how many times a week?

[holli22]

How many times a week do you please your man?
We use to have sex about 6 or more times a week.
Then it went to 3 times
Now I'm 36 weeks pregnant and been hurting or tired and we been busy.  Last 2 weeks we only had sex once a week and last night he woke me up in the middle of the night and asked for head. When I said not right now he acted pissed at me. And this morning when he left for work he didn't kiss me goodbye. Which hurts me because that's something we always do!
Am I over reacting?

[Naki123]

Wow, your husband is lucky to have you. I would have freaked out with a comment like that. Since I have been pregnant, I can't give any bjs because the thought of it makes me sick. We maybe have sex once a week, but if we don't he doesn't have a problem with it. He completely understands. ... The fact that he woke you up while you were sleeping, and we pregnant people know how hard sleeping is these days, is so disrespectful. I would tell him how you feel about it, and explain that leaving with his little hissy fit in the morning, was disrespectful and childish.

[mummainoz]

We'd be lucky to do it once a month. My husband avoids it when I'm pregnant and as it hurts my self esteem I have no interest in doing him any favours. Its the one area of our relationship that is really rocky. However we are very affectionate and loving towards each other. We cuddle every night, say I love you a lot, text each other throughout the day and always kiss hello and goodbye. If we're not going to do that we still need intimacy in our marriage otherwise we might as well just be room mates in my opinion.

[gpie]

As often as possible. Its mind over matter in terms of mood. Its good for the marriage so I make a mental decision to want it, even if at first I don't.

[organicmama]

About twice a month. He is being selfish and needs to deal with you having new needs, and be prepared for after birth as well. I'd be pretty upset if I was woken up in the middle of the night for sex. Sex should be something both people want, not just him. Especially being pregnant. Its hard to be interested and in the mood and have the energy and flexibility and stamina and positioning like before.

[aw219]

That's immature and insensitive of him.  

My and me bf sex life goes up and down (in 26 weeks). I tell him to get me in the mood if he wants it and I don't and after 10 minutes of him working on me lol, I'm ready to go as much as he is.

I like coconut oil for lube. I'm very sensative down there now and like it very lubed up.  We do what works for us and he is very understanding of doing what I say feels comfortable and I try and be understanding of his need to get it on regularly.  But regularly does not mean whenever he wants to.

[jasmean]

Once a month.. or less lol im 38 weeks having my baby on Friday so im giving him some because 6 weeks a long time

[HanEli1980]

I'm 30 weeks and I want it more than usual. I feel like I'm gross to him or something cuz he never wants to. We've had sex twice in the past 2 1/2 months. Yesterday I told him to either give it up or to get out of the bedroom so I could use my vibrator. He left the bedroom. Not the response I was looking for. Very frustrating :-(

[Theanna1989]

Even though I'm not in the mood in the beginning for some reason when we start the action I start to like it and get turned on. So really it's when ever he feels like it but I always tell him he needs to make the first move a mm do get me turned on.
(Sorry for the TMI)

[1st_Time_Mommy1018]

I'm 21 weeks. My husband is very understanding. We do not hardly do it ever. I'm always sore and irritated down there and if we do it I swell and it hurts even worse. I do feel bad for him bc pre pregnancy we did it like every night. But it just hurts me. And it has pretty much entire pregnancy. I hope things will get better but I doubt they will.  

[Thislilmiss]

It's not about a number ladies, and it's certainly NOT about pleasing him alone. You won't always feel in the mood, but if you want to work on your sex life during pregnancy talk to your man. Tell him what works and doesn't. Try new positions. Be creative ;) Most importantly...you both should be having fun. You may go through a few days, or even weeks of being uncomfortable..guess what...that's what pregnancy is all about lol. Doesn't mean you stop trying. If you are not able to "feel the mood", cuddle and let him try. You'd be surprised at the effect of some simple cuddles :)

Good luck Mommas. And get lucky too ;)

[ericaponder]

I try to please my husband as much as I can its not as often as pre-pregnancy but, we do the spooning thing or other things its hard, but once we get going I'm turned on by then.

[Bri102]

Maybe the no goodbye kiss wasnt just abouy saying no to giving him head. Maybe he is just feeling a little ignored. I know i get so involved with the pregnancy i neglect others on accident. I would just talk to him. And its not your fault, you are pregnant, we have very little control of our bodies pregnant. And its not forever!!! I am sure your sex drive will return. It sounds like he is pouting, and thinks a baby means no sex which isnt true. You are just pregnant, so dont feel bad.

[FarmerMom90]

My husband and I maybe do it 2 times a week but it just depends on our moods we usually want it at oposate times so that makes it tricky.. I live making love to my husband but its alir if work to get my self in the mood half the time because as soon as I lay on the bed I just want to sleep haha

[traciv]

Your husband is being a selfish , immature little brat. He should consider himself lucky he gets anything at all. I am 14 weeks with pregnancy number 3 and my hubby is very considerate of my feelings and moods. He usually waits until I make am move on him. He knows and understands how sick I am. I do not give **'s during pregnancy because my gag reflex is super bad while pregnant.  

[Tinuha]

sounds like your still having a fairly active sex life. personally id be pissed if i was woken up in the middle of the night for a request like that since at 28wks now sleep is getting hard to come by. sounds like he is being very selfish,  and i dont think your overreacting.  i would definitely have a chat about it. he needs to be prepared for when the baby is born, things are going to be different and for the first few weeks baby is going to be your number one priority and it should be his too. so that might mean your babies needs are coming first as well as yours, you'll be recovering from labour and delivery on most likely very little sleep. (so i hope he wont be waking you up during that period to get some) he can't respond like that every time he doesn't get what he wants,  not fair to you at all.  

[mgevans]

I haven't been allowed sex or orgasms since week 21. I'm 32 weeks. My sex drive tends to be higher than Hubby's, so its really frustrating. I try to help him out when we have time between our morning/evening schedules. He probably gets2-3 bjs a week haha. I tell him I'm banking favours for when we can have sex again. Oral is even hard BC I have carpal tunnel and get a stuffy nose easily...but I'd rather he be getting pleasure from me than himself and whatever he might find online when I'm not home. I've explained to him that our sex life affects my self esteem and he's been good about trying to be more touchy feely BC he's a huge introvert whose love language is acts of service...not physical contact or verbal communication which are my biggest needs. If your man is being selfish you might have to explain to him that sometimes he may just have to take care of himself. He can use you for inspiration...which may end up putting you in the mood anyways...but I think challenging him with negative language will make him defensive and angry. I find my husband responds better to calm and positive communication but if I accuse him of something he shuts right off. Maybe telll him tomorrow that you really need the hello goodbye kisses BC they reassure you everything is OK. And that if you aren't in the mood maybe he can take matters into his own hands and you are happy to be his inspiration...you'll get him next time?

[wyattsmom2015]

My husband and I have sex everyday and sometimes more if we can sneak it in with the kids. We manage to wake up every morning between 2-4 am and that is when. If we are not exhausted before bed, wake up a little early before the kids or can get a moment in the late morning or early afternoon then we sneak in a second or third time in a day.

I was so sick during the first part of pregnancy and I tried to get out of it and he had the nerve to say it's ok if I vomit during. He can bend me over and hang my head off the side of the bed over a bucket. He thought he would be without and was desperate but I will never for the rest of his life let him forget that comment. He will hear it at least once a month until the day he dies.. SORRY IF IT WAS A LITTLE GRAPHIC.

[nikkibadass]

Some men are very selfish im 27 weeks and 3 days and I explain to my husband about how I feel about having sex as calmly and nice as possible but he still begs me and complain every day im really starting to hate him because I didn't realize he could be this cruel and selfish at times i want him to go cheat so he can leave me alone because this topic turns serious serious arguments we are both Scorpios and I understand that our self drive is high but unfortunately my son im carrying is not going for that

[KatieNor]

I'm 17 weeks and haven't felt like having sex since week 5. I have just because I feel so bad for my man but I'm so hormonally out of wack I prett much b***h the entire time. Its a huge turn off to him so then I feel bad and try not to talk. Its really sad! I'm normally a sweet and kind person but being pregnant has made me mean and angry. I love being pregnant but can't wait to be normal again. I miss having loving sex!!

[nannewmom]

Wow he should be happy your giving him some. My poor hubby I am 34weeks now and I haven't had sex with him since like 27weeks. It is just so uncomfortable and I have no desire for it. My hubby is so understanding and loving doesn't complain, and would never leave without a kiss good bye. I always communicate with him though and we talk about it. I always apologize and voice my concerns but he reassure me it okay. I would say just talk to him and tell him about my post so he can see how lucky he is;-) dont feel bad momma♡

[asamya]

My husband and I had got married Aug. 9th and we were going at least 4-5x a week before my pregnancy. When I found out I was pregnant I was sick immediately. My sex drive decreased and I literally just wouldn't do it. I was weak all the time. He is very understanding and knew if I didn't want to do it that it was serious bc I love my husband. But I would let him spoon and touch feel whatever he wanted and sometimes it would just get me in the mood and before you knew it he ended up getting some anyway. I found out at 4wks, I'm now 11wks and sometimes it is still hard to get in the mood. So I take time to myself and get myself amped up and then just go after him, bc once it's started I can't stop. He now gets sex 1-2x a week bc I still get sick a lot. I can't stand giving head anymore though, I don't know what it is, but it turns me off, I can't even keep food down like I want so to put something that big in my mouth with gagging possibilities is just a no.

[jadeb89]

Your definatly not over reacting that's immature and super selfish of him I'd say something and tell him how it made u feel..

[jadeb89]

I can go 4 weeks at a time lol I don't see the point in getting all amped up for 4 seconds :-p haha

[shellc89]

We still have it just about everyday sometimes more than knee.  But if there's ever a day I don't feel up to it he's very understanding. I'm now 40+3 and constantly at it to try getting this baby out lol