When did u spread the pregnancy news?!

[mrspookie]

Ok so me and DH found out we're expecting and I'm 5 wks and 1 day today.  So we've decided to extend our circle of people knowing to not just parents but our siblings and we aren't telling them to keep it quiet and just letting the word spread as it may.  I have heard many people say wait until after the first trimester and also wait until your first u/s.  The thing is, I don't think I can wait another minute b/c I'm ready to tell family.  

My poll is for you to tell me if you waited until your first u/s or did u tell as soon as you found out or the first trimester.

[devo55]

I'm in my 7th week, having my first ultrasound on 12/21, and then going to visit mine and my husband's families for the holidays. This is a bit of a special situation, but my dad has been desperately wanting me to have a baby forever and I'm 37 years old now. I wasn't sure I wanted one myself until quite recently, and I think he's given up. So I really want to wait until I'm quite sure about the pregnancy to tell him - like after I (hopefully) get good results from a CVS test. I honestly think he'd react worse than I would to any news about a miscarriage! I really hope he doesn't notice I'm pregnant while I'm visiting him for a whole week at 10 wks! It's going to be hard to hide, I think!

[Princessa745]

I know, lol, the weeks go by fast. A week from tomorrow i hit that beautiful number!!! yay for me!!


Like i said i told immediate fam and that was it. So you just tell who ever you feel comfortable telling. Again sending you tons of prayers and sticky baby dust to you and your little bean.

[mrspookie]

You are almost 12 wks???  It seems like just 2 weeeks ago u found out you were pregnant.  Well when I have my ultrasound I will be 7 wks. and 4 days.  As of now, we still haven't told many of our family members.  I've told my parents but that's b/c they live in AL and my step mom basically was anticipating when she would hear the news...lol   Hubby's is a little nervous for some reason so we're waiting until Xmas to say anything.  I feel that it's good to tell close fam so that they can send up many prayers that this baby will be a healthy one.

Thanks for all your responses.  It was very interesting to know all of your responses.

[Princessa745]

So I have another 8 days till i hit the 12wk mark. I'm looking forward to being able to say it openly.

[Princessa745]

With my prior pregnancy we told everyone and at my 9wk appt found out the baby stopped growing at 6wks. It was very hard emotionally and having to hear everyone say they were sorry. It was emotionally draining.

Now with this pregnancy we told  immediate fam and that was it. We are keeping it quite till i hit the 12wk mark with no issues.... I know i couldn't handle that prior situation so I opted to wait.

I guess its all on what you want to do!! Wish you a healthy pregnancy.

[HeatherLF16]

I had a loss in June I told everyone because I was close to three months.  I am trying to only tell people I am close to because I feel if something does go wrong I will have support system and can lean on them (mom, sisters, best friend) and I have told my boss because I have had to leave work a few times, and have a little sickness so I wanted him to understand.  It is very hard for me to keep a secret. I plan on telling my husbands family (they are not very open and when I had my first loss they acted all akward and sent me sympathy cards) at 3 months.  This suspense is killing me.  HAHA

[martikadragoon]

I say tell at Xmas! Do as others suggested and give them a clever gift.... and maybe a picture of one of your positive tests (to show if they dont' get it right away, lol)

[wishing628]

Well, we told close family and friends as soon as we found out very early on, I was also very excited and decided to tell everyone else the weekend I was 9 weeks pregnant.....went for u/s on the Monday and was told no heartbeat....miscarried that week and had to untell everyone...I've got to say that was the worst thing having the stress of telling evreyone the bad news!! So I would deffo wait in the future until I'de had my first u/s as I couldn' go through that again...but I know exactly what you mean about not being able to wait and being so excited, do what ever you feel is right for you.

[Limonada]

I'm a big advocate for waiting until after the first trimester - there's something special about savourinv the news, just you and your partner.

With our first pregnancy, we told close friends pretty early on, but it was because we were asked outright if we were expecting when I refused an alcoholic drink.  We told family around at around 11 weeks once I'd had an u/s.

This time, the same friends ended up finding out early (I'd never ask someone if they were pregnant, I wait to be told...but they obviously don't, do they?) We told family when I was 13 weeks - had DS wear a shirt that said "big brother" on it to family functions and told them that way.  I told my boss and teammates at work when I was14 weeks because I was starting to bust out of my clothes ;)

[texasangel343]

I called my mom and sis on my way to the store to get another pregnancy test - I was only 10pdiui and I didn't know if it was the trigger yet.  I took another one the next morning and I had to tell one more person.  I went to my mother in laws house and took her upstairs and told her.  After we confirmed it on Monday we told my 5 year old daughter - who was beyond excited - and she called everyone and told them she was going to be a big sister.  After we told them it was out on Facebook, so we posted the video of my daughter finding out the news for all to see.    

We've been trying for 3 years this month, so there is no way we could wait!  We had a scare last weekend and I was concerned about having to tell everyone we lost the baby.  Things are ok now, though.

[Atia_Julii]

For me, I told right away.  My rationale was that it took me about 18 months to get pregnant.  And for all I know, this is the only pregnancy I'll ever have.  For 18 months I dreamed of telling my parents and friends that I was expecting.  I'm very aware that I could still miscarry (I'm only 9 wks tomorrow) but I felt like I deserved the joy in knowing what it feels like to be expecting. And for me, it was also a LOOK AT ME! I can get pregnant!!!  And if I do miscarry, I have comfort in knowing that for the past 5 weeks that I've known about this pregnancy, I've brought a lot of joy into people's lives.

[rebekah385]

i have told my family and friends right away with all of my pregnancies, but waited on telling my employer and extended fsmily that I don't see often. I could'nt keep it to myself either. I have had 4 pregnancies 3 babies and 1 miscarriage (my third pregnancy) I do not regret telling them even on the one that i miscarried because of all the love and support I got, and with my next pregnancy i told evryone again, so they could help me and support me in case something happened again. I think evry individal is different, but if you feel like telling people then you should, it's hard to keep the excitement to your self. It is also good to know though who you would tell in the case something did happen. good luck

[isthisnormal]

Well with the first baby, which ended in a miscarriage, we only told DH's family and friends. Not my family, until I miscarried.

But with this pregnancy, we told his family and our friends right away, and because I'm so young I was worried about telling my mom. But within three days of me finding out, she guessed on her own. :)

[Ashelen]

I totally understand I've wanted to tell my parents SO many times...but especially after the spotting scare last weekend I'm savvy with my plan to wait, LOL. I told my parents as soon as I got BFP with the miscarriage and it broke my dad's heart...said he felt like he lost a grandbaby he never got to know. And now that they have my daughter and know how amazing being grandparents is, I think the pain for them (just like for me) would be significantly worse if I were to miscarry...so I'm holding off. 10wks is far enough along for me to be comfortable.

[mrspookie]

Oh boy!!!  I am too excited to wait til Xmas!  

[Ashelen]

I waited until I was out of the first trimester with my daughter, because of my previous miscarriage.....With this one, we're going to put a Christmas card with only a date written on the front (the due date) and a picture from the ultrasound inside saying "Merry Christmas, Grandma and Grandpa!"...I'll be about 10.5wks. My in-laws already know.

[k10road]

well, I wanted to wait too because I made the mistake of telling people last time and then had to tell everyone about my loss.  but, i have already told my best friend, my parents, my sister, my grandmother, and 2 friends.  lol.  it's so hard to not tell when you are so excited!  do it when you feel it is right.  

God willing, you will have a healthy and happy pregnancy.  But, the other side to telling certain people early, is that God forbid something should go wrong, the people that you probably want to tell now would be the same people that you would want to support you in the event of something going wrong.  

It is totally a personal decision.  If you hadn't told the parents yet, the pic in a Christmas card would have been perfect since your u/s is 12/21, but they know already, so no worries there.  Do what your gut says!

Hugs

[Victoria01]

The only people that knew right away were DH, my mom and stepdad. I waited until I was 12 weeks before I told the rest of the family/friends.

[Eirlis]

We told close friends and family right away with the first pregnancy... then had to tell them about the miscarriage a few weeks later. :-(

This time around we've been slower telling people even though I'd still probably tell them if I have another miscarriage. I'm planning on waiting until after the ultrasound to spread the news around.

[tobbeyj]

I waited a while as we did miscarry our first two babies. The second miscarriage was not until 20 weeks and so obviously ppl knew. With this baby we shared with some ppl as we really enjoyed the support during our miscarriages but did not share with everyone like employers and my students. We did share with close family and friends though :) Congrats and I love the XMas idea too !

[angela418]

Ooh, I like the Christmas idea - will you get an U/S by then?  You could make a copy of it and frame it as a gift -- that is sort of how we told our parents - it wasn't Christmas time but we just showed them the picture of the U/S.  My DH made a photoshop picture of the two of us and drew lines coming out from my belly connected to one of the u/s pictures blown up - like this is what's in there kind of thing if that makes sense.

I obviously waited 'til the 1st u/s to tell family - I told 2 people the day I got a BFP (one of my BFF's and my sister) and everyone else had to wait.  We didn't really tell the public (other friends, family) until the first week or two of the 2nd trimester - I was really paranoid, lol

But, if you are comfortable sharing the good news, then go for it!  Everyone is different in their opinions and I personally just didn't want to have to go back and tell everyone if I had had a M/C, but I was also really paranoid b/c the first time I got pregnant it was a chemical pregnancy - luckily I hadn't told anyone and got my period a week later, but it was still traumatic for me.

I say tell people when you are ready - if that's now, then great! :-)  Good luck to you and Congratulations!!

[Jenny101407]

Wait until X-mas!!!!! Give a gift to the parents and inside let it be a baby thing!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!