Battling the voices in my head

[Saritaquesexy42]

Hey everyone,
I am 42 and 24 weeks.  I am constantly feeling bombarded by negative feelings due to my age.  I can't believe I will have an 8 year old when I am 50!  Or, that I will be in my late 50's when my son is in high school.  So much for being a MILF.  I got pregnant because I have one son who is 10 and, my newish bf doesn't have any kids.  He's a few years younger than me.  So now I see myself getting round and, I keep thinking OMG look at me!  So middle aged.  I thought I would feel younger but, instead I feel older. I don't want to sink into depression.  So, instead I'm gonna fight my way out! It's just that I had gotten my body back and I was finally having fun again.  Instead I am now looking at a ballooning body and feel so tired and heavy.  Ugh.  Any words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated!  Thanks!  Love to you all!

[2015Harmony]

My husband is 43, I'm 36... We're having baby 3 soon. I freak out for many reasons and my husband always says, "when we're 65 and older our kids, family is all we have that make it all worth it"... My neighbor who is older retired, we've talked about it, she told me if she could do it over again she would've had more kids (they only had one daughter).  And of course once your baby gets here you won't be able to imagine life any different.

[BaneSprout1]

Your age is increasingly normal these days for babies. Think of all the wisdom and patience you have now that you didn't have before. I'm 38 and having my first. We may have a second. It was not my preference to wait so long but there have been great benefits to the delay. I finally picked a good man to procreate with being the biggest. Also if I'd been 28 I would have been freaking out about my flat stomach going away. And now? I still plan to be fit but I've also accepted that bodies change and I'm not thrilled but I'm also calm about the changes. My own mother is struggling with major chemotherapy to treat a cancer that is likely to reoccur anyway. She can't walk far or understand basic things that are going on. That's my new benchmark. It's great to be a hot fox and all but if you focus on being mentally and physically well and grateful for your blessings then the hot fox part follows. Get some exercise, eat some vegetables, and buy a cute maternity dress. Be alive! It's a great day, mama!

[mommieagen]

Get regular pampering and take care of self. Keep your hair new and fashionable. That helps a lot with the "look" of age. Love cake is spot on with the feel of age. Don't worry yourself though. Life is for the living and believe me, there will still be kids to think you're a MILF.

[Saritaquesexy42]

Thank you so much!  I'm headed to the gym now to get the endorphins going.  I really appreciate all your positivity. I'm going to be more positive and revel in the joy!! You rock!!

[LoveCake98]

Goodness mama, you're only 42!   Don't make yourself older than you feel.  You've got plenty of time so just take it one day at a time.  There's no reason that everybody alive right now shouldn't reasonably expect to live into their 90s.  It's just a matter of how you'd like your 90s to look.  If you're already slipping into high risk issues like obesity and high blood pressure than you've got some work ahead of you but if not than keep moving.   Keep your healthy lifestyle or adopt one pronto and get comfy in your own skin (with sunscreen).

You're more than halfway there and your beautiful baby will be here.  It is becoming the norm to have kids later and later so you'll definitely connect with 40 something moms when your baby is on school.

My SIL started having kids at 40.  My brother turned 40 & his wife had twins. DH & I started at 35.  My BFF is staring at 38. Don't worry yourself unnecessarily.

[kschumpert]

The math is what kept me up at night too. How old will I be when this baby graduates high school?! Stuff like that. Remember  to take care of yourself  and this can be the happiest time of our lives!