TTC at 40 - 1 mc - risks

[Moonflower09]

What are the risks at ttc at 40?  We got pg last year when I was 38 (August) that ended in mc in October.  We've been trying again and no pg.  I'm now about to turn 40.  What are my risks now?  I'm worried since I already had one mc and can't seem to get pg again, it means my eggs are bad and if we keep pushing it, I'm not going to have a healthy pregnancy/baby.  

Any advice?  What should I do?  Should I just give up?

[adgal]

If this is what you really want, try not to worry.  Is it specifically miscarriage you are worried about?  I have always found that information is power.  Have a good converstation with your Dr. or even do some research yourself.  Pregnancy over 35 was a book I found helpful. And if your looking on the internet, make sure you stick with medical and credible websites..there is so much nonsense hanging around out there.  You will always hear some negativity and horrible scenarios...but remember that worse case scenario doesn't happen all that often.  There really aren't that many extra risks.  And the ratio is not that much higher.  Most of us do just fine.  

[Moonflower09]

I hope so...scary really. I have a 16 year old. She was an unplanned pregnancy when I was 23 in college. I never worried about this. Now I'm about to turn 40 and trying to get pregnant and so scared and worried.

Wish I could have met my husband 10 years ago. I'm so afraid of the risks at my age.

[adgal]

One miscarriage does not actually increase your chances of a second at all.  However, yes, we do have a slightly higher rate of miscarriage once we hit 40.  Lots of women have successful pregnancies and for others it takes a little longer or a little intervention. I had 5 miscarriages, then a successful full term pregnancy at 40. He is 7 months old now and healthy as can be.  Remember that odds are just that...odds.  The only way to know for certain is to try.  Good luck!!

[Kathy421]

I'm 42 (will be 43 next month) and pregnant for the first time - 20 weeks and all is going well.

My RE explained it to me like this:  lets say you have 100 eggs in you.  20 - 30 eggs are good, the rest are bad.  Every time you get pregnant you have a certain percent chance of getting a good egg.  It's all a numbers game.

Obviously my numbers at the age of 42 were a lot worse than your numbers.  At age 40, your odds are a lot better.  It only takes one good egg to have a normal healthy baby - so NO, NOT all your eggs are bad.