thinking of trying for a baby

[lynx1999]

hi i am new here did anyone worry about what other people thought about there age wanting a baby? i am 40 in august.

[Tennesseegirl]

lol did you tell them there are many older ones out there and doing fine ? I had to throw that in... when I first found out it really scared me. but now after all the testing is done and all is good. heck... peice of cake!!! hehhehheheh

[Sahuaro87]

I will be 39 on Sunday and ALL of my friends have kids. Personally I wasn't mentally ready for kids but now I am. I also have support of friends...not so much family because they are concern about my age and the health risk.

[Tennesseegirl]

Mine was a total shock and sweet surprise Now... thus far I havent any issues. Hey I look at it as if your body is getting pregnant at this age. you must be still be young inside. It was meant to be.  Im a true believer on things happen for a reason.
I will be 45 when she is born. Im sure I will get looks and misunderstandings of being a grandmother. who cares...
I have a teen age daughter She worries other people will think its hers. I keep telling her People will Judge no mater what you do in life. The hardest part of growing up is not to worry about other peoples thoughts. only the ones you care about!!!! and thats all that matters.
I didnt care much for the obgyn to treat you like a darn lab rat!! but hopefully that all is in the past, now we know all is good.
good luck with yours and keep trying!!!

[orphanannie59]

I agree, it is a personal decision.  I have encountered negative responses, but I just let it roll off.  Mostly people just say, I am glad its not me, or my wife would flip if she got pregnant now, blah blah.   The people who know us, are very supportive and encouraged the process (those who knew we were trying).  We had one encounter that bothered dh. We were in Carter's, buying our first outfit for the baby.  The clerk was in the store chatting about her grandchild, and my husband (who never meets a stranger) went over to look at the pictures she was showing off.  He didn't say much to her, but was friendly.  We went to pay and she waited on us, and while checking out she said "is this your first grandbaby?"  Immediately dh was defensive, and said No, it's OUR baby. I just smiled, because I knew it was going to happen sooner or later.  Just prepare yourself in case you encounter this, and it won't bother you :)

[babyalive]

I'm 42 and trying for my 1st baby.  Everyone who knows I'm trying is very supportive and happy for me.  I've not incountered one negative response yet.

Good luck!

[2wonderfulboys]

Go for it,,,WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!!!
You are living your life for you, not them, and remember you only live once, and you don't want to be 85 someday and wish you would have,,, GOOD LUCK !!!!

[Tanker Chic]

These days, it isn't that uncommon.  Even if it was, if it is what you want, GO FOR IT!!  

Good luck :)

[AshleysMom]

Not at all.  I know a lot of people having babies in their 40s.  At least in CA it's pretty mainstream.  I just turned 40 and am almost 23 weeks.  One friend of mine had a baby recently at 45, another at 43 and yet another at nearly 42.

Good luck to you whatever you decide, and welcome.  Don't worry what everyone else thinks.

[adgal]

Hi there,

I am turning 39 this month, and also trying to have a baby.  I just miscarried, and my husband and I fully intend to try again.  Alot of our friends already have children, some in late teens, and a few friends are even grandparents already.  Yet, much to my happy surprise I found everyone of our friends to be very supportive and are cheering us on.  And quite frankly, if they were not, we still would not let it stop us. This is such a personal thing between you and your partner, and I hope you do not let any negative opinions that others may have get in your way if this is what you want.  Best of luck to you, I wish you well.