Anyone else not having a shower

[melimeli]

I am not having one because this is my third child and in my circle we really only do them for the first.... am I the only one?  It is kind of hard because my last is almost 6 and I have thrown everything out....

[saj39]

This being my forth child, I didn't feel comfortable having one. I think my Best friend was a little upset but she understood. I too hadn't thought about having a forth after my 2 yr old was born, so I got rid of everything!! I think its a personal chioce I just felt bad about it and thought that DH and I would have fun shopping together!!!!
Sheri 35 wks

[kindergal]

We do a shower for the first and a "sprinkle" for any following babies.  The shower is a full blown deal at someone's house..etc...  A "sprinkle" is where we all meet for dinner at a restaurant and everyone brings diapers, wipes, or anything that the momma may have registered for, if she did register....

[40smama]

Our daughters are hosting a 'baby blessing' lunch which now has turned into a shower.  Even though it's been 15 years since our last baby, we really didn't want to have one or to make anyone feel they have to bring a gift.  But now my mil insisted I start a baby registry for those who do want to bring a gift so I guess it's a shower now.  We really just wanted people to come and celebrate the baby w/us but oh well.....all things are appreciated :-)))

[azqtpies]

This is my 4th and  my youngest is 9 so my sister is giving me one on the 29th.. it will help as too we have nothing left from my last! I say have one =) they are so much fun and I am sure anything helps, when you are starting all over ... !  I say go for it =)

[Tennesseegirl]

Im not having one either. Im sure my closest friends will get her somthing though? With me out of working its hard to come up with the people. and dh works out of town. so I have been buying alittle at a time. getting quite there I must say so myself. ugh... usually unless you register, you get outfits and blankets so I kept that low, and just bought the outfits I just had to have. lol.. she already has plenty untill I see how big she is. and Im sure of atleast two neighbors who will buy something for her too.. so I think we will be fine.

Im surprised your work isnt? maybe it will be a surprise for you?. and what about the parents of the children you teach? I always bought moms to be gifts for my dd teachers. lol just last year  one of her teachers got married and had to go get something for them. Im sure you will get some things..

[melimeli]

ahh thats an idea...

[pcarsey]

Just have a welcoming baby shower like DH's family is having for me, you and your DH could have that together.. or let him be brave and host it... ehehehe

[melimeli]

no sisters haha... I am the only girl.. oh well

[mrs5077]

This is my fifth baby and my family, mom mainly gave me a shower with each one(2 singles and a set of twins). I wasn't going to have one with this baby, DH and I were just going to buy what we needed, but my mom and sis started planning. Now I am having two a work shower and a family shower. It is a 10 yr gap between this baby and my youngest, so I am starting all over, but I think if you want a shower you can plan it with your sis and if people want to come they will and if not oh well, but everyone loves a baby shower. I say go for it

[pcarsey]

I didn't have one between my daughter (18 yrs old) and my son (10 1/2) but with it being this long in between and me being remarried I'm having 2. But in my case, my daughter wanted to have me one, so my sister is going to help her, and then after Brayden is born we are traveling to DH's parents house 4 hours away to have a Welcoming Baby Shower. This is only their second biological grandson.. The other being born 6 months before Brayden, so I think they somewhat feel obligated to give one for this one too. Although we told them it wasn't necessary but very much appreciated! And his family all lives clear up there and won't get to see Brayden as often.

[AshleysMom]

I didn't really want one, but my friends are insisting.  We got rid of all DDs things, so it will definitely help!

[tahariel]

This is also our third baby and our oldest is 7 1/2. Around here showers are usually only given for a first baby. Because you had already gotten rid of much of your items, maybe your could mention to family or a close friend that you wish you could have another baby shower because you don't have much for this baby?

Most of our baby items are almost 8 years old already, a few of them either need or should be replaced. We'll need a new baby monitor, stroller, I'd love a new bouncy seat and I just found out that baby car seats are suggested to be replaced after 6 years. We are definitely all set for clothes though.

Because my other 2 were big babies and outgrew the infant carrier in 4 months each. I am wondering, do I keep the infant carrier that we have or do I spend the money for a new infant car seat, but only end of using the new one for 4 months if this is a another big baby?

[melimeli]

yea at my work they only do them for first borns too...  My lunch group did have a mini one for me... About 8 people which was great I got some outfits and little things but thats it.  I can't throw myself a shower... haha... just couldn't do that... I'm just gonna have to buy it all.. My mom bought me 3 outfits, 10 onsies and 3 sleepers... I am asking for a jogging stroller for my birthday in April.  My mil sent me a bunch of stuff from peru.. But mostly I will be buying all the things I need...

[rukiyar]

Mel, Im surprised your co workers are'nt giving you one, but when I had my fifth I didnt get one and I think I should have being it was my first boy, but I guess people dont feel the same from first to seventh(LOL) thank god I have a big family and we have hand me down cuz this is my first girl in seven years so I got a lot from my sis and sil already, the car seat I actually brought my sis with matching stroller and now it's mine I guess it was sorta a future investment, But with times and things changing for newborn and baby IT is still a good idea to have one and update on the latest things.

[Nickey1]

I say have the shower, to do one, may be traditional, but I'm sure it's not etched in stone.  People can either show up or not, BUT I'm sure you'll get some support, and some is always better than none, shoot, it's hard when you're starting all over again, I say have a shower, even if you have to throw it yourself, what's the worse that can happen?