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280369 tn?1316702041

Back from my OB appt....I am really scared of the unknown now....where did I go wrong??

I had my OB appt. and got my other steroid shot, they listened to the baby and he/she sounds great. I am 33 weeks today. So a little background...been on bedrest since 28 weeks...should have been more strict about it I guess looking back. I am now not even allowed to take a shower. I will and have to be a prisoner to my own bed for the next 19 days. So anyway, I went to the OB office yesterday to be checked because I was having contractions and my back was VERY achy. The midwife there checked me and said I was 4cm and 80% effaced and baby was at a 0 to +1 station. Straight to the hospital I went for further testing and terbutaline, 3 shots of that and a steroid shot and fluids. The contractions were every 2-3 min and finally stopped after the 3rd shot. Was checked after they stopped and the doc at the hospital tried to check my cervix once and was confused...made me switch positions and checked again and was like oh...I don't know what they were talking about but you are only 2cm and I can't even stretch you to 3 and only 50%...maybe."
Was sent home feeling pretty good then. So today my OB wanted to double check me and give me the other shot and as soon as she went in, she said you are 4cm without a doubt, 80% effaced and baby is at a 0 station. She didn't want to put me in the hospital yet and said I needed to be on SUPER STRICT bedrest and not even allowed to sit up. She really thinks I can get to 36 weeks if I behave, which I will!!! I do not want to be in hospital IF I can avoid it. No insurance, would mean a hefty bill...but I can't put a price on my child either.
So right now it's wait and see. I have had 4 spotting instances today...so I am very worried. I can't help but think... What have I done wrong????? What shouldn't I have done?? I bawled all the way home because I have no clue why this is happening to me...but I know I shouldn't question God. Everything happens for a reason. It will truly be a miracle if I get to 36 weeks at this point. Just wanted to update everyone on me. I am trying to just be positive, but's very hard right now. I'm sorry...my attitude stinks and I'm not usually like this. I really am just scared of the unknown and need to be positive.
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280369 tn?1316702041
Hey! =) Thanks so much!! I really appreciate it! I'm so thankful because the last 2 nights I have been sleeping so well and have only had 2-3 contractions an hour. So much better than 9! I have a feeling I can hang in there for a little while yet, at least I hope I can. I will probably have another big baby like my first!
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571099 tn?1308234148
Hi chantal21, i was with you through your first, and now your second :-)  Just poped in to wish you well and will be hanging and praying with you for health and happiness..  blessings with you, this ole grama2one
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280369 tn?1316702041
Wow you had quite an experience!! And you didn't even stay on bedrest? I am blessed to have my mom here to take care of me during the day. Without her, I'm sure I would have already given birth. Things went pretty quickly with my first, so I expect things to go even faster this time around. I mean I'm practically halfway there already! But I am glad all went well for you in the end!! That's amazing. Thank you for sharing your story.
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942918 tn?1276200156
I went in to preterm labor at 31 weeks with my son (who is now nearly 3 years old). I had taken a fall & started bleeding. We went to the hospital & the doctors knocked me out asap because I was laboring rapidly. I don't know what all they did, but I left the hospital the next day at 3 3/4 dialated with a prescripton for meds to slow my contractions. I was told to take the pills & not leave my bed for any reason. I was even told to go get a bed pan!! Eww..LoL. I was told to call the hospital ASAP if my contractions became more regular or if my water broke. I was told I wouldn't make it another week even if I never left the hospital bed. I was also told a Care Flight helicopter would come & get my son so that he could be transported to a Childrren's Hospital in Dallas, 45 minutes away.

Well, I had a 6 year old at home & chores that wouldn't do themselves. I stopped the meds after only two days because they made me too sick to eat. I shopped, cooked, cleaned, moved furniture, & even installed my two piece carseat all by myself within the next 5 1/2 weeks. Oh, and I spanked my 6 yr old which was way bad since I kept hitting my big ole belly instead!! By God alone I made it to 36 1/2 wks & when I went into my appt my doc said that I was dialated to 5 1/2 inches with the water sac hanging. He told me it was a miracle the baby was still in me since I had not taken the meds nor stayed in bed like I was told to.

So, no matter what you think you've done, it wasn't anything wrong. It couldn't have been any worse than what I did since you've stayed confined to your prison. I broke out!! I know I put my baby at risk by doing those things & I swear that I would not have done them if I didn't trully believe that God was gone bring my baby in this world one way or the other. God has a time for your baby and only he knows what that time is.

God slapped my hand a bit though because my mother bought me a beautiful necklace with a September birthstone to celebrate the miracle of my son making it to his due date month just days before I gave birth on August 31st. My husband swears God has a sense of humor and I think he's right sometimes. :-)
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280369 tn?1316702041
Toni...I know...I mean I would LOVE to see and hold this baby now, but I am willing to wait another week or two. =)  That's great your sister's baby didn't have to stay in the NICU or anything. I am hoping if baby does come early, that s/he is healthy! I'm sure the steroid shots will help greatly as well.
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Oh man, that baby really wants to see you!! I hope you dont have anymore probs!! My sister had her baby at 34w, his weight was 5lbs11oz and there was nothing wrong with him, he did not need to stay in the hospital any long then mom did!! I have good hopes that if s/he does come early s/he would be just fine!! Hang in there!!!
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280369 tn?1316702041
Thanks ladies!! I know..I could drive myself nuts with the "what ifs" so I am choosing to be as positive as possible. Today so far has been a good day! Hardly any contractions, but the ones I did have were pretty strong. Almost halfway through August, so that helps me a lot.

It's so hard not being able to care for my son the way I want to. My mother has been doing it since I was 28 weeks preggo. I just want to be able to do things for him, but I know I can't right now. It's heartbreaking!

Grandmatobe...you are funny.... "she".  I have been having more and more people tell me it's a girl...but I think I will stick with boy, even though I keep doubting it now. lol.  My OB and midwife seem to think this baby will be big, even if born in the next week. I guess I grow big babies...lol. It is in the family to have big ones!! So we'll see!
Thank you all so much. I will try to keep you all posted if anything changes.
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I jumped on here specifically to see if you had an update to your doctor's visit.  And to start with - - YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG!!  She will come in her own time (and yes, I am saying SHE because girls have a way of controlling their Mother's, LOL)....

I feel confident that everything will work out just fine, whether she comes this week or next month.  Since you have good sized babies, maybe there won't be a need for the NICU anyway.

As hard as it must be to lay in bed and rest, one day you will look back and WISH for that again (well...maybe) :)

Hang in there - - not much further to go......You are in my thoughts.
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184342 tn?1282588750
My cousin's second baby was born at 34 weeks I think, and he was fine....  little, but fine!  Just a couple more weeks to go,  I can't imagine how frustrating being on bed rest all this time has been,  but everything will be fine, and you'll get to hold your little man just a little sooner then some others do!  Hang in there!  

I had mine at 36 weeks, and 37 weeks...  both were over 7lbs, and just fine-  low blood sugar with my DD (36 weeks), but nothing that held us up at the hospital or anything...  hang in there!  hugs!
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202436 tn?1326474333
Oh hunny, I'm sorry!  But you're got to try and remember that these things just happen...whatever the reason is, it's not necessarily something you did.  The what ifs are gonna drive you crazy.  Just look ahead and not behind.  Baby is gonna be fine...you're 33 weeks and babys chances are already great!  Good luck!  Stay in bed and keep us posted :)
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280369 tn?1316702041
Thanks ladies!! I have been so encouraged in the last 24 hours. I actually slept really well last night for a change and have only had a couple of contractions since waking up.

Thank you Tabitha, that means a lot!! =) I pray the next 2-3 weeks fly by as well...only 18 more days!!

wanttobeamumagain...Thank you so much! I know, just getting to 33 weeks is huge milestone and at this point baby will be packing on the pounds now and plumping up. =) It's amazing to hear how many babies were born so early and everything turned out just fine! my mother just telling me she was only 3lbs when born and was never hospitalized, bascially sent home to wait it out and possibly die!! How crazy! She is a miracle. =)
and two other friends were telling me the same. They are all grown, healthy and have families of their own. And that was soooo many years ago! Technology now a days is wonderful!! So I am thankful about that.

TKM...thank you!! =) Hang in there with me girl!! Its countdown time now. (I did answer your post about the BH and diarrhea) I hope you start feeling better soon!! Just means we are that much closer to meeting our babies.
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710653 tn?1253191019
hi chantal, im so sorry to hear that but im lad u and he baby r ok and thats all that matters now. not all women do make it to 36 weeks tbh and they still have healthy babies. im also 33 wks today hun bt last nite i thought i was probs gonna go into labour, cos  id been feeling te baby very very low dwn like in my vigina area, and  gettin few pains which i put dwn to BH. but i had also been walking alot yesterday as me, my partner n son went to visit my mum n dad. anyway i got bk home lst nite  n felt ok still gettin few  BH's and then out the blue wen i went to bed i didntfeel to good i started gettin lower bk ache real bad n then i had to go to the loo n tmi sorry but i had loads n loads of diahrriea  and as i was stuck on the loo i  was also bein sick, i couldnt believe it  i jst  didnt feel good at all. so i thought  it was my body  sorting its self out for the birth but   wen i went bk to bed  nothing happened   few slight cramps but they went away and this mornin i feel ok to so i duno wot it was.
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558787 tn?1327785288
Babe please dont be sad, If you dont make it to 36 weeks it not a big deal. you've had the steroid shots which means babies lungs are a couple of weeks ahead. My friend had twins at 32 weeks, they are 8 months now and you would not know they were born early. Just chill the best you can, if it happends then so be it your baby will be perfect but just small. My 10 year old was born at 25 weeks and he is a little sod now. I hope you get as close as 36 weeks a s pos. Love and hugs kelly x
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419158 tn?1316571604
Ah hun im so sorry you are having to deal with this:( I just wanted to say what alot of the other woman are saying..........If your little one were to come now im sure s/he would be fine. I know you want to avoid the NICU but like you said, whatever is best for baby:) I wanted to tell you how proud I am of you too! You are doing a great job at giving your baby the best possible start to life. I pray that the next few weeks fly by for you. Hang in there Chantal!!!
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280369 tn?1316702041
Thank you all so much for the encouraging words and the support. I don't know what I would do without you all!! I've been on this forum for 2 years now, and I cherish each and every one of you. =) I am so thankful to say that my contractions have slowed greatly!! I feel pretty good right now and I am trying to be as positive as I can for baby. I know it's best right now and can help me get further.

Everyone keeps asking me if I am really further along than I think and if my dates are somehow messed up. I don't have a history of preterm labor and my son was 2 weeks early and over 8lbs. So who knows! I do think though that this baby now is big! Everyone, even the docs keep saying that. So we'll see. My goal is to try to avoid the NICU at all cost, but of course whatever is best for baby. My husband is having a hard time thinking his baby will be in NICU...I can't blame him...it would be so tough to see that. I pray this little one hangs on a bit longer and that all goes well! Who knows...I still may be able to avoid the hospital if I can get to Sept. 1st. and have the baby at the birthing center.
Thank you all so very very much!!!
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949288 tn?1263738633
(((HUGS))) Oh hun, don't appologize for anything! Bedrest takes a huge toll on a person (I did 6 months with DS). And this is NOT your fault!! These things just happen sometimes. Take it easy. I know you will do great!! My DD was born at 30 weeks and is a happy healthy almost 12 year old. And my nephew was born at 34 weeks and went home from the hospital with my sister (he is a happy healthy almost 14 year old!!) Hang in there hun! Everything will work out.
Take care and keep us updated!
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P.S. Don't apologize for any attitude or whatever. You're freaked, this is your baby and you can vent, cry and feel what you want and need to feel! We all understand that to be in your position you would feel that way. So please, allow yourself to feel what you need to! It's hard to be on your back, no showers, for many weeks on end. Keep positive but also know you're allowed to be angry and afraid.
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972246 tn?1311088535
I am going to pray for u! I hope u make it! Ur baby is strong! If he or she made it this far! N so r u! If u have no insurance, why not go to ur local county or call to get insurance. They won't u go without insurancezm good luck u r in my thoughts
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Sending lots of positive thoughts...Praying for your little one: Everything will be allright Chantal!
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You are in my thoughts and prayers, sweetheart. I am so sorry all of this is going on and we'll be praying that baby hangs in there for at least 3 more weeks!!!
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you are nearly there hun, hang in there and don't stress your self. 19 days and you will be holding your lil one. you and baby are in my thoughts

*HUGS*
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898040 tn?1284036509
you WILL make it!  and do not apologize for a stinky attitude,  you have been through a lot!  hang in there and everything will be okay!  you both will be in my thoughts :)
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284738 tn?1283106819
big hugs to you girl! God will let this child come into the world when he thinks it is time.. you just gotta have faith.. if te baby were to be born now.. it would have a really good chance of survival.. you are doing all that you can do.. dont be so hard on yourself!
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919101 tn?1368109937
Try not to worry to much i'm sure everything will be fine!!  One of my BF's was 2 months early and they baby only weighed 3lbs and he is a happy healthy 5 yrs old.  So try not to stress out about it, cause thats not good for you or the baby. With all of those shots his/her lungs should be good to go :) Your both in my prayers...and you bump is soo cute :)
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