Why Me?

[nikki619]

I have a three year old son, but I just had my second miscarriage not even two days ago. I started bleeding over the weekend, but didnt actually lose it until Sunday afternoon. It came out, and I saw it. I had to take it in, so they can do testing on my baby. It almost killed me. I am so thankful that I have my son. I am so tired of everyone saying the typical stuff right now. I want to be angry, and sad for the moments that I wont get with my child. I am still bleeding and I wish it would stop already, its a constant reminder of what I just lost. I feel like I am drowning and all alone. My husband tries to help, he just doesnt know what to do or say. I just keep asking why me? I mean this is my second one, its just so damn unfair. Help!

[skyler411]

So sorry for your loss hun! My first was an early miscarrage! And it's not an easy thing to deal with at all ..give yourself some time to heal.you probably don't want to hear this but it helped me in the process. .it was a blessing in discuise! Better to have lost it then to have a defected baby! Your body knows when something just isn't right ! The fact that you already have a beautiful healthy son means there's nothing wrong with you and you can do it again ! Just make sure you let yourself. Morn and heal before going onto the next.It will never be ok ..But it will be alright!

[Sheanopa]

Hello

I know exactly how you feel.  This is my fifth pregnancy that I have lost, I have scars left right and centre but nothing to show for it.  I started spotting three days ago and yesterday lunch time, the fresh blood started coming out and by midnight, the flood gates had opened. The doctors confirmed early hours of this morning that I ave lost my pregnancy.

You need to go through the process, and its ok to be angry.  I will be praying for your baby and mine.  Lets be strong and find a way to carry on.  I believe it will happen, all in good time.

Thinking of you

[RockRose]

That's the grief process,  sweetie.  Anger is a stage.

I think in the long run you'll drive yourself crazy asking "why me"?  Maybe once some time has passed a more healing question might be "what was going wrong with the pregnancies"?  

Best wishes.  I had two early miscarriages and had to carry them in for lab work and I know that's so hard.

[36andscared]

It is a difficult thing to go through. "Why me" is a question I've asked myself several times. I've lost at least 8! I always ask that or blame myself thinking there is something wrong with me or asking if God is punishing me. No matter if you are 5 weeks or 20+weeks, our brains are wired to love and protect that little life so lossing them is very emotional. Just know there are others of us who have been where you are right now. Much love to you.

[MissTrevia]

The pain of miscarriage is one that can only be truly felt by those who suffer one. I myself lost a baby and my mom the day after my birthday last year. It was extremely difficult. I wanted to focus on my baby, but I had to mourn my mom too, and plan her funeral. If it wasn't for God, I would be a basket case. I do hope you'll continue to try to have more children. I will pray that God gives you the respite you need from this pain. God bless.