Adoption ?

[PinkDiamonds7]

I have been thinking about putting my baby for adoption im 19 weeks 1day I was has any one done this if so could you guys share your experience with me

[cgoodwin]

I have been trying to adopt a baby for a few years. If you decide to bless another family with your baby, it will be an amazing gift that can never be matched. It will be hard. It will hurt, and you will doubt yourself. Only you can know if this is the best decision for you and this child. But know that their are parents out there just waiting to find a child to give all of their love to, to give their lives to.

[Pansie]

What happened in the end? Did she keep baby :-)

[Franky91]

I have a story for u, adoption makes so many couples happy that cants have children and what ur considerin is amazing and ur very brave to give up your baby. A guy a knew had been tryin for a baby for years with his wife soon found out they couldnt have a baby and they adopted a beautiful wee boy and the look on his face when he told me the first time they got to take that little boy home was so heart warming, nothing is wrong with adoption because at least you know tht baby is goin into a loving family who truely want tht child

[Myadoption]

I have adopted 2 beautiful children.  I have an open adoption with one of my children's birth mother.  The other wanted a closed one.  But I love them both the same.  I email pictures and videos weekly and we talk and text all the time.  My children know they have been adopted from the time we brought them home (2 days old!).  They will know how awesome their birth mothers are because of them, I am able to be a mother.  I know my children will not resent being adopted.  I know they will be grateful for their birth mothers because of how I speak highly of them.  Our children are extremely loved and care for by me, my husband and family.  Their birth mothers gave them the opportunity to have a great education, large home and explore the world that would have been difficult otherwise.  I have the utmost respect for birth mothers!

My husband and I  are looking to adopt another baby and hoping to have an open adoption if that is what the expectant mother prefers.  Adoption is difficult all around but it can also be a blessing.  We are truly blessed!

[Ashelen]

Bless your heart, PinkDiamonds...you will know what is best for yourself and your baby. No matter what you decide, we are all here to support you and I pray that you find peace in your decision, whatever it may be. If you truly feel that you cannot provide your baby with a promising life, you WILL be doing a great thing by giving him or her to a family who can....that is a tremendous gift that not everyone can give, and it proves just what an amazing love you have for your baby.

I hope you stick around and share your journey with us....we are all here for you, no matter what you choose to do.

[PinkDiamonds7]

but I can't do it I only do it if I were to have to type of stability in my life I ve made a up my mind yet but I know and it will be the best ...

[PinkDiamonds7]

Thank you ladys for all of kind /open opinions about this I will take all of advice in stride in making the right decision for me and my baby ... I feel as if it would be a better choice for him/her because I have nothing at all to give it I will be more selfish if I were to bring him/her into this world to be in a unstable situation it hurts me more words could  describe to not be there for every moment

[midget89]

Hey girl, I will tell you that adoption is one of the best options and blessings you can give your baby. I was adopted and I am more grateful now then I ever have been. I know my birth parents and I dont RESENT them whatsoever they did what was best for me. Hope that helps!!!

[floresbaby2]

Look it can be the most wonderful thing u can do for ur child if ur not ready. Im adopted n my life is better now than if i had stayed with my mom who was 16 at the time of my birth. If ur not sure talk to an agency about an open adoption. I hope this helps.

[hairdid]

Also, let me say my mom was not crying bc she second guessed herself.  She is happy with the woman I have become and is very greatful for my grandparents.

[hairdid]

Let me say this! I was raised by my grandparents ( WHICH ADOPTED ME) I would NOT have it any other way. yes my Parents ( Mostly my dad) was in my life and for the past 3 years my mom has been. Just the other day my mom was crying about giving me up and It didnt hurt me at all. I am so happy with the life i had and still have. I know that if I lived with my parents I wouldnt be who I am today...

I do not hate my parents at all, I am VERY greatful for them seeing that they could not give me what I deserved and allowing me to have a better life with my grandparents.

If this is something you are serious about I would go for it. It is very selfless of you to want a better life for your baby!!!!


You can even pick the family so its not like you are going to be blind to the life your baby will have.

[smjmekg]

In the end no matter what your decision it will be the best for you and your baby. If you can not give your child a good life, or don't think it's possible in your situation to keep the baby, then you are doing good by giving him/her the possibility of a better life. There are open adoptions, I'm not sure how they work but I have heard of people getting pictures, visiting, calling. If you chose to, you could possibly still be involved with your child. Maybe you could write a letter telling him/her why you chose adoption, if you do in the end. As parents we make decisions based on our own personal experiences and situations, and we make the decisions that we think are best.

[specialmom]

Here is a question with much respect to all trying to conceive.  Would it not be a gift to have children to adopt?  Could that not be a win win if someone finds themself in a situation that THEY feel makes caring for a child difficult but you are hoping and praying for a baby to care for?  

[Libbylou83]

Emily they dont listen and seem not to care about others feelings xxxx I feel I dont want to ask questions on here anymore due to responses others get from certain ladies on here xxxx

[thefebygirl]

I think you should think twice making a decision about it. i know it may differ from women to women but i'm sorry to say i can not even imagine giving away my baby, whom i carried and cared for all 9-10months. I am TTC for almost a year a sum months, crying and praying( God and saints all everywhere) for just to have my 1st baby. You are very much Blessed with a Gift of having and caring a baby. Being a mother fully complete a womens life. If you are thinking of dealing with finacial prob or any, God bless you with a baby, and HE will take care of you and your baby. so, again i would say, please think over, and you can ask advice of your parents or friends.
However, I would say Try your Best to Keep your Gifted Tressure :)

[Emily_MHManager]

Let's all remember that this is a support site, and while everyone's experience with adoption is different (and I am adopted and am grateful for it), it is possible to share your experiences without being disagreeable about it.

It is important to hear from people with different experiences in order to make an informed decision, and we welcome all input, just please be respectful.

Emily

[greatexpectations_4_2012]

If you feel adoption is best, go for it. You would be doing a kind and wonderful thing. There are two different kinds of adoption. One being called closed adoption and the second being called open. Closed adoption is when you will not be allowed to contact the baby once it's adoptive family has it. The open adoption is when you are allowed to see it from time to time and it knows you are its family too. This would be my choice.

Do not pay attention to anyone telling you that it will resent you or you will regret it. If you know you can't financial or even emotionally give it what it needs then you are caring for it more than anyone else could. It is a selfless act to say, "I love you enough to give you a better life even if it isn't with me", and mean it. If you need to talk, message me.

[Libbylou83]

Omg can you allstop this she wants advice not to be bombarded with horrid comments enough already

[steph0607]

your story is so touching! im so sorry you had to experience this loss..

PINKDIAMONDS7: I would not think that for one minute your baby would ever think badly of you for doing what you think is the best thing for it..adoption is a beautiful experience for everyone involved..it is the most unselfish thing anyone can do..Im sure you would love to raise this baby one your own but just admitting to yourself that you can not care for this baby is i think the first and one of the hardest steps.

we are all here if you need to vent, talk, or need advice.

Please ignore all the negative comments you get about adoption it is in no way a bad thing

[hotmama78]

Houston79 dear.... how lucky you was.... hope to have some dust fr it....!!! you daughter its very lucky... hugsss.. hugsss... for her... so pinkdiamons darling... no worries... you baby will be just fine if really adoption its the only option for you... but still as a friendly reminder... think think careful dear... baby its the most wonderful gift GOD ever give to the luckiest one and you are one of those who so bless... good luck!!!

[lisa1905]

my father put me for adoption when i was born , and i hate him for doing that. my bio mother died giving a birth to me, i wish that i die at the same time too. he gave mea way , but for all my life i feel that i am unwanted and even my adoptive family try to be cool about it , always it was someone to tell me that u are not one of us and u dont belong here. now after i grow up and having my own family and going to be a mother, all those people are coming back to my life, acting that they loved me in pass years of my life. but i know all of it its a lie, i did need them for support when i was growing up , i dont need them now, . if u want to put ur kid for adoption do it , but 20 years from now dont look for him or her, because its going to hate u, because he or she will say u did not want me 20 y ago then i dont need u now. i am not the only one whom is saying that every one that has this experiance will say that too. this is human nature , best of luck :)

[Houston79]

I'm adopted and so is my daughter.  I've never once resented my birth mother and actually, I thank her today for doing the hard thing and giving me up to a family.  Her situation was difficult and yeah, maybe she could've raised me but it would have been really hard for her and probably me too.  

As for my daughter, we adopted her 16 months ago and took her home straight from the hospital.  At the time, we were unable to conceive and we are grateful to her mother everyday for the chance to raise her.  

That's our story.  :)  I'm sure you'll do the best thing for your child and don't worry, your child won't resent you.

[hotmama78]

For me i even welcome you to stay with me if i will be the one who adopted your baby.. so that u can provided the best for he/she.. MOMMY's MILK....!!! and u welcome to raise the baby together with me... :) if happen that u need to go and looking for better future.. you welcome to come at anytime to the baby's life... i no issue since i and hubby agree to not hide about the reality of our adopted baby that he/she is adopted and we not the biological parents...

I am still in the process of recovery my fr still birth c-sec and will looking into adoption process once i done with my grief and get back to my normal life...!! as for you dear... you are very amazing and brave, and i am very sure your baby will be so proud of you...!!! all the best... think before you decided bcos after all i still have to say the best place for baby was with they own mother... hugsss... xxx

[Libbylou83]

Can I just remind you ladies we are here to give positive advice and support to people who need xxxx
I have to say in some of the posts above some of the words are hurtful.
PINKDIAMONDS7 I hope you get the help you need honey xxxx I will just say don't rush into anything xxxx you have 20 weeks to think things over and do what is best for you and the baby xxxx