturally and its just soooooooo wonderful.
baby dust to you.

[40smama]

There are many women who are 40+ on this forum who are pg and/or have babies.  Of course coping w/a baby at 40 is doable although it depends on the individual. I should know as I too have a 15 year old daughter and a 4 month old son as well as older children who don't live at home & am 45.  Try monitoring your ovulation - check out the fertility forum if you haven't already.  The ladies there have tons of tips for women trying to get pg.  If you haven't conceived soon (and I would think 3 months), I recommend seeing a fertility specialist (reproductive endocrinologist).  At our age, time is of the essence - good luck!